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Wow Mystrius you have been through hell and back thanks so much for sharing with me I let my son read your post and he was very upset and it gave us a chance to talk even more....but I wanted to come back and thank you and your little sister for being courageous enough to share what happened....I thank GOD for your little sister.....

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"Tenacity is the quality displayed by someone who just won't quit -- who keeps trying until they reach their goal. Anything really worth doing takes persistence, perseverance, and stubborn determination! I AM a Tenacious Jungle Tiger and these are my survival skills!!"

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3/5/13 9:31 A

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Thanks you for sharing your story.

"Fight the Fat!" ,"Eye of the Tiger!",“There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when it's convenient. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.”


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3/4/13 9:34 P

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Bullies suck! I'm going to type out my story. I don't know if your son can relate. I can't promise it will help. But maybe he can, and maybe it will.

When I was in Jr. High, I was very shy and geeky. Kids were cruel then too. They used to tease me- steal my books and hide them, call me nasty words, even spit on me. I remember riding the bus home and fighting back tears, racing to the shower to wash away the spit and wishing I never had to climb back out. One boy was the worst, though. He was quite popular, so I was caught off guard when he asked me out. Red-faced, I told him no, thank you. My parents wouldn't let me date at 13. He kept asking me, over and over. I was pretty sure it was just another cruel joke, and then one afternoon he called me and said that if I didn't go out with him, he was going to kill himself. I didn't know what to do, so I put my mom on the phone. He hung up. The next day, the boy wasn't in class. The bell rang, and I started to feel sick to my stomach. As the minutes crawled by, I started to cry. What if... it wasn't a joke? A few minutes later, tears were streaming down my face. And then the door opened, and the boy walked in, right up to my desk and said in a voice loud enough for the whole class to hear, "You're such an ugly b****, I wouldn't go out with you if you were the only girl in the world!" and then high fived his friends and they all started snickering. The teacher wasn't in the room, and there was no way I would've said anything anyway. Instead I just put my face down on my desk and tried to be invisible.

That boy's words haunted me for years. I struggled with my self-esteem. I always believed I was ugly. No one would ever love me- no one ever could. I hated myself. By the time I was 15, I was suicidal. I thought about it. Every day. By that point, the jeers had stopped. I had friends. I did all sorts of extra-curricular things. But inside my head, I still felt like I was ugly and worthless and alone, and I just wanted it all to end.

My little sister saved my life. She was 10 years younger than me, just 5 years old. On the worst night of my life, she walked in my bedroom. She saw me crying, and climbed into my lap and put her little arms around my neck and said, "Please don't cry. I love you. It's ok, I love you."

And then I couldn't do it. I couldn't hurt her like that. Or my mom, or my dad, or my brother, or my other sister. I just held her tight and cried until I ran out of tears.

It hasn't always been easy. Like everyone, I've had ups and downs. Like everyone, I've made mistakes. Sometimes, I let that little voice in my head get to me more that I should. BUT... I have such an amazing life, full of friends and family, adventure, laughter, and love. I am thankful every day that I didn't throw it all away over hateful words from insecure children.

This part is directly to your son:
There is so much amazing to discover in this world. Never let anyone pull you down, and never EVER stop believing in yourself and following your dreams. You can be greater than anyone who ever tries to bring you down, I promise!

With MUCH love and empathy,
Leigh Ann aka mysty
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3/4/13 10:04 A

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I am glad to see you back and feeling better. I feel so bad for your son. Seems like this bullying thing has gotten out of control at schools? Don't the teachers and adults at schools see what's going on? Kids should be able to feel safe and protected at school. Good for you for standing up for him! Hopefully, you can get the support you need from his school or find some solution so that he can enjoy going to school and learning. I am sending positive thoughts out there for both of you! Welcome back!
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3/4/13 8:05 A

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I am so glad you and your son are feeling better, Tema!
That is wonderful news.
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3/3/13 7:59 P

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Hello all I'm happy to say I'm back and my son is home and we're doing great right now....he finally admitted that he was being bullied at school and that they were calling him retarder and stupid...and he just couldn't take it anymore....He's feeling better and I went to the school to demand a parents meeting with the kids that's taunting him....I'm still waiting for that but not giving up on it.....thanks to all of you for your constant prayers and goodies and precious thoughts towards me and my family.....I'm also feeling and doing much better thank you again




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Tema - Matteson IL

"Tenacity is the quality displayed by someone who just won't quit -- who keeps trying until they reach their goal. Anything really worth doing takes persistence, perseverance, and stubborn determination! I AM a Tenacious Jungle Tiger and these are my survival skills!!"

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2/26/13 4:55 P

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That video was pretty well made. I think it really represents what happens to people when they are bullied or made fun of.

"Fight the Fat!" ,"Eye of the Tiger!",“There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when it's convenient. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.”


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2/25/13 8:32 P

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Sending hugs to you and your family, Tema! emoticon emoticon

It was heartening to read the story below about the girl who came through it and is living happily. Keep hope in your heart.

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2/25/13 1:53 P

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I can only imagine what your child is going through. I think I mentioned last week that i was a part of a joke of two guys that just though it would be funny to indirectly say I am fat with their jokes. Please take care of your kids Tema. Dont worry about the teams we will still be here.

"Fight the Fat!" ,"Eye of the Tiger!",“There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when it's convenient. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.”


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2/24/13 2:48 P

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Hi Tema, So sorry to hear that you are going through this. I will make sure to say a prayer for your situation. Everything will be ok.,

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2/24/13 10:59 A

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Tema - Matteson IL

"Tenacity is the quality displayed by someone who just won't quit -- who keeps trying until they reach their goal. Anything really worth doing takes persistence, perseverance, and stubborn determination! I AM a Tenacious Jungle Tiger and these are my survival skills!!"

www.beachbodycoach.com/ABRANNEWME201
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Oh, Tema, you've been through so much! You have such a beautiful heart, I know this will only make it stronger and more expansive.

I have to tell you about my friend who had to institutionalize her daughter. At age 13, her daughter started becoming violent to herself, her sister, and her mother; she also talked about killing herself. (The age at onset makes me wonder if teens are more sensitive to hormones in our food sources, but that's a topic for another day.) Now, after several years of medication, therapy and institutionalization, my friend's daughter is a healthy, happy 18 year old, and attending trade school/college for electronics. I guess I just want to say that it gets better and you'lll both get through this.

I don't know if your child has been bullied, but I saw this video today and it made me cry. It is such a powerful message.

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Tema, I am so sorry you are going through this.
Having to put a child into a mental institution is never easy. I had to do that with my nephew when he was 8. It was the hardest thing I ever did other than turning custody of him over to the state when he became much more violent and I couldn't handle him any more when he was 15. My heart aches for you. If you need to talk let me know and I'll send you my email and phone number.

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Tema, I am so sorry you are going through all this! Absolutely take of yourself and your family. I am praying for you and your family. Know that your spark friends are here for you!
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OMG! *hugs* I can't imagine what you're going thru. Take care of you and your family first..that's whats most important. You're a fantastic mom, I'm sure! Just do what you need too. I'm sure we'll all be here to support you the best we can.

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I'm so sorry I haven't been around lately I had surgery three weeks ago and I've been sick and in so much pain then last week my 13 year old wanted to kill himself so I had him committed into the psych hospital...I just don't know what else could go wrong at this point....So please pardon me as I deal with this....thanks for understanding everyone I will be back online as soon as possible




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Tema - Matteson IL

"Tenacity is the quality displayed by someone who just won't quit -- who keeps trying until they reach their goal. Anything really worth doing takes persistence, perseverance, and stubborn determination! I AM a Tenacious Jungle Tiger and these are my survival skills!!"

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