My roommate and I have come to a parting of the way. She wishes to stay here and I think it is time for me to move on. There is a great deal of tension in our house now. I allowed a younger woman to move into the trailer I purchased a few years ago to use for camping. She was homeless and had no place to go and we weren't going to be using that trailer for the winter . This was three years ago now.
She is still in the trailer, with her two very large dogs. I have since given her the trailer and asked her to leave here. She refused and my roommate backed her. I am now odd man out and I mean very out. So I am looking for an apartment in the area where my younger daughter lives. My son Michael recently moved to Spokane so I can't expect the kind of support he previously gave to continue.
I recognize that I do need help anymore, but I don't want to go into assisted living yet or ever if I can avoid it. I like my exotic foods too much to be happy with institutional meals. Because my roommate isn't particularly social I have not developed many friendships over the past few years so I don't have the social support system I used to have. I think living near Vancouver WA will offer me more social opportunities as well as putting me near my grandsons.
I am in hopes I can find some opportunities for pool exercise in that area too. I love water aerobics and just being in the pool with other people is a real upper for me. There is a senior center close to the apartment complex where I hope to be able to live. There is also a food bank near and I will offer to volunteer there. I will miss volunteering up here with the food bank. I really enjoy seeing all those people once a month.
All of the kitchen equipment belongs to me, and there is a lot of it since I have been accruing it for almost sixty years. She doesn't like to cook and the person who lives in the trailer has convinced my roommate that what I am cooking for her is not healthy, so I will be taking all but the most mundane foods with me when I leave. That involves a great deal of packing as well. I am sorry to admit that I am a food hoarder, especially exotic ingredients that I use for cooking in the style of the middle and far east cultures.
I don't want to bore you all with my details. Suffice to say when I move this house will be very empty. The trailer woman is anxiously awaiting my departure so that she can move into my bedroom in the house. She abused the trailer sufficiently that it isn't comfortable enough for her to live in any more. The front door fell off last summer and she made no move to fix that or any of the other things that have needed repair since she moved into the trailer. I never charged her any rent for the place and she has taken no responsibility for its maintenance since she moved in. I hate to think of what she will do to our lovely mountain cabin, but that will be my roommate's concern from now on.
I feel both good and bad about this move. On the one hand it will be very liberating, yet I sort of made a contract with myself to protect my roommate from herself and others many years ago and I am abandoning that contract. As you can see I am somewhat divided in my feelings. I've lived here for seventeen and a half years now. Longer than I have ever lived in one place before. I have some roots here and it will be somewhat painful to leave.
I always buy living Christmas trees and the trees from past years are planted all around our back yard. It will be difficult to leave them and the memories they invoke. But, I've moved before and found new people and experiences that make my life full and happy. I am trying to keep an optimistic outlook right now. Sometimes that is difficult and having this group and the Classy 70's group here on SparkPeople is very helpful.
Thank you all for listening to my problems. I hope you won't beon too unhappy with this recitation.
PS, Now you know the reason for my emoticon signature. JSW
Judy, why are you packing? Some one asked you a while back how the hunting for an apartment was going but I don't remember if you answered or not. Inquiring minds want to know. Your avatar is very pretty. I understand it is a picture you took yourself. I did read your blog about it.
Once I got home I returned a call to the NP in my doctors office. Dr. wants me to continue on the chemo I have been taking even though it is working slow. So they have set me up with chemo on Friday. I'm happy with that as the four week rotation won't interfear with our Jan. camp out that DH and I are co hosting.
Ann in San Diego
current weight: 0.0 under
Fitness Minutes: (25,951) Posts: 4,867 12/10/12 2:58 P
Hubby and I had to go out and nail the mailbox back on the post. Each winter we lose at least 1 mailbox from the snowplow. They are good about it, and give us a new one, but we still have to go through the hassle.
This morning ours was bent away from the post, and I tried to straighten it back right, and it came lose. An easy fix of just nailing it back on. We do have a snow plow guard up before the mailbox, but sometimes it just doesn't work right. It is just another pole, with a piece of wood on it to guard against the heavy snow knocking it down. Obviously, it didn't work last night.
Anyone else have trouble with your mailboxes?
oH, NEW PICS ON MY BLOG. i KEPT THE PINK HAT FOR MYSELF, AS i HAVE A PINK JACKET... Patty
This morning I will be a quick trip to Seattle to pick up my reading glasses. It will be nice to look at my book and computer with two eyes again.
While I am in Seattle I will stop at Uwajimaya and pick up some veggies. I haven't been eating many of those lately and need to get back on track. I'll also pick up some Samosas. I love those middle-eastern pocket meals. I just can't seem to get enough of them. I especially like the lentil filled samosa and the Cajun samosa. They are a little spicier than some of the others. I think the extra spices, in addition to keeping me warmer and assisting in the digestive process, also help me to eat less so I lose weight better. I like that benefit.
I have some other business to take care of while I'm out so I'll get to that too. I think I'll pick up some newspapers for packing. I still need to tackle the kitchen on that chore. The kitchen will be the hardest to pack too. So many odd shaped and fragile items. Thank goodness I have plenty of milk crates. They are great for packing heavy items like canned goods. I have plenty of those. Even after I split what there is with Carol, there will be plenty for me to pack and store.
I need to get going today so I'll see you all later,
current weight: 248.0
Fitness Minutes: (25,951) Posts: 4,867 12/10/12 1:38 P
Good Morning. I had to come on line for something so just checking in. I must get dressed and get to the commissary when it opens at 10:00 a.m. My shopping list is medium size today and realize the next time I would normally go out there would be the 24th. I don't think I want to do that.
It was darn chilly in the house when I got up at 7 a.m. DH had left for the shop and I put the heater on to get the chill off. The sun is out so it will warm up.
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