Author: Sorting Last Post on Top ↓ Message:
CRAZY_CAROLLYNN's Photo CRAZY_CAROLLYNN SparkPoints: (0)
Fitness Minutes: (11,889)
Posts: 3,572
11/15/08 5:09 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
OK I have thought really hard and long about both yours and mine resistance and difficulting in effecting our positive change.

You said you used to change things a lot when younger and the outcomes weren’t always so great. I suspect that you had many more successes than you give yourself credit for...but when expectations are met it’s quite ordinary and in that respect not special enough to stimulate a clearly formed memory. It is in this way that many of us overlook our achievements and our esteem suffers from a greater build up of remembered failures compared to remembered successes, this tips our attitudal balance scale as to what we believe about ourselves.
I think it’s good to really think and look hard before frivolous blind leaping or too lofty of goal setting. Change is inevitable and, I do believe, in the hands of God. But where-as purposeful change (once a decision is made, direction defined, and goal established) is the only type of change truly within our control, and yet only by the grace of God via our faith to take action can we wield that power. But like that joke of faith making a virtue of not thinking and second guessing, one has to just do it, and trust it will be OK even if you fall flat on your face. Good or bad- right or wrong- off target or only slightly different, we must believe that from the experience, what is learned or where we land, there will be growth and or a step further than where you were before.
You said that if you don't feel good about a change then you think it could be a warning. We never really know what is on the other side of what we have. I can agree with that, maybe it is a warning that you're leaping too far or too blindly ahead and need to visualize or reaffirm your goal to build a stronger belief of it. Maybe it’s more important to learn from a mistake than to fear making one. Yes I think it is what’s blocking change for both you and I.
You asked, do we change only when we feel we haven't got it so good? Well yes and no. In answer of your question motivation for action and change comes from a strong discomfort or agitation for when what we think we should have, and what we do have, don't match. When our minds eye and reality are in conflict. We are out of our comfort zone and the creative subconscious will automatically take action to align them via the path of least resistance. Unfortunately this also works to maintain status quo and stave off change, how we end up fighting with ourselves and our goals, and fall short of our goal.
SO YES I WHOLE HEARTEDLY AGREE THAT THE GREATEST CHANGE IS THAT FROM WITHIN!!!
Beliefs are formed by the way we think, attitudes by what we tell ourselves, feel about it, and have perceived as the truth. If you lean towards something you are said to have a positive attitude and if you lean away from something you are said to have a negative attitude. If you look forward and clearly see a good outcome, your subconscious uses its divine creativity to help you move toward it. The key is to develop a positive attitude that points you in the direction aligned with your goals. Your tools are self-talk, visualizations and affirmations (& spark people). Every time we make (or accept in) a verbal statement, either aloud, in our minds, or accept an outside source, we are adding weight to one side or the other of our attitudinal balance scale, + or - . It is up to us to talk, visualize, and reiterate the belief weights to lean towards our goals rather than away from them. Our self-esteem, self-image and sense of self worth resides in the subconscious mind, and is formed by our beliefs and attitudes, and reinforced or proven by our actions, behaviors and automated habits. (mindless automation is also controlled by the subconscious.) Some of our old habits and patterns may not fit our new goals or routines. We must have faith enough to modify some patterns with small smarter choice substitutions to be more inline with our goals. It might feel uncomfortable for a little while, but as you repeat the self talk, visualization, and new behavior, it will become just as comfortable as tying your shoe, reading, or walking.
So the greatest change does come from within.


Failure- a stone on a path not the last one called success.
Planless gaol=a wish
Faithless dream=fleeting & amiss.
Progress-little to do with speed-much to do with direction.
Wiser to replace with better choices than to deny human nature-small smarter choice substitutions.
Purposely choose your thoughts-what you believe-you achieve-Be careful what you think
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=237

Starfleet BootCamp
CRAZY_CAROLLYNN's Photo CRAZY_CAROLLYNN SparkPoints: (0)
Fitness Minutes: (11,889)
Posts: 3,572
11/15/08 2:47 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
LOL its so weird for me. I want to change, I definitely know how to change, I feel that I do have the ability to make real and lasting changes...my trouble is that I don't know into exactly what I want to change into. I have never been the best at clearly defining my goals, identifying what I want, or the action steps leading up to them. When I can and do....I have serious trouble maintaining motivation in doing it.

Knowing and doing are two very different things. Right now I'm just trying to catch up with my spark mail and posts.

But this speaks volumes to me, even more so than the last one on the same action message. I have never been good at, or grasp what it takes to have commitment to self. I know what it means, but-...Im not all that sure at what is actually holding me back.

Failure- a stone on a path not the last one called success.
Planless gaol=a wish
Faithless dream=fleeting & amiss.
Progress-little to do with speed-much to do with direction.
Wiser to replace with better choices than to deny human nature-small smarter choice substitutions.
Purposely choose your thoughts-what you believe-you achieve-Be careful what you think
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=237

Starfleet BootCamp
BISHOODLE's Photo BISHOODLE Posts: 432
11/10/08 7:20 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Yeh this speaks to me too. I do think and not act sometimes. Fear of the new gets me occasionally. I used to change things a lot when I was young and the outcomes weren't so great. I had good intensions of change but I had some pretty hard lessons. I now think really hard before I act, I am not sure if this is what is wrong. I guess it is the fear of what will happen. As I have had some hard lessons. When I was young. I was a lot more positive than I am now about certain things but I still had the negetive outcome. I guess really change is sometimes out of our control. More in the control of God and what he wishes for us for our souls journey to learn and grow. You can never force change. Change just happens. You know when change is occuring as you feel free to make it. If you don't feel good about a change then I think it could be a warning. We never really know what is on the other side of what we have. Do you think this is what is blocking change for me? I am also very content with my now even though others might look in and feel my now might not be so great, or if I compare myself to others I can have thoughts that my now is not so good. So do we change only when we feel we haven't got it so good? I sometimes think the greatest change is that from within. Not necessarily change for material or emotional things. I also feel things are changing all the time I try to just go with the flow and be as flexible as I can. To me change happens regardless. I mostly enjoy that. I love change. It keeps things interesting. I hope you enjoyed my ramblings.

 current weight: 185.0 
 
185
173.5
162
150.5
139
PLAYING2WIN's Photo PLAYING2WIN Posts: 960
11/10/08 10:46 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
This post really speaks to me. Thank you for posting it. Just thinking about what you WANT to do it not enough.

 current weight: 194.8 
 
200
194.5
189
183.5
178
IDARETODREAM's Photo IDARETODREAM Posts: 600
11/9/08 11:30 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I'm making MAJOR changes in my life, I will share them with you soon. I hope you are too!

Hugs xoxo
Anita

Ask Yourself Difficult Questions
by Gary Vurnum

========================

Are you REALLY ready to make the effort to change your life?

It's all very well saying it…but are you backing it with some cold, hard effort?

YOU…and you alone have the power to get what you want…and choose who and where you want to be. But first, you must be totally honest with yourself.

You must ask yourself if you really, truly want to do something about changing your life.

You must look inside and get a definite yes/no answer.

If your mind can't 'stand up and be counted' when it matters then you have lost before you have even begun…and you are just setting yourself up for a fall.

Action Point:

Do you really want to do something about changing your life.

Let me tell you straight. Based on what I have read and written myself over the last twenty or so years…you already have information available to you that will change your life.

Even if you only applied one-tenth of what you have learned in this course…dramatic things will begin to happen in your life.

So…as you already have this knowledge…what are YOU going to do with it?

==============

You cannot get what you’ve never had unless you’re willing to do what you’ve never done.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

www.youneedanita.blogspot.com/
Page: 1 of (1)  

Report Innappropriate Post

Other Make Life Happen! General Team Discussion Forum Posts

Topics: Last Post:
TODAY, I CAN & I WILL.... 8/22/2014 11:24:08 AM
(Daily)Rate your Motivaton to Stay on Track (1-10) 9/10/2014 12:23:45 PM
SPARKS TEAM PAGE REDESIGN COMING UP! 4/24/2014 3:58:25 PM
WHAT IS YOUR "WORD" FOR THE DAY! 9/11/2014 9:04:35 AM
(DAILY) WHAT WAS FOR BREAKFAST THIS MORNING? 3/6/2014 8:47:04 AM

Thread URL: http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x12794x20072201

Review our Community Guidelines