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It is great to hear the success stories now and then because the statistics for pancreatic and bile duct cancer (and esophageal too) are not very encouraging. I keep saying that when we see the 5-year survival statistics we know those are based on people who were diagnosed at least five years ago and maybe they have come up with treatments that work better over those years. I believe in trying not to dwell on what might happen but I also feel that I need to be realistic enough to realize things may not go the way we want them to. I am still trying to find the right mix of optimism and realism. Most people say that over time the constant worry will diminish but it usually does not go away completely and they just have to learn to focus on something else when the negative thoughts creep in. At this point I really don't think my hubby will ever return to his job (which is fairly physically demanding), but I don't expect him to be an invalid either. My hope is that he will regain a lot of his strength, but he would be eligible to retire (at 62) next year anyway so we plan that he will do so. That way he will have time to do things he enjoys rather than going to work every day. I will need to work two more years after he retires, but he can find things to do without me I am sure. His uncle that he is really close to has cancer that is terminal but as long as they are both able they hope to do some fishing together next spring. His brother is planning to retire after this school year so he will be able to do things with him as well. I have seen too many people who wanted to work until full retirement age (or longer) and then their health went downhill so fast they never got to enjoy retirement- and I do not plan to be one of them. If we can get our finances in order over the next year so that I can get by with less of an income I might even quit my job and work a seasonal job here in the summer and a seasonal job in Florida in the winter so that we could leave the cold and snow (that I hate) behind even before I can retire. I'm not sure that will happen but that is my goal.

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Your story is so encouraging, Wanda! I'm so happy that your hubby has defied all the odds and that the Lord has kept him with you all these years! That does go to show the One who is in charge of everything!

It is really a miracle to watch the improvements made, even when it seems to us to be so slow going. When I think back to just one month ago until now, all I can do is thank the Lord.

It is very good to hear from you and I'm hoping to be more faithful here on Spark Pals and also trying to reach an acceptable goal weight at some point along the way! emoticon

Best wishes and thank you for taking time to write!


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You girls have really struggled. I'm glad your husbands seem to be doing better. My husband had a massive surgery for esophageal cancer years ago. They removed 8 inches of his esophagus and over 1/2 his stomach. We were told that while they "bought us some time", we should not consider long term survival. WOW! Guess what? That was 24 years ago this week!
The man upstairs sets the schedule I guess.

Anyway it is good to read your stories and see what great, strong, loving people meet on SparkPeople! This team is small but mighty and there is no lack of empathy and support!

Hope today is good and that tomorrow will be better.

P.S. Our road to good health was long, long, long. Over a year after the surgery we were still seeing his strength grow; it was just so slow. He has been healthy and very active now though for many years.

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Hi Bev, thanks so much for your update. I relate to so much of what you said about what you were going through with your husband. It is really a terrible thing to go through and you feel so badly for them. Ray is having the same belly pain like you were describing after he eats. I think he tries to put a little to much in his stomach and then it is pretty painful trying to digest it!
I agree that after the surgery is over and things seem to be going along, the surgeon does really not have much to do. I'm not real happy with Ray's primary care physician and I would love to have him switch over to the Dr. that I see. He is considering doing that and it is so important to have a primary care Dr. that you trust.

I can really see that you have also been through a very unbearable time and so thankful you and your husband have come through thus far! I guess we just have to take things one day at a time and I know I'm thankful for every day we have.

Thanks also for the tips about the support groups and I will go check them out. Sometimes you feel like you are all alone and then find out so many people are going through similar difficulties!

Best wishes to you and thanks again for everything!

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Sunny, it is good to hear from you! I have seen some of your posts on Facebook so I knew that your husband had the problems with his heart but I must have missed the lung cancer diagnosis. Good grief, you have had a lot to worry about, haven't you? I don't know if you are interested but there are a couple of support groups on Facebook for those going through this. One is called Whipple Surgery Survivor Group and the other one is Whipple Warriors Caregiver Support Group. There are a lot of very sad stories on there but also some successes and I have learned a lot from reading about the experiences of others going through this. I also think it helps me to be thankful that my hubby is doing as well as he is when I see what some of the others are going through. If I compare him now to how healthy he was a year ago it is pretty discouraging but he is better off than many- at least he was eligible for the surgery. My hubby has bile duct cancer, rather than pancreatic, but it was in the part of the bile duct that passes through the pancreas. He had his Whipple on March 19th and then had some pretty serious infections in April and May that delayed his treatment while he battled those. He had his gallbladder out last December before we knew he had cancer. I am pretty sure he had the cancer then and it was misdiagnosed as gallbladder trouble. He was still having a lot of digestive issues after the surgery but the surgeon wasn't interested in hearing it. Our primary care doctor deserves a lot of credit because she kept running tests to try to identify the problem. She thought there might be a stray gallstone left in his ducts so she had them do an MRCP which did show a blockage. She got him into a larger hospital for a procedure (an ERCP) to remove the stone but instead of a stone they found a tumor. He had 28 days of radiation and oral chemo, which ended the first week of August. He will be having a scan next week and then an appointment with the oncologist a couple of days later, and we expect him to start chemo infusions around the middle of the month. That will last about 4 months. He has lost about 70 pounds from when he first got sick (when they said it was his gallbladder) and is struggling not to lose more. Thankfully he was overweight to start with! He still has a lot of belly pain, which he thinks is mostly from gas, and some bowel issues, and of course he has no strength and gets tired very easily. I hope things go well for Ray at his appointment next week.

I was lucky in that I did not gain any weight while we were going through all of this because I was not getting any exercise. When he was in the hospital (he was admitted 4 times and spent a total of 31 days there) I spent all day there, then came home at night and headed back in the morning. I was out of work from the day of his surgery (March 19th) through mid-May and then I worked part time from then until around June 9th or 10th. When I finally went back to TOPS in June I had lost a pound or two from my last weigh-in before surgery.

I am glad we were able to keep the team going, although it is still not very active.

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Well, it has been a very long time since I've posted here on Spark Pals! I was just reading through some of the posts and it is good to see the folks on here.

2015 has been a very turbulent year for me and my husband and I know I've talked to you a few times on FB, Bev. Our husbands are going through very similar situations and the stress is very hard to handle at times. Just a quick update on my hubby. He was operated on for pancreatic cancer on May 15th when they performed a Whipple procedure on his which included taking out his gall bladder, half of his stomach, part of his intestine and the head of the pancreas. That operation was very successful and he was pronounced free of pancreatic cancer. The bad thing was that he suffered a massive heart attack the day after his surgery and had to place a stent into one of the main arteries which was a very dangerous procedure. They warned me that there was a very good chance we could loose him on the table, but miraculously he came through that difficult time after being in the cardiac ICU for 2 weeks. Well, this is probably more information than you would like to hear, but it has been a very difficult and slow recovery. He lost over 50 pounds and still is struggling to gain any weight even though his appetite has improved over the last week or so.

The next thing we will be dealing with is his diagnosis of lung cancer which they found at about the same time as the pancreatic cancer, but they say it is unrelated to the pancreatic cancer and it will have to be treated as well. He just had more C-scans done last Thursday to see how if it has progressed and if so how much. We will meet with the Oncologist again on the 9th and then hear his ideas on how to go ahead and what type treatment he will need.

Well, all during this time I've had a weight gain of about 7 pounds. I know it could have been much worse and it's a wonder it wasn't. The fact remains I'm still a long way from my goal, so with the prospects of brighter days ahead I'm feeling more inclined again to try to press forward.

Bev, I'm glad you were able to find recruits and also keep the Tops Pals alive and going. It would have been a shame to shut down a very nice group of folks.

Best wishes and I'll sure try to check back with all of you as much as I'm able!

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8/24/15 6:44 A

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I like the idea of bringing something to share! Maybe I will have to work on that in the coming weeks. They did ask me if I wanted to do a program one week but I didn't commit to it yet, mainly because I don't know what my husband's chemo schedule is going to be yet and I also don't know how it will affect him. If meeting day happens to fall on a day that he is not doing well I probably wouldn't go, so I would prefer to wait until he has a couple of treatments before making a commitment to do a program. We meet with is oncologist tomorrow and I assume we will find out more about the next phase of his treatment then. I too need the accountability so I will continue to go to TOPS most of the time.

Bernice/Mayber it is good to hear from you!

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Oh my! That sounds just like me! I have served as leader or co-leader for years and did not run again because I was burned out. I felt like we needed a new face up there and new ideas and I am ready to be just a leader! Same issue though....it is easier to skip meetings though and I really need to remind myself that I contribute just by going to the meetings AND that I am committed to a healthy lifestyle which, for me, requires accountability....in the form of weigh-ins.

I really don't want to get back to meetings just because I am an officer and therefore must be there. I need to be there every possible week because it is right for me.

I recently started copying or printing healthy articles from SparkPeople or other sources with the idea that I would get to each meeting early enough to pass them out to members before the meeting. It gives them something to read and talk about before the meeting starts and/or something to take home and think about during the week. Our members put together good programs but something extra never hurts. I recently 3 weeks in a row due to vacation (and attitude) and other stuff and a couple of members commented that they had missed my handouts. So now I have that reason to show up at meetings; people enjoy getting my little extras. (Sometimes it is just a joke or a motivational quote instead of an article; I try to keep it to just one or two pages because of paper and ink costs.)

I'm sure there are other ways that you can motivate yourself to get to the meetings also. This one is going to keep working for me for awhile....by then I may be ready to run again.

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I know what it is like to be feeling burned out on being an officer. Last year I told the chapter I would not be leader again because I was feeling burned out. I would have been willing to do something else, but I was not voted into any position. It was the first time that I had not been an officer of some sort since the first year I joined TOPS. Again this year I did not want to be leader as I have so much going on with my husband's illness but I sort of expected to be asked to take another office. I was quite surprised when I was not asked again this year but I think the reason is because of what is going on with my husband. Someone suggested me and our leader said she thought I had enough going on right now. I don't mind the break but I am more inclined to skip the meeting now that I am not an officer. I still go most of the time but there have been a couple of weeks that I opted not to, but had I been an officer I would have felt obligated to attend.

You will get back on track now that vacation is over. It might take longer than you wish, but it will happen.

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Wonky week for me! I've had a hard time getting back to my "at home" eating routines after vacation and I'm way behind on gardening and housework too. Trying to do too many things at once so when a small thing goes wrong (my printer dying), I get frazzled way out of proportion. I mean it isn't like the air conditioner died or some other glitch that would cost us a fortune. A printer is a relatively small cost......but it is the time it will require to get everything set up again that makes me frazzled.

Oh well, this too will pass. Before the day is over I'll have the new printer set up and be back to work on the gardening and housework....oh, and the food plan too.

I haven't been good about attending my TOPS meetings this summer. I do so much better when I'm an officer but I feel a bit burned out on that too so I'm taking a year off. Will have to push myself to get there tomorrow.

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend. Please take some time to relax and do something good for yourself. I will do the same this afternoon.
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8/12/15 10:40 P

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When we camped in a tent we had an elevated air mattress! I am too old to be sleeping on the ground!

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As we have become older (and creakier) I definitely enjoy the added comfort in the cabin. I'm 68 so my days of roughing it are probably over.

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That is still camping! It sounds like a good time!

When we have gone on vacation the last couple of times we have rented a small cabin. We never took the camper when we were going very far but we had a tent that we used a few times. On one trip we didn't want to pack so much stuff so we decided to get a cabin and it was so much easier we did the same thing the next time. That might be the way we camp in the future. I am not sure it will be worth the investment to have a camper for the few times we would likely have a chance to use it.

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Bev, I probably shouldn't even call what we do "camping". Actually we rent a cabin that happens to be at a campground; we have it the same week every summer and our children and grandchildren are invited to be there with us. I'm so glad they love to come; we have been doing it for 14 years. It gives them a free vacation except for the gas to get there and at least two of our three kids couldn't afford to have a vacation otherwise.

The lake is beautiful and we are right on it with the right to use canoes, paddle boats, and row boats. They swim at the beach, buy souvenirs at the camp store, and just generally have a wonderful time. It started out as a way to have time with extended family in the area without being "company" for a week. Seemed like it was time for us to host them for a change.

Anyway, our week is filled with in-laws, nieces, nephews, great nieces and nephews, and our own family. Even my 97 year-old father-in-law comes for dinner every night. What fun we have! This year our age range was from 3 to 97! It is a long drive for us, 800 miles or so, but so worth it. We generally have from 15-20 people for dinner, sometimes more. Of course every night is pretty much a pot luck and I'm so grateful that my sisters-in-law help.

We have talked many times about buying a camper but find that renting the cabin suits us; even though it is rustic we have room to sleep 10. We love to travel though and do sometimes just pull into a KOA and sleep in the back of the pickup. Mostly though, we stay in motels and we don't begrudge the money we spend on that and on meals because we could stay in a lot of motels for the money we would spend on even an inexpensive camper.

That all works well for us and at our age, it is nice to just pull in and be ready to rest.

I'll bet you and hour husband have lots of good camping memories. Hope he is able to get well enough to go again.

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I hope you enjoyed your time camping in NH. We have not done any camping at all this year- in fact we sold our camper because we knew we would not be able to use it. Assuming my husband's health is better next summer we may look to buy another used one, but we won't go with another pop-up. I think he regretted getting a pop-up but at the time we wanted something smaller than what we previously had and a pop-up seemed like a good idea.

I didn't go to TOPS the last couple of weeks but hopefully I will go tomorrow night. Two weeks ago I was just feeling pretty beat when I came home from work and I just didn't feel like going anywhere. Last week it was my hubby's last day of radiation so I stayed home and fixed him a celebratory dinner (he wasn't feeling up to going out to eat). The last few days he hasn't been feeling well and last night he seemed to have a fever so I may not be going to work today so I can take him to the doctor. I will make a decision as soon as he gets up and I can see if he still has a fever.

Yes, it would be nice if a few of us could keep in touch on here- even if is was only once or twice a week.

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Hi everyone! Sorry that I haven't been around much; it has been a terribly busy summer but I am going to try to check in daily now that the last of our summer travel is done. I haven't even had internet for most of the past two weeks. We were camping in New Hampshire and didn't have good connectivity at the campground. Wonderful week though and maybe the internet break was good for me.

BEGOODE, I can sympathize with the sugar cravings. I feel like I have conquered them in recent years but all I need to do is give in to temptation and have one obey-gooey dessert and then the cravings are back.

Bev, you are right about summer being quiet on some teams. There just seems to be so much that has to be done; much of my usual computer time has to be given to outdoor work....and then there are just things that are fun in the summer....have to have time for those too.

MAYBER, let's keep in touch here! We can support each other; this is a good team and we don't need a lot of people in order to be an active team - what we do need is an ongoing conversation about our goals, our successes and failures, our TOPS experiences, etc.
Let's try to share some recipes, favorite motivational quotes, any thing you read and find helpful.....Never forget, TOGETHER WE CAN!

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It has been really quiet here, but another team I am on has been too. I think people are much busier in the summer months, with vacations and family outings and all. We had a family reunion this weekend. We spent less time there than usual because hubby wasn't feeling that great, but at least we were there for part of the day both yesterday and today.

I have not been doing as well the past few weeks. Last week I turtled. Last week I did not go to TOPS but I had a gain according to the scale at home. I won't be going this week either, but I hope I can get on track and maybe have a small loss by the time I go back.

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Haven't checked forum for a while. Sorry guys but looks like y'all haven't had time to check in either.

I've done well in the last three weeks had a loss each week. I've omitted a lot of sugar. Now if only I can stay on this path and keep losing. Unfortunately I have company coming again and I will be doing more cooking than I'm accustomed to doing.

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I've tried different sweeteners but haven't learn to like any of them. My down fall is candy and desserts. Your right as long as they're not in the house I do better.

Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.

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Wise words- now if we could all live by them we would be doing well! I definitely have a sweet tooth too. I mostly eat things sweetened with Splenda, but they still have calories in them! Desserts (especially ice cream) and chips are my biggest downfalls.

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It is so hard to battle those sugar cravings! I do much better now than I did years ago but I've had to just say that some things cannot come in the house. Thankfully, my husband cooperates with that. For years I wouldn't allow a coca cola in the house because I was so addicted to it and if I gave in to temptation I would soon be drinking 5 or 6 a day again. It was horrible. After several years I no longer miss it but I still don't have it around. My husband does now keep coke in the refrigerator in the garage and has one occasionally---he can do that. Thank goodness the craving for cola is gone now. My drink of choice is water today.

I know what you go through with sugar cravings though and I also know that you can beat it. I did not get serious about eating and drinking healthy until I had health issues so I was pretty much in the same situation as you. Just keep trying; when you fail, just dust yourself off and keep going. You do not need to beat yourself up; you do not need to let every poor choice ruin your day or week. Refuse to fail!! You are worth it; worth every effort to be healthy!!

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Went to the doctor yesterday for lab results. Even though my numbers were good I realize even more that a lot of health problems I'm having is due to being over weight. Got to get more serious about want I'm eating. Sugar is my down fall. I've got to get a handle on it some how.

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No big plans for the 4th. The 3rd will be 51st anniversary. we've had so much company lately I think we are going to stay home and have a nice quiet evening.

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We have certainly had our share of rain, but the upcoming weekend is supposed to be quite nice I think. I can put up with some rain on a work day if it will be nice on my days off!

We have no big plans for the weekend but we are hoping to get out of the house at least.

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Hi everyone!
Gosh this summer is streaking by even though I have felt that the rainy days were long and dreary....and we have had a lot of them!
I'm hoping the clouds will leave and that we'll have a beautiful 4th.

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emoticon I did lose weight at weigh in on Monday; 1.5 lbs. Wow do two weeks in a row count as a streak? emoticon

emoticon emoticon emoticon Well, I would like to make three in a row next Monday so I'm trying to plan my 4th of July treats very carefully. We are having a family picnic but I'm sure there will be lots of healthy food there so I'm planning on a big plate of veggies and other healthy food and a small dessert.

emoticon I love giving myself a "cheat day" but the TOPS Wellness News email that I received today pointed out that "cheat days" often turn out to be something more like a "treat orgy"! HA! Been there, done that. Anyway if you don't subscribe to these weekly emails, I'd like you to know that I find them really helpful. They are short and focus on just one topic each week. I especially like them because they remind me that I have goals, that I AM a member of TOPS, and that I should be actively working towards my goals all week and not just on Mondays!

Have a great week, and do something kind for YOU this week!

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Glad to hear both your husbands are doing better. Pray that they will keep improving.



Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.

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Wow, your hubby was very lucky! I like hearing stories like that. So far, we haven't really been given any information on the chances of a recurrence, but from everything I read online it sure sounds like bile duct cancer has a high recurrence rate- but I also see stories of people who have lived for years after their surgery with no serious issues and people who had a recurrence but are doing reasonably well in spite of it. We are hoping he is one of the lucky ones, but at the same time feel like we need to be somewhat prepared for other possibilities. We are meeting with the oncologist again tomorrow and hoping for a few more details.

My father-in-law had esophageal cancer a few years ago (I can't remember exactly how many) and had a portion of his esophagus removed. He lost a lot of weight that he has never been able to gain back and he never got his strength back either, but he is still around and doing reasonably well, although he is quite frail. He had a second bout with cancer in his lungs but I think they decided it was another cancer and not a recurrence.

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Bev, I know what it is like to just live day-to-day when someone you love is terribly ill. My husband was diagnosed with esophageal cancer 24 years ago this fall. He was given virtually 0% chance of surviving 5 years. He is still here. No recurrences. They removed 8 inches of his esophagus and half his stomach; now his stomach is tucked up behind his heart. He has some problems with eating enough calories and some foods don't sit well in his stomach but he has been strong and healthy once the first couple of years passed after his surgery. Those years were difficult; it took a long time to regain strength. How very much it was worth the battle though.

Hang in there guys! I pray that your husband will be as fortunate as mine has been and that your family will all be blessed.

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Thanks Wanda! I was certainly thankful that I didn't gain over the time I was away from TOPS. I tend to eat less when I am stressed. I think the reason I didn't lose more is that I was not exercising at all. I am now back to a more normal routine that includes walking most days, so hopefully I will continue to lose. With all the weight he has lost, my hubby weighs less than me- and he is about 6 inches taller. He was overweight to start so he is probably at a healthier weight now, but he has no muscles at all. He weighed himself a couple of days ago and he had lost another 2 or 3 pounds, so he has been trying to take in a few more calories. They told him last week that he is at his ideal weight so they don't want him to try to gain, but they don't want him to lose any more. People often lose some when they undergo radiation and chemo, so it may be difficult for him to maintain his weight where it is. I need to lose but I don't want to do it the way he did!

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emoticon I don't know Bev........it may have been just .6 lb but considering the stressful time you've been through, many people would have given in to emotional eating and posted a HUGE gain.

I think you have done wonderfully! emoticon

BEGOODE - sounds like you had a nice visit with the grands! I think that being a grandma is one of the very best things that ever happened to me. Mine are 21, 19, and 3. My only complaint is that I just don't get to see them often enough!

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I went to our TOPS meeting last Thursday for the first time since March 12th- before my husband's surgery. It seemed nice to be back. I had a tiny loss, but considering it was over a period of 3 months 6/10 of a pound sure doesn't give me bragging rights!

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Grandkids left for home this morning. We all had a good time while they were here. Miss them already.

Saturday I attended a fun day with Tops. Enjoyed it immensely. Very inspirational.

Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.

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We are still here, MAYBER. It has been a little quiet but we continue to support each other. I think the decision was that even a small supportive team is important to its members. Hopefully we will grow again and become more active but in the meantime...........we are here.

How are you doing. I'm so sorry that you lost your husband. I know this has been a difficult time for you.

You sound as if your dogs are good company but even their sweet caring cannot fill the hole.
You are right, you know, tomorrow will be better. Life has its ups and downs and sometimes the ups are very high and the downs are very low. It balances in a way, you know. The good memories will always be there to be revisited. Keep moving forward; you will do well.

Today was a hard day for us; we just heard that a friend for over 47 years has inoperable lung cancer. We visited him and it was a difficult visit but we reminisced and savored old memories. That was good. This is definitely one of the down times though.


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Good to see this team still posting
Enjoy reading post thinking of you all
It is a rainy day good day to read and relax
Only dogs want a walk they go to the door but do not go out
Tomorrow will be better

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A snack drawer does sound like a good idea. I like the idea - one for my husband and one for me.

Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.

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I think a separate snack drawer is a great idea! Having others in the house who like their snacks definitely can be a challenge, but if you can think of that drawer as off limits to you it just might help. Out of sight, out of mind does work- sometimes at least.

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I don't know if this will help but I set up a snack drawer for my skinny husband's snacks. It keeps them out of sight and that really helps me. I still have to resist when I see him eating them but I'm not confronted by them again and again through the day. I also have my own stash of snacks that are healthy for me. I love Fiber One Oat and Peanut Butter bars; I also have a Bel Vita breakfast cookie box in there now along with a bag of walnuts, and I make sure that there is always fruit available for me, either fresh or canned in juice.

My husband tried noshing on my snacks but I just gently pointed to his drawer and asked if there was something else he would like me to pick up for him. LOL

He has noticed that my snacks last lots longer than his!

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Same here. I keep getting off track but I'm not giving up. Today is a new day and I have promised myself not to get into the sweets today. It's hard. I so want to put away all the sweets my husband bought but know he will fuss at me. So I need to come up with a new strategy to keep away from them.

My company will be leaving in the morning and then my grandkids from TX will be here Friday. I'm so looking froward to there visit. They are 27, 24 and the boy is 14.

Have a good day!

Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.

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Well I'm back on track for the hundredth time...but I'm never giving up! I expect to see a loss at tonight's meeting. How I wish we weighed in the morning!

I realize that fasting on meeting day is just not wise so I don't do it but I fight the temptation every Monday! If I tried to go all day without eating and failed then it would just be one more failure and I don't need that.

I do need to keep trying; I need to keep off the weight that I have lost and when I see a gain I need to get serious. The pounds that are gone need to stay gone.

But....I'm not doing well at getting rid of the rest of my excess.

Any suggestions???

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To you too Bernice. Take care>

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thoughts and prayers to you all
make today a great one
God Bless

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It is strange how I can go along doing just fine; feeling like I've got the hang of it; feeling like good choices are becoming a good habit......then, suddenly I've fallen back into old ways. Why do I let that happen?

Weigh in tonight! I'm praying for a loss but I really haven't earned it this week. The struggle continues but I am back on track for the umpteenth time and I will not give up!

We CAN do this! Every single one of us has had successes in life; we can achieve; we can overcome....and we will if we just don't give up!

So it is time to sweep away the bad and keep the good!!

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emoticon Begoode, I know you can do it! Just think about that upcoming weigh-in while you are making your menu choices and you will be fine.

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Bev glad to hear your husband is improving.

I did have a gain when I weighed in on Tuesday but have been working hard to get back on track. So far I'm showing a loss this week but it is going to be a struggle to keep it off. I have company this week and will be cooking or eating out. Eating out is hard for me but I'm just going to keep reminding myself that there is no excuse not to eat healthy. There is a lot of good choices out there.

Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.

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emoticon Debra!

Just pick yourself up and make one good choice, followed by another, and before you know it you are back on track. We've all been there before (or are now) and we will probably be there again, but we must never ever give up the fight.

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Really struggling these days.

But everyday is a new opportunity to be good to myself.

FRUIT:
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For extended nutritional information click on the name of each fruit.

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Raining right now it is a nice slow rain temps are on the cooler side
Memorial Day with lots of memories One day at a time
May everyone have a great holiday God Bless

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We haven't had much rain. We did get a brief shower a couple of times, but they are still saying things are pretty dry. Today is nice and sunny but it is quite windy. I went back to work this past week but I am not working full days yet. Hubby had a follow-up appointment on Monday and he seems to be progressing in the right direction finally and is feeling well enough to do a bit more so I was comfortable leaving him home alone. He is still on supplemental nutrition via an IV and still on IV antibiotics, so I am going in a little late and coming home early in order to take care of those, but at least I am back in the office for about 6 hours a day.

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Same here - I always do better when I keep a food log. But every time I decide to keep a food log I just don't follow through with it.

Back from TX - rained almost every day but had a good time and still managed to have a bar B Q on Sunday. I didn't do very well on eating heathy while I was gone so trying hard to get back on track again.

We've been getting some rain here too but think the sun is coming out today. Hope so because I have a wedding to go to and it is outside

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I tend to do better if I keep a food log, but I rarely take the time to do it. I know I should but knowing and doing are two different things! Welcome back Bernice! It was nice to see your post. I hope you are doing okay.

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I, too, have learned that I need protein for breakfast and since my tummy doesn't handle dairy products well I like to eat eggs at least a few times a week. I also make egg beater omelets; lucky me, I don't taste a difference between the beaters and scrambled eggs. The beaters have only the egg white so they are great for protein and less fat.

Actually I've found that I do well if I eat a protein with any carb and I really try to stay away from all carb meals. It would be easy to eat meatless pasta with lots of bread sticks, and a carb for dessert - that is what I call an all carb meal. Not for me any more!

Lately I haven't been doing well about journaling my food and exercise. What a difference for me when I remember to do that. Usually after a week I will have a loss.

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