This is one of my patterns. It's hard. What has helped me in the past is to try to do something else. When your feeling this stress are there other things you can do, that you like to do. Do you like to read, sew, go for a walk or other activities? Do you have someone you can call to talk to and vent your stress. I know one time I was on the verge of doing my behavior, I called my friend. She asked me to go outside for ten minutes, put on my MP3 player and just walk around the block....take a stroll. It helped.
Other things that I have done, that helps me:
When it's really bad, I crochet. I don't have a project I'm working on, I just crochet the skeins of yarn. I have finished one skein and working on the next one. Who knows what I will do with it.
Calling a friend, coming on here is now a tool in my arsenal, watching tv, play solitaire or staries on the computer, journaling/blogging, working on some art and sometimes just sitting there white knuckling it stating that I am stronger than this... and I try to remember the feelings of afterward when I do give in to ED.
I know for me at times, it helped to set smaller goals.. like I'm not going to allow any food in my bedroom or to eat while watching TV. The big one is keeping out of the house the foods that will trigger a binge. I have used stickers to track different things for my recovery, even down to a sticker for each meal.... Looking at the bigger picture of what I have done well and trying to give myself grace during those slipups. Some days I can sail through, other days it is just down to 5 minutes at a time. Each day I make it, it shows me the real love that I have for myself...and if I slip, I catch myself...try to give myself grace instead of berating (which is sooo hard) and move on.
I am lovable and worthy. You are too.
It's not easy and you are not alone.