OK I have thought really hard and long about both yours and mine resistance and difficulting in effecting our positive change.
You said you used to change things a lot when younger and the outcomes weren’t always so great. I suspect that you had many more successes than you give yourself credit for...but when expectations are met it’s quite ordinary and in that respect not special enough to stimulate a clearly formed memory. It is in this way that many of us overlook our achievements and our esteem suffers from a greater build up of remembered failures compared to remembered successes, this tips our attitudal balance scale as to what we believe about ourselves.
I think it’s good to really think and look hard before frivolous blind leaping or too lofty of goal setting. Change is inevitable and, I do believe, in the hands of God. But where-as purposeful change (once a decision is made, direction defined, and goal established) is the only type of change truly within our control, and yet only by the grace of God via our faith to take action can we wield that power. But like that joke of faith making a virtue of not thinking and second guessing, one has to just do it, and trust it will be OK even if you fall flat on your face. Good or bad- right or wrong- off target or only slightly different, we must believe that from the experience, what is learned or where we land, there will be growth and or a step further than where you were before.
You said that if you don't feel good about a change then you think it could be a warning. We never really know what is on the other side of what we have. I can agree with that, maybe it is a warning that you're leaping too far or too blindly ahead and need to visualize or reaffirm your goal to build a stronger belief of it. Maybe it’s more important to learn from a mistake than to fear making one. Yes I think it is what’s blocking change for both you and I.
You asked, do we change only when we feel we haven't got it so good? Well yes and no. In answer of your question motivation for action and change comes from a strong discomfort or agitation for when what we think we should have, and what we do have, don't match. When our minds eye and reality are in conflict. We are out of our comfort zone and the creative subconscious will automatically take action to align them via the path of least resistance. Unfortunately this also works to maintain status quo and stave off change, how we end up fighting with ourselves and our goals, and fall short of our goal.
SO YES I WHOLE HEARTEDLY AGREE THAT THE GREATEST CHANGE IS THAT FROM WITHIN!!!
Beliefs are formed by the way we think, attitudes by what we tell ourselves, feel about it, and have perceived as the truth. If you lean towards something you are said to have a positive attitude and if you lean away from something you are said to have a negative attitude. If you look forward and clearly see a good outcome, your subconscious uses its divine creativity to help you move toward it. The key is to develop a positive attitude that points you in the direction aligned with your goals. Your tools are self-talk, visualizations and affirmations (& spark people). Every time we make (or accept in) a verbal statement, either aloud, in our minds, or accept an outside source, we are adding weight to one side or the other of our attitudinal balance scale, + or - . It is up to us to talk, visualize, and reiterate the belief weights to lean towards our goals rather than away from them. Our self-esteem, self-image and sense of self worth resides in the subconscious mind, and is formed by our beliefs and attitudes, and reinforced or proven by our actions, behaviors and automated habits. (mindless automation is also controlled by the subconscious.) Some of our old habits and patterns may not fit our new goals or routines. We must have faith enough to modify some patterns with small smarter choice substitutions to be more inline with our goals. It might feel uncomfortable for a little while, but as you repeat the self talk, visualization, and new behavior, it will become just as comfortable as tying your shoe, reading, or walking.
So the greatest change does come from within.
Failure- a stone on a path not the last one called success.
Planless gaol=a wish
Faithless dream=fleeting & amiss.
Progress-little to do with speed-much to do with direction.
Wiser to replace with better choices than to deny human nature-small smarter choice substitutions.
Purposely choose your thoughts-what you believe-you achieve-Be careful what you think www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i