OK, I feel like I have a lot to say! I'll start by directly answering the questions you asked:
Do you guys work out together? Yes! Not always, but we do. And if I'm working out, he's always interested in joining me. He loves fitness and exercise, so he frequently is the one to push me on days I don't feel like exercising.
How did you meet? We met on eHarmony.com. We were both at points in our life when we were not meeting the type of people we wanted on our own. We were matched, communicated online and on the phone for a month before our first date. Things moved quickly, and by our 2nd date, we were seeing each other exclusively. A year later, after being very patient, he proposed, and we were married 13 months after that.
Did it ever feel that you had to fight for that healthy part of you? All the time. While he loves exercise and working out, he is fit enough that he doesn't have to do it regularly to stay in great shape. He can also eat what he wants. For his activity level, it's recommended that he eat double the calories that are recommended for me in a day. So, there will be times that I have to remind him that I can't eat what he's eating. It's not a fight, per se, but I have to stay on my toes.
Is what you want possible? Absolutely! And I don't necessarily think it has to be someone who's walked in your shoes. I think if you find a person who cares about you in the way you care about him, your process will be important to him. It will show him some of your best personality traits, like determination. With that being said, I'm not sure anyone will ever get it 100%, even if they've struggled with weight themselves. That will give them a better understanding, but their experience will never be the same as yours.
As for the past guy, well, it's "nice" that he cares, but if he really cared, he would've shown you while you were together. I'd have half a mind to tell him that your business is no longer his business, so he can keep his nose to himself.
Ahh, the new guy. My humble opinion? Ask him out. Don't worry so much about what his academic/career plans are. My husband and I met 3 months before I moved out of state for a job. If we had worried about that, we wouldn't have been together. But we decided to move forward and see how it goes. We were long distance (6+ hour drive) for about 11 months. We got engaged while I was away. And that wasn't my first long distance relationship. I was with a guy for almost 9 years, and we were long distance (cross country) almost the whole time. Ultimately, it did not work out for us (obviously), but long distance can work if both people want it to and are willing and able to put effort into the relationship.
| Pounds lost: 39.0