Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Meddy-Be proud you didn't give in. We are so hard on ourselves, demanding perfection. If we aren't perfect, we fail. If we fail, we give up and binge. It's a vicious circle that requires work to get out of. And not giving in is the first step. Accepting that sometimes the best that we can do is ok is the next. Good luck everyone.
Persevere. Even if you fall on your face, you have moved forward.
PROGRESS, NOT PERFECTION.
Pounds lost: 23.0
Fitness Minutes: (400) Posts: 31 5/1/12 12:10 P
I can empathize--night time is always hardest for me, and if I haven't eaten a lot during the day, the cravings rear their ugly heads in the evening. In my humble opinion, there's a difference between eating more than I would've liked to at one sitting, and giving into that voice that says, "screw it" and eat everything in reach. So congratulations on not giving in to the "screw it" voice. In the end, it is progress, not perfection, as the 12 step programs say. Keep going forward!
current weight: 25.0 over
Fitness Minutes: (8,165) Posts: 5,320 5/1/12 6:30 A
You are doing . You are right in saying that our minds do play game with us. Sometimes I overeat and i'm ok,but some other times I overeat and it sends me over the edge. It's all in what I think and what I do with it. Good job on your accomplishments.
current weight: 171.4
Fitness Minutes: (1,940) Posts: 162 5/1/12 4:44 A
you don't need alcohol to live however you do need food...That's the main difference you can't forgo food for the rest of your life. I find that if I skip a meal the next meal I more than make up for it. I try really hard not to skip meals if I'm out and about I will take with nuts and fruit and sometimes home made granola bars just to tide me over. I can go 6 hours between meals without feeling hungry but if I skip a meal that's a bad sign...I also find that if I start eating and whilst I'm eating I'm thinking about ok what am I going to eat when this is finished then I'm in trouble. You did not binge not by a long way. So you think you overate? Because you felt full?Big deal you didn't give in to your urge to binge that is a huge step.
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New goals: Eat Positively Exercise daily (that one is already achieved) Experiment with 3-5 meals a day Avoid binge for at least 3 weeks.
Being a compulsive overeater is harder than being an alcoholic in some aspects - I have been a sober alcoholic close to seven years and it is very easy to define - I have not had any alcohol during those seven years - coming to think of it it is a small lie involved there because I have had medicin with alcohol in it and I have taken communion... but I have not had a glass of drink that contains alcohol and that is good enough. There is a very clear line between drinking alcohol and not drinking alcohol.
But overeating - what is that? Among COE:S there seems to be millions of definitions and according OA you are free to define your own abstinence.
Yesterday I had breakfast and then nothing until six in the evening when I had a big meal -in fact it contained calories for two meals. I felt full - but later I also had cravings. AND it might be good to add that I ALWAYS have cravings in the evening wether I have eaten "perfectly" or not, they are worse when I feel like I have already lost it for the day and might as well go on eating.
Yesterday I felt that I had already gone wrong - the familiar thought of "Might as well go on eating and start again tomorrow crept in... but wait a little... how much was it really. I tracked it and found that I was still inside my limits, I still had consumed more calories than I had eaten. That thought kept me from making a cookie dough or some other that my pantry culd provide.
I am a little afraid to share this. I am afraid to be judged - "you are not in proper recovery, you did not have a healthy mealplan to follow and you ate too much at one meal".
I see recovery here in two important changes: 1. The inside feeling that I was not perfect did not take over, my tracking showed me that I was ok and did not have to continue to eat because "I have already blown it" 2. I did share all thoughts and opinion about this - mostly I keep it secret because I donīt want others to give me opinions I canīt handle.
It was progress and I consider myself binge-free... but I admit that I doubt my own definition. But then again I doubt myself all the time, it is part of my disease and the best way I found to handle it is to share it and trust that I will be ok.
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