Lisa, thanks for the input. That's basically what my ped recommended last year as well. My son had gained 19 pounds from his 8 year checkup to his 9 year checkup, so she just wanted to make sure he was eating right and staying active.
Motherhen, I totally agree that my son's self-esteem is paramount. Emotional health is just as important as physical health.
Coolinjeans, wow, 7 hotdogs! It is amazing what kids can eat -- I swear I can recall eating 7 slices of pizza at one sitting when I was a kid, but I would be sick if I tried to do that now. I also understand what you are saying about weight being relative. My GOAL weight now is 5 pounds over what my STARTING weight was when I joined WW in my 20's, lol. I always thought I was chubby, but when I look back I realize I wasn't -- I was just trying for a body that just wasn't mine. I think that one of the blessings of getting older is that you come to gain greater appreciation for who you are, not who you think you should be.
Have a good talk with hubby, when the kids aren't around......a skinny kid could grow into a solid adult and a chubby kid could grow into a string bean.......Weight and food can't become issues or it can lead to eating disorders....... Encouraging kids to participate in activities, which burn calories is probably the better route......Then you can pretty well let them eat whatever they want. My 9 year old grand daughter scarfted down 7 hot dogs in buns, taters, coleslaw and salad on Friday and she is no bigger than a minute.......a concern, you ask?, no.....she eats when she is growing and when she isn't, she eats very little.......she likes being active and loves the computer too. I still can't imagine her eating that many hot dogs, but she did... Kids have always been able to do that!!!
You know I was put on my first diet when I was 12 --- I was only on the other side of average--- it set me up for a lifetime of self-consciousness and dieting and avoiding situations---- my thin athletic brother enjoyed dragging me to the scale--- by age 18, my mother talked behind my back within my hearing about her concern for my weight ---- I never wore a two piece bathing suit again---I was 120 and to this day my driver's license still reads 120. That's my goal to be just on the other side of average-- which so long ago was so overweight to my family. Today it would probably seem emaciated to them. As parents we have concerns for our children's health and want them to be a healthy weight--- but not at the expense of their self images.
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If your DH makes a big deal out of food issues it is setting both children up for eating disorders. I agree to focus on healthy foods, make the pizza yourself and serve a salad with it. My pediatrician did not recommend my son going on a diet, just making healthier food choices and being more active.
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Thanks so much for the input, everyone. I think I will talk to dh and try to switch the focus to healthy eating. I mean, the truth is that a whole lot of the wrong food really isn't healthy for a skinny kid either. If the boys are eating healthy foods and getting outside a lot, then their bodies should end up just where they're meant to be. I want them to both feel good about themselves even if their different metabolisms always end up in different body types.
Out of three girls I was always heavy and my sisters were thin, we are still this way. I remember my mom making me eat rice cakes for lunch while my sisters ate what they wanted. I then sneaked food out of spite.
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you and your husband need to talk about this without the boys around. I have kids that can eat lots and are active and others that are more sedentary. I think it's important to keep the junk out for everyone in the family.
I remember this scenario from childhood. I just cook healthy meals including pizza and mexican food. I offer water and salads before I serve the meals. Pizza is usually homemade with low fat cheese and extra vegies and or turkey pepperoni. My daughter can gain so easily that i too try to limit what she eats. When she asks why, I just tell her that it is for a healthier her. Her coach on the other hand tells her to eat if she is hungry (she trains alot but it still doesn't keep the weight off). I keep very little if any junk food in the house.
Plus hubby needs to remember that the 11 year old may bulk up when he is older and the 9 year old will slim down as he gets taller.
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I need some advice. My 11 year old son is as skinny as a rail, and my dh is always trying to get him to eat more. My 9 year old son, on the other hand, could stand to slim down a bit, so my dh is always on him to eat less. I worry that this will affect both of their self esteem. Last night we had pizza, and my dh set a limit on the number of slices my 9 y/o could have, but allowed my 11 y/o to have more than that, and even encouraged him to. My 9 y/o asked why and my dh didn't really have a good answer b/c he didn't want to come out and say he should lose some weight. How would you handle this?
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