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8/26/08 10:47 P

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Well guy's I am back to the drawing board starting over again and moving forward. Had a few setbacks realized a couple of things, so here I go. These comments fall in with where I am at so thanks once again. I am just amazed how things happen for me to learn. I have had the most rewarding few days ever even though some of the things I was learning was a bit tough oh well I am still glad I am getting it. The rewards. Have a happy day. Healthy wealthy and prosperous.

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8/26/08 10:30 P

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Thanks Chan, actually we just drove back home from Palm Springs, awsome experiences :) hugs backatcha emoticon

You cannot get what youíve never had unless youíre willing to do what youíve never done.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
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8/26/08 8:06 P

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Welcome back. I'm glad that you were able to spend so much great time with your daughter. I've heard it said recently that we can control means, but we can't control outcomes. If we are successful with doing what we know needs to be done to achieve our goals, then the outcomes will come naturally, in their own time. emoticon

"If you are not busy being born, you are busy dying." --Bob Dylan
"Obstacles are those things we see when we take our eyes off our goals."
"If we don't like where we are, change it! We are not trees."
"Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity."
-- Louis Pasteur, Chemist and Microbiologist

"Exercise vigorously & stop eating crap."

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8/26/08 3:30 P

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emoticon back, sounds like you had a really great time! When I get to the controlling mode it usually means I feel a great deal of fear/anxiety. It's when I look to see what's causing me to feel out of control/fearful.


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8/26/08 12:22 P

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Hello all you beautiful people. I've been gone for a little bit trying to amass as many Memories and 'Kodak Moments' as I possibly can before my daughter goes back to college. Ever since she became an adult we both went on this path of relinquishing control and trying to re-learn how to live "JUST FOR TODAY" like we did when we were little kids, and that has brought us closer than ANY friendships I've experienced in my life.

My whole life I lived with fear of being out of control, for some reason I believed that I had to be in control and that only brought about tension, fear and much loss. Now that we base our lives on trust, love, belief, I'm finally beginning to live the life of my dreams.

I hope you've all been well while Making Life Happen on Purpose.

hugs xoxo

Trying to Control Holds you back
by Karl Moore

Not everyone likes to admit that they're a bit of a control fanatic.

But if you've ever tried to influence an event or outcome... If you're ever distraught when things don't go YOUR way...

Then taking control probably figures highly.

But don't worry.

If the truth be known, the majority of us are always trying to get life under control.

Top of the list of controllers are those who do their utmost to influence their life's path such as high achievers and entrepreneurs.

But absolutely anyone with a goal can be a controller.

So, what's wrong with that?

Surely, being in control is a good motivator, shows ambition, enables you to mould your life exactly as you want it.


Being able to control your life shows many qualities including self-sufficiency.

However, the emotions that come as a result of trying to control can hold you back - particularly when you're unsuccessful.

Trying to control certainly creates greater stress and tension so if you recognise yourself as a bit of a controller, learn to let go.

When it all gets too much, take a break.

I often do that. I'll be working like crazy, feel so stressed, then just think - what's the point?

So I take a day off and let it go. The world doesn't fall apart. Everything is fine.

Let go and life starts to flow much easier.

And consider this...

Ultimately, we have no control of life whatsoever.

So, why worry?

Next time you feel stressed because you're trying to control, just ask yourself ...

'How does this matter in the great order of things?'

Then let go!

You cannot get what youíve never had unless youíre willing to do what youíve never done.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
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