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5/23/17 8:23 P

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Welcome back Randy! I have not been very active on SparkPeople lately but I do still read any messages that are posted here. I am also not currently going to TOPS. I have not been since January and I didn't even renew my membership when it came up at the end of March. There are a lot of reasons for my decision to leave for a while. Part of it has to do with what is going on in my personal life and that I didn't want to devote time to going to the meetings every week, but a bigger part of it has to do with a lot of negative feelings I have about some things that have happened with TOPS in recent years, especially in our area. I still feel like TOPS can work well, but at least for now it is not for me. I do miss seeing some of the friends I have made in TOPS over the years. I don't rule out the possibility of going back at some point, but it wont be for a while. I was holding my own for a while and had even lost a few pounds but I did gain them back in recent weeks.

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5/23/17 11:33 A

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Making my way back.

Feeling very inspired and motivated recently.

I have my TOPS family and we have some facebook groups but there's not a lot of activity between meetings. I've tried to increase this.

We just started a new contest where we have a check of several items to get "play money" . Near the end of the year we'll have an auction for donated items and use our play money to buy things. I think this will be a lot of fun and hopefully inspire others to get connected to others. I'll have to let you all know how it's working.

If anyone's interested in the list of items and "$" amounts for various things let me know.

I've come and gone from the Spark TOPS teams -- but TOPS really is one of the main focuses in my life.

In the last 2 years I've had 7 or 8 hospitalizations for heart failure and atrial fib issues. I see my cardiologist today -- I've really felt an improvement since getting out of the hospital a couple weeks ago. I think the new med really is helping me.

So go to see some familiar faces and some new sparkfriends to be as well.

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5/22/17 8:29 P

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Yay! I'm so glad the kids had a beautiful day for their wedding!! I'm sure you all enjoyed it.

I know what you mean about walking outdoors; it is so much nicer than the treadmill; I've learned that I can enjoy the treadmill if I'm reading though. I guess I could better say that I enjoy the reading while I endure the treadmill. LOL

Hope you guys have a wonderful summer. Please let us know how Rodney's treatments are going. You are both in my prayers!

Wanda

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5/22/17 8:12 P

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Wanda, I hope your daughter has good luck finding another home. We did go look at more double-wides yesterday but we have not made a decision yet. There is one we looked at yesterday that is a possibility but I am not sure I really want it. I like everything except the kitchen cabinets. They are extremely cheaply made and they told us there is no option with that model to upgrade them to a little better quality. It is a little bigger than the one we thought we were buying and the price starts out a little less, but this place charges for some things that the other place includes in the price of the home, so it would end up costing us a little more for something of lower quality. Rodney looked at some at another place closer to us today but they have nothing in the price range we want to spend. He called another place and they don't have anything in our price range on the lot but the guy told him he thinks he could order something in the range we are looking for so we are going to go see him on Saturday.

Wanda, I don't do much reading these days, but maybe when I retire I will have time to. I used to read while I was pedaling the exercise bike, but I just sold the exercise bike because I wasn't using it anyway. I figured I wouldn't need it in the future since I will be in Florida where I can walk outside in the winter and in the summer I can walk outside here most days (if I can find the ambition).

The wedding went well. The weather was beautiful and they had the ceremony outside. The food was good and I think everyone enjoyed themselves.

Sunny, enjoy your adventure! It sounds like fun.

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5/21/17 10:32 A

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Oh my goodness! You are off on an adventure, Sunny. We visited Mesa Verde last summer and love both the history and the beauty of the area. We stayed in Cortez for two nights only though. Ate wonderful food, met some nice people and were wowed by the ride up the mesa and our visit to the museum.

While we were there I bought a book about Mesa Verde and also a novel by Nevada Barr that was set in the park. If you have never read anything by her, they are mysteries (not too gory but they can be suspenseful) set in National Parks and the main character is a park ranger. The author knows her stuff because she is a former park ranger and she really researches each park too. Her descriptions of Mesa Verde were spot on!

I think you are in for a great time!

Bev, don't know if you ever get a chance to just sit down and read because you are so busy but I think you would really like Barr's books too.

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5/21/17 10:17 A

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Hi Gals,

Wow, what a disappointment to have all those roadblocks thrown at you regarding the mobile home, Bev. So sorry things have come to a standstill, but I agree with Wanda. You will find someone who will be able to accommodate you or perhaps look into having a manufactured home built on site? I have looked at those and they are quite nice. Ugh, always something that presents a challenge it seems. Guess that's what makes us strong in the long run.

I'm doing fine. Tomorrow I am driving to Mesa Verde, CO to spend a little time with my son, daughter-in law and granddaughter from Georgia. They are doing some tours of National Parks and when they told me that they would be that close, I just could not help myself. It is only a 6 1/2 hour drive and I booked a hotel in Cortez. I will drive there tomorrow and then back again on Wednesday, so it will be short, but a little bit of an adventure! A good friend of mine is going to take care of my dog, so that sure helps!!

Wanda, thanks for your kind words. If anyone is encouraging I think it is you! I enjoyed reading about your granddaughter. You must really be proud of her and sounds like she is an amazing young woman. It is wonderful to see the paths taken by our kids and then the grandkids. I'm even seeing what's happening in the lives of my great grandkids so I'm really blessed!

Well, I've still got a lot to do, so I'll sign off. Take care my friends and congratulations to you Bev for getting another daughter in your family. It is wonderful!

Hugs,
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Let's hope the need to switch companies will be just a bump in the road. Sometimes having to make another decision just gets you to a place that is the right one for you! My daughter and her husband are selling their home in New Hampshire and buying another. The deal on the home they hoped to buy has fallen through and they are going to have to get out of their house so they are feeling the pressure. I'm sure they will find their right place too. I realize that it is nerve wracking and disappointing but it will work out in her situation and in yours.

An outdoor wedding sounds wonderful; I have my fingers crossed for a beautiful day for them. In my opinion all weddings are beautiful....haven't been to one yet that hasn't brought a tear to my eyes.

It is neat that Ed's son will be his best man - that is a forever memory for each of them.

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5/17/17 9:04 P

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Yup, it is getting close now! One of Ed's sons will be there (his older one) but the younger one will not be. In fact his son is going to be his best man. They are having a very small wedding with just a best man and maid of honor (Rodney and I did the same thing when we were married). Kim's mom will be her maid of honor. They pulled things together pretty quickly because Kim's dad is not in good health and she wanted to be able to have him at her wedding. I think they only have about 50 - 60 people coming.

Things are not getting as close with the house. In fact right now things are pretty much at a standstill there. I was in the process of completing the loan application and had planned to submit it to the bank this week. Last week we heard from the mobile home company that their guy wanted to come take a look at the site, which he did on Monday. When he was here he told Rodney we would need to cut a few tree limbs (which we already knew) and might need to move part of a stone wall (not an old one) that is on our neighbor's land but that was all he said. I think we would also need to fill in a ditch and then dig it back out afterwards. Yesterday they sent a message to Ed that their guy says they can't get a mobile home up our road. Ed called her back and told her that we knew we would need to do a few things first but that the guy never indicated it couldn't be done when he was here (and another company had looked at the road over a year ago when Ed was considering a single wide and he said he could bring anything up to 66 feet long up this road). They called Rodney back today and said they are definitely not willing to deliver a home here unless we want to put a lot of work into the road, so they are sending our deposit back to us. Now we have to look elsewhere for another home- and we will get the company to look at the site before we even sign a purchase agreement. Unfortunately I don't think the guy that looked at it before and didn't have an issue with the road has any reasonably priced homes.

I hope all is well with you ladies! We are finally getting some sunny days this week. Last weekend the temp barely got to 50 degrees and it was drizzly. Today we just about hit 90 and it was sunny. The forecast for Saturday is for partly sunny and in the 60s. If the weather cooperates I think they are planning an outdoor ceremony but if not it will be inside.

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5/17/17 5:16 P

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Good to hear from you, Sunny! You are always so supportive and Bev and I can sometimes use that! You have been through a lot yourself and we know that some of it has been hard.

Wow, 2 years in Ghana - I hope your grandson will send group emails to the family to tell you of his adventures! It is sure to be a change in lifestyle. He will grow and mature a lot too. We had a niece who was in the Peace Corp in Morocco. How we enjoyed her emails! She made friends with both native moroccans and other members of the Peace Corps and they have remained lifelong friends. I think it is probably 15 or 16 years ago that she was there. She faced some pretty primitive conditions but made it through with class. That is our Sarah; she always wanted to contribute and that was a big contribution. She taught women how to take care of themselves and their children.

A couple of years later she went back to Africa to climb Mount Kilimanjaro. That was quite an accomplishment. On that trip she also helped to build a school for HIV infected children who were orphaned or rejected.

Now she is a CPA and a mother of three little girls; I'm certain they will all make contributions to help others also.

Bev, WOOHOO! It is almost wedding time! I hope the sun will shine on Ed and Kim and that his children are going to be able to be there. I'm so glad that Rodney and you will be together to see the happy day!

Sounds like Vermont has had a wet spring. We are finally getting hot days this week so hope the sun is shining there also.

I'll be waiting to see you post a wedding pic!

Wanda

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5/7/17 9:41 A

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Hi Bev & Wanda!
Looks like you two have been solving some pretty difficult situations on here and it is good to toss ideas back and forth between friends. It sort of gives us a perspective through someone else's eyes. Some of life's decisions are tough and guess we really don't know we have made the right ones until later, but just doing what feels best after careful consideration is the way to go!!

I'm still chugging along and feeling happy this morning because we are getting a nice break from the heat. The temp went from about 97 yesterday's high and only supposed to be into the 70's today! Yeah!! I'll take all the cool days we can get at this point!!

The A/C in my car went out a couple days ago, so my son-in-law is going to swap cars with me today when I go over for my grandson's birthday celebration. Then tomorrow the son-in-law will take it to his shop and have them check it out for me. I'm hoping it will be something simple and that I won't have to purchase an entire new AC unit. I think those could be pretty pricey!!

I have another grandson who lives in Atlanta and he is getting ready to go to Ghana Africa for his mission service. My daughter-in-law is Mormon and has raised the kids in the Mormon faith. He will be gone for 2 years, but not leaving until July. He sure does have an adventure ahead of him I'm sure.

Well, just wanted to check in with you two lovely ladies. Wanda, I'm like you, a very accomplished maintainer as far as it goes with my weight. I don't seem to fluctuate more than 3 or 4 pounds. I guess that is better than having it climb higher, but truly, I need to get serious one of these fine days.

I was happy to hear your husband's tumor was not malignant, Wanda. What a relief and I can imagine the dilema of having to keep his weight up while you are wanting to keep yours down. Oh, guess we just have to sit back and try to see the humor in every situation if we can. Bev, I do hope Rodney gets through this latest chemo session soon. So sorry he is feeling more fatigued. His body has been through about everything at this point and I just admire how he keeps on keeping on. Sounds like a guy with tremendous fortitude!!

Well, I'll sign off. It was very nice reading both your posts!!
Hugs,
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It remains to be seen if we are making the right decision, but at the moment we feel it is the right decision for us. If it turns out to be a bad decision we will be the ones that have to live with the consequences. I won't ask her to support me! I can tolerate living with my son and future daughter-in-law but I don't think I could live with my step-daughter and her husband.

You are not missing much with our spring this year! It has been a very rainy spring so far and the forecast for the next several days is for more rain. In fact the entire month looks like it will be mostly cloudy and dreary. We will get some nice days I am sure, or at least some partial days that are nice, but it sure doesn't look like we will see lots of sun. Last night and early this morning we had heavy rain but for a couple of hours this afternoon it cleared off and we saw the sun before it became overcast again. Our son is getting married two weeks from today and it would be nice if the weather co-operated that day. It will be held at an inn where they can do the ceremony either outside or inside, depending on the weather. Today was Rodney's birthday and tomorrow daughter and her family are coming to visit for a while. I decided to get rid of my treadmill a while ago and she wanted it so I told her she could have it but she had to come get it. That was 2 or 3 months ago and she is finally supposed to be picking it up tomorrow. Ed and Kim are heading to see her parents and go to church with them tomorrow. After the service they will be meeting with the minister who is going to marry them. They met him briefly once before but didn't have a chance to sit down and talk with him that day.

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Well, it looks like you have thought of everything and set things up nicely! As I've become an old lady, I've also become a worrier and protective of my friends...even the virtual ones! LOL

I think you have it well in hand and now if Rodney does well on these treatments....what a blessing that will be.

When I asked if you would be able to evict them, I was thinking of the bad old days with one of my sons. That is when I found out just how tough I could be.
He once referred to me as his Bad ___ Mom. He did it while he was apologizing for a lot of stuff he had put us through and he said that he wouldn't be alive today if wasn't for that tough as nails person. I guess I was lucky that he didn't realize I was shaking in my shoes for years while I was trying to get through his bad years. I would not raise that boy again for all the tea in China but today he is a man, husband, and father that I am proud of.
Some of the stuff he pulled though....it was rough.

Sounds like your son is turning his life around too. Having found the right woman will mean so much to his future. I hope they will be very happy and I am so glad that he is able to spend time with his son again. I know the ex's accusations were false but they certainly caused a lot of pain. He is strong for being able to take a chance on love again!

I'm jealous that you are in Vermont. Spring is so beautiful there and I have fond memories of Vermont and New Hampshire even though I haven't been back in springtime for many years. We go in August, in the full heat of summer, spend the week in an uninsulated cottage on the lake with no air conditioning.....we love every minute of it. Wish we could go in spring too though.

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Wanda, part of her concern is that her brother may not pay us on time or that he and his fiance could split up and neither one of them would be able to afford it on their own. Of course either of those things could happen, but there will be a mortgage recorded with the town and if the payments are not made we will have to foreclose on it and take the house back- and then sell it to someone else. They are well aware of that and I am reasonably confident they will make sure the payments are made. Worst case scenario we have the resources to make our payments without the income from them, but we might need to dip into our retirement savings to pay the taxes on both places. It may not be an ideal situation but it is our decision to make, not hers, and it has benefits for us too.

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Bev, Thanks for filling us in on Rodney's situation. I'm praying for you both. It is so hard to face these things day after day. Thanks for the snack tips too! I'll be trying them!

I completely agree with you that you and Rodney have the right to dispose of property as you see fit. I don't know whether your daughter has a stable situation but I'm wondering if she feels her brother will hold up his side of the deal. It certainly is possible that she is making a sibling "fairness" judgment, but she may also be concerned about you and Rodney and what happens if your son does not hold up his part of the deal and you have the double wide to pay for and no money coming in from him. I'm guessing that your house mortgage is paid off and that your son cannot qualify for a mortgage to buy it. That is too bad because then your double-wide could be fully paid off. There is real financial danger if you need the money from your son to cover the loans.

You are in a difficult situation. I certainly understand the need to be in a low-maintenance situation especially with Rodney's illness and the thought that you may someday have to make it alone. Will you be able to handle all the expenses alone if your son defaults on his agreement with you? Will you have a lease/purchase agreement drawn up by a lawyer that guarantees the house is owned by you until it is paid for?
AND the hardest thing of all.........will you be able to evict him if he defaults?

My father-in-law sold his home to one of Mal's brothers on the condition that he have a home for the rest of his life and we, like your daughter, were concerned at the time. Dad lived with them for 10 years, continuing in his home, sleeping in his own bedroom, though and was lovingly cared for by Bob and Karen. He thrived on the family time, having his grown grandchildren and their children dropping in often. Loved "family nights" and get togethers. We ended up very happy with the situation because we live 900 miles away and it was just a good solution for everyone.
Now the difference is that Bob and Karen had been married for nearly 25 years before the deal was made; their children were grown; they had a good income and a smaller home that they sold before moving in with Dad.
So...it was a totally different situation....but hopefully will have the same outcome - greater security for you and Rodney and the opportunity for family support nearby.

I'm probably going to say too much now but longterm............I think you can expect the same level of commitment and support after the deal as you are getting now. If that works for you, then go for it.

Otherwise it might be wise to split the property and move into the doublewide and sell your home to someone who can get a mortgage and pay off your new home. You still may end up with great neighbors and maybe enough money to build a garage that can store Rodney's tools.

I'm sure you have thought of all of this and I know Rodney wants to leave you in a good situation;
Blessings on your and your family...this may be a rough stretch but I hope that in the end you find that whatever decisions you have made will work out for the best. We all just make the best decisions we can.
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Wanda, congrats on the new great grandchild! I bet you are thrilled. I am happy to hear that Mal's tumor was found before it became cancerous, but I am also glad that his doctor will follow up every year just to be sure nothing else shows up.

Rodney is doing well so far. The chemo is making him a little more tired than usual, but so far that is about the only side effect so it is quite tolerable. He has one more cycle this month and then they will do a scan to see if anything has changed, then decide whether he should continue on this drug or switch to a plan B. The scan isn't scheduled yet, but I plan to go with him when he sees the doctor after that scan. I'm not sure if he will see the doctor the same day or a few days later. In the past when he had his scans done at this hospital he would usually see the doctor an hour or two later, but that was not his oncologist. When he had a scan that his former oncologist ordered he usually didn't see her until a few days later, but that is a smaller facility and they may not have someone available to interpret the scans right away.

I hope your hubby is able to get his A1C under control without losing weight. My husband used to like the Glucerna shakes. Since they are designed for diabetics the carbs are much lower than some of the other nutrition drinks and he liked the taste better than he did Boost, which also has a lower carb one. I would sometimes pour one in the blender and add a handful of frozen berries and a spoonful of Splenda and make him a berry smoothie. He really like those, but of course the berries add more carbs. Another snack he likes is protein bars. A lot of the granola bars are quite high in carbs, but if you look at the ones that they call protein bars they are not as bad. We tend to look for ones that are around 15 grams of carbs or so, which is one carb serving. Nuts are also good snacks. My hubby has to be careful now because he has gained back too much of the weight he lost, although I suspect at some point he will start losing again from the chemo. He was down a few pounds when he had his last round but I didn't think too much about it because he had been up a few the week before.

Plans for the house are progressing slowly. We are at the mercy of waiting for contractors to get back to us with estimates for the last bit of work that will need to be done. We have one more price to wait for and then we can total up all the costs and submit the loan application. I don't know how long that will take, but I am guess anywhere from 4 - 6 weeks. Once we close on the loan I think it will take a month or two to get the sitework done and the trailer here. It is nice to have our son here in some ways, but not so nice in other ways. He and his fiance tend to make a mess and don't pick up after themselves very well. Some of it might be because they don't have a lot of space to put their stuff but I think a lot of it is that they tend to be slobs- since the apartment they were living in before was pretty messy. I'm not a neat freak but I am not as messy as they are! We finally told our daughter last weekend that we would be moving into the new double-wide and selling our house to her brother. I almost wish we didn't even tell her. She didn't say too much that day but the next two days we got lengthy e-mails from her telling us all the reasons she doesn't feel we should do that. She thinks we are selling it for way less than the value for one thing, but she is basing that on the old town appraisal, which was ridiculously overpriced. We recently got a revised one which is $42,000 lower and probably much more accurate. If we use that figure and deduct the value of the lot we are keeping it is only slightly more than we are selling it to him for- and we will be storing some of our stuff in the basement (all of Rodney's tools and such) even after we move out. The bottom line is that it is none of her business and I am irritated that she went on the town website and looked up the value of our house. I was tempted to ask her if she was worried about her inheritance, but I didn't even bother to respond to her e-mails. If she brings the subject up in person I will probably tell her it is none of her business. I don't want to create hard feelings, but it is our house and we should be able to do what we want with it. Of course we have not yet had the conversation with either of the kids that his doctors don't feel he will be around for many more years- and the decision to sell the house to our son now rather than later was influenced by that knowledge, but we were planning to do that eventually anyway.

Okay I have rambled on long enough so I need to get off here. Have a great weekend ladies!

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Hi guys!
First, I want you to know that Mal is doing well. The tumor is completely gone and while it was "precancerous", it is NOT cancer and that is an answer to prayer. He is all healed and back to normal, if we even remember normal. The tumor was largely an "encapsulated infection" - she described it as having a rind on it. Part of it, though, was an inverted papilloma; that is the precancerous condition. His doctor said, the good news is that it isn't cancer yet - the bad thing is that you are stuck with me now because I'm going to have to see you every year.

Sunny, sounds like selling an RV is not a fun experience even in Arizona where they are so much in demand. I hope the dealer you are working with has sold it for you by now. Have heard a lot about how beautiful the Arizona desert bloomed the year. That would be fun to see.

I know you will miss RV travel and camping but I'm sure you will be pleased to be able to move forward without the responsibility of insuring, registering, and maintaining something that you are unable to use.

Bev, how is Rodney doing? You too? I hope you are doing well. Diabetes is serious; this was just brought home to me strongly when our doctor told Mal that he is definitely pre-diabetic. I worry that this is because he simply ate snacks all day for years. He has had to fight to keep weight on for 25 years and I just kept whatever snacks he wanted in the health. Now I guess we have to make a big change and get his numbers down. This is not going to be easy and I really hope we can do it without causing him to lose weight.

It is always a paradox - me trying to lose weight and him trying NOT to lose weight. He is 6 feet tall and weighs about 165 - I'm 5 foot and weigh only about 10 lbs less than him. I'm trying to learn about snacks that he can have - preferably high calorie ones. Any suggestions? I do know that he can have nuts and thank goodness he likes them but I need to give him a variety of choices.

BIG NEWS!!!! I am a great grandmother. Theodore Michael Patrick Collins was born one week ago today. Mal and I are so thrilled with this beautiful boy!

Later this month we will travel to Long Island to celebrate Elena's 5th birthday! What fun to have two young'uns in the family!!

I have decided that I am a master maintainer although I have gained a couple of pounds this past few weeks. Can't remember when my last real weight loss was though. I need to push a little harder!

Are things moving forward with your plans for the double-wide, Bev? I hope progress is being made. It is surely nice to have your son closely but I'm thinking the basement may be getting too close. How are the wedding plans going?

Well, time to get moving! 9:30 and I'm still in my pajamas and on the computer! I need to get busy and accomplish something today!




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Dear Bev & Wanda,

Well, I sure have missed a lot and was really shocked to hear about everything you have been going through with your husband, Wanda. Boy, that does sound scary and who would think that such a think could happen right in his sinus cavity. Sounds like he has been a real trooper through everything and I'm so glad the surgery seems to have gone very well and that things are getting back on track. If it had to happen, it is sure good that you two were home from your Florida trip and in familiar territory and doctors that you could get to easily. Life is certainly full of surprises and sometimes they are not very good ones. Your positive attitude and your faith have surely made a difference and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Bev, it really sounds like you are making progress on your plans to get that double wide set up and have your son and his soon to be wife moving into your place. It sounds like a good plan to me. The kids can help you and Rodney when you need it and you guys will have a nice brand new place that will be much easier to care for!! Post us a photo when you get it all set up. I bet it will be lovely. I'm so sorry that Rodney is having to endure more chemo, but he is amazing in all that he has gone through and still doing well. I will be praying that this chemo will not have side effects. If it just stays with the fatigue, he can deal with that. Just praying this will be the final round of chemo for him.

Yes, the decision on the RV has sure been crazy. I've just been going back and forth in my mind what I should do since the couple that had been interested did not pan out. I called Sun City RV last week and have arranged for them to come pick it up and take it to their lot to sell on consignment. This is the same place where we bought the RV in 2007. I had people come and detailed it and also got the repairs taken care of, so except for a small window that needs to be replaced, it is ready to go and it looks pretty darn good if I do say so myself! The guy is supposed to be here at 8:00 this morning. I had some final tears last night just going into it for the last time and remembering the good times that Ray and I had. Oh well, I'm sure that the new owners, whoever they may be will be able to enjoy it as well. It was a very good coach and built very solid. This place has a good record of selling their consignments. I believe they advertise selling 94% of the units they get in 45 days or less.

Yes, our spring has been very nice this year, Wanda. There were flowers blooming everywhere from all the rain we got last winter. It is so nice to take little drives and enjoy the scenery. I'm hoping to do more of that now as it gets warmer. I'll have to drag Izzy along with me, but she likes riding in the car, so no problems.

Best wishes to you both. I'm thinking only good thoughts for both of you and your families!!
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I remember you telling us about the stroke but I don't recall the follow-up scan. Yikes, that sounds very scary. I am glad to hear the surgery went well and that he is back home and feeling good. Now let's hope the tests all come back good too. I hope they don't have to do further surgery to open the duct.

Reading about the issues he had for years sound vaguely familiar as I have one eye that waters a lot. My former primary care doctor told me she suspected it was from a blocked tear duct, but said she didn't know how to check for that. My eye doctor says he sees no problem with the tear duct and he thinks it might be allergy-related. It has always seemed odd to me that if it was allergies that it would only affect one eye. I do have a lot of sinus headaches at times though and Tylenol sinus along with Zyrtec help so I have assumed it is probably allergies. To what I have no idea but I am pretty sure it is not pollen because it is worse in the winter when pollen is not an issue.

A first great-grandchild is exciting news! One of my cousins is expecting her first grandchild soon and she is thrilled. We are hoping not to have any more grandchildren for a while, although I won't be surprised if my son and his fiance at some point do have one. He has two boys from two previous marriages but she has no children of her own. They will be getting married in about a month. If things work as we are hoping we will be putting a new double-wide on a lot we own next to our house and we will sell them our house. We will have to finance it for them for a few years because his credit is shot (due to some poor decisions and a very costly divorce) and she doesn't earn enough to get a mortgage for it on just her income alone. The double-wide will be easier for us to take care of- and if something happens to Rodney I would never be able to keep this house alone anyway.

Rodney is doing quite well under the circumstances. He will have the last chemo of his second cycle this week, then he will have a week off, then one more cycle (3 weeks on, 1 week off) before they do a CT scan to see if it is working and decide if he will stay on this chemo or go to plan B. So far he is tolerating it pretty well. This week he noticed it took more out of him, and I suspect it will get progressively worse, but other than being tired for a day or two he has very few issues so far.

I have been having some issues with my right ankle, which is the one I broke about 14 years ago. My primary care doctor told me he thought the problem is that my sneaker rubs on the ankle bone, but so does the left one and only my right one bothers me. I also had a checkup with a podiatrist (for diabetic foot care) last week so I asked him about it and he feels the problem is the hardware in the ankle, which he thinks need to be taken out. He is sending my to an orthopedic specialist. If he (or she) agrees the hardware is causing the problem I may be having surgery at some point to remove it. Yup, getting older is fun!

Sunny, I hope all is well with you. I saw on FB that it sounds like the couple who wanted to buy your RV had second thoughts. I hope you are able to use it yourself or else find another buyer.

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Just checking in, girls! I hope you are having a beautiful spring. We were but it has been really chilly for the past couple of days.

I think I posted about Mal having a stroke on March 11, just 10 days after we got back from Florida, but I don't think that I told you (should have read over the recent posts!) about the followup cat scan we had two weeks after his stroke. It showed a large mass that had nearly filled all the sinuses on the right side of his face. We have had quite a scary time. The doctors even thought the mass may have caused the stroke symptoms and he might not have actually had a stroke.

Well, he had surgery last Wednesday and it was removed but his ENT thinks it actually was something that grew from an old infection; her theory is that it somehow formed a solid skin and just very slowly swelled and grew as far as it could; it actually had "modeled" his sinus walls which I guess means it changed the shape of his sinuses and also caused a deviated septum. Anyway the surgery went well and he is home and feeling fine. YAY! We are waiting to hear the results of cultures and biopsies and have a follow up appointment with his doctor on Tuesday morning.

The doctor was amazed that he has had no pain or external swelling. He has had a teary eye and runny nose since 2007!!! The doctors kept telling us that it was from the stroke he had then and we were too stupid to question it I guess. We kept asking and a couple of times they would say something like, "well, his blood work doesn't show any sign of infection and I can't see anything but we'll try an antibiotic and see if that helps." Well the antibiotic never made any difference so we just went along. Mal has hated that he was always having to mop his eyes.

Hopefully that will be over although it is still tearing now. The doctor said they may have to do further surgery to get the drainage duct working if it doesn't open up on its own. It was completely crushed.

Getting old is such fun, right?

Sunny, I know Arizona is heating up. Hope you have enjoyed watching the desert bloom; I've heard that it was beautiful this year.

Bev, I've been praying about Rodney. How are his treatments going?

Sorry I didn't get on in time to with you both a Happy Easter!

We are just a few weeks away from welcoming our first great-grandchild! So fun! I made him a little quilt.

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I got a photo from a good friend in Ohio showing their place all covered in the spring snow! Sure looks pretty, but I know it's not so welcome at this time of the year!

I'm doing ok. Keeping busy for sure!!

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Rodney is doing fine so far. This is his week off from treatment, but he will start cycle two next week. We ended up with very close to a foot of new snow but it has been melting over the last few days. I sure hope that was the last one of the season! Today I have a follow-up with my primary care doctor so I only worked half a day and will be heading out soon for that. Good luck selling the RV Sunny! Wanda, I hope all is well with you.

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Well, it would be helpful if the medical team would let you know things that could happen after Rodney's chemo. At any rate I'm hoping that his fever is gone by now and that things are going better! Really sounds like you had a blizzard back in Vermont! Hope it was not as bad as the forcast predicted and also hopefully the last one of the season. Spring should be around the corner!!

I'm doing ok. The "junk" guys are coming this morning to haul away some items too large to put into the trash can. Also hoping the RV repair people will be able to get out today to finish repairs on the 5th wheel as the people who came to look at it really seemed to be interested. Keep your fingers crossed that the timing will all work out!

Wanda, hope you are doing great. How is the weather in Ohio by now? I may be taking a trip back to Chicago when the grandson graduates from navy boot camp. Hoping to see my son and his family as they may drive up for the ceremony as well. They will be coming from Georgia. I also heard from an Ohio cousin and she may be able to make the trip as well, so it should be nice.

Lots of hugs to you! Have a great week!!

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We have more snow coming tomorrow and Saturday they say. The forecast is for up to a foot. I expect/hope we will get less than a foot but any is too much. Rodney's doctor told him a fever is common soon after this chemo. He told him to take Tylenol for the first couple of days to prevent it. He didn't have a fever when he was on it before so we didn't know it was common.
Weight loss? Hmmm, I haven't seen much of that. I haven't gained though.
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Hi Wanda & Bev,

Just read your latest posts here on Spark People and seems like we have known each other all our lives!

Wanda, I had a good chuckle regarding your comments about the cold northern winters being character building! You have to keep your sense of humor going for sure!! It is hard to imagine getting 196 inches of snow all in one winter! Wow, remind me that I don't want to put northern Michigan on my list of retirement places! Tee Hee!

Bev, so sorry about Rodney's temp going up so you had to make another trip to emergency, but I am glad that it went down again. You just do what you have to do in that situation. It is much better than taking a chance on some infection getting out of control with his weakened immune system.

My daughter got a better report Tuesday after she saw the surgeon. He feels that the infection is gone and that she should continue her course of antibiotic and then he will do more xrays to confirm that it is gone. I was really thankful when she told me because 2 surgeries are enough to undergo.

Well, I've got a couple who is very interested in buying the 5th wheel. The husband was here last Thursday looking it over and then Sunday he brought his wife all the way from Cornville which is about an hour and a half drive from here. I have the mobile repair people coming today because there are a few repairs that must be made before they could safely take it away. I'm hoping the estimate on these repairs won't be too high, but they have to be done. This couple is building their dream home up in Christopher Creek which is a beautiful area in northern, AZ. They plan on living in the 5th wheel while they are building and then after that they would keep it and let their kids/grandkids stay while they are visiting. So anyway, keep your fingers crossed that it all works out. It will be one less thing for me to have to worry about once it is out of here!

Well, better get going. I've got a few chores to get done before the repair people are do to be here.

Take care and best wishes to you both!!

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I hope spring arrives here soon! We have been having below normal temps for several days and even had a little more snow both Friday and yesterday. It didn't accumulate much so it was more of an annoyance than anything. Today it is mostly overcast and only 37 degrees right now, which I think is almost 10 degrees less than the average for this time of year. The coming week is supposed to be near normal for temps I guess, but with very little in the way of sunshine. Tonight and tomorrow morning they are calling for some freezing rain, so the drive to work may not be much fun. I do not like the cold or the snow!

I am glad to hear Mal is doing well. Rodney is handling the chemo okay so far. We did end up making a trip to the ER on Friday night because he was running a fever. It wasn't especially high but they say if your temp goes above 100.4 while on chemo you need to contact the oncology team. His temp went up to 101.4 so I called- and of course they said we should go to the ER so he could be checked out. Of course his temp was under 100 when we got to the hospital. They did a chest x-ray and a bunch of blood tests and didn't find anything of concern so they finally released him after about 3 hours. We got home just after 1:30 AM. He was fine yesterday so I guess whatever caused the fever resolved itself. We might wait a little longer before calling the next time, but they assured us we did the right thing in coming in. I had taken his temp three times over a 2 hour period and each time it inched up a bit more, but if we had waited longer it probably would have gone back down. He will have his third round of chemo this week and then a week off to let his body recover before starting cycle 2. They plan to do three cycles before doing another scan to see if it is working or not.

Sunny, I too hope your daughter is fully recovered. I hope you are having a good spring so far.

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Good Morning!
Spring has come to Ohio and it is so welcome!
Mal is doing well and thank you both for your good wishes and prayers.

Bev, I hope the same is true for Rodney. 9.5 hours for his initial appointment for treatment. Gosh, I know that every one of the hours seemed as long as two hours away from the hospital! I hope his chemo is going well; it is just such a hard process. I'm praying that he will be one of the ones who comes out a winner against that terrible disease!
I also hope the snowstorms are over for you for this year!

The falling snow and new snow on the ground is beautiful but it isn't nice when you HAVE to be somewhere. I agree with Sunny on that! I also grew up in North Dakota and lived in Northern Michigan for two years and New Hampshire for 10. There is absolutely no doubt that Ohio's winters are much milder.....and Arizona and Florida are great places to be in the winter! My husband used to say that northern winters are "character building". I remember replying once that I thought I had already become a real character and it was probably time to get away before I completely went over the edge.

That was when we lived at K.I. Sawyer AFB on Michigan's Northern Peninsula. We had 196 inches of snow that year - no melting days all winter - and we had fragile two year old who was not supposed to breathe cold air. I didn't drive then and besides there was nowhere to drive to; we were many miles from the nearest town of any size. I had horrible cabin fever and the library were the only things that saved me!

Sunny,, I hope your daughter's oral infection has cleared up. Just thinking about it makes my jaw hurt! I have such a fear of the dentist. I know it is irrational but......it is there just the same. No pep talks, no prayers, even talking about it, nothing helps. I just hope she isn't in pain; I do know that dentists today do a better job with pain management.

I have heard that the Arizona desert is blooming. Someday I want to see that. Someone on TV said that this year is lovelier than usual. I know you have had days in the 90s already.

I'm not sure if I told you that I'll be a great grandmother in May. My granddaughter is going to have a little boy. I am looking forward to holding a newborn in my arms again.

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Oh dear, I am so sorry about Mal having suffered a stroke, Wanda! My prayers sure will be going up for his full recovery. You must have gotten him to the hospital very quickly for them to have released him so quickly! Hope to hear good news and that he is getting better with every passing day!

Bev, that sounds very traumatic to have had to contend with all the snow, ice and blizzard conditions for Rodney to be able to get to the hospital for his treatments! That stuff looks so pretty and neat when you look at it in the pictures, but I know it is another thing altogether when you are forced to have to get out into it!! So thankful you made it safely. My prayers are still with you and Rodney as well. I'm also sorry that you are still dealing with stress on the job to boot! People who have never had to cope with a severe illness just don't seem to "get it"! I hope you can get out of there as soon as you can so you won't have to deal with it!

Well, my daughter saw the oral surgeon yesterday and he wants to do more surgery on her this coming Tuesday. She still has some swelling and discomfort and he feels that more scraping of her bone and whatever else is necessary to free her from this infection so it does not come back on her full force. I guess the jaw is a very hard place to treat because so few blood vessels around the bone area make it hard for the antibiotics to reach the infection. I will be taking her to his office and taking her home. It will be out patient thankfully so she won't have to go back into the hospital.

Take care my friends. Sure hope everything will go well for both of you!

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Wanda, I am so sorry that you ended up spending the weekend in the hospital, but happy to hear you are back home and that Mal seems to be doing reasonably well. I hope he continues to improve and has no lasting issues.

We made it to the hospital earlier than we needed to this morning. We were there more than half an hour before we needed to be. It normally takes an hour but we expected it to be longer this morning so we allowed over an hour and a half. Rodney drove up and he drove a little faster than I would have since the roads were still mostly snow-covered, but he did drive slower than usual. It still only took us an hour because there was very little traffic that early. If you head there later in the morning there is a lot of traffic between the interstate exit and the hospital, so it takes a while. Today there were only a few cars. we spent almost 9 1/2 hours at the hospital between having labs done, getting the port put in, meeting with a nurse and a nurse practitioner who work with his oncologist, and then finally getting the chemo. It all went well. He is pretty tired tonight and the port is causing some discomfort, but that is to be expected.

I think we got about 18" of snow here, but I heard some parts of the state and some places in New York got over 2 feet. Once report said one of the ski areas in Vermont got 45 inches! Hopefully we get some warm weather soon and it melts. Before this storm most of our snow was gone.

My boss is not a very nice person, but since I need a job for a few more months I guess I will have to suck it up and be nice to her even though I hate to. My husband and I have talked about it some and I might try to get things paid off a couple of months early and get done at the end of October instead of the end of December. If we don't have a lot of unexpected expenses come up we might be able to do that. It might mean I would need to find a part-time job in Florida next winter or else withdraw some money from my retirement account to supplement his disability income, but it might be worth it. I don't want to withdraw too much this soon because I will probably need it later on.

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Bev, I am so sorry that you have a boss that would give you a bad time when you and Rodney are going through this. Someday she will face a need for kindness and I really hope she will remember this. How I wish I could tell her that face to face!

Hope you and Rodney were able to make it to his appointment. I hear that storm was much worse than expected in some areas and other areas that were supposed to get a severe hit had very little snow.

Sunny, OUCH!! Your story made my jaw hurt. Your poor daughter.....bone infections can be so terrible and yes, the healing is long. I hope the antibiotics are effective for her and that she feels better soon.

As for our news, we spent the weekend in the hospital. Mal had a stroke on Saturday night. We are home now and are so very thankful that he is doing well. Weak and tired but well otherwise. It was terribly scary but we will be fine.

Prayers all around, girls.

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Thanks, Sunny. It is nice to hear from you but I am sorry to hear about your daughter's problems. I sure hope the IV antibiotics work for her. They did for Rodney when he had a serious infection almost two years ago.

Yes, it would be nice if they could find a cure for pancreatic and bile duct cancer (all cancer actually), but I don't know that it will happen in the immediate future. I do think they have made some progress with new treatments though.

It is very wintry here. It has been very cold the past two weekends, with high temps not even getting into the 20s along with wind. Today we are getting a big snowstorm. I think we have over a foot so far. Our office closed at noon so I was able to make it home before the heaviest of the snow started. It is very windy as well, so visibility is a big issue. We have to be at the hospital at 7 AM tomorrow so we were thinking about driving up tonight and staying with Rodney's brother as he lives only a few miles from the hospital, but I think the worst of the snow is supposed to be ending soon after midnight so we decided to wait until tomorrow morning. It normally takes an hour to get there but we might leave two hours before he has to be there in case we encounter issues with the roads.

I am really wishing I could find a way to get by without my paycheck because things at work are not very pleasant. My boss did finally agree that I can take tomorrow off, but not after giving me a lecture about how I have been rude to her as well as several others and she accused me of knowing about all these appointments before I went on vacation but withholding that information from her. She informed me she would approve this day off but she didn't think she would approve a string of requests in the future. I don't think she will have any choice since I will be on FMLA again as of the 19th. I'm not sure what I supposedly have done to other people who she claims think I am rude. One incident involving her was right after I came back from vacation and she mentioned doing my annual review the following workday. I said I really didn't have time for it, but I did say to pick a day and I would make time but I hoped we could make it a quick one. She apparently thought I was being rude, but that was not my intention. I was simply pointing out that I had a ton of work to get done and I felt that was more important. I had even been working through some of my breaks in an effort to get caught up. I also think I have a co-worker who tells stories behind my back and probably exaggerates things in the process. I didn't particularly care for my boss, but I never had any issues with her before this co-worker came to work there. Based on a comment I heard today I believe there was something I complained about to her one day and she went right back to the boss and told her (and maybe embellished it in the process). Of course she has complained a lot about things too, but I don't run behind her back and repeat anything she says. A friend of mine worked with this same woman years ago and she said she had the same problem with her boss after this woman started working in the office. The next nine months can't go by quick enough!

Okay enough of my complaining! I hope you ladies are having a good week. Sunny can you send us some of that heat?

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Hi My Friends,

I saw your posts and happy that you are both home from your Florida travels and that you had wonderful get-a-ways!

I was very sad to hear about Rodney however. I'm so sorry that you are still fighting the battle, Bev. I'm glad they gave Rodney a few choices and that he is going with the one that he feels most comfortable with. This pancreatic cancer is so insidious and horrible. I just pray to God that eventually a cure will be found so lives can be saved or that the disease could be prevented from every happening in the first place. I am rooting for Rodney and for you with all my heart and sending positive thoughts your way!!

Well, we got a heat wave this week here in Phoenix. It is going to be in the 90's all week and approaching record highs for this time of year! Ugh. I sure hope it won't stay for the rest of the spring because this is too early! :) I have not turned on the A/C yet because I'm pretty stubborn and with the fans and windows open it is still ok for desert rats like me! emoticon

My oldest daughter was in the hospital for 5 full days 2 weeks ago. Can you believe she got an infection from a dental implant. It was really scary. She had to go to emergency and they performed surgery on her after a CAT and MRI showed she had infection that had already spread to her jaw bone. They said it was a sepsis infection and had to scrape her bone and try to remove as much of the infection as they could. Her face and throat were swollen up like a pumpkin. It was really scary. Now she is supposed to be off work for 6 weeks. Fortunately she has short term disability that she can use. She has to still be on intravenous IV antibiotics for the entire 6 weeks and just pray that the infection will be completely gone in that time. If not, more surgery could happen and they would need to remove more bone and possible have to do reconstructive surgery. I'm not even going to think about that happening. She is doing much better and actually getting a little itchy to get back to work again.

Well, I'm thinking of you both and all the challenges you are facing. I'm seeing weather reports that look like it is still pretty cold back in your area's, so stay warm and careful on the ice. Seems Ohio is really been changeable this year. Like my old time friend tells me, "if you don't like the weather, just wait a few minutes and it will change!"

Best wishes,
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Wanda, I meant to reply days ago but I think I was at work when I read your post and meant to do it that evening but it slipped my mind. I am glad to hear you also had a nice vacation. It was nice to be away from work and spend a couple of weeks with my husband even though we didn't do too much special.

Sunny, where are you? I hope you have had a nice winter.

We met with the new oncologist last Wednesday and the plan for Rodney's treatment has changed. He gave us three options- on to watch and wait like the first oncologist suggested, one was to start an aggressive chemo immediately, and the third was to start chemo immediately but a less aggressive one. He said there were no right or wrong answers because no one can predict what the cancer will do. He said the right answer is the one Rodney is most comfortable with doing. He did not feel comfortable doing nothing while letting the cancer continue to grow, so he opted to start chemo right away. He did choose to try the less aggressive one and see if that works. If not, he will go on to a more aggressive chemo combination or possibly a clinical trial. They will do scans every 4 -6 weeks to access how well it is working. He is scheduled to get a port put in on Wednesday morning and have his first chemo Wednesday afternoon. My boss gave me a hard time when I asked for the day off. She told me my request was denied because until the department is caught up with work she needs me to be there working full-time, but if I needed to start FMLA for Rodney I needed to go see HR. I had already planned to file for FMLA when the time came but I had just found out the day before that treatment was going to start now and it was that morning before I knew exactly when so I hadn't had time to see HR yet. FMLA won't cover the day off on Wednesday because I am 4 days short from being eligible for FMLA again. I first went on it on 3/19/15 when Rodney had his Whipple surgery and I never asked them to end it so it didn't expire until 3/19/16 and you can't go on it again for a year. I told the HR person that I would not be there on Wednesday because my husband's life is more important to me than any job and if my boss wants to fire me for taking an unauthorized day off she has that right but Wednesday is not negotiable. I think the HR lady understood and she told me she would talk to my boss, but I didn't hear anything more on Friday. Either way I am not working on Wednesday. It is going to be a long 9 1/2 months until I can get out of there permanently! I miss my old job even more right now! My bosses there were very different than the b@tch I work for now. They would have told me to take as much time off as I need.

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Bev, I am so sorry to hear that Rodney's cancer is back. What terrible news to come back to after your nice trip. I'll be praying that you get to have many more trips like that. How nice to have a place of your own to visit in Florida! Nice that you got so much done and still took time to enjoy yourselves. Next time you'll make more progress and eventually you will have a comfortable place.

We returned home on Thursday afternoon; didn't finish unpacking until friday; I was tired but at least it is done. I find the long days in the car tiring now even though I'm never bored. My body just doesn't like all that sitting I guess. Now I'm still achy but I don't think I had as much fluid retention as usual...just age I guess.

Weather in Florida was beautiful! I think we only had 3 rainy days - the same 3 as you probably, Bev. We did have one really terrible rainstorm, the wind was awesome and we had tornado warnings all around but none hit near us. It was really awesome watching the Gulf from our condo. The water was angry and wild; it would not have been a good day to walk on the beach.

We did have a lovely time although the weather here in Ohio was pretty mild the whole time....until the time we came home...high of 25 degrees! Oh well, it is supposed to be 60+ tomorrow and spring is not far away. I shopped a little too much, walked over 2 miles all but 3 days on the treadmill and hit my 10,000 steps all but a few days also. We ate too well but did cook most meals at the condo so I managed to come home without a gain...I'm crediting the exercise for that. Well I think no gain but I'm hosting a big family dinner tomorrow night and I need to weigh in at TOPS on Monday. We'll see.

Sunny, I hope you have had a good winter. I'm sure that spring has arrived in Arizona. Someone once told me that we should go out there in the spring so we could see the desert bloom. I would like to do that. I am in awe of the saguaros, and would like to see them flower.




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Wow, I can't believe how long it has been since anyone has posted on here! I hope you ladies are all well and just busy. I know we have been kind of busy for the last few weeks. We left for Florida on Feb 11th and got back home on the 25th. We had good weather for the drive down and back with the exception of the first part of the trip down. It was snowing when we left home that morning, but by the time we stopped for breakfast we were out of the snow and by the time we stopped for lunch it was in the 60s and we had to shed our winter coats. Most of the time we were in Florida the weather was really nice. We had some rain one afternoon and evening and then one other day that it rained pretty much all day, but the rest of the time it was sunny and beautiful. We spent a lot of time just sorting out things the in-laws had left in the house, getting rid of things we don't want and rearranging the things we are keeping. The place needed a lot of cleaning and I got a lot of it done, but there will be more of that to do on our next visit. We didn't want to spend all of our time working! We thoroughly enjoyed the time we had even though much of it was spent working in the house. The first week we were down there it was cold and snowy here. The second week the weather was very warm up here. A few days after we got home we discovered problems with our sewer here, so for two days we were not able to use the toilet, shower, or sinks. We have to have someone come in with an excavator and dig up our sewer line and replace a pipe that had broken. We have no idea why it happened, but at least it is fixed now. I can imagine how much it will cost, but it definitely needed to be done. My husband had his CT scan on Monday and we met with his doctor on Thursday to get the results. Unfortunately it was not good. I'm not sure things have fully sunk in yet because he is feeling good at the moment, but we were told his cancer has returned and at this point there is no cure. They are not planning to start treatment yet since he has no symptoms now, but eventually he will get worse and will need treatment. Exactly what the treatment will be we don't know yet. They are going to order genetic testing of his original tumor in order to get a better idea of what type of treatment might work best when the time comes. We will also be meeting with another doctor next week who works with a lot of clinical trials as it is possible that might be a next step. We were told that he will need treatment for the rest of his life- maybe not continuously but at least intermittent treatments. All we can do now is live our lives as normal as possible and hope things progress slowly and when the time comes for treatment that the disease will respond well to it with minimal side effects. It was not the news we wanted to hear but it could have been worse I guess. We haven't told a lot of people yet. We told our two kids and he told his dad and all but one of his siblings. The other one we have nothing to do with, but I'm sure she has probably heard the news by now. He also stopped to see a favorite aunt yesterday who came to see him when he was in the hospital and who calls us fairly regularly to check up on him, so she knows. Well, I have a husband and a grandson waiting (impatiently) for breakfast so I better get off here and get it started. Have a great weekend ladies!

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Hi Wanda & Bev,

I enjoyed reading your posts, and Wanda I'm so glad you and your hubby are enjoying Florida and also that your daughter was able to join you for that length of time!! I think the older we get the more we realize how much family means to us!! Bev, you guys have a good safe trip as well! Sounds like you are getting pretty close to leaving as well, so enjoy your time away from work and away for the extremely cold weather too! Just don't get into any of those tornados. I couldn't believe they were having those this early in the year. My son and his family are in Georgia, but thankfully near Atlanta and the tornados were further south.

Can you believe I just finished the dental nightmare yesterday? Last Friday I went to the endodontist for the root canal and he tried everything in his power to get into the canals, but turned out that they were calcified and blocked, so that was a failed attempt. Monday I had the appointment with the dentist to extract the tooth and build up the other two teeth in order to have a bridge made. Well, he got out MOST of the tooth, but was not able to get out the root after 2 hours of drilling and using every tool he had available. He just did not feel comfortable going down any further because he said it was near a main artery. Well, long story short, I had to go back yesterday and saw the oral surgeon who again had to shoot me all up to get it numb and then he was able to get the rest of the root out. I really had some pain with all this going on and such a sore jaw. I got a large bruise on my jaw from him trying so hard to do that root canal. They did prescribe some pain medication that I took last night and was able to get a good nights sleep. It feels 100% better this morning so looks like I'm good to go. I don't have to go back until March 6th to get the permanent bridge installed. Anyway, I am more than happy that it is done now and I will sure be thinking twice before I let them do any further procedures to teeth that are not even hurting me!! emoticon

Well, thinking of you both and hope all is going well! I'll check back to see how you are doing!

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I hope you have a wonderful time, Bev. We are certainly enjoying our time down here. Take care and have a safe trip!


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Wanda, we should be in Florida in three weeks. I am working through Feb 10th, then we will be headed out early on the 11th. If all goes well, we should arrive the evening of the 12th after spending one night in a motel along the way. We plan to leave there to head back home around the 23rd or 24th. I go back to work on the 27th and he will he going for labs and a CT scan that same day so we need to be back by the 26th but we would ideally like one day to catch up on things at home before I go back to work. If we left on the 24th we should get back the night of the 25th as long as we don't encounter any bad weather or other delays, but we might leave on the 23rd just to give us an extra day of leeway. I would like to stay as long as possible but I also don't want to go back to work the morning after I get back! I think one of Rodney's sisters and his niece are going to be there for a few days of the time we are there. I think she said they are leaving on the 17th so we will still be there when she arrives. I'm not sure if they are flying or driving. I am looking forward to getting away- both from work and from the winter.

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We have been in Florida for a week now and have had a great time. Our daughter flew in on Tuesday so we have had 5 days with her; she leaves tomorrow morning. It seems so seldom that we get to be with just one of our children for any length of time any more. This has really been nice; we have enjoyed long conversations, walks on the beach, some nice meals out (although we have been cooking most meals), and we even had a day at Universal Studios. All good fun.

I hope you are having a good winter, Sunny, and that the dental ordeals are over! Amazing how a simple thing can snowball into something much larger.

! I'm trying to remember when Bev is headed to Florida. I hope she catches some beautiful weather. Today is rainy and stormy but it is our first bad day so we are just staying in and enjoying the time together.

This post is short but I wanted to check in; I haven't been on Spark as much as usual.
Back soon though!!
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Hi Wanda & Bev,

You guys are soon going to be FLORIDA bound! I'm tickled for you both and know how nice it will be for you to get a break from the cold blasts of winter!! Just find a nice palm tree and string up a hammock and let the rest of the world go by!! emoticon You know, you can always come out to Arizona if you want to drive a bit further! We do get lots and lots of snow birds out here and they have so many senior parks out around Apache Jct. People just coming to soak up the sun during the winter!!

Wanda, your description of your Christmas was so lovely, it brought tears to my eyes! You sound like the glue that binds your family together, rallying them all around even with the sad things that happened to Corey! You are right, you still have so much to be thankful for and the fact that he is recovering so well is high on that list!! I am so glad that you had such a wonderful time with all your family being there with you. That had to lift your spirits as well.

Bev, I'm glad your new Dr. is giving you the complete check-up you need so you can nip a few of these things in the bud before they get anymore serious!! You are so good for being pro-active and working with your Dr. to take charge of your health!! I need to make an appointment soon as well for my "wellness check". I even get that one for free!! Yea!!

I went to see my new dentist last week and thought I was just going to get a routine cleaning and check-up! Didn't happen quite that way. This dentist has all the modern equipment that my old dentist did not have. I ended up getting 2 crowns put on that same day. He said my old fillings were cracked and that would allow bacteria to enter the bloodstream. I was amazed that he had them done and put in my mouth in only 2 hours. Just crazy how much things have changed. This Wed. they want to do a deep cleaning, going under the gum line and they have something they put in now that will cause the gums to grow over the teeth and fill in any pockets that you have, thus preventing peridontal disease from getting bad. I'm not done yet though, because he also found I have an abscessed tooth. He can't understand why I'm not having pain with it. At any rate I have to meet with the specialist on the 20th and they will determine if I can still have a root canal or if the roots are so far gone that they will have to just pull the tooth. Yikes!! You can imagine that I'm not too happy when I see the dollar signs popping up for all this treatment. I guess I'll just look on the bright side however, and if it prevents further troubles down the road I will be thankful about it. I could have paid for an entire year at the RV park up in Show Low for what I'm paying for dental and enjoyed it more! Oh well...............

Wanda, thank you for the lovely Snowman goodie! That was so cute and brightens my day! I also hope you will still be able to post while you are in Florida! That goes for both of you. It will be fun to read about what you are doing while you are away.

Well, I better sign off. I go weigh with my girls this morning. We were all very motivated last week to get busy with our weight loss in the new year. My scale shows that I'm down this morning, so hopefully the weigh-scale will confirm!

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You are quite a bit further north than where we will be. One of my Vermont TOPS friends has a place somewhere near Orlando or Tampa (I don't remember the exact town but I know it is in that area) and one of the ladies in my chapter has a place on the Atlantic coast. I think is is Palm Coast where she is. My father-in-law told us that when he was looking for a place they looked at one somewhere north of the one he bought and the owner was telling him she would sometimes leave the water dripping if she was away overnight in the winter just to make sure it wouldn't freeze- and he decided he was not far enough south, so they kept driving. He owned the house we bought from him for 28 years or something like that.

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That area is nice, Bev. We flew in and out of Ft. Meyers several years ago, stayed only a few days but liked the area. That was when my husband was still working.

We will be in Fort Walton Beach; your area will be a little warmer and it is so nice that you have family members with homes in the area. Won't it be nice when you are all retired and can spend more of the winter there.

Right now I just want to leave. I always get this way when we near the time; this year seems worse because of all the recent stress. We are so appreciative of the fact that we CAN go because Corey is doing so well.

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Our house in Florida is in Port Charlotte, which is on the Gulf coast a little north of Ft Myers. We are close to everything, but on a side street that isn't a high traffic area. It is not far from our house to the main highway, which is a very busy road. The neighborhood we are in has a lot of inexpensive homes and a lot of them are rented- so it isn't the best neighborhood but whenever I have been down there I have always felt perfectly safe walking alone. I haven't been there for almost four years, but my BIL says he thinks the neighborhood has improved somewhat. We are on a corner lot and he is on the opposite side of the road and a couple of streets down from us, but so close we can see his house from ours. He just retired from teaching after the last school year, but his wife is a year or two younger than me and is also still working so they only get to go down for short vacations also. We were originally hoping they would be down there at the same time as us, but they went early (in November) because she was able to take two weeks off at once then and she wouldn't be able to next month. Rodney's other brother also owns a house that is only a few miles from us and I think he will be there at the same time we are. He also has an aunt and uncle who own a house maybe 10 - 15 miles from us and they are there all winter, so we will have family to visit while down there.

I have forgotten what part of Florida you go to.

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I had forgotten that Rodney has diabetes, Bev. Of course you know what to do. You are so lucky not to be insulin dependent and to have an early warning.
Go for it!

Where will you be going in Florida? Sounds like it will be a working vacation but it will still be a good break and some time for just the two of you. I know that you don't get much of that now.


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I was quite surprised at how quickly he got back to me. The last doctor I saw pretty much ignored my concern about possible high blood glucose after my labs done in October, but this one took it seriously and it appears it was good that he did before it got too far out of control. At this point I am just barely at a level that indicates diabetes so it should be easily reversible. Yes, I plan to work harder at losing the weight so that I won't have to take medication long-term. I have always known I was at high risk of type 2 diabetes because of so many family members who have it, but I don't think I took the threat seriously enough. I'm not sure how I would feel about going to a diabetes educator. I really don't want to take time off from work to go and I really feel that I have the knowledge already, I just need to do what I know I should be doing. My husband went to a diabetes educator a few different times- a couple of them were pretty helpful and a couple of others not so much. The last one he saw was not one of the ones he thought was really helpful, and she would likely be the one I would be referred to- of course my situation is different than his since I won't need insulin, and I might find her more helpful than he did. I won't refuse to go to a couple of appointments if the doctor suggests it but I am not going to ask for a referral.

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Fight back, Bev!! Type II Diabetes can be reversed. I hope he will refer you to a diabetes education class, knowledge helps so much. Also the hospitals in our areas have diabetes weight loss groups and I hear that they are quite successful.

Walking will help tremendously with both the weight loss and the cholesterol. I am not able to take statins because of pain from them but last year my cholesterol numbers came down 20 points and my increased walking is the only thing I can credit. I still eat eggs several times a week and I eat more red meat than I should so I know it isn't a low cholesterol diet.

I think it is great that they got back to you with the results so quickly.

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I am really looking forward to our trip to Florida. We will be spending a lot of time going through the stuff that the in-laws left behind and getting rid of what we don't want. We will also need to replace a window that is broken. The rest of the time it will be mostly just relaxing. I have a cousin who lives probably 25 or 30 miles from where our house is, so we might try to find her while we are down there. My husband knows her too because he graduated in the same class as her. I used to see her a lot when we were kids but as adults I have only seen her occasionally at a family reunion (not in recent years though) or at somebody's funeral.

Well, I got a message from my new doctor already with the results of my bloodwork today and it sounds like this might just be my wake-up call. He said my cholesterol is elevated, but he doesn't want to start me on medication for it yet so it must not have been too high. I will see the actual numbers online in a couple of days. My A1C was higher than I was expecting it to be as he said it is consistent with diabetes. I was kind of expecting it to come in showing I was prediabetic but wasn't expecting it to be in the diabetic range. I will be starting medication for that as soon as he gets my reply telling him which pharmacy to send the prescription to, but he says if I lose weight I may be able to discontinue the medication eventually. He wants me to have both rechecked in another 3 months and to work on weight loss in the meantime. That might need to start on Monday since we are planning on going out to eat tomorrow! Monday is our anniversary but since I will be working and not likely to feel like going anywhere after I get home we are going to go out tomorrow instead.

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Yes, Bev, we are so lucky that we were able to all pull together! It means a lot.

I'll be praying that Rodney's tests are good. I know exactly what you mean about going to the appointments with him. Mal got the first news of his probable cancer without me there. He only told me when they wanted to scope him and told him he would need a driver. He really thought it would turn out to be nothing and wanted to be able to have the biopsies without me knowing.
You can about imagine how I felt about that! I haven't gone to all of his appointments in the past 25 years but I have gone to all those that were cancer followups.

A gain of 3-4 lbs is quite remarkable considering the year you and Rodney have had. I hope your two weeks in Florida is just great! We started out by going for 1 week at a time and then when we retired 8 years ago, the time just started lengthening. I don't get bored but sometimes he does miss his garage and workshop. He can't find much to putter with in the condo.

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I am so glad to hear how well your grandson is doing- and happy that they have arrested those responsible for his injuries. I am sure being young does help with the recovery but having such a great support system does as well. It sounds like you all made the best of a bad situation and were able to enjoy your holiday in spite of missing him. Now that the crisis has passed you can get back to taking care of you. I hope you are able to enjoy your trip to Florida.

We will be going next month for two weeks- well actually we will have about 10 days there and four days of travel time but I am taking two weeks off from work. I have never taken two weeks at once before and I dread trying to get caught up when I come back, but I have not had a vacation in over 2 years (time off for medical stuff doesn't count as a vacation in my book) and it will be four years next month since I have been to Florida, so I make up my mind that I was going to take the time off and enjoy it. By the time summer gets here I may not have time enough left to take a vacation then, but at least I will get this one. If hubby gets sick again this year and I don't have enough paid time off left I will just have to take some unpaid time- which I tried to do with part of the time I was out last year so that I would have time left for a real vacation and they wouldn't allow it. This time I am taking my vacation before I end up taking time off for his illness. Hopefully he will stay healthy but that remains to be seen. The day I go back to work after our vacation he will be going for his next scan and bloodwork and he will meet with his oncologist later that week. I haven't decided yet if I will take the day off and go to his appointment with him or not. If the news is good there would be no need for me to be there, but if the news is bad I wouldn't want him to hear it alone so I am sort of thinking I should go. If there was more time between the tests and the appointment I would be able to see the results online and have a better idea what to expect but I won't be able to see the scan result before then and probably will only see the labs one day before his appointment. I will probably ask him if he wants me to go and will do whatever he wants me to. He is more important than my job!

I ended 2016 with a gain of 3 or 4 pounds I think, but hopefully 2017 will be much better. I need to get some of my excess weight off so I will be in better shape to do things one I stop working. I had a checkup with a new doctor last month and he was concerned that my blood pressure was too high, but after checking it at home twice a day for over two weeks almost all of my readings were fine, so he has decided I don't have an issue. I went this morning to have my cholesterol checked (something the doctor I saw twice previously was supposed to do but never put in the order) and also my A1C to see if the elevated blood sugar reading I had before was a fluke or if I am prediabetic. I should have the results in a few days. I have always known I was at high risk for diabetes but since my blood sugar was always normal I don't think I took it serious enough. This may be the wake-up call I needed.

Sunny, I hope all is well with you. Post when you can.

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Thank you Sunny and Bev. Yes, December was quite a traumatic month for our family. The great blessing in all of it is that Corey is doing just wonderful. He is out of the hospital now. My goodness! Young people heal fast. It is becoming hard to keep him down so he can get the rest he is supposed to get. I'm so happy to be able to laugh about that. We could so easily have lost him.

And Christmas was still Christmas. Corey came out of ICU on Christmas Day. We moved our family dinner from Christmas Eve to Christmas night and I was so happy that all my children came home. My granddaughter, Corey's sister, was feeling like she just couldn't do Christmas but I texted her that this was a wonderful Christmas because Corey was twice given the gift of life and we have twice been given the gift of Corey. I finished by saying that, "I'm going to celebrate!". She wrote back, "Yes Ma'am!!"

And so it was that we all gathered around my dining room table; all except Corey. My husband broke down when he said grace and that was a hard moment but he got through it and once the dishes began to be passed the Corey stories started. The rest of the evening was full of laughter and fun. Of course we trooped up to the hospital afterwards to see him. He was sad about his Christmas so, of course, he got the same speech. Then he said, "Grandma I know how lucky I am to be here......but I wasn't there." I just teared up and told him that he would be at the table next year.

Whew...hard times just remembering it all.

News flash...they have arrested the guys who broke into his home. So sad...one is only 18, the other 17 and there was a 17 year old girl involved. The most startling thing is that it may have been for sneakers. Imagine that! Years ago kids were being shot for their jackets...I remember how that horrified me. Now it is sneakers?? I must admit he had quite a collection and even displayed his best ones on his wall. I never got that but it must be a young guy thing. His best shoes were never worn and he even kept the boxes in mint condition. The shoes are the bulk of the missing items from his house.

Well, life is getting back to normal, for us at least. We have decided to leave for Florida on schedule. Corey insists. He is staying with his other grandparents until he is ready for his own place again.

You can imagine that my Spark journey has hit a bump but I'm back on track. I did not make goal as planned in 2016 but came closer and I WILL make it in 2017.

Hope you girls are off to a happy, healthy New Year. I'm so glad you both had a good, fun Christmas.
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OH MY GOODNESS!! I just wanted to check-in this morning and read the news about your Grandson, Wanda!! I could not believe my eyes that such a horrible thing had happened to your family. What oh what has gone wrong in our world today. I am truly sorry for the heartbreak this must have caused and to have it happen so close to Christmas as well.

It is such a blessing that he is making good progress and on the way towards healing, but I agree that the after effects will be with him forever. I'm so sorry I did not see this sooner, Wanda, but prayers must have really been going up for him.

Bev, I'm glad you were able to avoid the traffic jam in your area and that you had a nice, quiet Christmas. I had lots of fun and we had a very lovely time although I had to celebrate it in 2 different segments. I'll try to write more when I can. I'm picking up 2 of my neighbor ladies this morning and we are heading to Denny's for breakfast.

God bless, I will post again soon!!

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Wanda, I am so glad to read that he is recovering. That is great news! I sure hope they do find those responsible, but unfortunately they sometimes don't- or they can't get enough evidence for a conviction even if they are sure who it is.

Christmas was fairly quiet here since we had actually had our family celebration the week before. Winter is starting off a bit rough around here. We are getting ready for a major snowstorm that is coming tomorrow and we just had a bad ice storm on Monday. Thankfully I didn't have to drive on Monday but tomorrow I have to work so I will be out in it. I am hoping they close our office early so I can drive home in daylight, but we shall see. Monday we had gone to visit my in-laws and were on our way home when the freezing rain started. We took a detour from our normal route in order to grab a couple of things at the grocery store. I think we were lucky we did because there was a bad accident just 2-3 miles from here along the road we normally take to get home. We might have been in that area at the time it happened if we hadn't stopped at the grocery store and taken another route. We had no problems getting home but we could see the road was starting to ice over (hubby was driving).

Sunny I hope you are doing well.

Let's hope 2017 is a wonderful year for all of us!

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We are so blessed. Christmas 2016 was the worst - because Corey was in ICU - and the best because he has been given life twice and we have been gifted with Corey twice! He is doing really well; it is quite amazing how well a 22-year-old heals. He will be fine although he will be recovering for awhile.

They haven't found the guys who did this to him; we are hoping that they well. I am afraid he will always be fearful if they do not. Of course you are both aware of the facade that young men carry; he doesn't admit being worried about ever seeing them again.

Well, we are going into 2017, feeling stronger as a family, blessed, and ready for whatever the new year brings.

Bev and Sunny; I hope your Christmas was very Merry!

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Wanda, I am sorry you are going through that. I hope you get a Christmas miracle and he turns around quickly and makes a full recovery. You are so right, we just never know what can happen so we need to make the most of each day. Post an update when you can, but know I am thinking of you.

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I'm sorry that I haven't been posting. Just too busy with Christmas.....not so sure that I'll post again real soon but I will try to get back to you to catch up soon.

Today I just have this message that I am posting on some of my teams.

Friends, I need to ask for your prayers.........
My 22 year-old grandson was shot in his home yesterday. It was a break-in and he was shot in the back. He is in critical condition after surgery to repair his stomach and spine and remove one kidney. He will have further surgery tomorrow.

I cannot even tell you how hard this is.....hard even to write the words.

I will try to keep up with the team but will likely be a poor participant this week. We were at the hospital all night, came home to sleep for a few hours and are headed back to the hospital now.

Take care,
Love and forgive; and hug everyone in your family. Make sure they know.
Find the blessings; they are there even when we can't feel them.
Celebrate life!

I can't tell you how much a squeeze to my hand meant yesterday.


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Good Morning Pals,

Thought I better check in here before you both think I'm MIA! I really enjoyed reading your posts and really thought you both had some good ideas regarding gifts for Christmas for kids, grandkids and great grands! I believe I'm going to follow through with some of your ideas for next year. You just have to put the brakes on at some point or things get carried away! After all, it is the love and the thoughts that count. Those warm jammies every Christmas must have been very special memories for you, Wanda! My one granddaughter said she wanted me to give her lessons on the keyboard for her Christmas present. She is always thinking of things that will bring people together and I know that spending time means more to her than any material gifts.

Bev, I am glad Rodney is still doing as well as he is. You do want him to keep his spirits up, so if the antidepressants help to do that, it is a good thing. I know it must be sad for him there alone and in bad weather he probably does not even want to leave the house. He probably can't wait for you to retire so you can be there with him and do things together.

Well, better sign off for now. Best wishes to you both for a joyous Christmas season!!

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I put some of that coal candy in a couple of the stockings last year. My grandson who got one was not impressed! The kids know that the stockings they get here are not from Santa but from us, so he knew it was me who tricked him.

I have no idea when things might get resolved with Logan. When the ex contacted our daughter about letting her take him for Christmas she hinted that she might be willing to let her take him occasionally in the future, but that just isn't practical because she lives an hour away and has her own family. There is no reason why the visits need to be supervised at all, but she will do whatever she can to make things difficult for Ed.

I don't recall getting much for gifts from my grandparents but we might have gotten something small. Rodney's dad used to give all of his kids and their spouses a chamois shirt every year and the grandkids got McDonald's gift certificates, but when the number of grandkids grew and the great grandkids started coming along he stopped doing gifts at all- which was good. We told our kids a few years ago that we would only buy for the grandkids because there was nothing we could buy them that they couldn't afford to buy themselves (they earn as much as we do, if not more) and we didn't want them to buy us anything. Even though we told them that we have always given each couple a $50 Home Depot gift card because it just didn't feel right to do nothing. We always tell them we will spend a certain amount on the grandkids and ask them for suggestions of things they want. We do stockings for everyone in addition to the gifts- and those add up to quite a bit too. This year we cut back slightly and next year we will likely cut back more because I hope to be done working at the end of next year, although I won't be eligible for social security until June of 2018. Once we are in Florida for the winter we will likely send a $25 gift card to each grandchild and possibly still do the Home Depot card for the adults, but that will be it. Our income will be drastically reduced compared to what it is now so our expenses need to be reduced as well.

Rodney is doing reasonably well. He still has pains at times, but not as often as he did for a while. He had an appointment yesterday with a GI doc and she suggested a probiotic for him to try for a month to see if it helps with all the gas he has. She also says there is a possibility that he might have a section of his intestines that is a bit twisted. She wants him to have the barium follow-through done again to be sure there is not something like that going on. He is having that done next week, but he couldn't get another appointment with her until late January so it might be a while before we hear the results of the test. If they find nothing it might just be that these off and on pains are something he will just need to live with. He is struggling a bit mentally, but I think that is a combination of worry about the nodules in his lungs, boredom because he is home alone all day long while I am working, and the wintry weather. I suggested he go back on the anti-depressants that he had taken before and he agreed it would be a good idea. When he meets with another new doctor next week he will have to ask him for a new prescription because the old one is expired and he only has enough pills left from before to last 2 or 3 weeks. He won't have another CT scan until late February- after we come back from Florida.

Well I better stop rambling and get off the computer. We are having our annual Christmas potluck at TOPS tomorrow and I have to get some meatballs mixed up so that I can bake them in the morning before I go to work and then have hubby turn the crockpot on to start heating them before I get home.

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Thanks Sunny! It was fun, actually! When I was shopping I actually found "coal candy" in a little bag. I'm going to put it in with his gift which is a sweatshirt for his favorite football team.
emoticon You have a big family and I think it is perfectly fine for a grandparent to say, "I plan to spend $xx on each person this Christmas so please think of that if you request something in particular. I try to spend about the same on each person. Sometimes it varies a bit but I don't let anyone request anything way more than what I am spending on the others. That being said, my family is much smaller than yours. I would absolutely let them know that there is a limit. I'm sure it wouldn't occur to them to multiply out the cost to see how much you are spending at Christmas.
emoticon My own grandmother never worried about our list - she thought that was my parents problem - we all got pajamas and underpants from her every year! Ha! You know what, I think we enjoyed that warm flannel wonderfulness on cold North Dakota nights.

Bev, I'm so sorry that the chaos around Logan's visitation still goes on. I think it is horrible that he will have to open gifts and then leave them behind, perhaps never to see them again. How long do you think it will be before the Family Court will make a final ruling? This is just an awful situation and you would think that something called "Family" court would know that! I feel for your son but actually Logan is really at risk. How sad.

How is Rodney feeling? I know those nodules are there. Is he still having pain? When is his next exam? Praying for your family.

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Well, I had a good belly laugh over your strategy, Wanda!! What a cute idea to get them thinking seriously!! I had a text from the younger grandson yesterday asking for a Polaroid if it was not too much! I must say, he asked very politely. He said he would send me a link to the one he wanted. Since I have no idea how costly this might be, I just told him all suggestions were appreciated! Maybe we should put a price limit for gift suggestions, what do you think? If they were the only ones it would be fine, but I have 8 grandkids and 3 great grandkids, so things can get carried away if not careful. :)

Bev, sorry to hear about your situation with your son's ex still causing so much trouble. That has got to be one of the most disfunctional families I've heard about. Someone needs to do an intervention with that woman!

Well, I'm off to my little group this morning. My scales say that I'm down a little, so hope it will carry over to our weigh-in scale.

Take care and have a great week!
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I have barely started shopping and I need to have mine done early so I really need to get busy. My son hasn't seen his youngest boy since September because of the situation with his soon-to-be ex. Even though the criminal court dropped all charges against him the family court was not willing to change the stupid supervised visitation plan- and the only person his ex allows to supervise suddenly has no time available. I wasn't planning to buy him anything for Christmas since we wouldn't see him anyway. We bought him stuff last year because at that point I had been supervising visits one day every two weeks, but right before Christmas the bitch made some additional accusations which resulted in those visits being taken away and I am no longer allowed to supervise any visits (she claimed that I let him take his son up in the woods without me on multiple occasions- something that is a lie). He did get to open his presents from us finally in February when the husband of the woman who was supervising visits offered to bring him here for a visit, but by the time we had dinner he had very little time to play with any of it. Last week my daughter called and said she had gotten a message from our ex- DIL and she told her that she would let her bring Logan here for a few hours for a Christmas get-together. I am sure she has an ulterior motive for offering, but we did make arrangements for the family to come here the Sunday before Christmas to celebrate with Logan. I will still not buy him a lot since we may never see him again for months and what I buy is not going home with him. She still might decide to change her mind before the 18th gets here so we are not telling his brother he might be coming. If it does happen he will have a nice surprise. In the meantime I am running out of time for shopping!

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Do you email or text your grandchildren, Sunny! I sent out a message that my deadline was December 1, after that a lump of coal was their only option. My Corey is always my hold out so it took two more messages for him....The first one was to ask how big a lump he wanted and a few days later I told him that the price of coal was really falling and I thought I could get a good sized piece. Well I had his wish by November 30!! Ha! Just had to have a little fun with him. Last year I was shopping 2 days before Christmas because of him.

Actually I had procrastinated on several people and used the excuse that I didn't have his list so I'd just wait.....does anyone else procrastinate?

I know just how you feel about that cargo!! We can do it!

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Wanda, you are an inspiration! I would LOVE to be in your shoes and have all my shopping out of the way. My grandkids are being really stubborn this year and it is so hard to get any suggestions out of them!! I did get one of them taken care of. My Grandson who is going into the Navy in May told me he would like a pair of those folding Ray Ban sunglasses. I went on-line and found them about $50.00 cheaper on E-Bay, so put my order in! Well, that is one out of the way and only 7 more to go. emoticon

Thanks for the well wishes to my daughter and son-in-law. She did go back home last Thursday and I'm hoping for the best. It does take hard work and commitment on both sides. I think all marriages have their difficult patches. If you can work through the difficult times it does make the marriage better than ever and more precious as the years go by. I'm still praying for them!

I'm still trying to stay on track this week. I was just really not liking the extra rolls of fat that I saw developing when my weight goes over 175! Yikes, bad enough as it is, but being a shortie I just can't take much more!! I think I've decided that being a little hungry is going to be worth the effort. I'm just really getting tired of hauling around my extra cargo!! I don't want to wait until after Christmas because that is just going to be more collateral damage that I'll have to deal with.

Well, I'm going to try getting cards done today and put finishing touches on my decorating. I'm thinking of you gals and wishing you every happiness at this beautiful Christmas season!

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I've been among the missing, girls! Trying hard to get some Christmas things done early and I'm happy to say that I am done shopping! First year ever that I have been done this early although I have tried it many times. Now I can relax and enjoy December with at least some less running around.

Sounds like we all had a lovely Thanksgiving! Congratulations on the weight loss. WOW, even with three of you at TOPS, Bev, 12 lbs was a great loss. How nice that you are working on this together! Sunny, you did great too! It isn't easy to post a loss after a holiday. At our TOPS meeting there are no weekly dues if you have a loss. It isn't great incentive; after all we just charge $1 for a gain and 50cents for a loss on normal days. I had a loss too and it does feel good.

Bev, I'm praying for you and Rodney! Hoping that this nodule will turn out to be noncancerous. I know that the waiting is hard on both of you. When will his next scan be scheduled?

Sunny, I hope your daughter and son-in-law succeed in their reconciliation. It is so difficult to put hurts aside and try. If they BOTH aren't willing to be fully invested in their marriage, then it just won't/can't work. We had one terrible year in our marriage and it was truly a difficult thing to get past...I didn't think I could do it but we had been married 22 years at the time and I just knew that he still loved me as I loved him...he was the one who didn't know in our case. Well that was in 1990 and we love each other more each year. We floundered for awhile even though we never separated. I could never have done it alone though; he had to bring himself back to commitment and I know that sometimes that just doesn't happen.

I'm not judging. I would have been able to go on and build a good life without him; but I'm glad it wasn't necessary.

On a happier note, Christmas is coming. We'll pray for a few Christmas miracles including one for Rodney, and one for your children, Sunny.


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Bev, I'm so sorry that they found the nodule or nodule's in Rodney's lung, but all you can do at this point is stay positive and hope they won't grow from now until his next scan. I'm glad the pain is subsiding and that he is feeling better. It is very hard to deal with, but it could be nothing and that is what I'll be praying for.

Good job on your weight loss over Thanksgiving. That is very encouraging. I had a 1.2 pound loss also, and can only say it must have been my nervous energy from preparing the meal that caused it. I know I won't be so lucky next time if I keep eating left overs! emoticon It is always more fun dieting when you have some others to do it with you!!

Well, not much to report here. It seemed kind of lonely last night as my daughter left to go back home. I'm glad I've got Izzy to keep me company!

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I almost posted this earlier this week, but I wanted to wait until we had more info. Last Tuesday my husband had a CT scan in an effort to find the source of pain in his right upper quadrant. The NP who works with his oncologist told him the next day that she hadn't seen the full report yet but that they didn't find anything to explain the pain. Then on Saturday when I was able to view the radiologist's report online I was shocked to read that they saw some nodules in his lungs that might indicate a recurrence of his cancer. Needless to say we were both pretty worried, but we decided not to even tell our kids until we knew more. He called the oncologist's office on Monday to ask about it. He spoke to the nurse practitioner again and she said she didn't think his oncologist had even had a chance to review it yet, but she did say they would have him come in today to meet with them. I took the afternoon off to go with him as we were expecting the worst. Fortunately the oncologist didn't make it sound as bad as we thought. The report says there are multiple nodules but she says she only saw one when she looked at the scan. It is too small to biopsy at this point and she also said it is so small that even a PET scan might not pick it up, so the only thing they can do is wait until his next scan to see if it has changed. She told us she is somewhat concerned but that since all other signs indicate he is doing well, she doesn't want us to worry too much. She said there are lots of other things that can cause changes in the lungs, so it might not be anything to do with cancer. It would have been nice to hear that it was definitely not cancer, but at least we didn't hear that they are reasonably sure it is. She told us to try not to worry but she understands it is hard not to, so she instructed us to be sure we spend at least as much time thinking about how well he is doing as we do worrying about potential problems down the road. He will be rechecked in three months unless he has problems before then. I felt a little better when we left than I did when we got there, but he says he isn't sure he feels much better about things. Since the next scan will be about the time we were thinking we might be in Florida we may move up the trip and go a little earlier. On a more positive note the pain that led to him having the scan seems to be diminishing.

Also on a positive note, my son, his girlfriend and I all went to TOPS tonight and all three of us had a loss. She lost the most and I lost the least, but between the three of us we lost about 12 pounds. Since last week was Thanksgiving that was really over 2 weeks but I thought it was really good that we lost after the holiday. Now if we can just keep it up!

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So glad you guys had a lovely Thanksgiving at your daughter's, Bev! I bet your dinner rolls were delicious. It is kind of nice when you can kick back a bit with regards to the cooking and let someone else have the honors! :)

Today my daughter will be going back home again. I know I'm going to miss having her here for sure, but I'm glad that they are going to try to work things out. They really don't have anything going on that is not beyond repair at this point. I think she is making the right decision. They have been married for 19 years and their two boys are nearly grown. At any rate, I'm hoping for the best. She is the greatest daughter and I hope this wakes her family up to appreciate her a little bit more!!

Everything else is going good here. I've gotten just about all the Christmas decorations put up now including lights, etc. Now if only I had my shopping done! Ugh, that is another story and I'm at a loss as to what to get everyone this year. Nothing is a bargain if it is not what the person wants or needs!!

Hope you gals are doing great. I'll catch up more with you later!!

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Sunny, I hope your daughter and son-in-law can work things out. When our son and his wife split up he initially was saying he thought they would eventually work things out and there was a part of me that hoped they would, but in their case I didn't really believe it would last if they did get back together, so another part of me felt it might be best to just move on at that point. That relationship had been rocky almost from the start. I knew it would not be a simple divorce like his first one because of what his wife was like, but I never dreamed just how vicious she could be. Her only interest is in getting revenge on him and she doesn't care how it affects their son.

We had a nice Thanksgiving at our daughter's. It was nice to see the grandkids we don't see that often. I made dinner rolls the night before and took those up because that was what she asked us to bring.

Back to work today- yuck! I had four days off but didn't accomplish a lot.

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Good Morning My Tops Pals,

I enjoyed reading your posts and hearing about your Thanksgiving events and the planning part from you, Bev! Wanda, you are a doll to do all the cooking and preparation for your family's Thanksgiving dinner. It is definitely lots and lots of work, and as I've gotten older, I don't mind accepting help from my kids when they volunteer!! I have my youngest daughter staying with me now, and she is always such a big help. She is having a trial separation from her hubby and I am just hoping things will work out and that they will get back together. Sometimes I think they just need a break from each other. She did invite her hubby to dinner and he came, so that is a very good sign!

Our dinner was delicious and there were 14 of us counting the 2 toddlers. Lots of commotion, but lots of fun as well and it is good to get the chance to visit. I don't see enough of them it seems. My other son-in-law brought their indoor turkey fryer and did the turkey in that. The turkey got injected with marinade the night before, and it was really tasty. That in itself is a lot of work however and then the clean-up of getting the fryer all clean is a pain. The kids handled all of that however and I just did a number of the side dishes, so not nearly as much cooking as in years past.

Wanda, sure sounds like you are looking forward to your trip to Florida after New Years! That will be so much fun for you both, and Bev, that is great you will get the 2 weeks down there as well! Florida is the place to go when you live in that part of the country. I don't know what my parents were thinking when I was small that we went all the way to Arizona! Ha Ha Well, actually that is not true. When I was a kid I was pretty puny and in and out of the hospital, so my Dr. recommended that I move to a dryer state. My parents took him at his word and that is when my dad got a job at Motorola out here in Phoenix. Funny how our lives take different twists and turns!

Well, I know we will all be doing our best to guard our health in the New Year and try to take steps to prevent complications from obesity. It is hard to remember that when all these wonderful deserts are passed around the table and everyone is diving in. For me it is the left over's that are the killers. My daughter said this morning that it was time to just throw the rest into the trash and I'm having to agree with her.

Well, better sign off for now. Looking forward to hearing from you both again soon!

Lots of Hugs,
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Bev, that is so awesome! A .8 gain in 5 months! Good for you, especially with all that has been going on. Glad you are going back to TOPS too. Did you know that Spark used to have a special division for diabetes? I don't know if they still do. They used to have one for new mothers and one for budgeting and financial management too. I can't remember seeing them on the lists for awhile but I remember using the budget one for awhile after we first retired.

Such a shame that so many in your family have been affected with diabetes. As I have aged it seems like I have met more and more people with it. I took the Spark People diabetic challenge just to learn more about my friends struggle and, of course, learn how to avoid it myself.

Sounds like you will have a nice Thanksgiving....and you won't have to do all the cooking. Enjoy the day!

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It is cold here too. Last week we had warmer than normal temps and now we are below normal. The change between Saturday and Sunday was over 20 degrees! Some places got snow (up to two feet in a couple of places) but all we got was rain and a dusting of snow that wasn't even enough to turn the ground white. We also find that we hate the cold more the older we get. I am looking forward to a short trip to Florida this winter- ours will only be about 2 weeks including travel time.

We will not have everyone here at the same time for Thanksgiving. Our son, his girlfriend, and our grandson are going to her family's Thanksgiving and we are going to our daughter's. Our son's girlfriend's father in not in good health and there is a very real possibility he might not see another Thanksgiving so I am glad they will be spending time with her family.

Diabetes is prevalent in my family. One brother has type 1- he was diagnosed at the age of 9 or 10 and has lived with it for 40 years. He has had a number of complications, but I often wonder if he would have had as many if he had taken better care of himself when he was younger I think he is more careful what he eats now than he used to be, but still not as careful as he should be. Both of my older brothers were or are diabetics as is one of my sisters. Another sister tells me she is prediabetic. My husband has been diabetic for ten years or so but until he had surgery for his cancer and had part of his pancreas removed he did not have to take insulin. I am sure he would have eventually ended up on insulin because he was having a hard time controlling it with oral medication and had put on a non-insulin injection before the cancer surgery. I have always known I was at high risk for developing it, but I guess I didn't take it seriously enough or I would have worked harder at losing weight. Until now I have always been pretty healthy in spite of my excess weight but I think it is starting to catch up with me. I will see another doctor in about a month and will ask him to do some additional bloodwork and see where they want me to go from there. I know I need to work harder at losing weight and I actually went back to TOPS last week. My son and his girlfriend did decide they wanted to go so I went with them. I was pleasantly surprised that I had only gained .8 since I last weighed in back in June.

I hope you all have a great Thanksgiving, whether it is a quiet day on your own or a day filled with family.

Bev

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Good Morning!

Well it has been a busy week for us but Thanksgiving Dinner was yesterday and today I plan to relax, catch up on Spark, spend a little time with friends, and just generally enjoy the day.

Cold weather has come to Ohio! We were in the twenties yesterday. I will definitely be ready to run away to warmer weather in January. This will be the first year that we spend 6 weeks in Florida. It just seems that Mal hates the cold more every year; of course we didn't even find it challenging when we were younger. We looked forward to winter! Now we dread it.

Are we getting older? Most definitely. Yesterday was a great day but I think it may be the last year that I insist on doing all the cooking. Next year I AM going to delegate. Ha! I've said that for the past 5 years but THIS year I mean it. At least 10 hours went into cooking and the dinner table is being cleared less than an hour after we sit down. I did spread some of the work over 3 days but......you girls know.....I'm tired!

So fun though to have the family together and just sit and chat and catch up with everyone. The New York and New Hampshire branches of our family weren't here but we will have all my chicks under one roof at Christmas.

Bev, I'm horrified that your doctor may have dropped the ball on something so important! I echo Sunny's hope that pre-diabetes or diabetes is not in your future. Gosh it is a hateful disease. I have friends though who have it managed well and keep their sugars under very close control and I also have friends who haven't even tried. One of them used to tell me that she could "feel" when her sugar was up. She was absolutely convinced that no damage was being done if she didn't "feel" sick. Her doctor would be concerned about her numbers and she would say, "that is normal for me; he just doesn't get it". Well, of course, you know who didn't get it. She is only a year older than me and she has a long list of diabetic complications, is in a wheelchair, and still wants her doctor to just add another medication to her long list rather than change to a diabetic diet. I think it may too late now that she has kidney disease but she has had her diagnosis for over 30 years. I love her and this situation is so sad to me.

Anyway, I'm kind of going on here but my message is that if you get a diagnosis of pre-diabetes or actual diabetes............DECLARE WAR!!! It is a war you can win!

Sunny, it sounds like you are still the Thanksgiving cook! I know your dinner will be wonderful and I hope your entire family can be with you!

Happy Thanksgiving to both of you and your families! I will be relaxing on Thursday, counting my blessings, having a nice small meal with Mal, and happy to have a quiet day with some music, reading, and football.

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Bev,
Thanks for the update on your Dr. status and reports. I hope you are wrong about getting a pre-diabetic diagnosis. Sounds like your previous doc sort of dropped the ball with your test. Well, better days ahead and hope you settle into a good health care support team for both you and Rodney!! Also, hoping the new pad supports will do great things for you foot discomfort!

That trash disposal is a big hassle. I think it is getting that way across the country as our disposal facilities get filled up with garbage. I have recycling now with the new company I changed to awhile back and it is nice. I'm finding I have nearly as much or more trash going into the recycle can as I have going into the regular one. The regular one gets filled up with debris from my yard, so no space goes to waste!!

Well, at any rate, take care my friends and you are in my thoughts! Have fun this week as we think more about Thanksgiving and making good choices!

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Oh yes, I know exactly where Marion, Ohio is. I think I told you that I'm from Mansfield, and that is not far from Marion at all! I'm so glad you had wonderful weather for the event, Wanda I'm jealous of you eating at Bob Evens! I love that place and we don't have them out here!

Today I'll try to sit down and plan out a menu for Thanksgiving and get some actual recipe's in place!

I'm with you on starting fresh in the New Year! Maybe the three of us can really see some progress and as you say, slow is the way to go for lasting results!!

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I am glad you enjoyed your Fall Rally Wanda. I have not been to TOPS since June, but I may go back eventually. My son and his girlfriend have been talking about joining and if they do I will probably go back. They keep putting it off but she was just told she is prediabetic so I suspect that might be a little more incentive to make some changes. I suspect I will have the same diagnosis once I see another doctor. I never heard from the last one after my bloodwork was done and I suspect it might be because they didn't have my labs marked as being a fasting sample and my result wouldn't have been high if I had eaten before I went there. Then again, she may have never even looked at the results. My husband had x-rays of his shoulder and he has still not heard from anyone about those. I read the report online that says he has large osteophytes in the joint (bone spurs/arthritis) but no one has bothered to contact him to discuss what they can do about them. I go for a mammogram on Thursday and will also see the foot doctor briefly to get the pads put in my sneakers.

Sunny, the biggest issue with getting rid of stuff here is that there isn't really a dump to take it to. We have a recycling center/transfer station where we take stuff to. Some things you can get rid of for free but other stuff you have to pay for. Cardboard, bottles and cans, and scrap metal as well as scrap lumber I think is free. Trash you pay for by the bag and other items like furniture you pay so much per piece depending on what it is. The place is only open two half days a week though, and one of those days I work. Hubby doesn't, but he doesn't want to deal with making a trip there either. I made one trip a while back and got rid of some tires (I had to pay for those) and an old computer and some printers (those were free), plus some cardboard and bottles and cans and a few bags of regular trash. That was before we had a regular trash pickup scheduled. We had previously shared a dumpster with my husband's cousin, who we share our private road with, but he decided to get rid of it and didn't give us any advance notice to line up an alternative. I am happy with the company we have now and it costs me a little less than what we were paying to share the dumpster. The disadvantage is that there are some things we could throw in the dumpster that I probably can't get the garbage truck to take. If we had hauled away all the stuff we just put in the big dumpster I'm sure it would have cost less than $700 but we didn't have time to make lots of trips.

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Hello Friends,
Looks like we all have our Thanksgiving plans in place. I'm looking forward to the holidays and like Sunny, I do not expect to get any great weight loss in the next 6 or 7 weeks. I will try to hold my gain to 3 lbs or less and I was able to do that last year so hope I can again. After the New Year I will try to break through the plateau I'm on now.

I think there is something to the "set point" theories. Our bodies seem to have to adjust and that is why it is good to go for slow weight loss that allows pauses for our body to accept a new set point. Actually as much as I hate suffering through a plateau, they serve an important purpose. Very few people who lose a lot of weight very rapidly are able to keep it off.

Our TOPS rally was in Marion, OH. That is a small town northwest of Columbus. So nice that we had a lovely day and it was a beautiful country drive. There was no food at the rally so we stopped at a Bob Evans on the way home and we all ordered a TOPS friendly lunch. I was pleased to see that everyone ate a healthy meal. Do you suppose the rally message came through?

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Oh, forgot to say that I think that is a very fair price to expect from your son for the garbage pick-up, Bev. That is a pretty large bill. It is sure getting expensive these days to have extra things hauled away. I have thought a few times i would like to have an old pick-up truck to take things to the dump myself. I think I could do it! We is women! Ha Ha!!

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Hi Gals,

Time is sure marching on! I agree with you Wanda, this year has gone by really quickly!

It was good reading your posts and Wanda that should be a fun and inspiring time for you going to the fall rally. What part of Ohio is that being held at? I tell you I really do miss the fall back in Ohio. Ray and I sure enjoyed going to several of the small town street fairs and listening to the local bands playing, etc., etc. It is just a different feeling you get living in small communities that I really miss. Phoenix has turned into a metropolis and has gotten way too big. I keep saying that and it just grows bigger all the time!

Speaking of Thanksgiving, I will be having my family come to my place also. My son-in-law will cook the turkey in their fryer and he already got the oil for it. I can't get a turkey any bigger than 20 pounds because that is all the fryer will hold. I always enjoy getting the family all together. I'll try to focus more on them and less on the food! Congratulations from me too on weighing in with that loss after being on vacation, Wanda. That shows you have it under control and are able to judge what you are eating even when you are not thinking about it as much. I am still hanging right around the same weight which seems to fluctuate about 3 pounds one way or the other, so guess I'm at my set point. It will really take some focus from me to break the barrier. Realistically I probably won't be able to do it right now with the holidays upon us, but maybe I can maintain and then start up seriously after they are over. I know what you mean about enjoying a treat on the No S diet when you get to your free days. It always seems to taste so much better because you have had to wait for it!

Bev, I'm glad you found a good podiatrist and that you are getting your feet taken care of. My feet problems seem to be solved for now and I'm so THANKFUL for that. I hobbled around with that Plantar Faschiites for so long and finally got it resolved.

Well, have to go get the garbage out. They come on Tuesday so don't want to miss them!

Best wishes to you!!

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Congratulations on the loss Wanda!

My son, his girlfriend, and our grandson are pretty much settled in now. They were completely moved out of the apartment at the end of October so everything is either in their storage unit or here now. I think they still have some things they need to put away and hopefully that will get done without us having to nag at them to do it. There are still some boxes on my front porch and I don't want them to stay there! We filled the dumpster as full as it could possibly be, between what we got rid of and what they did. In fact, the trash company sent us an additional bill for excess weight over what the up-front fee covered. Our son is supposed to be giving me the money for that because I think they put as much in the dumpster as we did and we paid the entire $600 so he can pay the extra $105. We still have things to get rid of but I think we got rid of the bulk of it and most of the big stuff. I can put a few smaller things in a trash bag and get rid of a little at a time with my regular weekly trash pickup. Now we have a lot of work to do to organize the stuff we kept.

I had my appointment with the new podiatrist this week. I like him much better than the PCP that I recently saw. He had several x-rays taken of my feet and said there were no major problems with the structure of them. I do have some hammertoes, but they are not too bad. He said I also have some arthritis in my feet, but he thinks the reason I am having so much pain is that the pad on the bottom of my foot is pretty thin so I am almost walking on bone. He shaved off some of the calluses I had on the bottom of my feet and had me order some metatarsal pads to go in my sneakers. I will go back to see him next week and have him put them in for me to make sure they are in the right place. He wants me to try them for six weeks and then go back to see him.

We also got appointments to see a new PCP next month. If we don't like that one we will likely go to another facility.

Well, my son wants to borrow my computer to buy his hunting license so he can go deer hunting in the morning, so I guess that is it for me right now.

Bev

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Hi everyone, I'm still catching up after our trip. I weighed in at TOPS on Monday and I was down about a pound from before I left. WOOHOO! I admit to being a bit proud of that.

Sunny, glad you like No S too. I share your sweet tooth so I'm always happy to let myself have a little treat on the weekends. It doesn't seem to cause me a problem.

Wish I lived near you........Boy do I ever have white elephants I could have donated to your sale. I hope it was successful. I've missed my favorite Christmas bazaars here. There is one tomorrow that is always a lot of fun but I am attending a TOPS OHIO Fall Rally tomorrow and it will take up the whole day because it is quite a drive. We will have a good time though and maybe it will inspire me to get through the holidays wisely.

It is hard to believe that I'm already putting out a few Thanksgiving decorations. This year has gone by very quickly! I will have only 7 people here for Thanksgiving dinner and we will be having it on the 20th because that is when I can have them all. Christmas Eve there will be 12 of us.

Bev, sounds like you will have a full house soon. Your holidays should be lots of fun.

Wanda

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