Dear Ann and anyone else who might be interested,
My roommate and I have come to a parting of the way. She wishes to stay here and I think it is time for me to move on. There is a great deal of tension in our house now. I allowed a younger woman to move into the trailer I purchased a few years ago to use for camping. She was homeless and had no place to go and we weren't going to be using that trailer for the winter . This was three years ago now.
She is still in the trailer, with her two very large dogs. I have since given her the trailer and asked her to leave here. She refused and my roommate backed her. I am now odd man out and I mean very out. So I am looking for an apartment in the area where my younger daughter lives. My son Michael recently moved to Spokane so I can't expect the kind of support he previously gave to continue.
I recognize that I do need help anymore, but I don't want to go into assisted living yet or ever if I can avoid it. I like my exotic foods too much to be happy with institutional meals. Because my roommate isn't particularly social I have not developed many friendships over the past few years so I don't have the social support system I used to have. I think living near Vancouver WA will offer me more social opportunities as well as putting me near my grandsons.
I am in hopes I can find some opportunities for pool exercise in that area too. I love water aerobics and just being in the pool with other people is a real upper for me. There is a senior center close to the apartment complex where I hope to be able to live. There is also a food bank near and I will offer to volunteer there. I will miss volunteering up here with the food bank. I really enjoy seeing all those people once a month.
All of the kitchen equipment belongs to me, and there is a lot of it since I have been accruing it for almost sixty years. She doesn't like to cook and the person who lives in the trailer has convinced my roommate that what I am cooking for her is not healthy, so I will be taking all but the most mundane foods with me when I leave. That involves a great deal of packing as well. I am sorry to admit that I am a food hoarder, especially exotic ingredients that I use for cooking in the style of the middle and far east cultures.
I don't want to bore you all with my details. Suffice to say when I move this house will be very empty. The trailer woman is anxiously awaiting my departure so that she can move into my bedroom in the house. She abused the trailer sufficiently that it isn't comfortable enough for her to live in any more. The front door fell off last summer and she made no move to fix that or any of the other things that have needed repair since she moved into the trailer. I never charged her any rent for the place and she has taken no responsibility for its maintenance since she moved in. I hate to think of what she will do to our lovely mountain cabin, but that
will be my roommate's concern from now on.
I feel both good and bad about this move. On the one hand it will be very liberating, yet I sort of made a contract with myself to protect my roommate from herself and others many years ago and I am abandoning that contract. As you can see I am somewhat divided in my feelings. I've lived here for seventeen and a half years now. Longer than I have ever lived in one place before. I have some roots here and it will be somewhat painful to leave.
I always buy living Christmas trees and the trees from past years are planted all around our back yard. It will be difficult to leave them and the memories they invoke. But, I've moved before and found new people and experiences that make my life full and happy. I am trying to keep an optimistic outlook right now. Sometimes that is difficult and having this group and the Classy 70's group here on SparkPeople is very helpful.
Thank you all for listening to my problems. I hope you won't beon too unhappy with this recitation.
PS, Now you know the reason for my emoticon signature. JSW
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