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I have nothing new to add. But wanted to say this can be beaten and there is lots of support here so take full advantage!!!!
I know, it is really hard. One thing I have learned over the past two weeks (and I've binged almost every day for 30 years) is that it might be the not eating that actually fuelled my bingeing. I get so anxious about eating (because I had no real idea what a body needs to be healthy) that I really over-resticted my eating. Well, the fact that I binged everyday shows that that was not a good strategy:) Now, I have been following No S and have 3 regular, healthy meals everyday. The urge to binge is much less frequent and the intensity is also not as great. I still have days when it is really hard and takes too much of my energy, but I have really great days, too. I think ordered eating has merit.
I wish you the best and wished I had started this many years ago! It is worth it!
thanks for the all the encouragement and kind words everyone, i needed it. yesterday i managed to occupy myself enough to avoid continuing the binge. I think a part of my binge cycles has to do with a big event coming up and feeling anxious to do well then, but ultimately self-sabotaging myself in the process by the amount of stress i put on myself. This has happened the week before my birthday and this weekend is my father's birthday dinner at a buffet-style family restaurant, dessert included. Hopefully i will be able to recognize these circumstances in the future and not react to them as i have been.
Today i plan to be kind to myself- now that i've finally felt "true hunger" again, and hopefully i can stay in control this weekend as well.
Never believe the thoughts you have after a binge. They are actually part of the cycle. Consider them like the rantings of a delusional person.
All you can do now is wait for a glimpse of real hunger. Sometimes I have waited until it has come even if it meant 8 or 9 hours. Sometimes I have waited 4 or 5 hours and then had a meal even if I wasn't hungry. I try to eat a bit of a light meal, not as punishment, but to help restore the ability to get hungry again. Sometimes it takes until the next day.
There is no one right way, except that it is better not to berate yourself, but try to look calmly and strive to establish an ordered moderate eating plan so that you are sure to get the nourishment and pleasure you deserve. Then resist all urges to go outside of it. If your plan is reasonable and fair, you will not be cheating yourself of anything, no matter what the thoughts of the moment say. In fact, you will be gaining peace of mind.
*"The goal of weight loss is incompatible with recovering from disordered eating." Center for Clinical Interventions
*The No S Diet saved my emotional life! Four years and counting. nosdiet.com/ *Be happy with this moment. This moment is your life.
*Get to the next meal hungry!
Listen to them! You didn't fail unless you don't try again. We all have bad days. I have bad days. It is important to try and get back to normal eating as soon as you can. If you try to make up for a binge with starving or exercise, you will likely binge again. Keep us posted.
Persevere. Even if you fall on your face, you have moved forward.
PROGRESS, NOT PERFECTION.
I can completely sympathize, I have been neglecting all voices of reason for the past month. and your day yesterday sounds much like mine.
you are definitely not a failure!! It is possible just harder than most people could imagine and not every day will be a success.
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You are NOT a Failure! Maybe you just discovered that only eating a hard boiled egg after a binge does not work for you. What if you planned in some foods that were light to eat for that day but not do the extreme of starving yourself.
I wish you all the best for a stress free day.
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"Failure is only postponed success...The habit of persistence is the habit of victory." -Herbert Kaufman
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I can relate. I totally know the feeling of the morning after a binge. It is truly the worst feeling in the world. But, what you must remember is that today is a new day. This past Friday I ended a month long binge. I have been doing well for 5 days and everyday I feel like a victory.
What I would say is try to eat a little more so you don't get super hungry = binge. However, I know its super hard to eat the day after a binge, for me, if i try and eat "normal" the day after a binge i end up binging again. just know that the day after a binge is the hardest.
take care of your self, and we are all here for you!!
yesterday, i wanted to do better. unfortunately, the day didnt start off too well. i woke up late and had to skip my morning workout. from there i went to work and trying to make up from a day of bad eating on monday i only had a hard-boiled egg from 10-2. then something came over me. all in all, i ended up eating 1/3 of a 2 layer chocolate cake with peanut butter icing.
now, the morning after, i feel disgusted with myself, my extremities and stomach feel stretched and sore. i was doing so well with eating last week and i really felt like i was doing my body good, and now i feel like i'm back to square one. i just needed to vent. i feel like such a failure.