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Hi everyone, first post here!
My boyfriend eats a TON, especially junk food. He tries to be really supportive of me, though. A good trick I've found for dinner is making some pasta, and also grilling up some veggies. I give him tons of pasta, and myself a little bit of pasta but tons of veggies. This way I don't feel like I have to eat different things than he does!
There might be other people in my situation, having a significant other that you don't live with yet. Once I realized that I was spending a tremendous amount of time at his apartment and eating his crappy food, I asked if it would be ok for me to keep some of my food in the fridge/cabinets. This has worked really well for us. He can chow down on Doritos while I enjoy my popcorn. Also, ice cream is my biggest trigger food, so he only keeps flavors in his freezer that I don't like.
Of course, he's always there to tell me that I'm beautiful the way I am and I don't need to lose any weight, but he wants me to do what makes me happy!
I know that I'm really lucky to have a guy like him, but I think at least some of that could be applicable universally.
My hubby is a junk food fanatic! He got upset with me for "always making a big dinner" - all I was doing was cooking actual food, not throwing fries and nuggets on!
I discovered that dairy products trigger my eczema really badly, so I have had to quit eating dairy. He sees me struggle with it and he doesn't like to "see me suffer", so he tried to convince me to just go ahead and have some!!! I literally had to shove my cracked and bleeding hands in his face and say, "THIS is making me suffer!!!" I think that finally got through to him, then!
Making changes is NOT easy, especially if you don't have a lot of support (or even well-meaning support in the wrong direction!) If you take it one step at a time, though, you CAN do it! Remember, you're making life-long changes, so take it slow, and feel comfortable with one change before you move on to the next. There will come a time when you will look at something that used to be one of your main "cheats", and go "Ugh!!! Why would I want THAT?!?!?"
Hang in there!!!
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(Diploma in Massage Therapy, with Honours from the Atlantic College of Therapeutic Massage)
I totally feel your pain on this one. Every time my sister-in-law or I say that we are back on track, our mother-in-law insists on having everyone over for food. No big deal, right? Well, either she makes a bigger deal out of our choices to eat better and constantly makes comments like, "Oh, you can't have that, can you?", or she doesn't think anything about our changes in diet. I'm not even saying anything this time.
I did forget to mention, that my mother-in-law is a very wonderful and loving person. She is very supportive in every possible way, I honestly don't think she realizes it when she says those things. (And no, she's not a spark member, so I'm really meaning what I've typed.)
Edited by: ~KRISTEL~ at: 8/29/2009 (23:59)
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MY i have the same problem with my family
When I was talking to my mom, and telling her it's difficult to lose weight. She suggests I talk to one of her friends who lost alot of weight. I guess her friend said it was too hard. People just don't get it. And I try to not get discouraged, but my family just doesn't understand.