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4/5/12 9:37 P

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older folks indeed!!!!!



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Yes, Jacquie.,I think that's why some older folks like myself finally get it. We actually have less of a void to fill because we've learned that all the things we thought were going to do it for us haven't, either, just like food didn't. Doesn't mean we don't have great things in our life, but the real peace is an inside job. Much like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz. There's no place like home, and home is what we carry within in us every second. emoticon

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4/5/12 5:23 P

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i have this very vague theory that food was one of the first 'loves 'we knew as a baby so it is the thing we feel that we constantly need .what we need is love but as we are too big to pick up and dont need clean dry pants we go all the time for food.
it is a habit but to break it we need to do more than stop it we need to find the void we are trying to fill let it go and live in the moment.its the what and how that are the hard things.



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4/5/12 4:05 P

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I ALSO RAISED 3 BOYS I DID THE SAME , PICKING AT THE LEFTOVERS ON
THIER PLATES . IT ENDED WHEN I BECAME AWARE OF IT. ITS TRUELY A HABIT
I WASNT HUNGRY.

PART OF CLEAN UP emoticon

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YOU WILL FIND REFUGE,HIS FAITHFULNES WILL BE YOUR SHIELD AND RAMPART psalm 91:4


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4/5/12 12:32 P

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Ain't that something? What we have called hunger, because it is a desire to eat, isn't the real deal. However, personally, I have known the difference for 29 years, but have been able to eat from it MOST of the time for only a few weeks or months at a time until the last couple of years. I hope your learning curve isn't as long as mine was! emoticon

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4/5/12 7:18 A

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Thanks for the reply, I think the majority of the time I eat it has nothing to do with hunger. This has been a huge eye opener for me emoticon

My name is Jacqueline but I prefer Jacqui :)

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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


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4/4/12 4:09 P

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i dont think you are being defeatist at all knowing that you need to change is the first step to change and who knows how long it will take.
i think many of our food habits are based in fear, will there be any more i might get hungry or i cant waste.
its a big thing to change.



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4/4/12 9:39 A

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Thanks for the great reply. I guess I am being a bit defeatist about this. I am going to try and look at it in a different way. My boys are 8, 6 and 3 ( nearly 4) so I could get them to clear their plates themselves. I also have an adorable eight month old little girl :)

My name is Jacqueline but I prefer Jacqui :)

I live in the South West of England

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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


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4/4/12 8:49 A

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Yes, they do add up, but it's the habit that is more of the issue. It is not that you can't resist, but that it is a strong HABIT. Why should it be easy, just because you decided in a moment to change it. Habits make you feel that you can't stop doing something but they are changeable. Keep telling yourself you haven't changed the habit YET rather than saying you can't stop yourself. When it comes down to it, you will just be NOT doing it it eventually. It isn't as if there is a physical problem. You'll choose deliberately to quickly throw them out, put water on them, put salt on them, something, but you will simply do it. "Can't" is an illusion, but a common one, and not a moral issue.

How old are your kids? Can they scrape their own plates? emoticon

Edited by: OOLALA53 at: 4/4/2012 (08:51)
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4/4/12 3:53 A

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Well I think managing the left overs is going to be a bigger battle than I thought. Woke up today thinking I would start this but have already ended up eating their breakfast leftovers. They had toast with nutella but left the crusts and I couldnt resist!! I have tried cutting off the crusts but they then still leave the edges!!?? Wierd LOL

The extra calories probably aren't huge but they all mount up over the day. I am going to still try though and might set up a seperate thread later to track my progress.

My name is Jacqueline but I prefer Jacqui :)

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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


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4/4/12 12:08 A

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tracking leftover free days is a great idea.me,im lucky i have a border collie who thinks she is a gannet and demands all left overs in her dish.



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4/3/12 2:21 P

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It really helps me to hear what is happening to others and to know that I am not unique in my thoughts and behaviours. Thanks for posting that.

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4/3/12 12:36 P

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Thanks for all the words of support guys, i really appreciate it! I think I might and try a leftovers streak. Wont be starting today though emoticon

My name is Jacqueline but I prefer Jacqui :)

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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


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4/3/12 12:25 P

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Good job! :) I find this SparkTeam very inspiring as well. Not only to come to when i feel like caving into a binge, but also as a great start to the morning. Hearing about everyone's successes puts a really positive spin on the whole day, and starts it off on the right foot

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emoticon on your success

emoticon for sharing these super ideas



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Great suggestions, Mom2ian. And it's fine to start a new topic on this. If there is interest, it will stay near the top. If not, I'm afraid it will slide down. But I think it is a real stimulus for some, so have at it. emoticon

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4/3/12 9:17 A

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That is emoticon .
I used to do that also,but now my kids are too big-they don't let me anymore! emoticon
A leftover streak is a good idea! Whatever works! emoticon
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That is awesome!
Once the reality sets in that it is a mental thing and not a hunger thing...It actually becomes a bit easier.
It takes a lot of self talk.
It helps me to actually speak out loud to myself.
When the binge monster tries to creep in, I actually say...Out loud...You are NOT going to do this!
It seems silly but somehow snaps me out of the fog.
As for eating the kids leftovers...
Well, Serve them smaller portions so there won't be leftovers and have them either clear their plates or serve on disposables for a while and carry the bin to them and have them toss the plate and EVERYTHING on it!
It can also help to serve up your own plate but do not eat until they are done.
No reason to munch on theirs when you still have yours to eat.
Portioning everyone's plates and then immediately wrapping the leftovers and putting them in the fridge can also be helpful.
Hope those are some helpful tips for you!
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4/3/12 8:48 A

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That's fantastic! It's great that you were able to ward off the binge. Thank you for sharing your experience; we can learn from the process you describe going through, both in your thoughts and in your actions, and hopefully emulate your achievement.
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4/3/12 8:41 A

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Well I just wanted to say that being on this team is really helping me. I nearly succumbed just then to a binge and once again like I did yesterday I managed to realise what was going on before I started and the reasons why and have stopped myself.

I had eaten my lunch but then ended up eating all of my childrens leftovers too! I felt really annoyed with myself and full up and thought I've completely blown it and I bet this makes me put on weight this week. THat then made me fell really upset and I just wanted to go grab the chocolate biscuits in the cupboard and scoff them. I know I wouldnt have stopped there, I would have moved on to crisps, bread whatever I could get my hands on until I felt sick. Then I might have followed up by purging!! All this becuase I ate some leftovers!!

And the funny thing was that I felt FULL so it definately was nothing to do with being hungry.

Before I joined this team I was not really thinking about the reasons or the situations that led me to bingeing and I think it is great. Just before I let myself do it I thought about having to post that I had broken my binge free streak and the reasons why and It helped me identify the reasons (Before I thought about it I didnt really know that was how I was feeling)

I eat my childrens leftovers every day and it annoys me so much but I have no willpower to stop myself and quite often this can trigger a binge. I was just wondering if with the team leaders agreement I could maybe set up a leftovers streak thread too where I ( and anyone else who suffers with this problem) could try and get a streak going where I track how many days I can get through not eating leftovers. I think this might really help me.

If the team leaders think this is not the right place that is fine I will understand. :)

So the end of my story is that I avoided a binge and instead grabbed a glass of water and am sitting typing this now.

Another binge conquered emoticon

My name is Jacqueline but I prefer Jacqui :)

I live in the South West of England

Trying to learn to eat to live not live to eat

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


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