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12/20/12 12:41 P

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Chelsea, your Lucy story made me smile from tip to toe! :) So wonderful!

CatLadyX, we have 7 now (we lost one a couple of weeks ago.) Multi-pet homes can be lots of fun, but it's SO MUCH hard work to keep everything ship shape!

It is definitely a personal choice. When I decided to let my old lady go at home, I was watching her very closelly for any signs of distress. If there had been any, we would have gone to the vet for help. This is the first time I have let an animal just go to sleep at home. I will watch each one and decide what is best. Her passing was very peaceful.

It's always a tough choice, and I STILL question myself every time.

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12/20/12 11:41 A

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Sorry to hear about Emily. Losing a loved one is difficult. I have gone through it many times too. It is never easy.

I believe putting them to sleep is a better way. I don't' want to see my kitty suffer, or go through any discomfort so I opt for euthanizing. It is a personal preference.

As for a new kitty. It always took me several months to grieve and when the time was right I knew it. Several cats just showed up at my home when the time was right and others i found at the pound, strays or PetSmart. I have 8 of them and I love them dearly sometime more than real family. My pets are my kids.

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12/20/12 10:42 A

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Fancy, I have been through the same process of making decisions to put my lovely pets to sleep so I do understand your pain. I hope you enjoy your new pet (a dog?) and that you will have a happy home again. ((Hugs))) emoticon
Also, when I adopted my little Lucy (cat) from the SPCA, no one could get her out of the cage. I remember walking around trying to decide and she was in a cage at the bottom where all she could see were people's shoes. I remember bending down to look at her and she coming to the cage door to smell my hand and then kiss it. I told the volunteer that I wanted to hold her and he opened the cage, she ran all over and knocked over all the water and food bowls when he tried to pick her up. I told him I would pick her up and he said, "I work here and I can't do it." When I put my hands in there, she jumped up to my shoulders and started purring like crazy. When I got her home, as soon as I opened the box she was in, she stretched out (didn't jump out of the box), looked at me, and just started walking all over the apartment. Once done, laid down in the middle of the living room as if to say, "I am home." Her true personality has emerged as a loving, fun and very independent cat. She has a sense of humor and loves to play with lights on the wall, including her own shadow. emoticon Chelsea

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12/19/12 9:20 A

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Fancy, I'm sorry about your dog, but congrats on having Orzo join your family!

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12/19/12 12:05 A

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I am sorry about your Emily and her brother. It has been a long time since I had to have April put down, but just had to have my dog sent to the Bridge. It seems there is a lot of different feeling when to get a new one. I think it should be how you actually feel about it. If you are not ready, don't let your sister push you into it. I know that I want to get another dog eventually, but have a lot to do around here before I would be able to. I am not the type who can be alone without my fur babies, though, so I adopted Orzo on Sunday. He is very sweet and loving, but didn't show his personality at Petco and probably not at the shelter he was at so that as well as his age was keeping people from adopting him.

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12/16/12 8:54 P

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I agree with others that you will know when it's time to get another cat. I waited several years before I was ready for a cat after my first cat died. (Now I can't imagine being without my two 'Pookies'.

I'm going to have to let my brother know that you have a cat named Steve. He was saying one time that he's never heard of a cat named Steve and that he thought it was a great name (his two cats both already had names when they adopted him, or I'm sure one of them would have been a Steve).


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12/16/12 1:03 P

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MARTHROID, first of all, I feel your pain because I have had to go through the same more than once. I am really sorry for your loss. emoticon
As far as putting cats to sleep, I have done all my cats that way. If the vet told me that either they needed tremendous amounts of treatment to just get by (or that might not work anyway) OR I was told they were suffering, I made the decision myself. I think it is a personal preference but I see it as my final gift to them, no more suffering.

AND I think it is your right to grieve your Kittie, take as lone as you need, and then make a decision about whether or not to get a cat again. It is such a personal thing. For me, I can't stand to be alone (I live alone) so I would get another Kittie right away. For me, knowing there are so many homeless cats, I felt I had love to give right away. Please remember to do what's best for you and no one else's ideas.
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12/14/12 3:42 P

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I am so sorry about Emily. Steve is so lucky to have you. I agree with everyone else, it is about when you are ready or when they find you.

Having said that, we got our boy (the one that is poorly) when I wasnt ready and he's been anabsolute delight and blessing in our lives. Our cat of 18 years Audrey died, and our other cat was grieving, so the vet recommended getting a companion. I wasn't too sure as it felt too soon after Audrey. We went to the cat rescue place near us, and they told us about one of the cats. It appeared that he'd been brought in by a couple who claimed that he was a stray, but it turned out that the woman was pregnant and so they'd decided not to keep him. The poor boy was still grieving when we brought him to live with us. Apparently up until the new arrival he'd been the centre of attention and had had lots of love. It must have been so confusing when all that love was suddenly withdrawn.

Anyway he came home with us, and for a few days we just lived alongside each other. He in his grief, me in mine. Then a few days afterwards he got out, and was missing for hours. We spent the day walking the streets to no avail and eventually he turned up. He'd obviously decided that with us 'was home' and we were overjoyed to see him. From then on we were inseperable.

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12/14/12 9:52 A

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I'm so sorry about Emily. That's horrible what happened to Steve! I'm glad he's recovered and doing great with his new family. I'm sure it is a good thing for your kids.

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12/12/12 9:19 P

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I had only one cat pass away in his sleep. The others were all euthanised. I am not sure what to say about the pros and cons especially as my one cat was done without my consent , although he was supposedly suffering. Its a tough call at least from my perspective.

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12/12/12 1:09 P

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I've only had one cat that died of natural causes (while sleeping on my lap). He had renal failure and did not appear to be in any pain or I would have had him put down, I hate taking them in to be put down even when I know it's the humane thing to do. Their pain trumps my pain at having to be the one to take them in. When Scruffy died in my lap it was nice not to be crying in the vets office for a change.

Scruffy was my cat. Probably more accurate, I was HIS. I haven't gotten another cat yet. My son and husband got kittens (that have grown up) but I haven't. I will at some point.

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12/12/12 9:12 A

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1. If you believed at all that she was in pain or suffering, then you did the right thing. My kitty who passed last Monday was able to die, naturally, at home, but that's only because I kept a close watch over her for any signs of distress. If she had shown any, I would have gotten help from the vet. We all deserve to die with dignity. Just like with people, from being close to an animal, I believe we form an empathic connection and we just KNOW what needs to be done.

2. Give yourself the time that YOU need before getting another cat. Don't put any pressure on yourself, and give yourself time to fully grieve Emily. I think that's only fair to the other cat.

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12/11/12 11:50 P

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Thank you. Maybe our newest cat Steve found us just in time. My sister found out about him and thought of us...some lunatic shot him for being on his car. He had surgery and was pretty scrawny and very scared. Now he's plumped up and is happy as a clam. He wasn't allowed in the house much until Emily passed away. He was great grief therapy for my kids. Without him they would have been very lost. He's about 1 year old...tons of energy. We think he may need a partner in crime...just don't know if I am ready...thanks for the information. Good point, the cat will probably find me or I will just know it is time...like I did with Oreo, Emily and Steve.

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First of all sorry you lost Emily but it seems like it was her time. They can tell us evven by looking in their eyes. It would not have been fair to Emily to have let her go on and die naturally as you don't know how long she would continue to perhaps be in pain. You did the right and the best thing you could ever have done for her at this time. Be kind to yourself. Allow time to grieve.Sometimes we can grieve more for a pet than a person. That's ok.

Yes in due time please get another cat. You will know when it is time OR the new litten or cat wil find you. You won't be replacing Emily, but you will be giving another cat a new chance at life and that will make Emily very happy.

I lost Thor on March 15 and we had Max by March 25. He showed up on a web site I was looking at in my city. I truly believe things happen like that when they are supposed to happen. I couldn't get Max's pictue out of my mind and so my husband said to write about him. He knew I was hurting so much without having a cat. I'm the type person that NEEDS something to mother.

Good luck and I hope this helps a little.

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12/11/12 10:33 P

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I hope it ok to ask these questions. I am just curious as to other people's opinions here.

1. As you may know my cat Emily was put down yesterday. She had a tumor and it seemed like she was wandering around the house looking for a place to die...she wanted to go outside and I would have taken her out and watched her, but it was pouring buckets outside. Oreo, her "brother" went behind the washing machine a few months ago and died naturally...we had no idea it was coming, even though he had gotten pretty thin. Anyway, I don't know how to ask this question, but: natural death or putting to sleep? Which is better? I tried to go natural, knowing it was inevitable, but I couldn't let her hurt (I could see it in her face and her wandering around looking for a place to find comfort and not finding it). Just curious.

2. My sister is already wanting me to adopt a new kitty. She is a cat rescuer and she wants me to be happy, but I don't know if I can take a cat yet. I lost two this year and the thought of doing it again...ever...is really hard for me right now. She deals with this kind of loss all the time...I don't know how she does it.

Are these topics too heavy? Sorry if they are.

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