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COOLINJEANS Posts: 1,013
3/9/08 4:59 P

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I feel bad for you.......I don't know what it is like to have a rude father-in-law.......mine was a sweet man and loved his grandchildren the same as he loved his 8 kids.. I miss him and wish he were still alive to love his great-grandchildren.
My hubby is a super grandfather and the kids love him. I just loss my mother-in-law on Feb 27 and she is missed so much.....It hurts me to see families that don't have the kind of love we share.
I wish you the best, work on him, maybe he can softened up... emoticon

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3/7/08 11:40 P

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My mother in law tries to help out. But my father in law is really rude and does not care. It is really hard to communicate with him. He says he will do what he wants in his house and if you don't like it, Tough!!! I gues I could start making him take his Suoer man bottle. that may work, Thanks.

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COOLINJEANS Posts: 1,013
3/5/08 10:12 P

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I thought everyone knew soda wasn't good for anyone...especially kids...
Ice cream isn't so bad........kids need the calcium and fat.
I'm a grandmother. I neither drink, nor give my grand children soda but their parents have. I always try to feed them healthy.
Would it help by having your son bring "his own drinks" with him in "his" special bottle?
Have you tried being honest and voicing your concern, it worked with my kids when they were young.
My mother-in-law was a soda drinker and I asked her to make sure the kids got milk or juice and she was respectful of my wishes.
Good luck !!!




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3/5/08 7:02 P

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Thank you all for the suggestions. It is all good points and Ideas. My mother-in-law is also diabetic. So some of the ice cream is sugar free, but he is naturally hyper. But he gets sodas and chips and junk like that, that is not sugar free. So thank you for the advice.

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3/5/08 10:01 A

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I so get what all of you are saying. I'm trying to get my family to eat healthier, but just this weekend, I went to visit my in laws. All the kids ate were chips and soda. I was able to sneak in some food in here or there, maybe a piece of fruit, but it was so difficult when my mother in law had chip lying in an open bowl. My mother in law is diabetic, so you would think she would have some healthy food in her house and not so much chips, sodas, cookies, apple pie. I had a hard time resisting!

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3/5/08 9:19 A

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I had issues with my in-laws, since my son goes there after school. Since I do appreciate their care and cannot tell them what to do, I have learned to just stress the fact over and over how important it is to me that Danny eats healthy. I allow him ice cream over there, but have asked to limit portion. I used excuses like it's too much sugar before bed, no soda or fast food during the week ( it's a special treat) and the likes. I also bring by fruit when on sale.
My mother-in-law likes Costco, so I went with her a few times and we made some "snack choices" for the kids together, so I had my say.
You can be inventive and not hurt their feelings. For exmaple, for the summer buy them lots of popcicles instead of ice cream. If you approach it right, you might have an allie on your side without them even realizing it, but actually appreciating you for it.
Remember, people are used to different things and when they mean well, it's hard to change their ways by being too straight forward, because they might feel attacked. ( the older people are, the more they get set in their ways, LOL!)

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3/5/08 8:01 A

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I was also raised with dessert after most meals. I think that as long as it is in moderation it can't hurt and moderation might include NOT every day. I think the first thing you have to do is set up a "plan" with your DH. There's no point in working with the in-laws until you two agree. Once you two are on the same page bring them in and let them know your newly established rules. You could suggest fruits/jello/etc as exchanges.

With my kids (4,8,10,12) they get 1 scoop (1/2 cup) once or twice a week. They only get soda on special occations. My DD loves to bake so usually once a week there are cookies. They understand that it's because it just isn't healthy (and we don't have the extra money)...but my kids are older. If you start educating him now, he'll make the decisions on his own.

Best of luck...this is a sticky one!

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3/4/08 11:13 P

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My In-laws live next door and they like to feed my son. His name is Tristan and he is 3. They give him soda and ice cream on a daily basis. I was raised that ice cream is a "you get if you are good through the week" treat. We never got it on a daily basis. What can I do to let him know that this is not right? Or is this ok for him. My DH thinks it is ok. But he was raised with having a desert after every meal. Can you help?

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