I haven't thought of that quote in years. I was so young when I read it the first time. Now, I see that it did affect me because one of my greatest challenges as a parent was to let my children be themselves.
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I agreed CAROLJEAN64 and SHRLZI, love and parents involvement and presence in a child life, irrespective if is a single parent, same sex parent, or mother/father , are important elements in the child success in life.
My favorite quote in regard children/parents relationship is the one of Kahlil Gibran quotes from The Prophet. The complete quote by Kahlil Gibran reads: "Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself. They come through you, but not from you. And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may house their bodies, but not souls. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The Archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; for even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable."
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What makes a person who they are, are the choices they make. Albus Dumbledore
Our choices define us. E. Kant
If you keep believing in yourself and seek enthusiasm inside your soul, things will get simpler, more spontaneous. P. Coelho
Knowledge is like the wind, once you obtain it, you can go anywhere. Yellow Hare(Native-American Chief)
So right, Carol Jean! A quick review of the literature shows strong correlation of school performance and parental involvement -- attending parent-teacher conferences, volunteering to assist in classes, etc. --
Possible that 2-parent households are more easily able to find the time for this type of support; but no reason a single parent can't (I know a few who do, and whose kids are doing great.)
Thanks for your input. I think if a child feels loved, valued and empowered regardless of their circumstance they will find success. Years ago DH and I saw a public TV program exploring resiliency.... it seems if one adult believes in a child, they can find success.
#5 is a statement from a politician, not a social scientist, and is expression of opinion rather than proven fact. Tiahrt is former rep. from Kansas, a Republican, which may or may not color his opinion... some studies support his opinion, but others are more ambiguous... and no studies have been done comparing same-sex parents (whose children, judging from my circle of friends, do as well or better than other children)... just had to add my 2C
1)A baby is born with a need to be loved - and never outgrows it. Frank Howard Clark
2)A mother who is really a mother is never free. Honore de Balzac
3)Childhood obesity is best tackled at home through improved parental involvement, increased physical exercise, better diet and restraint from eating. Bob Filner
4)Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk. Carl Jung
5)Children that are raised in a home with a married mother and father consistently do better in every measure of well-being than their peers who come from divorced or step-parent, single-parent, cohabiting homes. Todd Tiahrt
6)Don't try to make children grow up to be like you, or they may do it. Russell Baker
7)Education, like neurosis, begins at home. Milton Sapirstein
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