A term i've heard being thrown around recently is "responsible non-monogamy", i think i like the sound of it better than "open". it implies that monogamy is not an expectation, but being kind and thoughtful to your partner about it IS.
i think if you fall for someone that needs to roam and explore to thrive, and this doesn't
bother you (or maybe you even enjoy it), i don't see what is wrong with that kind of arrangement, as long as partners are clear with each other on the level of disclosure they do or don't want.
there's always the risk that one you hold close will find someone that they love more and leave. i'm not sure that risk is any greater if you have a partner that openly roams, vs. not roaming and being bored and resentful, or closed roaming.
i love these words on love from Khalil Gibran in The Prophet:
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter,
and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart,"
but rather, I am in the heart of God."
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