I read through this tread again and I'm going to sit down and take 10 min for myself as soon as I'm done typing. I'm having a horribly stressful week. My sitter had an unexpected complication with bladder surgery and is out for 10 days! H has been helping as we've taken alternating days, he takes the day off but I'm trying to work at home (very busy at work right now) while DD is in preschool and napping in afternoon and I'm on stress overload!
Why are we always juggling so many balls? And why do we accept more balls when we can barely keep the ones we have up in the air?
I'm a late in life mom too. I was 41 when my daughter was born. Then I became hypothyroid. A couple of years ago, my mom was diagnosed with early stages alzheimers and my sister died last year from breast cancer. Nothing like having everything thrown at you at once! I try to remember to smell the roses, it's just sometimes that stress snowball plows me over.
We moms often think we are responsible for way more than we are. You did not cause your daughter's accident. As far as destressing, just let go of the strain of making your child eat her meal within a set amount of time. While she's eating you eat too, or if you are done, have some additional water or a cup of tea and just try to enjoy her company. Sometimes I just sit and look at my kids. I am still amazed that they are even alive (I'm a late-in-life mother). It's fun to admire how they are growing and what they say. Take time to "Stop and smell the roses!"
Thanks Wanda. I was nervous for the next couple of days as I know sometimes things show up later, but luckily she seems just fine. Today, I'm dealing with lots of work stress, so I'm going to try and fit in a walk at lunch so I can enjoy being at home with my daughter tonight.
I can get very stressed on sundays when things should be done and kids dont complete. I try to change the tasks for weekdays so sunday we can just go out in family or just hang around together. It helps me some if they keep on schedules. Im glad your little girl isnt hurt seriously.
No, being more relaxed would not have likely kept your child from slipping from her chair. Things like this happen. It's definately not fun, and not good, but it happens. And in the grand scheme of things, it's not that big a deal - as your daughter realized when she used the situation to ask for a cookie.
One thing I've learned with my 3 kids is that, mosts of the time, kids bounce. Doesn't make us feel any better when they fall, but they frequently seem to be made of rubber and bounce back up and keep going.
As for the stress, you definately need to take some time for yourself, or do something to pamper yourself. Even if its just a nice long bubble bath after everyone else is in bed.
And I second the idea of the Worry Tree. It really does work. And there never are quite as many worries in the morning when you stop to pick them back up on the way to work.
You need to take 10 minutes to yourself and just let go of the day. Someone sent me an email about a worry bush. You pick a tree or bush and you place your worries on it from the day and pick them back up in the morning because your bad day working is not for your little girl. I did not beleive that it would work but once I started. My stress level reduced and the next morning there was not as many as I had left the night before.
Every sixty seconds you spend angry, upset or mad, is a full minute of happiness you'll never get back.
I take care of my daughter for 1-2 hours in the morning, then work all day, then take care of her for 2-3 hours at night depending on when my husband gets home (he commutes).
Last night, I was getting stressed because my DD has started this bad habit of playing during dinner and not eating so that it takes her forever to finish her meal. I sat down next to her to encourage her to focus on eating rather than playing, and when she turned to look at me she slid off her chair and fell flat on her back and whacked her head on the hardwood floor! I knew I was more upset than she was when a few minutes later she said "a cookie would make me feel better mommy" (we made cookies last weekend).
I feel like if I had been more relaxed maybe that wouldn't have happened? I don't know. I can usually feel stress coming on by I'm bad at stopping the freight train. Anyone have any good coping skills to share?
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