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11/15/09 8:21 P

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:-)

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11/15/09 8:15 P

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hehe Ariadar! Duly noted! :D

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11/15/09 8:09 P

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... I did note there were variations due to personality, and other factors, and that that was 'in general'. :)

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11/15/09 8:09 P

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LOL @ mbshazzer--my cats have never followed the hierarchy either.

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11/15/09 8:07 P

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Someone evidently didn't tell my cats about this hierarchy! In our house, it's the spayed female who rules the roost. Followed by our neutered male. Then me. Finally, my BF at the bottom of the heap.

No complaints though!

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11/15/09 12:56 P

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AIRIADAR: the younger one is definitely being respectful and more so than I could have hoped. The older one is curious and is allowing the younger one to get closer as each day goes by. Looks like this might work out after all!!

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11/14/09 9:39 P

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Spaying her probably helped.

Cats have a social heirarchy, based primarily on gender.

Intact males are (generally) at the top.
Then are neutered males
Then come intact females.
Then neutered females at the bottom.

There's some variation based on size, age, personality, and who has claws (declawing lowers them, as does age and smaller size; larger cats are higher).

Your older cat may have felt threatened just because of the age/neutered factor. Now, there is only the age factor.

As long as the younger cat is respecting the older one when they growl/hiss, it should end up okay. :)


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11/14/09 3:59 P

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@RippedPaul1: I never though of that before!!! Even just rubbing them both with towels w/o getting them too wet might work! Thanks!!!

I bought the younger one, Abby, home today from the vet from being spayed. Freddie, the older one, hasnt reacted any differently per se but she isnt growling and hissing as much!

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Sorry to hear of your loss and congratulations for your adoption. I have introduced many cats into my house over the years. Give it some time but I found washing them both and dry them with bath towels your and your family have used for a few days. This will help blend their scents and yours. It almost always seems to work for me. Sometimes they are just so mad at me that they forget their grudge. emoticon

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11/14/09 9:57 A

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Thanks everyone!

My older cat has NEVER been a social cat so I do not anticipate them being buddies LOL I will have to say they are doing ok--still growling and hissing from the older one but the younger one gives her space.



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11/13/09 10:50 A

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I'm sorry for the loss of your furbaby, and happy you have adopted another.

I ended up getting a 6 month old kitten (Snickers) when my previous cat (Deeks) was in his old age. Deeks growled and hissed and generally hated her to start.

After a while, I caught them playing together. By the time Deeks passed away, they were buddies. I even caught them sleeping together a few times!

Give them some time, and try to make it a point to give BOTH of them affection in front of the other (perhaps particularly the older one in front of the younger) so everyone knows they are loved by you.

And, I admit it: whenever I could, I grabbed both and cuddled both of them together at the same time (this can be a challenge, holding each squirming kitty with one arm...)


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So sorry to hear about your baby...but I do agree with the others.. your other kitty lost a pal and now there is a new kitten around... there will definitely be an adjustment period, but things will fall into place. Great job on adopting another fluffernutter!

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It has taken 2 months but our girl cat finally is not growling at the baby cat.. give it time.. Congrats on your new fur baby

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11/12/09 9:55 P

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Very true. Like everyone has said, I just need to give things time. It's just scary getting a new feline companion again LOL I can only hope my older kitty is still content.

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We introduced a kitten to our older male cat and he didn't like the idea at all. However, even though he is not a social kitty, he loves Yasha. He calls out for her when he can't find her. One day, when Yasha accident shut herself in a cupboard, The older male, Chaos, sat beside the cupboard until someone came along to let her out.

They may not get along at first, but there is still a great chance that they will be best friends in time.





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Yes it is awesome. I too am sorry for your loss. I think that the older kitty is telling the new one that this is her house and that the new one needs to know her place. I think as time goes by and your new baby settles in that things will be fine. That is my experience at least. Good luck

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First let me say how sad I am for you losing your baby. It is so hard!

I don't think that was selfish I think it was awesome. You now have two babies to love. Your older baby will have a kitty around if she wants to be social and your new baby will have an elder to look up to. Also you saved a tiny life! Good job.

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So, my baby of 16yrs was sent to the Rainbow Bridge on 28th of September. My other baby of 12yrs is doing well and has not had any separation anxiety. When I took my baby to vet that day, there were two kittens at the office. I noticed them but did not pay too much attention due to the situation. However, when I went back for my baby's ashes two weeks later, the two kittens were still there. I contemplated adopting both of them as my remaining baby is 12yrs now (two kittens would more likely play with each other than someone else?). Anyway, time passed (about a month)and I called Tuesday this week. To my surprise, the one kitten was still there and she was the one I really clicked with. So, i adopted her yesterday.
Now, I am still very concerned about my decision--I adopted her out of my own selfish needs. My older cat was doing well and seemed quite content to be by herself (never been a social cat). However, I missed a kitty sleeping with me. Of course my older cat is growling at the kitten but the kitten is not reacting at all! I sort of feel as though it was almost "meant to be" since she was still at the vet. So, why do I feel guilty? I do not know if its the stress of a new feline companion or just feeling guilty putting my older kitty through this but well I am uneasy....this is probably normal?

thank you for your kindness and support..I know you guys would be the best ones to understand...

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