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3/31/09 3:29 P

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I felt bad about Michelle too, the way they put her down. I think her arms look great. Kudos to her for taking car of herself!

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3/31/09 3:08 P

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This reminds of of Michelle Obama being criticized for showing off her toned arms. She's a woman so she should be taking care of her husband and kids and not herself - how dare she?

Yet Obama is applauded for spending time working out regularly.

I did this for my kids as well as for myself (got healthy, I mean). I saw my mother-in-law die of lung cancer because she loved smoking. We needed her and she's gone. I don't want that to be me if I can help it.

I am a much better Mom than I was. I have more energy and a better mood. I set a good example by taking care of myself and enjoying healthy foods and exercise. It's all to the good.

I did feel guilty at first, yes. I worried about juggling priorities around with too much emphasis on my own self-care. But after a sort-of "immersion phase" I've been able to balance things much better and I keep on improving. Partly because of the lessons losing has taught me.

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3/30/09 11:16 P

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I think I have a new goal - to become conceited, obsessed, and self-centered. Sounds like a good way to be! I get to be happy and healthy...what else could I want?

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Amen!

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Hell yes I'm conceited! If I don't love me, who will?

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Me, conceited? DEFINITELY! emoticon

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For me, working out IS indulging! I really enjoy it. Actually, it's probably the ONE thing I really enjoy!

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Kind of along the same lines... I just had an acquaintance of mine tell me that I'm over-doing it and I should indulge once in awhile. Granted this women does not practice a healthy lifestyle, really doesn't know me that well and doesn't know my routine.

I'm sorry that enjoying working out every day is overdoing it, and eating a low fat, high protein diet is not living.

But let me tell you, looking at myself in the mirror everyday, and breaking into a spontaneous smile is well-worth all the negative comments. Let the naysayers talk, and I'll just smile back confidently.

Edited by: LINDSAYDELIGHT at: 3/10/2009 (18:56)
We are all made of stars, some just shine brighter.

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I remember one time when someone snottily said with a snear "Aren't you perfect..." Just because I could go up stairs without getting winded. This person was overweight and having a hard time going up the stairs. So I told her that I had the same problem until I started doing a workout routine on the stairs. Apparently she took it as bragging rather than some helpful advice. I've learned to never give health/fitness advice, even when it is thoughtful, to people that have no motivation to be healthy and would rather just complain.

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3/9/09 6:44 P

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Well said Taraconklin

If you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything


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3/9/09 10:30 A

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Hi Tish,
I'm curious to know what prompted the rather uncouth comment from this person?
What were the circumstances of the situation?

Almost always comments like this come from a person's own lack of self worth and deep insecurities. Comments like this are never acceptable and they always hurt the intended recipient but try to keep in mind it has less to do with you than themselves.

Sometimes just being happy about your accomplishments and sharing them can be misconstrued as bragging and conceit.

All of this rests in the bane of humanity we know as ego. We're born into this life completely self centered as infants and it becomes the foundation of the human existence. Whether it's self loathing or self love, looking for acceptance, to be better than others, to have the biggest, the best, to break other people down, the search for fame, whatever it may be it's important to recognize when the ego is motivating our actions or those of other people. Learning to overcome ego is to examine the intention behind the action. Whether it be that of others or our own.

Keep your head high, your heart humble and keep doing what you're doing Tish. You've come a long way and should be proud of the progress you've made.

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3/8/09 11:01 P

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Well said, Pam and all! We look great, feel great, and it's wonderful to be proud and happy.

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3/8/09 10:27 P

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Count me in I will take conceited any day over obese and depressed. LOL

Edited by: FITFINE40 at: 3/8/2009 (22:28)
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In many ways I feel "born again". I'm a born again healthy person and its difficult not to evangelize this way of living. That said, I'm very aware that I have co-workers and friends that don't care to watch what they eat or exercise. That's fine because I know that until they choose to become a healthy person, nothing I can say or do will really make a difference to them. So I try to be quiet and just do my thing. Its hard not to grin and hold my head up high now, though, because I feel great. I have a new confidence in myself. If that's conceited, well, I'll take it over obese and depressed.

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I've never heard "conceited" but I have heard: obsessed, single minded, driven, addicted, gym junkie, etc. all of which I GLADLY accept. I am all of those things and it's all about MY health which is MY responsibility and mine alone.

We're all proud of what we have and will accomplish with our effort and our bodies.

We rock!

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emoticon Well said everyone! It's so difficult to put yourself on the to do list! But FindingBeau said it for me. Finally I'm giving myself some attention! Raising 3 daughters completely alone hasn't been easy and putting myself last has always been what I do. I'm finally taking care of myself and have to tell myself I deserve to be fit and healthy! I deserve to feel and look good! I'm worth it! You keep up the good work because you deserve to feel and look good! Enjoy every moment! Be good to yourselves! Rock On!!

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Well you know that devil stays busy trying to seek out the weak and strong to destroy any way he can. Don't let others and I don't care who it is tell you nothing about you. If your conceited you're just catching up from the years you had low self esteem. People talk behind my back all the time and I just say they are too stupid to know the difference between conceited and confident. Love yourself and take care of you. And pray for those who don't.

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Debbier9, I'm going to get a T-shirt that says that. I too experience self-love for the first time in my life ever and it's delicious. I also feel envy and jealousy from folks who wish they were where I am and the inevitable statement: "You're getting too thin. Blah! Blah! Blah!" which means, I wish I had the will to do what you did and are doing. I feel sad because I would so willingly share my "secrets" and help them. I wish to inspire not invite jealousy. Oh, well.

I do love myself and if that's conceit, oh well, again. Every time I see a mirror, I stop and admire myself from all angles to repay my body for the years of abuse and the avoidance of even getting a glimpse of myself when I abused myself with food and self-hate. Long live conceit!

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Conceited? Puh ~ lease! Many of us who have struggled are very caring and giving people. We care so much we put ourselves last, at our own expense. It's a wicked cycle. When we start to do the self care we should have all along the other people in our life often have trouble with the adjustment. But know you are doing the right thing. In the long run we are better moms/friends/ co workers/spouses because we are healthier inside and out.

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I have a few people in my life who make comments or insinuate things like that. It is very frustrating. It makes me stop and think am I vain? My answer is no because I feel that choosing to take care of myself can only benefit me. My current peeve is when people say why do still workout you don't need to lose weight and you can eat that you already skinny. Drives me crazy! The point is I don't want to stop working out and I don't want to fill my body with garbage. Don't get me wrong I still have cheat days and what not, but come on people.

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3/5/09 6:43 A

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Thank you everyone for your support. It is hard enough to lose weight without having people put down your efforts, and I thankgoodness you are all around to help and know what each other are going through. I am proud of the 45 pounds i have lost.

But I think that some people just do not like change, and what do they say "misery loves misery". It will take some time for me not to feel bad when someone says something like this but at least now I will think of all your comments and feel better about it.

Thank you all!


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People calling your success 'conceit' are:
* trying to sabotage your efforts
* showing envy rather than encouragement and/or
* trying to make themselves feel better.

I have been called obsessed and one friend openly challenged me on it. I told her that if being healthy and wanting to stay that way makes me obsessed, then so be it! Truly, though, it's really that I didn't used to live an active lifestyle and now I do, and that challenges people's ideas of who you are and what they're doing (or not doing).

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I agree with the last comment. People are always asking me what is my motivation to stay in shape and besides the obvious, being healthy, I say I am conceited and vain. I wear it with a badge of honor and I do not apologize for it. I work hard at how I look and when I enter a room, I want "EVERYONE's" attention to be focused on me, male or female.

I work in Corporate America and it is a fact, sad but true, but the people who are fit and attractive seem to get more of the breaks. Almost all of the Managers at the Corporation I work at are fit. And the couple of managers who are obese are not shown much respect. I am the only female manager in a male dominated industry and being intelligent is not enough to compete with my peers.




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Loving yourself is not conceite, too bad that person who said that to you doesn't love themself.

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I think those negative words are just an outlet for someone who sees what your accomplishing and instead of doing it too, they'd rather put you down. Uttering the words "Your Conceited" takes a lot less work than making healthy eating choices, working out and making you feel good about yourself.

Wear it as a badge of honor. People say things like that to me all the time, but I'm happy in my decision to live my life to the fullest in the body I visualize myself in, tight toned healthy and banging!

May I please quote from one Billy Madison:

"If being conceited is cool, consider me Miles Davis." LOL

We are all made of stars, some just shine brighter.

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How about a T-Shirt that reads
Here Walks An Achiever emoticon

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Conceited is staring at yourself constantly in the mirror or fishing for compliments. Taking care of yourself and your health is NOT! I agree with the others... comments like that come from people who are jealous because they don't have the discipline to exercise and eat right.

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"Obsessed is just a word the lazy use to describe the dedicated!"

I LOVE THAT! Thanks for sharing!

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you know when someone calls me conceited, vain, full of myself or whatever and I hear it. I smile and say "why thank you so much, I truly do love me." lol. people usually stand there with nothing to say afterwards. emoticon

excuses are wack!!


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I guess having confidence makes you "conceited". Ignore the hate and keep up the good work. I need to get me one of those T-shirts that says "You see me! Hi Hater!" haha

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I haven't had that happen but I'll tell you, I had neglected myself so badly since I had kids and I wasn't a priority at all...now those who know me just see me as taking care of myself. Which I should've been doing all along.

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I agree with all the other posts; especially the last one about jealousy....I have been called obsessed....Because I am FINALLY putting myself first....BC if momma isn't happy, then nobody is!!! It is sooo true!!!

Be very proud of yourself and efforts. It takes focus, determination, and consistent efforts to achieve what you have thus far....Don't let anyone take that away from you....Focus on the positives and keep those positive people in your life....you don't need the negative nelly's...

I put the tag line in my blogs...."Obsessed is just a word the lazy use to describe the dedicated!" You don't understand it until you live it!!

Charge ONWARD! I'm cheering for YOU!

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Yeah, I have been called 'vain' also. It doesn't bother me now like it used too. I'm the one in shape and in good health, while they are talking about 'aches and pains,and the flu every other day!
You have to do what makes you feel good. Nevermind everybody else!!

Believe in yourself, and you can accomplish anything!!


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They are jealous because they want what you have. You have to make yourself a priority if this is going to work. Keep it up!


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Do you notice it happens most often when you are making progress go figure emoticon

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If that is what people want to call conceited - where the title well and be very proud of it!!! You deserve it!!

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Have anyone ever called you conceited when your dieting? I had someone call me it yesterday...I do not think I am. I do think about myself when I eat, I think about and do my exercising. And I think about how I look now (before my self esteem was so low because I hated how I looked) but I think of myself just taking care of myself... I do not obsess about it. I have four kids and a house to take care of, my 40 hour job at the greenhouse. Maybe I do think of myself more because I haven't in years, ever since I had kids I put them before me never spent anything on myself because the kids needed it. Now, I do spend a little on myself but nothing like i could because my kids still need things.
Anyway, I just needed to vent, thanks for reading!


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