I have found that coming up with a mantra to help me embrace a situation I am resisting can move me forward by leaps and bounds. I am not a person that is usually resistant to change, but on occasion - a mantra can be priceless when I hit a block.
I was recently going to visit my brother and his long-time girlfriend. I do not appreciate her to put it gently. So as I'm heading to this visit I tell myself I need to come up with a mantra that will help me open my mind to her experience in the world so that I can be nice to her and respect my brother's choices. Or at least just get through dinner without wanting to throttle her. So finally - as we're in the car I say to my husband "I've got my mantra!" and I start repeating to aloud "It can't be easy to date my brother. It can't be easy to date my brother..." Thinking to myself that this girl's experience in dating my brother can't be pleasant all the time - my brother can be very set in his ways and 'my way or the highway' sometimes.
So my Husband starts laughing his ass off and says to me "Honey, I do not think that sounds the way you think it sounds." And then I realize that I'm sitting in a car next to my husband and chanting about dating my brother. It sounded so wrong! I laughed until I cried and it was just the levity I needed to relax the tension I had going into the visit with her.
A mantra is lovely - but just remember - not all of them are meant to be said aloud.
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3 weeks ago I gave up Coffee. Changed to black tea with milk. I hate black tea. Today I am drinking Green tea with honey you can get all different flavours in honey. So your tea can vary. I am loving the changes. Bye for now. Not two much honey just a little.
Edited by: BISHOODLE at: 9/2/2008 (22:55)
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That made me giggle Chanetc very good. My Grandmother told me the only animal that can't change its spots is a leopard. You are not a leopard so you can change as many times as you want. I have never forgotten her words. It has helped me get through life on many occasions. There is that little lizzard called the camileon he changes all the time. Maybe we should learn a few things from observing him. Smile. Thanks Everyone for all your wisdom and your advice. It is very special that you are sharing and much appreciated.
I read a quote recently that said that you can tell how old your are by how much change upsets you. As the Borg used to say on Startrek, "Resistance is futile!"
"If you are not busy being born, you are busy dying." --Bob Dylan "Obstacles are those things we see when we take our eyes off our goals." "If we don't like where we are, change it! We are not trees." "Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity." -- Louis Pasteur, Chemist and Microbiologist
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