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"Change never happens until the pain of staying the same is more than the pain of changing." (from my friend, Jo)


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DORE: I"m so happy for you that you got both good weather AND Mike home for a little bit to share it!! ENJOY!!

ELAINE: I second Dore's words. I have not gone on job searches that required resumes so I'd be of little help in that area. I'm just praying that God will give you wisdom where you need it and favor to get THE position that HE wants for you.

ALL: I is 7:30 a.m. and I have a cake baking already. We decided to celebrate our dgd's and her friend's birthday together (she is 7 today and he is 9 tomorrow) and then my sister's on Monday, her actual BD. Both kids have already had a party at home but these are their actual days so we are recognizing that.

We went to the patriotic concert at camp last night. WOW!! It was awesome, as usual. It is my favorite concert every year. Afterward, we got to visit in the TeePee with old friends. None of our kids elected to come with us.....their loss! They are having a great time, but missing out on the BEST blessings of being here. Jo

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Good day all,

It is a beautiful day here and I am so enjoying this wonderful sunshine. Mike will be home this weekend and am planning on enjoying our time together before he heads back out.

Elaine - I am so glad to see that you are staying positive and going forward with what you sense is God's direction in your life. I just shared with a dear friend who is also waiting on confirmation of a job that waiting is not standing still. While waiting for the Lord we are to be busy with preparing ourselves for the next adventure He leads us to, we are to focus on drawing closer to the Lord, and we are also supposed to share with others the good news of Christ.

I agree with you that your oldest daughter needs a room of her own. If not a room at lest a space that is set aside that is just hers. A place where she can "chill" and not have to worry about her younger sister crashing in on. It is important for her to be able to pull aside and do "big" girl things that little sisters cramp.

This is probably going to be a busy weekend for everyone so I am wishing you all a good weekend.

Dore

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All: Today I thanked my old boss and told him some of my reasons for needing a job and some of the things I've been overcoming. I was so blessed by that job, and when I had Salina they all stopped over to see her during work and brought gifts and pizza and the girls attended my shower. I thanked him for the opportunity to work as I go to school. I felt it would help to explain my reasons for being so bold as to ask for the position once offered to me.

I've been watching a storm pass over us. It doesn't look so bad. They said it was going to be going south of us, towards Chicago, so we are just getting a touch of it.

Sean told me this morning that he planted the new day lillies. There are 2 colors, but I didn't see the purple ones. This is the first time the clematis bloomed though and they are really full of blossoms. Hoping he'll get Quickbooks today. He had a job to finish he said he'd get paid for today and it is more than enough to buy the program. I need to work day and night to get caught up. Hopefully I am able to get things ready for the meeting with No Worker Left Behind. In the meantime, I'm trusting this all in the Lord's hands, and believing He has a plan.

I also left the guy a message for the other job that I didn't get and since he works for an Employment group asked for him to give me tips on revising my resume if necessary.

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ALL: I just applied for another job as an Executive Assistant at my doctor's office. I have the credentials I think. We will see. In the meantime, it is in God's hands. Now to get us something to eat before it is Destini's bedtime! I didn't realize I would have to download my resume, then fill out an application, then fill out a survey. It took a long time. Oh well, perhaps this is the one.

Jo: Thanks for the beautiful song. I love Laura Story.

I'd better go before we all starve! Just kidding. My girls aren't complaining at all.

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Dearest Dore: I NEVER look at your words of encouragement as rambling! All the advice I get from you girls is so directly from God! He put you all in my life for such a time as this! You are all my Esther! :-) Those words were absolutely PERFECT! Salina has been thanking the Lord, but I reminded her of that after I read your post. She has been feeling the stress of being a teenager sharing a room with a 3 year old. I need to do something about it somehow with what I have in the house.

Today, I got rejected by both of the job searches, but that's OK. I have a plan which was there in the beginning, and I'm preparing myself for the future search that I will have to perform when I get done with school and during school. I'm just going to have to trust the Lord for the rest of it. There is no other option. I remember the last time my old boss promised me that I could work for him. I worked for 2 years and then got pregnant, and couldn't decide, although they were giving me a really great offer. I had decided to stay home with my daughter. I somewhat regret that decision. I knew Sean wasn't trustworthy then in my heart, but I SO badly wanted to be home with my little baby. I'd waited 6 years. It was a hard time, but the LORD is my source. He provides, and I need to trust Him in this. IN the meantime...He keeps loving me with my flowers blooming in my perrenial garden, with the positive feedback from my old boss, with providing me with the opportunity to continue to strengthen my body, and with the bills being paid...even if they are late...so we can stay here...for now.

God is in control. I'm going to send out that resume to the hospital that I wanted to work in, and my own doctor's office. I'm going to continue to put my name out there, and update my resume all along, as I continue my education. I'm going to keep trusting Him for a vehicle. In the meantime, He is loving me by providing for some clothes that will work in the office, and with new planner pages that should come any day. :-)

I finally got my exercises in. It is time to rest. I'm going to take a day before I reply to my old boss. He is a really kind person, and has still offered me temporary work. I am going to take it if they still offer it to me. I emailed the person he told me to. I'm hoping they will pay me well.

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Good afternoon all,

Jo - sounds like you are having wonderful weather. We will only make the mid-70's today but then the warmer temps are headed our way. Thank you for sharing your chapel service. It is just too easy to lose sight of walking with Christ. Emotions were given to us for a reason but they were never meant to run our lives. My middle daughter calls emotions drama starters. She tends to be very even keeled and gets just really annoyed when people allow their emotions to dictate their lives. (This means she is often annoyed with her older sister.) God's Word tells us that we are not to walk by sight but by the Word of God. It is so important to daily stay in the word so that God can direct our paths. I am currently doing a study in Psalm 119. Rich, and full of the benefits of living in God's Word.

Elaine - I understand how relaxing a good view out your kitchen window can be. My window looks out on fields and then in the distance the Sawtooth Mountains. Even now they are still covered in snow. I get to watch as the earth comes alive in the spring, the beauty of the fall colors, and the majesty of those mountains. It is one of my favorite spots to talk to the Lord.

Like Jo - I caution about getting ahead of the Lord. Your dream could very well be from the Lord but it could also be the deep desire of your heart influences yours dreams. Wait on Him. He never makes a mistake and He will always lead in the way you should go.

I cried when I read how your oldest daughter is so concerned about money. While I don't believe in lying to children or hiding things from them, I do believe that they don't need to know everything. I encourage you to build up her trust in the Lord by showing her that God takes care of His children. Be careful though to make sure that you don't paint a picture of a God who gives us what we want. Often God's answers to prayer are not what we want. To demonstrate my point my oldest daughter just learned a very important lesson.

You know that they were living in a tent because there were not any house to rent. There were some qualifiers though. They have a dog and several of the places didn't rent to animals owners. They were not willing to get rid of the dog. So they moved into the tent. A house came open. It belongs the grandmother of DSL best friend. Because of possible complications in that relationship, DD did not want to rent or move into that house. But after having been separated from her daughter for 5 wks she gave in and they began to move. Up to this point several other homes had opened up but were not what DD wanted and she refused to move into them. One night while her husband and some friends were loading the larger furniture into their pickup, she was sitting in the cab of the truck. She says she distinctly heard the Lord ask her why He should bless her with what she wants when she has not been thankful for what she has. She told me that God gave her a gentle smack down that night. When I took Aurora home I noticed a huge difference in her attitude. God does not always answer our prayers according to our plans. He always does what is best for us and will bring Him glory.

Take care to build in your daughter the knowledge that no matter what the circumstance may look like, her God and Savior will always take care of her and that she can always trust Him. ALWAYS.

Well I have rambled on long enough. I am doing well today and am thankful for all that God has blessed me with.

God bless dear friends.
Dore

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Jo: I hope you get a thank you from your dgd. My dad once corrected me about telling my oldest daughter to say "Thank you" in front of him, saying he hated that when he was a kid, but I told him that I was glad he and mom did it to me, and it is SO important. You are such an inspiration in choosing to eat things for ME, rather than what everyone else is eating.

I really appreciated you sharing that teaching. I think it is vital when dealing with rejection during a job search. I got my first response today from the job posted by an employment center I once used. The pay rate was so good because it was for someone with a degree in Engineering, which the ad I had read did NOT include that, but I sent my resume anyway.

My oldest worries about money alot because of dh. It has been such a blessing to keep my focus on 2 Pet 1:3, "He has given us everything we need for life and godliness." I HAD to use that scripture several times to calm her fears. Her dad puts us off all the time and after promising thousands of dollars coming in, we found out not only that that money was NOT coming in, but that (thankfully he is paying the mortgage today though) he was receiving loans from people to keep his business running. I HATE borrowing money from people, especially family. I am beginning to HATE borrowing money period. I just need to remember that God is my source, not Sean, and keep focus on His promises. As I do, it will continue to ease my daughters' fears. Meanwhile, I am looking for work, as well as getting ready for school.

I'm so tired right now. I meant to get to my physical therapy exercises this morning, but I cleaned all morning and I'm glad I did, but I haven't exercised yet. I think it will help get me going again. Part of me wants to sleep. Last night I was so tired I just sat there, not motivated at all. I didn't even pay attention to the girls' bedtime. I need to not let Sean's negative words change me for the worst. I am determined to build myself back up today.

I let Salina have the morning off from helping with the list, but as soon as I asked her to clean the back porch, she tackled that, and she also cleaned the bunny cages in the basement and put 3 of the bunnies outside, which will make a huge difference.

What a beautiful perrenial garden I have this year! I praise God for it, because I have NOT tended to it much. It is the first year I had clematis flowers, a deep purple, and day lillies, a bright yellow and my mini rose vine is flurishing. It is right out the window from where I wash my dishes. I'm so thankful for Jesus! It is just like a loving God that moves His creation in such a way to build me up in such a tough time.

God will help us all to find the answers we are looking for if we diligently seek Him. :-)

Got to go get my water in and exercise.

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GOOD MORNING, ALL: Well, it IS still morning for 10 more minutes. The whole gang arrived yesterday afternoon, as expected. They had good driving weather so I'm thankful for a safe journey for them! I had prepared a great meal of ham, scalloped potatoes and broccoli. It was hard, after cooking all afternoon, to not partake, but I had one tiny bite of ham, just to taste it (it was really delicious!) and then my mango tea while they ate and enjoyed the meal. Even the little kids cleaned their plates! THAT is an accomplishment! Everyone had gotten up very early yesterday, so bedtimes came early. It was great sleeping weather with temps in the low 50s. Today is sunny but cool and very windy. The kids are in the lake anyway and Tom (our son) just took them in the ski boat to tube.

Dan and I went to chapel this morning and our dgs came with. He still wanted to go to his class, even though his sister elected to stay home with the parents and friends. I was surprised but glad....a little disappointed that our dgd did not go, too.

They brought both of their dogs but they dogs stay on the deck or in our shed. I don't think I could stand 3 dogs in the house. Cocoa can come inside (that is our dog) if she needs a break from the other two. But Shelby is driving me crazy, crying for the kids who are out on the boat. I may have to put her in the shed.

They CLAIM they have the boat fixed so Dan and I are going to take it out this afternoon to test drive it. But it is SO windy...I'd rather wait till later, hoping the wind will calm some. That lake is bigger and more choppy to begin with. I REALLY don't want to get caught without power in winds like these. One time last year, I had to jump in the lake fully clothed to keep us from running into other boats when the engine cut out. Do NOT want to do that today, thanks.

We finally got a note from our oldest dgd....she didn't say anything about the care package...hope she got it yesterday.

DORE: I'm proud of your focusing on eating healthy. Eventually, you will lose weight doing that, but you've got your eyes on the more important goal of good health.

ELAINE: Things do look hopeful but don't get too far ahead of yourself. Take one day at a time. If this all works out, you can praise God for that provision. If not, you can praise Him for whatever He DOES provide.

ALL: I wish you all could share chapel with me this week. The teaching is on Ecclesiastes and there is so much that relates to all the "stuff" we all are going through and learning. I was especially thinking of you, Elaine. Today the emphasis was on the poise of spiritual maturity and how we cannot go through life merely "responding" to circumstances, but just like a pilot who is forced to ignore his feelings and all of his physical senses, when engulfed by a cloud bank, and rely ONLY on his instrument panel (or he could easily fly his plane straight into the ground) WE...must learn to ignore our emotions/feelings, even reasoning and only follow GOD'S WORD. He gave the example of Christ, as He continued to minister even as he hung dying on the cross. How short I fall from His example. It is so easy for me to see when OTHERS are letting their emotions guide them, but not so easy to see it in myself. Jo

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Dore: It looks like you are in the most difficult leg of your journey, where you are disciplining your body to eat the best things for it and watching closely. I will pray for you there. It can be hard, but if you look to the future of relief for your legs, and feeling all over better because your insulin is in balance, you will not only lose weight but think much more clearly.

I'm up early with the girls still sleeping. Salina got too much sun again yesterday. Destini was just up too late. I was exhausted too. Perhaps tennis took more out of me plus the idea of returning to work. The classes that I would take will be harder than what I planned to take IF the business offered me the position again, but I believe I can do it with some help from friends, and tutors if necessary. I am thrilled that the lab started because I was testing programs exclusively at first.

I had a dream last night that I got the scholarship that allowed me $1,000 to purchase a laptop, plus enough to cover the rest of my tuition and books! Hoping that one is from the Lord. :-)

Time to go eat breakfast and get started with my physical therapy workout.

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Afternoon all,

Elaine - prayers headed to heaven for you. It does look as though you have some very promising doors opening for you. Often when God opens the door it is in ways we would not believe. Keep trusting dear friend.

It has been a good day. I awoke early, got some things done and then was a good girl and took a nap. This got me off of my feet and it also helps to keep the swelling down. The temps. were down by a good 10 degrees today. I don't tolerate heat well and so am very thankful for the change in the temps.

Doing well with the foods right now. Struggled really bad last night with cravings but when I added up my calories I found that I had not eaten enough so had a nice veggie plate for a snack.

Keeping you all in my prayers.
Dore

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Today we walked to the tennis courts and played for 45 minutes (we actually try to hit it back and forth at least 3 times...we'll get better. We're mostly doing it for fun and exercise.

Anyway, I not only inquired about the temporary work that IS available, I also offered my old boss a deal where I would take any major they thought necessary to improve the department I was running at the time if they could use someone to do this on a permanent basis. I took from our phone conversation that the lab I helped to start is still there and I asked him if they made it more technical, and he said something about a testing position and so I decided to try. I know the company is VERY careful about hiring ANYONE, but this is a position that I've been offered before, and the only reason I didn't take it and run with it is I was newly pregnant with Salina and wanted so badly to stay home with her. NOW it is not an option.

I am praying that I would have favor! I really am built up that he even remembers me! :-)

Anyway, I cheated today because my wonderful Salina made peanut butter cookies and left them out on the counter. I planned to have only one...but I believe I should have put them away as soon as I saw them, because I felt the weakness coming on!

Pray for favor...I would love to get back to work and most of the old crew are still there. I am also praying for a salary right off. They were going to offer me $30K in 1998 with no degree and very little computer experience, so now I will ask for more, but also I'm hoping to go back to school for whatever they feel is necessary.

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Jo: Thanks for the advice. She is doing really great...she made lunch and helped with cleaning most of the day, so this afternoon she entertained her sister and was trying to make Goo. I'm not sure where she got this experiment but she wanted to share it with Destini. Unfortunately, she used a funnel provided in the kit and set it down in front of Destini and said, "Don't touch this". A few minutes later, she caught Destini sucking on it. After bawling both of them out, calling the doctor and the poison control, I assured both of them they were OK, and I was not mad at them. Salina will have to only do those kit type experiments with me present. YIKES! What a scare it was! Poison control and the doctor's office both told me we did the right thing in rinsing her mouth for 15 minutes (I know I might sound crazy here, but that's what it says on the container, so we did it). She said her mouth doesn't hurt, so we're OK. Salina was very upset but is doing better. They are both playing outside. She is really learning a great deal about keeping house. I'm determined to purchase a dishwasher once I get a decent job. I also want to schedule some Momma-daughter time, and some Sailna-friends time at least once a month.

I have my cover letter and resume turned in to the proper people. Here's another thing that seems like God opened the doors for this: I was calling around to seek permission to continue to use some old references, and one of them was the employment agency that is listing the job! This agency got me really close to a job with a place where they build schools in poor countries as a ministry. It was a choice between me and one other girl. I loved all the people there. She had experience and I didn't working for a Christian office. Anyway, the man in charge of this job has my resume.

Just (while typing this post) got a call from one of my old references that I asked permission to continue to use his name and he told me to call one of the guys I used to work for, because he could use me to test programs! I asked if it was permanent and he said no, but at least I could do this while I'm going to school, or possibly if it was something they would send me to school for (and offer me something permanent), I'd redirect my career and go to school for it. This business is owned by a Christian family. It was started 100 years ago as a man who wanted to be a minister was seeking God. He and his wife were led to have a truck to bring food to the poor. He has been so blessed with his business that he has EXCELLENT plans/profit sharing for employees and he runs a multi-billion dollar debt free food distribution business! I would love to get in their full-time. They are within walking distance for me! :-) I had not thought they would hire me after so long, plus I left to take care of my oldest daughter when she was 1! They remember me! IF I could get in there permanent with fair enough pay, I would take it. I am able to stick a certain amount in a savings there called "company notes" which the company matches, and NO money would come home! God is so good. He is strengthening my confidence! :-)

The other day Sean told me I was "anal". I HATE that word! I try to keep Destini on a sleep schedule because without it, she is a real grouch. He was home on Saturday and wanted to sit down with me at 9 at night (not Destini's bedtime) but I told him we had church the next day, Destini was up late the night before with growing pains and I went to put her to bed. She stayed up to see the fireflies but I took her to bed. He would have her up to midnight just to entertain him. I don't think it's bad to do that sometimes, but because she was having problems the night before, and because he was home, she missed her nap, I had to make a choice. Then, she still was having a hard time sleeping so I gave her bananas and honey which the book "Foods That Heal" says to give children to help them get to sleep. He complained that the bananas were not ripe enough and it was bad for her. I disagreed and he said he didn't understand why a person who was so anal about sleep times would feed her green bananas. I told him it was because I didn't have a car to purchase fresh produce when I need to so there wasn't much choice. He just seems to go out of his way to try to tear me down, but God is right there to strengthen me again! I am so blessed to have God to be my source! He is so much bigger than any of this mess with Sean.

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Hi all,

I have scanned over the postings and want to say from the bottom of my heart a big thank you for both your prayers and concerns over my legs. I have finished with the course of antibiotics and there is a marked difference in the color of my legs. I know that the antibiotics were supposed to be for a bladder infection but I have noticed that other smaller things have cleared up too. Probably all side affects of carrying around the infection for so long. I had no idea that it was going on. I have found it very hard to wrap my legs as requested by the Dr. but I am taking at least 5 breaks through out the day to lay down for 20 min. and get my feet up. Last night as Mike was rubbing hand lotion on my legs he said he could actually see normal colored skin so I take that as a good sign. I don't go back to the Dr. until July 11th so won't know what she has to say but I feel like I am making progress.

As for the diet or food being eaten. One of the first things I did was to start writing down what I ate. Once I had an eye opening idea of how much I consumed, I cut way back and cut out the "junk" foods that I was eating. I also began to drink more water. I can't really go shopping for a bigger variety of foods until Mike gets paid but I am making wiser choices with what is in the house.

Now that Aurora is home with her parents and I have made the requested visit to the other daughter, and the calendar seems to be empty for the next few weeks, I am concentrating on getting a routine down that will work for me. Choosing more fruits and veggies is number 1 on my list. I am such a bread and potato person that sometimes without thinking they are some of the first things I grab. When I can shop I will get more fresh foods in the house. I know that it is important to have the right tools on hand to be successful at this.

I am thankful for the chance to make the right choices and reverse this situation that I have created. I am thankful that it was caught in time for me to be able to do this. I am thankful that the Lord does not give up on us and will help me make these choices every single day. I am thankful for you all and the support you continue to send my way. God has been so good to me and He continues to be good.

Temps here are in the low 90's but because of living in the desert, the night time temps are down in the 50's allowing the house to cool off and letting me get some things done before the house heats up.

Hope you all have a great week. Starting today I will stay on top of posting and will be able to be an active part of the team again.

Dore

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Good afternoon, ladies, I have been feeling so up and down lately, don't know if it is due to the weather or the disappointment of trying to sell this house.

Jo, It sounds like your grand children are enjoying themselves despite the issues with the boat. There may be a lesson in that for me.
I know I need to try to take my focus off of this house not selling. I feel like I am making excuses for enjoying my life in the here and now because of this and I know that is not what God wants. I just don't know how not to feel depressed and let it go.

Elaine, make sure your cover letter for your resume looks great. You need to get their attention and let them know that you are the person they are looking for. There are lots of examples on line but takes so much time.

I almost wish it were fall again because teaching school would help me take my mind off of things, but that will be here soon enough and I need to learn to enjoy the moment.

Have a great day, ladies,

Mary

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MARY: I really do hope that you and Dave can just relax together this weekend and REST in what God has in store for you. The sermon I heard yesterday was a good reminder that we each get caught up in "the prosperity gospel" that is so prevalent in our society, even when we don't really think we believe that. By that, I mean that there is this underlying urge to believe that when we have "faith" and are doing our best to live correctly and in a way pleasing to God, that all will go well in our lives here on earth. We heard some startling examples of how that is not correct (including, of course, JOB) and also some of the why behind that. Having that wrong thinking sets us up for big disappointment and doubts when pain and suffering come our way.

ELAINE: I know you are excited about starting a new job and you are proud that Salina is doing such a good job with Destini.....but just be careful to not expect too much of Salina. I think it is fine that you are asking her to help but she needs to really KNOW that you are in this with her and not abandoning the household to her.

This may be totally unfair to Sean, but what if he doesn't come through with a car for you? Have you considered asking at your church if there is anyone who might donate a car for your use? I know our church has gotten used cars from people to give to others who are in need. My mom did that in FL....a young, single mom needed transportation and my donated the car to her through the church. Just a thought.

JANS: Praying for strength and stamina and good health for you as you wind up your trip to Russia this time. I know what it is like to have your heart in two places. It is hard!! But I also know that you are trusting God to do what He wants to accomplish, using you two as instruments. That is my desire, too.

ALL: yesterday was a very busy day with the grandkids. Dan played golf so I was on my own taking them to chapel. I was worried I'd have trouble getting dgs to go to his classroom but he did fine. They both enjoyed the program and I enjoyed the speaker in adult chapel. We visited a few friends afterward and then had to check on the boat. It was not docked where it was supposed to be so I stopped by the boat shop to see what was up. They are still having issues with the motor! This is the pontoon boat that never got working all last summer. They assured us they had it fixed this spring. Well, when they put it in, it wouldn't run correctly....AGAIN. ugh!'

I really don't know what to do about this stupid boat. Anyway, we had lunch and then took the kids out in the ski boat and they jumped in the water, climbed back in the boat and jumped back in the water as fast as they could, over and over again. In the late afternoon, they watched some tv and played some Wii with Dan while I burned some brush in our fire pit. It wasn't good for them to be there with me b/c the kind of stuff that was burning had more floating ashes. Dh fixed their dinner and after dinner we took them to the carnival at the camp. They had a great time there. We came home and made cards to send to their sister at her camp and then went to bed. I followed them right to bed and I'm certain I was asleep by 9:30! Jo

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All: I have to get to bed, but thought I'd just check in and say that I was able to make it (late) to the resume building class, and I updated my resume tonight and emailed it to the lady running the class (she asked me to and said she'd look at it). Wouldn't it be GREAT if this was the answer I'd been waiting for? I'm just trusting He has the perfect answer! In the meantime, I'm getting some great resume writing experience. Updating it helps me to see how marketable I really am. The neat thing is, that I have to apply using a head hunter organization for technical jobs. We'll see how it goes.

Salina is doing really well with keeping up with Destini, now I just have to get the rest of the chores caught up with her. I think my first purchase will be a dishwasher so she can keep up.

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Good afternoon, everyone,

I am exhausted from the weekend and then running Dave to Green Bay to catch a flight to D.C. yesterday. Today, I am taking it easy.

Tim started his apprenticeship position today which meant getting to bed early and up early. I pray this works out well for him.

Jo, it is gray, gloomy and looks like rain today, which is aiding me in wanting to stay inside and take it easy. With all the rain we have had lately, I am sure there are many mosquitoes out on a day like today. Hope the sun peeks out here, too. Almost done with the outdoor projects, yard and house look great. Looking forward to a long weekend and hopefully can relax with Dave a bit as we have been working like dogs.

Elaine, it would be nice if you could get a job without going to school but either way, you are forging ahead in trying to make positive changes and that is a good thing. I will pray for God's will as it is always best. Please keep us posted.

Jan, can't believe you have less than 3 weeks left, time has just been flying by!

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ELAINE: I will join you in praying that this job will be the RIGHt one for you, OR that God will provide the perfect scenario for you to be able to support yourself and your girls while giving them adequate care and supervision. I'm so glad you have had encouragement from folks like the widow you spoke of. I think too often we make up our minds what WE want and then expect God to agree with us. While He tells us to ask for what we think we need, I believe we need to be open to what HE sees is best for us and so that is how I will pray for you. I am confident that that is the attitude you want to have; total trust in His plan for you and the girls.

ALL: I actually SEE sunshine this morning...WAHOOO! I'm taking the kids to chapel this morning. Theirs is sort of like VBS so they should have fun. But the dgs doesn't like going alone so wish me luck on leaving him.

Then we will head to the TeePee where I'll get coffee and meet up with friends from each summer. Dan is playing golf this morning.

Guess I'd better get up and get going!! Jo

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All: While we waited for Sean to come back with the van yesterday, I did a job search just to see what I could apply for prior to getting my education. I found a job, unrelated to the education I was seeking, but related to all of my experience AND my former education! It pays well, too. Now, on Monday, I'm going to the No Worker Left Behind office to take a resume class to improve my resume. I have experience in it as well, and I really liked that aspect of the job. If I get it I will ask for top pay based on my education, experience and the fact that it is a perfect fit! BUT, I leave it all in the Lord's hands. If I got this job, I would not have to go to school at all. I'd be set. It would be more than I've made in my life, although unfortunately, NOT more than I COULD have made if the attorneys had hired me in 1991...but that is in the past. Today is a totally new day, my neck is new, and my body is feeling better than it has in a long time. :-) I have not even inquired yet, because I want to glean all I can with the resume class, but it looks so awesome! To be working right now instead of attending school, and being able to utilize my old degree and new skills all in one...it is not what I expected...but I DID expect God to come through. A widow (who's now early 90's and looks beautiful by the way) once told me that God provides for her in such a wonderful way since her husband passed away. She is amazed by His awesome love for her as a widow, and she pointed out that when my husband leaves me without, the Lord will provide in that awesome way too! I believe that with all my heart.

I have to go help Salina with the dishes, but wanted to share this and ask you to agree with me for top pay, and also a career that seems tailor made for me.

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Jo: That is priceless! I hope to be there for my grandchildren like that some day. My daughters don't have that priviledge, but I have faith that I will be able to be there for their children. I pray all the time for their future husbands and that I will be able to be a good mom-in-law to them and be able to encourage their relationships, and their children too.

Sean called to talk to me about getting a $2500 card with my name on it for his business! I told him I was not putting my name on anything when he doesn't talk to me about any large purchases, nor does he consider me when he buys things. He doesn't even discuss anything with me. I might be able to talk to him about my girls if I'm lucky. He slams me for making purchases of groceries and clothing (not high-end clothing by any means...I might go to the mall once or twice a year) and goes out for Thai food for lunch. Salina made him a lunch the other day to save money. He thanked her, but doesn't make himself one the next day. We were supposed to have the van to go to the store and library this morning but he probably won't be back because he wants to punish me. I am so tired of being used, confined, ignored, and told I'm not entitled to any imput because he is bringing in the money. He's home late every night, and even yesterday when he was home, he played a board game with Salina and then spent the rest of the evening on the phone outside where no one could hear. I don't trust him. I'm starting to get a headache, so I need to go pray about all this. Please pray with me that the Lord will provide a car for me to get a job. I think I might need to separate from him or he might just leave any day, and I need to be able to make sure I can support the girls. They don't have any stability as it is NOW. I will not do anything unless I am secure in the fact that they are going to be cared for by me because his parents would lend him money to have the upper hand and I might loose them. He won't take any time to talk about things. I continue to pray for wisdom and He helps me every day. :-( I'm tired today...need strength from Him too.

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ALL: I awoke to a deluge again! I'm getting ready to make pancakes for the kids and dh. Last night we had a fire in the fireplace and roasted marshmallows while it poured outside. I made the kids take turns...one at a time...so I could supervise and make sure that no flaming marshmallows left the fireplace and entered the living room!! :-)

We had a bowling tournament on Wii and I actually tried it and did OK. :-)

Today I'm taking my dgd (the 12 year old) into town to try to find some craft projects for the younger ones. I'm a bit worried about more days of rain with not enough to occupy them.

Yesterday the older dgd and I had a very special time together. I won't go into the specifics, but I felt privileged to be able to share a very special even with her. I'm so grateful for the relationship we have. I hope when she looks back (when she is an adult) that she will be grateful for it as well. Jo

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I have a full day but just want to thank you for reminding me to take an inventory of what I am thankful for. I have to run to the store and get a few things and take the girls to the library and we only have a few hours before SEan has to take the van again. My head isn't hurting as bad today. I figured it out. We had a flood in our basement a while back, and though Salina and I cleaned it as much as we could using a wet/dry vac (I was still recovering so she did the bulk of it) we did not take any of the stuff off the shelf in the storage room that was hit. I told Sean and he didn't even remember (he never came home that day to help or inspect it). Anyway, we had 2 different times the toilet ran over into the basement and neither time did we have any help from him. I confronted him about it this morning and I'm leaving it alone after that. I just don't feel like I can count on him. I'm going to research what I can do, which I am guessing means we have to get some really good lighting and shine it back there to see if there is any mold and then bleach it or something, but I am severely allergic to mold and so it will mean masks and periodic fresh air stops. It is also heavy lifting so Salina and I will do what we can, but I'm not sure how far we will get. If I can't get it done, I'm going to ask at church. I think Salina and I will not have so many headaches. Her bunnies are down in the basement, so she's been getting headaches too.

Well, my day will be full...hope your's is better.

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Gratitude is so very important. We may do things wrong but it is so important to be thankful.
In my bible I have a bookmark with the verse. Phil 4:6. Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need and THANK HIM for ALL he has done.
I agree we are all learning it is better to thank Him and to complain about things.

Jo I am glad the weather is allowing you to enjoy time with grandkids. I look forward to some time with mine when I get home. They say it has been raining lots this year. I hope it clears by the time we get home. The week we arrive home is my 60th birthday. Also it is our local community festival of the summer called Venetian. Tons of people flood the town. My sister from Detroit area and her family have rented a cottage on the lake. They are planning a picnic there. I look forward to seeing everyone. Venetian is a great time to connect with people I have not seen in a while. Many activities in the park and a big parade. Then of course fireworks.

Elaine I am glad you have a new computer. That is such a gift. It will come in handy for all those school lesson you will have. Remember allow God to direct your steps. It seems He is opening doors for your schooling. Do not worry if you do not have a job right away. You will have plenty to do with school work and being a mother. Try not to overload yourself and lose ground you have gained on your healthy control with adding extra stress. Remember balance in all things.

Mary I am so glad they like the house. Now we pray that the Lord will take that to an "I love the house" and an offer will come. But again we know all things in His timing and for His purpose.

One of the things we discussed last night is there is a difference between conviction and condemnation for a Christian.
Condemnation is the Words from satan that tell you how bad you are. It causes you to be pushed away and doubt God. It pushes you downward into hopelessness.
Conviction is the nudging from the Holy Spirit in you that makes you aware when you are doing something against the Lord or His Word. It drives you toward the Lord seeking forgiveness and desire to change. It renews your hope.
Both hurt when they come. One leads to the loving arms of the father the other leads you to the world and what it may offer to sooth the pain.

This all started by John 1:11-13. All were familiar with these verses but know and believing are so different. I am so thankful the Holy Spirit gave me words to share with these ladies.

We meet every Friday and I had a busy week. My lesson is usually only about 30-40 minutes. Which actually means about 15-20 on my part because of translation. Add discussion and it gets less.
I have a folder I call "teaching". In it I keep things that come to me via others or study that hit a mark and are good references. The past few weeks I have referred to some of them and pulled them up for discussion. The one that the Holy Spirit kept bringing to my mind this week was one called "Who am I?" It lists 5 or 6 qualities of who we are in Christ. We only got through the first two...Child of God and Friend of God.
I stand in awe of what the Lord has put in me and how He brings it out during teachings. I need to take time to reflect on His words more often.
This week I woke early a few mornings and used the time to find a verse and journal about it. I used to study the Bible that way all the time. I want to start putting that back in my life.

Well my day is beginning, the house is quiet. We have a day off from work projects, no one is coming to use the office today, Our bedroom is the office for our friends ministry (it is her home we stay in). Her staff comes during the week so no sleep in days for us until Sat or Sun (church does not start until 12:30). Not that we have time for them anyway.

Tonight the women from the church meet here at 5:00. I lead the Bible study and Pastor's wife Zhenya does the music and prayer time. So now while it is quiet I will prepare for that lesson and see what the Lord has in store for tonight. My plan is to complete a study on the attitude of our mind. But we shall see where it goes.

Dore how are you doing? How are your legs? I pray for healing and strength and wisdom to to all you need to do. We miss you.

Have a blessed evening all



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Yikes, Dave's flight to Green Bay got canceled and they are flying him to Marquette which is 3 1/2 hours in the other direction from Green Bay but 1 1/2 hours for me. I must go retrieve him but his car is in Green Bay! He will be flying out of Green Bay again Sunday morning so I will have to bring him there as well, such is life!

I still need to get to the store when I get home from picking him up. Make breakfast bakes for 30 people and then have them ready for 6:30 in the morning!

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Mary & Jo: Good food for thought for sure! I'm sure that as I dwell on the verse that God "has given" me everything I need for life and Godliness, I need to rest in Him as well, but also make sure I thank Him daily. My girls have less anxiety about everything we're needing because I share that scripture. Destini, of course, has none anyway, declaring that we will be buying a blue car, she is sure of it! :-)

Mary: I hope they buy your house and you have great success in the sale...exactly what you want, and maybe even more. :-)

Jan: I wish I could be there for those bible studies. I would LOVE to hear, and learn about what the women were struggling with or what they said. Do any of us REALLY grasp how much this Great and Mighty God loves us? Wow, we really DO have SOOOO much to be thankful for!

All: This headache is trying to hang on, but I was able to clean my living room, and re-order my planner pages (I keep getting the wrong ones for some reason). ANYWAY, I also loaded my printer software on this new computer. It is working so well so far. What a blessing it is!

I was going to apply for jobs today but the ones I thought didn't need college did. Oh well, I'm going to apply after the first semester. In the meantime, I'm going to try to get a job somewhere and I'm going to keep applying for scholarships whereever I can. Also I'm going to a class to help me update my resume and utilize my experience.

We will see how I do. What is relieving is that I have seen the Lord's favor work before, and I know He will go before me and pave a way.

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Jo, you hit it right on the head, GRATITUDE! That is what every one of us should have!

I just heard from the realtor. I guess the couple really liked our home. Their only concern was that our basement ceiling is low but she said that it did not stop them from keeping our house on their favorites list. I am thankful for the feed back and I let the realtor know that.

Jan, three weeks is going to fly by quickly. I can't believe it is almost the 4th of July!

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Hi all I just wanted to stop by before bed.
Good news is the scale moved downward today 1 kg which is about 2#.
Bad news is I did not have time to eat properly before Bible study. We got home from the work project about 20 min before group. In fact 2 ladies were already here. During our study Dale made fresh donuts for the ladies to have with tea after. I ate more than my share before I realized what I was doing and the damage it was. After he ladies left I had a cabbage salad and some left over chicken. I hope it did not mess me up too bad. My exercise today was helping Dale with sorting and labeling cabinet pieces. Lots of bending and lifting.

We had an awesome anointed Bible study tonight. It was a great discussion on being a child of God and a friend of God. It is a short study on Who am I?
One woman in our group is struggling with alcohol. She has been a strong Christian in the past but life has pulled her down. She opened up a lot tonight. We discussed how there is a difference between the sin and the sinner. God loves the sinner but hates the sin. And that God still loves her. She needs to turn around and seek Him. We pray for her deliverance.
Several in the group have a hard time grasping the reality of God's love for them. It was a powerful discussion and I praise God for the words that came to me.
I put the study together quickly from some notes and thought it would be a short discussion. God had other plans. We will continue and go deeper next week.
Only three weeks left before we head back to the states. There is so much to do. I am not going to stress out about food now. But I am trying to be aware what goes in my mouth. I will not have much control over what is served for lunch this next week because we will be a Pastor's home working. Mostly it will be veggie soup. A low cost meal.
Have a great weekend and I will try to check in sometime in the next few days.


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ALL: I am finding that true gratitude is the answer to many of my "issues". I can see that all of you are learning that same lesson. May God give us the eyes to see and the heart to truly BE grateful for ALL He has done for us!! Jo


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Good morning, ladies,

I was feeling really depressed yesterday because I didn't hear anything back on the house showing. I wish the realtors would be more considerate about leaving comments for people whose houses they are showing. It would be great if they would take a clip board with them during the showing and leave something for the seller upon leaving. I don't think it is right that I have to contact my realtor and then she has to contact whoever had shown it and then get back to me. I would rather show it myself. I have to try not to let this all get to me but it is frustrating.

Jo, glad you made it safely to the cabin and that you made it through the cookie temptations. Making it through the little things will add up to big results and good habits as your are seeing. I need to follow your lead. Yes, it is challenging having to watch the little ones and still relax, isn't it? I had coffee with a friend last night who had finally had it with watching her grandchildren and finally told her daughter, "no". I know that you are wise enough to set limits on that and having your grand children is a joy rather than a chore. We had the down pours here as well but looks like we will finally have a break for the weekend. Good thing because it is looking like a rain forest around here.

Jan, wow, fruit is expensive where you are. We are just getting the first strawberries from our garden and they are so good. So fortunate to have fresh fruit right in our yard. We also have strawberry farms here where you can pick your own.

Elaine, I think that God really wants us to learn something through all of the trials we experience, big and small. He wants us to turn to him in everything, disappointments and joys and to trust him and I need to remember that. Today, I was thinking that I need to be more thankful because God is providing. He has provided us with a beautiful home and yes, we are trying to sell it, but he has also provided a way for my husband to continue to work without moving at the moment and I have to continue to trust that. He has also answered my prayers for Tim to have an employment and training opportunity. I think I need to focus on what I have and be thankful rather than dwelling and getting depressed about things I have no control over. It seems like your circumstances are different but similar. God is providing for you like he is for me, just not the way we are wanting it, but we should be very thankful.

I read a church sign on the way into town that said, "At the end of the day will you be saying, I'm glad I did or I wish I had." Today is all we have, ladies, At the end of the day, I want to be celebrating the fact that I made the right choices.

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Jan: A doctor once told me that we need to burn more calories than we consume and we'll lose weight, and to remember that ratio and I will lose weight. So, if you have a meal that is higher in calories, then is it possible to take a long walk with Dale after? Also, possibly the treck to the store was a bit much with the weight you had to get back and uphill with, but it might have offset that. I hope so. I know how busy you are. It is a tremendous challenge you are facing, but I pray you will find ways to burn calories so as to continue to be the vessel I know you and Dale are.

Jo: GREAT job resisting those cookies and the dough! I need to be doing the same. Destini's birthday is coming up and I've decided to make her cake to save money. I'm going to stay away from it too.

Mary: Last night was an example of how little I get to practice hospitality. Friends came over with a new computer...which I'm using right now with no rebooting...praise God! Anyway, they came at dinner time, and we had a roast cooking all day...but it wasn't enough for them. They ended up buying food, and having to buy toilet paper because I had asked Sean to get us some, and he did, but didn't tell me and even when I called him to ask him when he was going to get some, he didn't tell me it was on the back porch (he didn't bring it in). Anyway, they were happy to do it, but it was depressing. I really see how little I've been living. God is bringing me out of this oppression, though, between my body being restricted because of the pain I was in, and my husband's lack of consideration.

Dore: How are you? Are you adjusting well to eating different? I know you can do it. We are all moving in the same direction and though it's hard, sometimes typing out your feelings with eating helps, and for me, dealing with problems helps because I use food to deal with emotional issues if I don't.

All: I have a terrible sinus headache this morning. I took an allergy pill...actually I hadn't until I typed this...so now it should feel better. Boy did it hit me hard this morning! Please pray it goes away with me. I'm having a hard time thinking straight and I want to get so much done now that my computer is working.

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JANS: I certainly DO understand cultural dictates. I guess I was thinking that the fruits/veggies from local gardens would be cheaper than manufactured things (like the chocolates). Don't know why as they certainly are not here. And it IS important to not offend anyone, but especially those to whom you are trying to introduce Christ to!!

The way you handled last night was great and I know if you keep moving in that direction you will see results even BEFORE you return to Michigan. It just makes it a bit harder on you to pass up the sweets in your home.

I know how hard that is. Just before we left, I baked 8 doz. chocolate chip cookies for the firehouse (where my son works) without even licking my fingers or a spoon or bowl once! It was really hard, especially when there were a few cookies that didn't fit in the tin to take to the guys. My dh and grandchildren finished them off (oh and the dog helped herself to a couple as well!) but it took a few hours and it was really hard for me not to cave in and have one. But I survived!!

MARY: It always FEELS wonderful to have a really neat and clean home. I'm praying that your kids will really chip in to keep it that way so some of the pressure is off of you. When the real estate market was really bad in 1982, we had to sell a home and my dh had already left for his new job. That left me alone with two small children for 2 months trying to sell a home on a small cul-de-sac with 13 of 20 homes for sale. I can totally relate to what you are experiencing right now.

ELAINE: Praying for God to give you wisdom and strength to do what you need for your kids and what would please HIM at the same time.

ALL: We made it safely to the cabin yesterday. The first 8 hours went fine but then at Rochester, NY very HEAVY downpours began and the driving was treacherous and very tense. After 3 more hours of that, we arrived. THANK YOU, LORD!! And thank you to any who prayed for us. I was grateful that Dan got a good night's sleep on Tues. night, b/c I was worried about his falling asleep. whew! So we are here and even with rain and dark clouds the kids are having a good time. The rain has stopped for a few moments and they are out on the dock fishing with Dan. Dgs has already fallen in once and then had to GO in once to retrieve an object he dropped into the lake. sigh. Just part of having kids there :-) Jo

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We had another young couple from church over for dinner tonight. It was great fellowship. We are enjoying the one on one time with people.
I did prepare a fairly healthy meal tonight. We did a pork roast in the pressure cooker. I made two different salads. One was a Russian salad of cabbage, corn and mayonnaise. The other was a good toss salad. Leaf lettuce is now available in the markets. Dale made killer potatoes but I only ate a small amount. When asked are you sure that is all you want I said yes. I also made a fruit plate with fresh watermelon, fresh strawberries, kiwi, and canned pineapple. They loved it.
Today I walked to the market about 3/4 mile away. I bought too much food. Meat, cheese, bread, sour cream, veggies and fruit. I ended up carrying about 15-20lbs back uphill. That was dumb. I usually have someone along and we share the load.
This is the first strawberries of the season and I just bought and did not think about cost. When I got home I figures they were about $7lb. yikes I will not waste any and I will not be buying too many of them.
Actually I made this great meal. Our translator arrived on time but no guests. After they were half hour late we called to see if there was a problem and their was. Originally we planned for them to come on Tuesday But then found out the guy that was cutting cabinets for us was only available on Tues night, I asked one of my translators to see if we could cancel Tuesday and make it on Thursday. I guess somewhere in translation she did not hear Thursday and just told them to cancel Tuesday. But the Lord worked it all out. After the phone call they quickly came over and were here in an hour. The evening moved ahead as planned.
Mary still praying that just the right person will come to buy your home....quickly.

Well it is now bedtime so will talk to you all later.



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Good morning, ladies,

Now that my house is actually completely clean inside, I would like to work on keeping it that way instead of cramming to clean. It's just that I had been spending so much time outdoors that inside got neglected a bit. I probably won't hear from the realtor for a few days about comments unless whoever viewed the house is serious and wants to make an offer. It is prime time for showing right now and I just want to be ready for those showings and hoping my family will cooperate.

It has been raining for days and I am going to pick up a new sump pump today for Dave to install when he comes home. Our other one is old and sometimes sticks on and sometimes you have to rattle it to come on and I do not need a flooded basement nor does anyone who may purchase the house. I want to buy one with a battery back up as well. Hopefully, the place where I am going will be of some assistance in picking one out.

Jan, it is amazing how different cultures can be. Amazing how the simple things like fruit can be so expensive and the junk food is cheaper, just like the U.S., it is cheaper to eat junk food than nutritious food, which is sad but worth it. You are probably best to focus on portions right now and will be able to make healthier choices when you return the states.

I got up way too early this morning but the good thing is that I can always take a nap later. I will be cooking breakfast Saturday morning for Christina's pony club camp. I will be cooking for 30 so need to decide what to make. I guess I will have a helper. I am thinking of some breakfast bakes.

I hope you all have a great day!

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HI ladies this is just a quick check in. I did not do as well today as I would have liked to.
We were invited to dinner at the home of a young couple from church. They live in one room. She cooked borsch for dinner on a hot plate. She also make some type of Ukraine cookie desert. She served it with Nestles hot coco that she brought back from a recent trip to America.
She is from Ukraine and he is from here in Russia. She was in Sacramento studying and is now done. They have only been married less than a year.

I ate the food prepared. It was what they could provide. One meal off plan is not as big a deal as refusing the food would be.
Jo I understand what you are saying about explaining to friends and serving fruits or something else but you need to know the culture. Most people cannot afford to serve fruits. They are expensive here. At women's group we do usually have bananas cut in smaller pieces. A cake is not expensive and it goes a long way. Chocolates are a customary gift to take when you go as a guest to someone. People are changing but it will be a very long time for that to happen. Like the dinner tonight they gave the best they could. I have seen people go without so they could serve a sweet treat to a guest. I have been on the receiving end of that and it is very humbling.

For now I figure when others are not involved I will do my best to control what goes in my mouth. But until we get back to the states I will have some meals that do not fit plan.

Well need to get to bed it is late here.
Tomorrow evening we have guests coming here for dinner. I plan two types of salads. One is cabbage and corn and the other is tossed salad (if I find lettuce at the market tomorrow.). There will be a meat of some sort depending on the deals of the day and potatoes. Maybe even some frozen veggies.
We have a watermelon for desert or maybe a small scoop of ice cream.

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Ladies, I hate to get my hopes up but we have a house showing tomorrow at 4:00. I am very excited. Please pray for this!

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Elaine, I am one of those people who do thrive on lists. I make one every night for the next day and check the things off that I get done and the rest goes on to the next day. I know that can overwhelm some people but I feel writing things down and acknowledging my accomplishments makes me feel good about getting things done. As for working or going to school, I would really pray about it. If you have the ability to go to school and have it paid for, it would be great if you could get a degree, you can always get a job that doesn't require one but you can get a better one with a degree.

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Mary: No rain here but I think it might rain tomorrow. It is, however really humid. I'm glad you're feeling better. I find it is hard to be motivated at times, too, especially when dh gives me a hard time for every penny I spend (well, not THAT bad, but it feels like it when he doesn't even consider me when he makes a purchase). But anyway, when I have those challenges, I start making lists. Do those help you, or overwhelm you? Some people thrive with them while others who (in my opinion) are miracle workers, can do things in their head, and are naturally organized. Anyway, I find if I check a bunch of things off my list even though I feel like going back to bed, I can feel better about myself. I have a friend, though who that would send her to a funny farm. She is a perfectionist and lists stress her out. Her husband is a planner like me, and we both LOVE to make lists. She helped me to understand not everyone is like that. Her husband tried to help her because she was feeling overwhelmed and made a list for each of the kids and her and it worked for the kids but she was totally stressed. He had to facilitate the lists with the kids too.

All: Once again dh went through everything I purchased and told me I am to blame for the bank account being overdrawn. I did some research (went over every purchase) and it doesn't make me feel guilty (I know nothing was unnecessary) just confirms that I need to go back to work. He is not providing anything for clothes at all, and not enough for groceries. BUT, God had a plan. My friend came over and I went along for her to do some errands. While we were at Target she gave me $100 and said I could NOT buy anything for the girls. I burst into tears. I was so embarassed because we were in the store! I had to tell her about Sean's being hard on me. If it's there, I'm going to start sticking some money in an envelope. Though all my purchases were acknowledged by him, he wrote several large checks to a guy working for him, as well as moving him into that house (the other guy moved out that was there). This whole thing is nuts.

Though I don't have a car, I will be still putting my resume out there. He can drop me off the first few weeks and pick me up if necessary.

I meet with the case manager for No Worker Left Behind on 7/7 at 10AM, hopefully they will tell me they have enough for me to pay for the rest of my college (pray that I don't have to take out any loans). I am looking forward to moving that along. I also saw a few jobs that don't require a college education at the place where my daughters and I currently go to the doctor. I'm going to at least apply there and pray for favor. God has a plan...I am not as full of anxiety as I was before. Salina can watch Destini. It is so nice to have that.

Its TTOM, but the scale still looked good yesterday (210). Usually I see an increase in weight at this time, so perhaps that means the scale will be even less than before the next time I can weigh...not this Friday but next.

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It's raining, it's pouring and I wish I were snoring! I really just want to crawl back in bed. It is supposed to rain for the next several days. I hope I can muster up the motivation to get something done inside the house while I wait for the sun to peak out. Christina is at Pony Club camp at the fairgrounds for the week and Dave is in Iowa so the house is rather quiet but that's okay.

Elaine, I am sure that God will provide an adequate amount for you to take your college classes. Are you going to pursue a particular degree? Thank you for your prayers, I am feeling better today. I know the stress of our situation is affecting my health. I really wish I could just let of things and let God, but my focus tends to remain on selling this house and I am just letting myself get depressed over it, trying not to, but not doing so good.

Hope you all have a great day!

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Mary: I hope you feel better soon! I am glad to be able to send you this instant get well greeting. I hope it encourages you even though your body is weak.

Dore: I hope your legs are doing OK. I hope you find it is just something where stretching or getting active will remedy it.

Jan: It is awesome all the produce you're having. I think Jo is right. I had some of the most unique and wonderful pastries in Syberia, but I'm sure now they would be horrible. I was only 25 at the time...I will be 45 this year...YIKES! It's been a long time.

Jo: I am so encouraged not only by your success, but your confession on here. It helps me think..."how am I doing?" too. I think, what was my day like? Did I also give in? When I ask these questions I seem to stay away from the junk more. I am encouraged within, but only because you all allow me to sort out all this mess I'm going through on here. Otherwise, it would be food I'd be seeking for help. I agree dhs are pretty dense to weight issues. Mine attempted to bring me a candy bar today. :( But, I can rejoice that I turned him down on that one. :)

Well, I weighed myself before I jumped in the shower this morning and I am back down to 210, so perhaps I'll lose even more this week! I'm not officially changing the ticker until Friday. I did my heavier weights with my physical therapy today.

All: Please pray I will get an abundance of scholarships. I filled out 10 of them today. I also emailed my information to the case manager at No Worker Left Behind, along with my scholarship search information. I can also get money for a computer for school from one of them. That would be perfect! But, the Lord has already provided for everything in my heart. I just know He is in this. I will let you know how it goes. Please pray for favor, provision and strength with me.

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ALL: Thank you all for your congrats and encouragement, but what I discovered from being here for YEARS without getting anywhere, is that the motivation has to come from within. Others can encourage and inspire, but the desire has to come from deep within b/c it is just too hard to be motivated from the outside. I'm not sure what finally clicked in my head/heart. Maybe it was the hope that this process would not, once again, cripple my already slow metabolism. I"m not really certain of why I was able to reach down and change. Maybe it was finally the acceptance that there is a spiritual element to this AND that I will never again be that 30-something that can be cavalier about what I eat and when. It is probably a combination of all the above and more.

Please don't think you all haven't been a help....you HAVE!! In so many ways I can't even tell you, but I know it takes more than that. It takes a level of honesty with ourselves that is harder to achieve than I know I was willing to admit for many years.
Time will tell how WELL I have learned this lesson. I'm praying it is for life.

MARY: I'm sorry to hear you were sick. Hope the sickness is fading quickly.

JANS: I think you need to explain to your Russian friends that you need their help and understanding when it comes to "tea time" and fee them healthy treats, now that you can get fresh produce. You will be doing them all a favor whether they realize it or not. And don't be too hard on Dale. Men are just naturally "dense" when it comes to these things. My dh gets it more b/c he had to change his eating habits b/c of severe health issues.

DORE: Waiting to hear about your legs. Hope you get some good answers.

ELAINE: Hope you have a great day with the girls, get a lot accomplished and are able to eat in a healthy way. Jo

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Good morning, everyone,

I ended up being sick in bed most of the weekend. I got a headache and sore throat on Friday night and was hoping it was allergies, but then the aches and pains came on Saturday and Sunday. I really did not spend much time with Dave and now he is gone again. Christina got home late last night and leaves tomorrow for another week.

Well, ladies, it sounds like we are all wanting to get serious when it comes to taking off this weight. I am so glad that we are on this journey together.

Jo, congratulations on your success, hoping that it will motivate us all!

Have a great day, ladies!

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I had a few changes in my plans today so was not able to totally follow the menu I set up. Breakfast was on track and I ate what I planned for lunch at dinner. I ended up going shopping with Pastor and dh for materials for the Pastor's new kitchen. Since it turned in to a bigger project than expected we ate lunch at a Chinese restaurant. It was buffet so I tried to choose the veggie dishes and chicken and did portion control. I did give in to some sweet and sour chicken.
I have not cut the watermelon yet. That will be for Tuesday evening when we have guests. But I have been enjoying the fresh tomatoes and sweet cherries.
I guess walking around all the shops counts for some walking. And last night I did get better sleep.
So I would say day one of my new goals is a success. Praise God.

Jo you are doing amazingly well. I find when I loose enough that people start to comment I get puffed up and get off track. I need to work on that one. But first I need to get to that point. One step at a time. Glad you made it through the day but sorry about the shoes. I hate when my feet hurt.
Elaine good job on refusing the cheesecake. Raspberries are so tasty.

Mary hope your garden is doing well. I am sure you will enjoy those fresh veggies when they come.

Dore how is your leg doing? Are you making some menus to follow?

Well I think I am going to bed early tonight. It is only 8:30 and I am already tired. I want to wait a little longer then think I will curl up with a book in bed.

I have been feeling a little out of sorts today. I seem to be having some pains in my neck again. Too much computer again I think so need to back off a little.
The desk I have to work at here is not the right level and it uses different muscles to sit at it. I can feel it in my shoulders and neck and clavicle area.
I am not sure I will have time to check in tomorrow. We have a young couple coming from church. I may have told you one of our outreaches this year is to fellowship with the young couples from church. Each week we have had a couple over for a meal and fellowship. It is a chance for us to encourage them and pray for them. So far it has been fun and they have really liked the idea.
Only 4wks left. It is going fast. Lots to do but we are trying to pace ourselves.
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All: I agree with Jan & Jo, that I really could NOT do ANY of the things I am doing without this group! I believe we were brought together for a purpose: to get healthy (yes, lose weight, but NOT muscle, and NOT by starving ourselves). To develop good habits, resist temptation, and work hard to build our temples to be used by a Mightly God.

Jan: I had this thought the other day, that we are to flee from temptation. When I feel tempted, I ask my kids to remove their really yummy snacks left over. I tell them that they are tempting me. It has helped so far.

Jo: I had a medium glass of rootbeer float today...and another cup of root beer (about 1 1/2 cups) justifying that it was my daughter's sweet effort to honor her dad on Father's day. After reading your post that your apple was like Eve. I was soooo trying to make excuses! I NEED to remember that my goal is to lose 70 pounds total! To get back to the weight I was when I got pregnant for Destini, I will have to shoot for 160, but I'd like to be within my healthy range of about 125-150, maybe about 140. In the meantime, I'm learning alot.

Tonight I skipped the cheesecake with raspberries and finished off the raspberries instead.

Well. got to run and finish putting the drawers of Destini's dresser back. I managed to get all the clothes out of them that she doesn't fit in, and tomorrow I'm going to get the rest of the laundry done & put away in there. The girls are doing great at taking care of their room. We SO need a vaccum, though. Every time I get one it goes to a house for a job for Sean's work and comes home really dirty and usually ends up broken or missing parts.

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JANS: I agree with all that you said...I have the same struggles. HOW can our faith be so strong in some areas and so weak in other? I think it is b/c we underestimate Satan. He knows our weak areas well and works hard to deceive us about the REAL battle. God wasn't kidding when He warned us to be on the alert ALL the time, in every way.

I'm down about 45 lbs. now, from my high point ( over a year ago) and people are noticing. That feels good and yet, b/c I'm still not even close to happy about where I am (for an end point), it makes me sad that I was THAT far PAST this. But that is truth and I need to face it. So I thank them for the compliment and try to use it to encourage (rather than discourage) myself toward more hard work.

Although I fit into that dress I mentioned last time, it was still snug. I hadn't sat in it when I tried it on. I was a bit uncomfortable yesterday but managed. My shoes, however, were a different matter. They felt fine when I tried them on, but OH MY GOODNESS! They were part acrylic....and girls...don't EVER buy shoes like that. They don't give a micro-milimeter. They felt fine for a short time but as I stood or walked and my feet wanted to spread a bit, those shoes didn't budge. I finally took them off at the reception and even walked to the car in my bare feet. ugh.
They are headed off to good will b/c I never want to be that uncomfortable while dressed up again.

But we survived the day and had a good time with many friends and family. Today we are taking an older couple to lunch after church and then our kids/grandkids will come mid-afternoon to honor their dad. Nothing big...just a little gathering here.

Tomorrow will be laundry and packing after coffee with a friend/neighbor for a last visit before I leave for the summer. Can't WAIT to get to NY!! Jo

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Jo your day sounds like a whirlwind. I hope it went well.

Today at church I was praying about my weight loss. I realized sometimes I want more from others. My husband recently prayed for one of the women we know here. She is having a problem with alcohol. He told her he would pray every day for her to be delivered from this.
I wondered why he does not pray for my weight loss like that. But then I remember he has. When I ask him to pray again about this he says I have prayed now you need to make the choice to do something about it. Not the answer I wanted to hear but he is right. I know he prays for me daily and asks God to give me the strength I need.
I prayed Lord I want someone to walk this walk with me. Someone that understands and will hold me accountable. Then in that still small voice he reminded me He has given me someone....this group on the Daily Thread. You are all walking this walk together. We have been a group for so very long and know each other well. I think we share things here we would not share in other places. God has given us each other to encourage and uphold.
Thank you all for being here. I need this group and I need to take time to post and set goals. This battle seems so big at times. A few night ago as we talked about the Battle belongs to the Lord I knew He gave it to me for a reason. Will I ever fully trust Him with it?
It is time to stop making excuses and being lazy about this battle. I need to do my part and trust the Lord to do His. It would be a miracle if I had the faith to cast off the weight and have it happen instantly. But my faith is too small. His faith is big and with His strength and friends like you this can happen.

New week new goals.
Today I set up menus for a couple days. I want to do this each evening if possible.
Today I bought a watermellon.
Today I bought some fresh fruits and veggies So with this in mind I plan to eat more fruits and veggies.
Today we walked home from church. I want to walk more.
Tonight I checked in here. I want to try to do that at least 4 times this week or more.
Tonight I want to get to bed earlier and start getting better sleep.

Victory today was I did not have chocolate or cookies.
Have a good Father's day all.



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ALL: The thing that really hit me this morning as I read over the posts is how much God is working in this little group and how WE can SEE His hand reaching down and taking ours through the various journeys He has set us on. We all have been here for several years and just think what he has brought us through, as a group, in those years!! It really is astounding. MARY: Tim's apprenticeship is truly an answer to our prayers. I hope you can GENTLY make that point without it seeming to be preaching to him....(that is rarely fruitful imho). God really DOES love him and is providing for him, reaching out to him b/c God always draws us....it is never the other way around.

I really struggled yesterday and ended up eating an extra apple last evening. What an idiot! I need to concentrate on my gratitude and forget what I can't have.
I'm working so hard at this...WHY would I sabatoge it for an apple? (Sound familiar???.....as in EVE????)

Today is going to be a marathon. A wedding at 2:30, go directly to my son's house to change clothes, then to a park for a group birthday party they have for children of several families whose kids have summer birthdays and have trouble having individual parties b/c of vacations, etc., then back to his house to change clothes again, and then to wedding number 2 and then to that reception. whew!! I'm tired just thinking about it!! The good news is that I got into a dress that I haven't worn for years....I just hope I didn't wear it to the sister's wedding years ago. Well, if I did, I'm guessing no on will remember, it was so long ago. :-) Jo

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Boy a lot of posting has gone on since I last checked in. You are all an encouragement to me. I need some motivation to get on track and I need to set some new goals. Goals I can live with while here in Russia.

Cutting or at least limiting bread may be one way. Also fresh veggies are starting to come in season. It is easy to buy them now. I just need to get in the habit of preparing them. Dale is doing lots of cooking and he just does not seem to get it that I need to eat differently.
I will work on some new goals this next week. One will be to post more often.

Mary it is so awesome Tim got the position. I am sure that will be a blessing and give him much needed encouragement.

Elaine I will come into agreement with you that the Lord will provide.

Dore I can relate to the "need" to loose vs the want to loose. I am in the need place because my bp is going up again. Perhaps we can encourage each other.

Jo good job on the bike riding. I am considering getting my bike out again once we get stateside. I have to go to the nearest bike path because we live on top of a big hill and our neighborhood is not bike riding friendly.

Our time is going so fast here. I need to get a newsletter out. I have part of it written but it seems every time I plan to work on it something comes up. I need to get photos posted to the Picassa page and website. This week Dale will be working at the workshop with a couple of the guys. My help will not be needed. I am hoping to catch up on some computer work and maybe go souvenir shopping.

Last night our ladies Bible study was wonderful. I did not know what to teach on in the morning. But the Lord put "the battle belongs to the Lord" before me. When I went to read it in context I found an awesome story of encouragement. 2 Chronicles 20. If you have some time read it. You will be blessed with so many wonderful promises.
We ended the evening in Isaiah 41:13. A promise from God that he would take our hand and help us. I gave an example by reaching out and taking the right hand of one of the ladies in my right hand. I said this is what God wants to do this is His promise sealed as if with a handshake. She began to weep. Another woman shared as story of an experience that very morning. It seems she has a picture hanging in her hallway. It was a gift and has been there a long time. She had not paid much attention to it. But that morning her attention was drawn to the picture. It was a hand reaching down from heaven. She said the Lord showed her it was him reaching down to take her and and walk through life with her. She said this is the same as you are now reading. It was His promise confirmed. Awesome testimony.

We had family ministry at church tonight and it was good. There was a lot of discussion I missed because the translator was having a hard time keeping up. This is when I wish I knew the language better. Tomorrow Dale will preach in Sunday service.

Enough of my ramblings. It is bedtime here. Have a blessed weekend all.



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Good afternoon, ladies,

I have some great news to share! Tim got in the apprenticeship program! He starts on June 27th. This is paid apprenticeship position where he will get his CDL, his welding certificate and heavy equipment operator license. He is so excited and I wanted to thank you all for your prayers! This is a wonderful opportunity set before him.

Dore, I have the attitude that you do right now. I don't just want to do this, I NEED to do this. I am choosing to eat healthy carbs so I am eliminating the sugars and junk food. Last week, when I really got started with things, I felt crabby and irritable because I had been eating so many of the bad carbs and I really think I went through withdrawl from them, but once you get them out of your system, you feel better and crave them less, and I am finding that this week. Have you ever tried the Spark tracker? They go by calories and once you get the foods in that you normally eat, it is so simple to use. They even have a tutorial.

Elaine, the progesterone cream that I have, I can't start until 12 days after the start of my period, then I take it for 14 days and so on, so I haven't started it yet, but it would be great if it would contribute to weight loss.

I have a sore throat and I pray it is from allergies and not something else.

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Good day all,

Thank you all for your support. It has meant so much to me. I acknowledge that my condition is one of my own making - so in the reverse it means that I can correct it. I do know that some of this will remain a life long project. I can never be cavalier again about what I eat and my lack of exercise. So instead of whining and becoming disheartened, I have chosen to fight back. Couple this with today's devotion and something from a book by Charles Colson and I know that I can do this.

Deuteronomy 30:15, 19.

See, I have set before thee this day life and good, and death and evil; I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and they seed may live.

While I realize that God was speaking to the nation of Israel, I can see that we each must make this choice in our life. Every day I have a choice about the foods that I eat. From now on the choice will be a choice life or continue in the same way that I have been going and end my life early. I choose to obey the Lord and choose life.

I started today eating a low-carb diet. Since I LOVE bread and potatoes, I know that cutting those types of food will help. Along with that I am counting my calories. This worked before and I know it will work again. It is just being consistent and faithful to what I know works.

Elaine - you appear to be making some positive choices and seeing the benefits of those choices. Hang in there and you will be able to see more. Our families can be such good motivators.

Mary - keeping Tim in my prayers.

Jo - thank you for your encouragement and support. You are a light on dark paths.

Have a great weekend everyone.

Dore

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Mary: We will pray with you for Tim. I know he is making some better choices. We are standing with you. I pray you will have the wisdom and strength to encourage him as I know you are not giving up on him. :-)

So far I've lost one pound for every day that I have been using progesterone cream. I'm also working harder as well.

Jo: I am having some of the same issues, with trying to get in the good low calories. I'm going to have a salad with grilled chicken for lunch. It helps that Salina cooks. She knows I am really a stickler now about her making sure that healthy options come in for meals, rather than a fast easy fix. Some day I will be getting out the bike again. That will be a start. We've been walking as much as possible though.

Dore: The season you had with your granddaughter is past, and you now can redirect your focus on your health. I am not familiar with a diabetic diet, but like my mom used to say, "It's what you get used to". Forming the habit of that lifestyle we all need to adhere to will take time and a vested effort to chart what we eat, how we feel that day and pray pray pray. Every day I thank God when I've lost a pound. He is helping me through some tremendous obstacles, but He is giving me wisdom and strength...something I get from you and everyone on here when I post. I hope you'll post regularly, and let us know how you are doing...the ups and downs of your journey. For me, I am so determined to find the lifestyle that keeps me healthy and around for my youngest. Every day when I get up, she is right by my side, reminding me that no matter how things look, I have a "destiny". She is my little destiny of being a mom at 40. I will be exactly 40 years older than her on her birthday July 10th. That means when she graduates from high school, she will be 17-18, and I will be 57 - 58. My mother died when she was 55. She was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was just turning 50. I miss her terribly. I am determined to be healthy.

All: I'm going to post today's weight finally. My highest weight after January's surgery was 217. Today after finally seeing a change in the scale, it is 210. The scale didn't even change until I started avoiding dairy and wheat diligently and using the progesterone cream. I'm hoping to see a marked improvement when I go to the surgeon next time in July. I am Also, I was denied Medicaid because I don't have the tax information. Please pray for the following: that Sean would pay the retainer fee to the accountant so she can do our taxes, and that Sean would find a work van so I will have a vehicle to drive to work. If the tax information is in, I can get doctor care from Health Intervention Services. If the tax money comes in, I will get a car from that money if Sean is still using our van. It is time to tackle the financial mess and take care of the girls. Also pray I can get more help from Michigan Works.

Elaine

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Jo, my heart just breaks when it comes to Tim. He doesn't always want to hear about God. I know he is still on the wrong path and I don't have control over his choices. I just keep praying for him and asking God to guide and protect him. Who would have thought it would be so hard to be a parent.

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MARY: I know that you'd need wisdom about when or how to say this to Tim, but maybe the right time will come where you can gently remind him that he HAS a purpose; one that is greater than any other that man can give him, and that is to honor and glorify God in all that he does, whether in a career or with his friends or interacting with strangers. No one can take that away from us and that, in itself, gives each human incalculable worth.

And you should give that ride a try, MARY.....it is easier than you think to ride 17 miles, especially with others if they are not going too fast. If you needed to drop out at some point, just make sure you know your way back.....or get one of the riders to commit to staying with you. They usually take turns doing that. It is a great motivator to have others to ride with! And congrats on the weight loss this week...you are ON TRACK!!

DORE: So glad to hear from you! I'm sorry to learn about the medical challenges you are facing but happy to know that much of what you will need to overcome them, you can find right here. And we will be your cheerleaders.

As a grandparent too, I know that tension between really enjoying the grandchildren and really being glad to send them home again :-) I know your dd and dsil are very grateful for your sacrificial loving care of Aurora these last several weeks.

ALL: I have not been very hungry on the vlcd this time around UNTIL today. I'm guessing it has to do with my activity this a.m. Then I forgot to get meat out to defrost so now I'm waiting. I need to weigh it unfrozen and raw before cooking. I do have some veggies I can eat so i may have to do that before I cook the meat.

I really am hungry and would LOVE to just go eat a bunch of cottage cheese. NOT on the list. :-( Jo

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Dore, thankfully, you have allowed this shake up to motivate, rather than discourage, you. When you look at many of the physical ailments we are all suffering from, many of them can be alleviated or lessened with weight loss. I, am with you on this, as I am no longer going to postpone taking care of myself. I am going to quit making excuses and exceptions. We know we can do this, we have done it before. We know that God wants us to be healthy and we know that by taking care of ourselves we will be following his will for our lives and that he will help us when we call on him. I know how much you love your grand daughter but I am thankful that now you will be able to focus on yourself.

We are still waiting to find out if Tim will get this apprenticeship or not. He seems to be feeling depressed and discouraged and could really use a purpose.



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Good afternoon all,

Ladies - I haven't gone back and read the posts. I will a bit later but did want to let you know that while some very challenging things have been taking place in my life I am really doing okay.

I had a Dr. appointment this past Monday and was faced with a very big reality check. My blood sugars are out of control. I have no choice now but get myself back on track and get my eating under control. Second I have a very severe bladder infection. I have had absolutely no symptoms. The Dr. said I was very close to being septic. This infection explains things like no energy and just a over all lousy feeling. Then due to both the blood sugars and weight, I have a serious condition with my lower legs. Finally, she is checking my thyroid. SOOOO - I must face the music and get things back in order and do what has to be done.

Surprisingly, other than just complete disappointment in myself - I am actually motivated to get things balanced again and doing the right things for my health. I know that it is not going to be easy but I am committed to this now that I have "proof" that it must be done. Silly I know, but it seems to have driven me to the place I need to be.

On another note - I will be taking little Aurora home to her parents next week. Her parents have found a home and are moving in this week. She has been with us for 4 wks. She is very ready to go home. And while I love her to death - I am also ready for her to go home. I guess I have gotten used to this quiet life style.

I promise I will get caught up on what has been happening in all over your lives.

Praying for you all to have a great day.

Dore

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Jo: First of all, AWESOME riding this morning! I don't know anything about gears...I suppose I'd need to read up on it or ask someone at the bike shop. I'm impressed with your knowledge...wish I knew more.

I am praying for Sean, but he continues to say crazy things...which doesn't sway me from praying for him. I tried to talk to him about spending money on a riding lawn mower we didn't need when we needed him to find transportation and to purchase Quickbooks, which costs $100 less than the unnecessary riding lawn mower. It's been half a year since I've had something to drive, but now I need to get a job. He also wants to buy more stuff to plant outside without fixing our ceiling fans that only work as fans or lights, and only if he re-wires them, and it has been 5 years. He was so cold with me that I felt the hate towards me from him, and it was unsettling, so I walked away and just cried for a while, later giving it to the Lord and praying for him, thanking the Lord for the verse that He gives me everything for life, and godliness, so I am trusting Him for a car. He has already given me a computer. A guy who works for Best Buy in the geek squad is putting one together for me. I am so excited to see it. I simply need something that doesn't reboot randomly in the middle of something.

Anyway, he came in, and stood in the doorway. I asked if he had something to ask me, and he said he was worried about me. I said what for, and he said because I was so unreasonable. I left it alone. I have to wonder how in the past I let this all get twisted & I would wonder if he isn't right. In the meantime, I continue to believe God can soften his heart towards me and grow into the man of God I know he could be.

I got in a great workout this morning. If I continue to watch what I eat and use the progesterone cream, I will continue to lose. I lost 6 pounds so far since the last time I weighed in at the doctor's office. Pounds have come off a pound at a time the last week. At first I was frustrated, but I knew I'd eaten terrible so I am starting to focus better. The girls are eating pancakes so I am going to make a salad with grilled chicken seasoned with lemon.

It is rainy but we will still walk so the dog can get some exercise. She broke her leash while I was typing this and fortunately the neighbor told me the dog was on the front porch, because though my window faces the front porch, I didn't even see her.

The online courses are from a reputable university in town. They are a well-known business college. I have taken a day seminar from them and a few computer courses. I've never taken an online course before though, so I'm a bit nervous with the unknown, but the man I talked to at admissions said he really liked the online courses and said at our age as long as we know something about computers, we'll do fine.

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Good morning, ladies,

It is cold and gray and gloomy and raining but we need the rain. The forecast is for weather in the 60's and 70's for the next 10 days, perfect weather for me. I am done with my perennial beds and vegetable garden, now I can slow the pace. I am getting a massage today. I lost 3.4 pounds this week at WW, so encouraging.

Jo, what an awesome bike ride! The gal that I have been walking with owns a bike shop with her husband. A group of riders do a 17 or 22 mile ride every Tuesday night in the summer. She has been encouraging me but I told her I would need to actually get on my bike and start riding and conditioning before I would ever attempt that. I am happy with walking for now.

Elaine, I have had both good and bad experiences with online classes with my home schooling. I did not like some of the content with some of the online classes and also found that if your kids tend to procrastinate, especially in the older grades, you end up doing a lot of policing, you may not have time with taking classes yourself, be careful what you put upon yourself. I went to college when I was a young mother and it was the busiest time of my life, but I did enjoy school and learning new things.



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GOOD MORNING!! It is 7:30 a.m. and I have already ridden my bike 10 miles!! I met with some ladies who regularly ride at 6 a.m. I held them back a bit but they were very gracious and checked back on me when I dropped too far behind. These are ladies from the group that rode from Cincinnati to Cleveland over Memorial Day weekend, so they are in GREAT shape and I'm barely getting out there. But it is so much more fun to ride with other folks! Well, I did fine on the flats but ANY incline set me way back. Part of the problem was my shifting. I'm still really learning my new bike but I learned a very important thing today which had been confusing me....I THOUGHT I had 3 gears on the left, but discovered there were only two...no wonder I was confused about what gear I was in all the time!! DUH!!! I'm sure the ladies got a big hoot out of that one. And as I said, doing this diet, I don't have a lot of excess energy, but it still felt good to be out there so I'm grateful they were kind. But I do feel a bit guilty. Maybe I can talk some of them into going to the bike trail for a more casual ride next week before we leave. Jo

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ELAINE: I just want to encourage you. You are doing so many things well. Reading the Bible with your kids is probably the best of those.

Be careful about the online school. Some are good; some are worthless. I'm not sure how you can know but I will ask a friend of mine who teaches online, how you might check that out.

I just prayed for you and the girls AND for Sean. The LORD is your provider and protector and deliverer. But He is also a healer and a reconciler. I prayed for all of that for you: physically, emotionally and mentally. God bless!

I also agree with you that your friend has some twisted thinking if she thinks God will be less displease with her cheating on her dh (or even considering it) than separating from him. If she is a Christian, you were right to warn her...you actually had a responsibility to do that. Good for you! Jo

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Just filled out another scholarship form, and emailed the Michigan Works program to ask if they could also help with the costs. It looks like I have more of it covered than I thought, even books. I'm praying for everything to be covered. God is in control.

Time to go read to the girls. We're in Deut. in reading through the bible. I'M learning so much throughout this reading through the bible with my girls.

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Another thing: my youngest is ready for Kindergarten, and so I'm going to get her a curriculum so she will have something to do while Salina and I are doing our school. I am sure she's ready, but I can't afford to send her to the school Salina goes to, so I have to wait another year but I figure she can learn at home. She told me every number on my phone by pointing at the buttons, knows almost all her alphabet, knows her shapes since last year, can cut with safety sizzors, could hold a pencil correctly since she was 2, can read words in short sentences, meets people by asking what their names are and telling them hers, knows all the colors of the rainbow, and pretty much can do what a Kindergartener would do. I am thankful Salina is still homeschooling next year because it gives me a chance to try this out at home so if she gets overwhelmed I will just pull back on some of it. I don't push anything with my kids. I want them to focus on their character more.

Anyway...so much going on...please pray for me! Elaine

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Mary: I am still struggling with avoiding wheat for some reason. I usually do so well, but today I simply had a hotdog (turkey, with no nitrates) but on a whole grain bun. It's great for the girls but not for me. After reading Jo's and your posts about resisting, I remember doing this before when I was eating mostly raw and having no problem knowing how this was for my health and so I can be there for my family. I lost sight, but I'm encouraged reading all your posts. I too have a big problem with chocolate, but the other day with the smores, I realized that the chocolate not only had milk, but was higher in calories, so I just had the mashmallows which had less calories.

Jo: I agree with the idea to reward Salina with helping her do something she loves! That's a great idea! She would like a notebook computer for school, but that doesn't give her life experiences, and time with friends. I'm already having her make a list of all the things she would love to do. I am determined to get my mind rethinking my response to food. Also, I am not sure what to think about Sean these days. I pray for him, and he seems to be around here and there, but he is pretty hard to talk to. Everything is approached with prayer now...I feel sometimes like there is no answer but I will not give up. I need your pep talks. They keep me grounded...thanks!


Jan: I am filling out more forms tonight. I hate the thought of loans, too, but I have to take online courses since I don't have much for help with the girls, and this university offers exactly the program I need for the job I'm pursuing. I've already got contacts at the hospital, so I'm going to apply as soon as Sean gets a work van. I emailed the financial aid office and asked for them to give me as many additional resources as I can shoot for. I'm currently writing an essay for another scholarship. Hopefully I'll get that too. I haven't looked into "No Worker Left Behind". We will see about that one.

Dore: I hope you are doing well. I know things are busy with a little one. She is SO blessed to have you and so are her parents! Hope things are coming together for them.

All: I met with a friend the other day. She shared some things with me that were similar to my own situation with Sean, but even worse. She loves kids but her husband doesn't want any. She works but he is on disability, and though he can still receive benefits and work, won't find a job...makes little effort, sits home and does laundry and eats, and she has to go out and find work. Then, he bought a truck and it was taken away. They've already been through one foreclosure and are facing problems again. He also has her running to those cash advance places and they got in hot water there too. I advised her to cling to the Lord, and not sign any more things until she's looked them over first. If he throws submitting at her, I reminded her that it is submission as unto the LORD, and the Lord doesn't contradict Himself. He would NOT want us to sign something we have no money to pay back. I've learned that with those mortgages I signed for. NEVER again. Anyway, she won't separate from him because she doesn't want to disappoint the Lord, but she's had temptations before to cheat on him. I advised her to find her worth in the LORD, not her husband. I sent it in an email. I'm PRAYING she'll take my advice. I am thankful to have heard God's voice through all of you and many others as I've gone through this, so I could give her advice. I told her I would not tell her what to do as far as separation, or anything, because she has to seek HARD the Lord for this. It is amazing that she could see herself cheating but not being separated because she wouldn't have anywhere to go. She has no kids. At this point, she could support herself if she needed to. God will show her if that is the path. In the meantime, she has been hurt by people yelling at her about both subjects (a pastor and his wife - both friends of mine) and they left the church...although I asked her to rethink why she was hurt...both times she was in their office seeking spiritual advice while her husband sat home on the couch, and then he had the nerve to say HE wanted to find another church! She was most likely crying because she NEEDED his support and to be there. BUT, I have faced so much in my own marriage, I encouraged her to seek the Lord before taking ANY advice, including mine. Please pray with me she won't be offended.

Elaine

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Good morning, ladies,

Jo, I had an experience similar to yours last night. I was invited out for a friend's birthday dinner at my favorite restaurant. I ordered a salad with a side of fresh fruit and had that instead of cake for desert. One of my friends gave me a hard time, saying, "Ann's birthday only comes around once a year, I can't believe you won't eat cake with us." I just told her that lots of things come around only once in a while and I have to quit making exceptions. It can be difficult watching others eat the junk that we would like to eat but I know as I continue to avoid it, things will become easier. Thank you for praying for Tim and the apprenticeship, we are hoping to hear something positive this week.

Jan, how encouraging to have someone you know have such a huge weight loss and featured in the WW magazine. It is motivating to hear about how others have achieved success. That is one of the pluses for me to go to the meetings. The weigh in also helps me to be accountable. Every program I follow, I make my own slight adjustments. I am able to do WW along with following advice from the Suzanne Somer's program. I know how hard it is with the sweets and that must be a huge challenge. I know they are a trigger for me but once I get them out of my system I tend to do better.

Well, ladies, I am going to get back to work and Jo, it is nice getting things done without having them messed up so quickly.

Have a great day, ladies!

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ALL: I think what we all KNOW is that the plan is not so important as the consistancy with our staying with it! There are exceptions around every corner if we think of it that way.....I know I waited until after the Ladies retreat to begin my very-low-calorie-phase again. And I WANTED to wait until after Hilton Head, too. But then soon after that was July 4 with the family at the lake, and several birthday celebrations and weddings and then more company and on and on..... There NEVER is a time without events that can distract us from our goals. But we have to DECIDE what we want most. I have been watching "EXTREME BODY MAKEOVER" and some of the coaching that goes on, I really think about. I struggled while in HIlton Head....with feeling left out and feeling sorry for myself, and each time, I reminded myself how FORTUNATE I am to be able to CHOOSE what I eat. I have grocery stores available to be able to find the fresh fruits and veggies that I need. I have a dh who is willing to cook for himself often while I am struggling to eat next to nothing. So it is a small sacrifice to watch my family scarf down M&Ms and Oreos and potato chips and eat out at great restaurants without participating. I MUST keep that frame of mind!!

I try to "treat myself" to my favorite fruits (raspberries and blackberries) as much as possible and fill in with others. It is easier now that they are in season. Thankfully, I love good apples and soon, they will be back in season. One thing that this severe regimen does for me is to force me to make LIVING about something other than food. I have found that to be easier than I thought. I still meet friends in restaurants. I just have coffee or tea while they eat. Most of them have dealt with weight issues so they understand. Older friends may be better at that than younger :-)

JAN...I especially understand how difficult the chocolate temptation is! I HATED seeing Milk Duds and Peanut M&Ms laying around all week. And when I was at WalMart yesterday, it was ALL I could do to walk by those Oreos without tearing into a bag. I think they are ON THE LIST for my next binge day or next "hour of freedom".

ELAINE: I'm glad you are taking steps to take care of yourself and the girls and yet I hope you will not stop trying to be the wife that God wants you to be. It must be terribly hard to keep trying when you feel as though you are getting no response. I will keep praying for God to give you the love of Christ for Sean, in spite of his meanness and deceit. I know I keep praying for Christ to keep offering love and forgiveness to my kids when HE is getting no response!

I wanted to ask you what things Salina was really interested in...things that make her joyful. I would be nice to reward her in those areas....not with things that cost money, but maybe looking into them on the net with her or spending some one on one time with her. She is such a helper and a giver.

MARY: I know you miss Dave and Christina when they are gone, but I also remember the relief/calm when I had less to deal with at home for short times. I hope you feel as if you and Tim get a lot accomplished as well as have some real quality time together. I hope that this chipping in on prep will make Tim feel more a part of the family again and give him that sense of being responsible and worthy.
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Hello ladies
Dore it is good to see you here even for a few minutes. I can understand the being tired after watching the little one. They take so much energy. I hope your legs will feel better soon.

Elaine it is good news you got things in order to begin college. Why are you taking a student loan if you got the grants to pay for everything or am I reading that wrong? Try to avoid the loans if possible they can weigh you down later on.

Jo it is good you are having a wonderful summer with family. Those times may take energy but focus on the blessings. The grandkids grow up too fast. It is your chance to be an influence in their lives.
Today I got an email from my granddaughter (almost 14) she sent a copy to me, Dale and pastor. She was asking for prayer for her friend that is a wicken. She said she can see the darkness pulling the friend down and this girl needs deliverance. My gd is strong in her faith and I think this is good she can see the effect on her friend and seek prayer for her.

Mary it is good Tim is willing to help you with those projects around the house.
I think you are making wise choices to get life in balance. You can do it.

I am not doing well eating wise. Our schedule does not work well for meal plans. However today I made an effort to buy some tomatoes for sandwiches and they had fresh black cherries. I bought some. I had apples for breakfast and peas for dinner. So I am working on the fruits and veggies.
One of the things we are doing this year is invite one young couple from the church to dinner each week. Tomorrow night we will have a couple I have known for several years. he is the drummer in the praise band. They have a little baby that is a year old. I think I am making lasagna but not sure. I need to get to the grocery store and see what is available. Each week it is different what is there.
Sweets seem to be a part of daily life with tea. Cookies and chocolates are always available. I have a dish of chocolates on the table and keep it refilled. The staff workers for Childrens Rights come here several days to work. They love tea breaks so the chocolate is there for them. Buttttt....yup I grab them too. I need to discipline myself to say no.

I will check out the Suzanne Somers website. It sounds like you are learning things I should check out.

Mary my friends son just lost 112lbs on WW. He was featured in this month WW magazine and TV commercial. Several friends are now encouraged and joined WW. I may check it out once we get back to the states.

Well this is long and I need to get back to the newsletter. I want it out this week.

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Elaine, progress not perfection. I went out for a birthday dinner with friends tonight and I had a Caesar salad and fruit, no cake and no bread. I have to stop making exceptions and tonight was a start. I am going to start using the progesterone cream again, too. I need to be consistent with everything!

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Mary: I am trying to do the things I've learned so far, but I did have wheat today again because Salina made pancakes for lunch. I tried eating turkey sausage with egg beaters (I haven't read everything yet, but my doctor told me to try them, and I bought a cheap version of them...and don't care for them...but they taste OK with the turkey sausage. Anyway, I was still hungry after that so I ate the first thing easily available. I need to end this sabatoage. Time to get tough with myself, and really focus on avoiding things I'm sensitive to such as wheat. I do feel better with the progesterone cream though. I seem to have more energy.

I am not going to be too hard on myself. I already got in my exercises and even got in the relaxation exercises for my shoulder. It's been pretty stiff and when I do these exercises (they're sort of like rocking your muscles to sleep. I move my shoulder gently as though I'm rocking a baby, and keep my eyes closed so I can concentrate. - nothing hokey). Anyway, I'm still watching what I eat.

A friend from out of town is here. She is just pulling in and we're going for a walk.

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Good morning, ladies,

It is a beautiful day and I just got Dave out the door for work this week and Christina will be gone to a horse rally until Sunday. Tim and I are planning to power spray the house and garages so that we can have them sprayed for spiders. Lots to do again, but hopefully the house will stay cleaner this week with two out!

Elaine, sounds like you had an awesome day with your family yesterday. You can go on Suzanne Somer's website and do a free 7-day trial of her eating plan. I am starting today. I totally agree with everything I am reading.

I hope you all have a great and motivated day!

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All: I had dh stop after church to the health food store the the progesterone cream. I feel better already. I'm also watching the foods that I eat, but not so severe as I had before...no detox diet or anything like that, just avoiding grains as much as possible, dairy some, and gluten as much as possible. When we did smores yesterday in the backyard (the girls and I) I didn't have anything but marshmallows and I just had 4 (the amount of 1 serving on the package). It was only 90 calories. The girls each had at least one, and Destini toasted her 1st marshmallow...carefully watched by mommy and Salina. :-) I also had her finger paint yesterday and then, after we sprayed down the little outdoor firepit real good, we went inside just in time for their dad to come home. He took both of them shopping. Salina had a project to create a miniature city for Destini for her birthday in July. She and her dad are doing it together. They were gone a long time. Once church was over today Destini was so tired, she was practically begging for a nap. She's still sleeping.

I am so fired up! We had a great service today. I was thinking of how much I wanted to reignite the flame for Jesus and how I felt like at times the cares of this world sapped me of my energy and my ability to really enjoy life. I have seen His provision over and over, and my goal is to focus on that. Anyway, my pastor's message was in Jude, and II Peter (well we're to read II Peter as our homework. We never have alter calls, but today he offered the opportunity to come for prayer to bring back that strength, fire and power that we felt we lost because this life had weighed us down. I reaaaally needed prayer for strength. The neat thing is that when I went forward, my daughter did too! I was so teared up! She wants more of Jesus! :-) I am praying this stays with her, as I know each of you are so in love with Jesus and our children are not guarranteed to be living for Him. I am determined as I have in the past praying for your children to keep my daughters in prayer. Right now, she is with Sean again, going to a gathering with his mom and that side of the family and then they are going shopping for more materials for their project. I am praying she will not be attacked by the enemy while she is there because of her strong desire for the Lord.

So, now I have some cleaning to do and my physical therapy exercises. I hope to see some results finally from this progesterone cream and change of diet. I'm catching myself no longer asking Salina to do things for me, and she is surprised too at times. I know I'm building muscle.

Loving this book by Suzanne Summers.

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Mary: I loaded the free Kindle on my PC and bought the book and started reading it. I think I found the missing link for me! The first time I lost all the weight after Salina was born, I used a natural progesterone cream once a day. I'm going to try it again. I had an RN tell me to use it lightly and only once a day. I am going to do that, and I'm thinking of seeing about my hormones after I find a job with benefits. They did a bunch of testing and my thyroid was OK. Also, I KNOW I have a problem with gluten. Today I had this wonderful white chili soup I had made without cheese and you add the cheese to it after. I ate mine and Salina had put saltine crackers in hers and I finished hers, but I regret it. I get this acid reaction. I am going to have to stay concious of it. The progesterone cream I used before I got pregnant for the first time (after 6 years of trying). I'm thinking I need to at least try it once again (not the getting pregnant thing, just the cream).

Anyway, I feel like this book has a ton of good information in it. I've been avoiding cleansers that contain hormonal additives, and I think it is helping too.

Hope this helps. I'll let you know. In the meantime, I am staying the same no matter how active I am.

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Good morning, ladies,

Cold and dreary here this morning but the sun is starting to poke out to make everything brighter. Lots of drama with our family this weekend but one day at a time.

Dore, I am so happy to hear from you! First, I want to share a website with you, that you can copy and paste into your browser. I have had two friends that have had cellulitis in their lower legs and it can range from mild to severe and you can check out your symptoms on line. http://www.cellutitis.org/ I am praying for your daughter and her husband to find a home to rent soon so that things can get back to normal for all of you. I am glad that Mike is home so that he can spend some time with the little one while you rest up. I know how much energy it takes to watch a 5-year old.

Jo, I am striving to be a Mary instead of a Martha. I read this blurb online and wanted to share:

"Sometimes we just forget how big our God is and we run around with what I call the “Martha Syndrome” trying to make everything just right when all we need to do is just Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." (Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV)

Are you a Mary Or Are You a Martha ... in your life with God?

Martha Syndrome:
Fret & Worry
Complain
Focus on feelings
Anxious
Unbelief

Mary Solution:
Quiet
Peaceful
Prayerful
At Jesus’ feet
Faith

Elaine, I am reading a book called, "Sexy Forever" by Susanne Somers. She addresses the issues with women over 40 trying to lose weight and also biodentical hormones - very interesting reading. She has a website and a food plan and I am checking it out.

Well, ladies, I hope you are all enjoying your weekend, one day at a time.

Mary

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Dore: It is so good to hear from you. I see you didn't read any posts, but Jo was just mentioning you the other day. We treasure your posts. I hope you get your legs feeling better soon. Some of it may be related to doing something different with your muscles and the blood flow in your legs is increased and needs to regulate itself. Of course, your doctor will know. That's what happened to me when my oldest was young. She required so much activity. She was such a busy girl. NOW, she helps so much with Destini that I really don't have that effect, but it is God's love that made her that way. Right now there are times when life ways heavy on me and I need to redirect my thoughts. I need to focus on strengthening this body for work.

Jo: I relate to you completely regarding watching everyone enjoy things. Dh brought home doughnuts last night from a tenant's house and they are Destini's favorite. I usually don't really have a problem passing them up but today I kept thinking what a bummer it is and felt deprived...but when I think of it...we are depriving OURSELVES if we eat that junk and it puts on the pounds from a victory. I had a huge decision to make tonight, and if I'd have read you and Mary's posts about resisting, I might have thought twice. My dear sweet Salina made subs from pepperoni and salami on hoagie buns toasted with cheese and toppings (tomatoes and black olives were the only healthy thing) and fresh squeezed lemonade to go with it. It wouldn't have been so bad but we had the exact same thing the day before for lunch. I started the day with awesome intentions, to focus on avoiding sugar. Now, I find myself torn a bit...I so enjoyed the experience with Destini sitting next to me like we were in a restaurant, reading Salina's "menu" and ordering our food. Tonight after she knows how thankful I am, I'm going to remind her about the calories in salami and pepperoni and the fat as well in cheese and also the effects regular breads have on me. I know she'll be supportive. She's got such a big heart.

Mary: I would love to join weight watchers but the money is just not there yet. God continues to give me ideas to focus on, and I'm going to start my day every day with prayer and asking God to help me. He's helped me before. I know He'll do it again. My friend who's a few years younger than I am said her nutritionist said when we get older we have to work so much harder to get the weight off. I am working hard but I am sure there is something missing. She also told me about a "boot camp" they offer for around $30. She's going to ask them how much it is for me. If it is that much, I'm going to do it, unless that's $30 per month. Otherwise, I'm just going to keep a journal of my weight, measurements and food at home and just be careful.

Jan: I was given the full amount of Pell Grant available, and also $2000 from the school. Everything will be covered. I will only need a student loan of $10,000 to go. It was a weird morning. It started out that my GPS in my phone was telling me to make u-turns and it was confusing so I got lost. Then, after arriving late, the admissions rep that I spoke with told me they have a program that if I switched my degree, I would be able to use my associates and work the next 2 years towards a bachelors degree. BUT, I would have to take Health Care Administration. I have thought about it, prayed for a day now about it, talked about it to my daughter, and looked at the money difference, and I just can't justify the long hours with my 2 girls, ESPECIALLY Destini being so young, to have me gone all the time, tied to a career. The associates gives me a degree where when I work, it is Monday through Friday, 8 - 5. This is exactly where I want to see myself. It did throw me off course for the day. I TRIED to talk to Sean about it, but he didn't seem interested, changed the subject and just frustrated me further.

In the meantime, I start school in August the 26th. I'm a bit nervous. I believe God is going to do something awesome for me here. I'm trusting Him for direction the whole way.

Please tell Dale I am praying about these "allergies". I'm not sure what to make of them, but he's right. I will ask the Lord for His healing first. In the meantime, today with the heat gone (It's been in the 80-90s and now is in the 50-60s) I feel better.

All: Sean came home with a guy with a moving van following him, bringing a riding lawn mower he paid $300 for that barely starts. He is talking in circles again...that he'll sell it or something. I hope so. We can't afford it, and don't need it. We NEED him to get his own vehicle so I can find work! I WAS blessed this week with a day of work with my friend. I am also working with her the week of June 20th too. I make about $60 per day and I'm setting it aside. I got the electric bill paid the day they were going to shut it off. I paid it in full this time and not the minimum. I'm so thankful the money came in. Sean wasn't happy with all I spent to replenish the cupboards, but I am not bothered by that anymore. I have to keep focused on the girls. In the meantime, at times, like today and yesterday when I brought home the groceries and was made to feel guilty, he makes my heart heavy. It would be one thing if he had given me money this month at least once for groceries, but it didn't happen. He wants me to eat beans and rice for every meal, but its hardly motivating to have someone ask you to sacrifice so he can do what he wants and not make sure we have what we need.

We are still waiting for taxes to get done until he gets another check. It is so incredibly frustrating, but I am pulling myself back up and doing what I can do here. It is so hard to keep my mind on the right things. But, I really don't need to figure out Sean. Just lean on God and figure out what He thinks is best.

Elaine

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Hi all,

I know that I have been missing for a bit. But I am finding that keeping up with a 5 yrs. old every day is wearing me out. By the time she is in bed, I am not far behind her. When I get up and start to move around in the morning, she is shortly right beside me. Not much me time right now. She is currently out in the garden with Pop helping to plant the corn. She has had a wonderful week because Mike has been home for the entire time. The have done just about everything together.

I am doing okay. I have maintained fairly well. No weight loss but no great gains either. I do have a Dr. appointment on Monday concerning my lower legs. They are red and hurt all the time. Makes it hard to do any kind of exercise. Hope I get some positive answers.

I haven't read any of the posts. Really just wanted you all to know I am still here and doing okay. I do hope to be able to start posting on a more normal rate soon.

Hope you all have a good weekend.
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MARY: I DO understand your feelings but don't want to encourage your (or my) feeling sorry for ourselves. It IS hard, often, but we both need to focus on all the positives we have to be thankful for. So go ahead and vent here (like I did) but then we both need to buck up and refocus on the good.

I'm glad you finally got some real "spring" weather. I guess it is supposed to cool off a bit at home when we return. I'll be grateful for that. I cannot complain about the weather this week at all. Yes, it has been hot, but an absoluely gorgeous week of sun and sea and poolside fun. Perfect for vacation activities. I'm VERY grateful for that.

The grandkids have all been pretty good except for one day. That day they were all cranky and selfish and yikes! I wanted to send them all home!! This morning we had a lovely time at the beach. Some have gone golfing. I am babysitting for them. Others are still at the beach. I think the pool will be this afternoon, then the beach again this evening. My son and his family leave tomorrow early. The rest of us will leave on Sunday, early in the a.m.

DORE, ELAINE: Hope you guys are doing OK and enjoying summer. It will be GONE before we know it!! Jo

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Good evening, ladies,

I just keep plugging away in the yard while it is nice and cool. It is supposed to be in the 50's and 60's for highs for the next 10 days, can you believe it?

Please pray for Tim as he has his interview for the paid apprenticeship position, tomorrow at 11:00. I know what I want for him but it is in God's hands. I just don't want to see him disappointed when he has put so much effort into this.

Jo, I totally understand where you are coming from with your family. I was just thinking similar thoughts about mine tonight. My husband just likes to have fun with the kids, while I think they consider me a fun wrecker because I do not think the way they all do. I was also wondering if I was the only one who felt that way so I was glad to read your post. Also, the food thing, when I am really trying to eat healthy, I just don't seem to fit into their plans either and it certainly does affect my mood. I just started going to WW again today. I really need to get serious. I have been walking with a friend but the food plan has to go along with it.

Jan, can't believe you only have four weeks left! I will pray for good weather so that you can get your projects finished up! I am sure that your family will be so glad to see you when your return home. It nice to travel but always nice to get back home.

After this weekend, Dave will be traveling for the next 3 weeks so we need to get lots done this weekend. We are almost done with the spring yard work which is a huge deal, then we will just need to maintain. We are going to power spray the house and garages so we can have it sprayed for spiders and finish getting the sprinkler system going. Next week, I think I am going to hire some of my students to come and help with a few things.

What is everyone else planning for the weekend?

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JANS: I have to say I am proud of myself as well. It has been extremely HARD to be here on vacation while everyone else is eating more and "special" things while I'm eating next to nothing. We all went to The Salty Dog yesterday for lunch and they got fried shrimp baskets and shrimp salads and great burgers and I had water with lemon.

Now, toward the end of the week, I'm fighting feeling sorry for myself. I keep trying to remind myself of the privilege of having the help I'm getting to finally get this weight off and to focus on the time together rather than on the food I'm missing, but it is hard when all my kids and dh talk about is food or sports. I'm not interested in sports at all and while I would be happy to join in the conversation I have nothing to add and don't know what they are talking about. All of them know all the players and everything the talking heads on ESPN talk about. It seems the only conversations I'm included in are those where we are on opposite sides...like politics....and then I'm the "bad guy".

OK...enough whining.

it would be VERY hard to live near a bakery....the smell would drive me crazy. I think if you really concentrate when you get home, you can get back on track. If you make good progress this school year on your weight and fitness, then next year, I think you will find it easier to partake of those good bakery goods once in awhile with fewer bad consequences. Jo





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Wow time passes quickly. It has been almost a week since I posted last. I just took time to read all your posts so I can know what is happening with you all.

Elaine I was 38 when I went to college for the first time. It was a bit scary at first but then I loved it. It gave me a much needed boost in life. And it sent me into the business world in ways I never imagined. I saw God's hand so many times. He opened new doors for me. And I am trusting as you press forward He will open doors for you as well.

Mary Christine is amazing. The fact she is willing to pursue and challenge the decision takes special determination. I believe God will use this for His glory.
It is wonderful you are able to get in the garden and make money from something you love to do. Selling the plants is a great idea.

Jo it sounds like you are busy and on the go as always. Enjoy your family time and make fresh memories. Congratulations on the determination to say no to foods. I am so out of control in that area. Over here there is fresh bread baking at the store next door. And now pastries too. With each time you entertain it is common to have tea and sweets and chocolate candies. I have an abundance of these in my home now days. Tonight Dale made fresh homemade donuts. Yummy. Yes I indulged.
I am feeling fat. I am fat. I need to get my thinking to change.

Elaine I am also reading Battlefield of the Mind. I have the daily devotion and am using it for the women's Bible study groups. But I found a copy of the book in the bookshelf today. I think I will start on it once again. Maybe we can encourage each other the next few weeks in this.

We are ending another week here. Then only 4wks left. Rain delayed us from fence work today but it gave me a chance to do finance reports and balance the books.I planned to work on a newsletter but did not get to that just yet. The plan is have it ready to go out by the weekend.

Jo we are in Russia now not Ukraine. We spent two weeks in Ukraine then came to Russia until July 16. That is when our visa will expire. Our son and family get home June 16 and will stay until the end of August so we will have time when we return.
We get back the week of my 60th birthday. It is also a local celebration weekend in my home town so we will be with family soon after we get home.

Well our day is almost done so I need to get ready for bed soon. If it is not raining tomorrow we plan to get back to fence building at the street shelter. Also woman's small group tomorrow evening. Somewhere in there I need to get some laundry done too.

Lord is still in control and He will direct my steps.
Be blessed all




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DORE: WHERE ARE YOU?? We miss you! I almost forgot to ask you b/c I usually just speak to whatever was written last, but you are an important part of this group and you are missed. I know you are busy with your granddaughter there, but try to just stop by and let us know you are doing OK. OK?

MARY: Be sure to let Christina know that God will use this hard situation in her life for GOOD no matter what the result of her appeal are. Even if she doesn't get the judgment she is hoping for, it still may pave the way for others to have an easier go of it. Also, it may motivate her to do things like perhaps start a whole other group that does competitions which DO have special categories or, which make small allowances for physical limitations that have nothing to do with one's capabilities. Almost all great improvements in anything are motivated by one kind of hardship or another, but developed by awesome people who don't let others' limited thinking stop them. Jo

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Good evening, ladies,

I have been so busy in my yard but really enjoying it. I have been selling perennials for a dollar and people are thanking me for the great deals. I have sold over 500 plants so far with lots more to go!

Christina got her case together to challenge her rating decision. I am so proud of her and told her she may help others out by doing this. She has a friend over tonight. They are camping by the pond and have a nice fire going. She is also teaching riding lessons this summer for extra money.

Tim has his interview on Friday, please keep him in your prayers!

Elaine, I think you will really enjoy school. You will enjoy learning new things and working towards a career and being able to have some money of your own. I need to work on eating healthier foods, too. I am so inconsistent but feel so much better when I eat right.



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Hi ALL: Just a quick note from Hilton Head. We have had beautiful weather here so far although it is just a bit too warm for my taste. Even so, we have gone to the beach each morning and the pool each afternoon. Yesterday there was a pizza party at the pool with music and prizes. Today there was a hot dog party (we passed on that one). After we spent the afternoon at the pool, our son and his family met friends from home to go out to eat. The rest of our family had pasta and chicken. Me? I had 3.5 oz. fish and a tomato. Then we went bowling. Well, THEY went bowling. Then we took the kids for ice cream. That was SO hard. I LOVE ice cream and I was hungry. sigh.

Part of me tells me I should have waited until after the vacation, but I know that is dumb. First of all there would just be something else in the near future to tempt me to delay it longer. PLUS, I know I would have put on extra weight this week, telling myself that "this is special". Well, instead of putting weight on, I'm taking it off and that makes me happier than that ice cream would have.

Both MARY and ELAINE sound more upbeat and I'm praising God for that. In spite of your circumstances, you are leaning on Abba Father rather than your husbands or your own strength. That is where we ALL need to be ALL the time.

JAN: You sound so busy but what fulfilling business it is! May God give you and Dale favor in all you do and with all the folks you need to work with, until your work there is done. I know you will continue to be blessed. Jo

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All: I am cleaning my office today and getting things ready for all the stuff I'm juggling. I am getting together information for Michigan's Hardest Hit Program for reworking our mortgage. The mortgage company is sending us information regarding reworking our loan to help us keep going.

Salina is filing for me.

My friend and her family could use your prayers. Her husband just went through some tests and found out he had a heart attack. They have 5 children, just filed bankruptcy, and have just started a new business from the ground up. He does most of the manual labor for the business, though he does have a guy helping some. They are totally changing their diet, and I'm going to join them. It sounds like similar to the anti Candida diet I was on when I last lost a significant amount of weight, so I'm going to eat according to that again. I really liked all the food and always felt super full.

I have such a mess in my office! Time to conquer!

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Mary: I am glad to hear Christina is getting someone in her corner. In cases like this, her efforts should be rewarded. I hope she gets a second look, because it sounds like this is where her heart is. :-)

I wish the weather here were as nice as where you're at.

We got our teeth cleaned and picked up a few necessary items at the store, but no grocery money yet. Hoping we don't have to wait another day, but we have a few items to get us through. I'm not going to be able to make another appointment for myself until I get a job, unless I make one at the college in town...and have some money set aside.

I have an appointment with the admissions coordinator at the university...ME going to school again! I'm nervous and impatient to start all at the same time! I really feel like I'm ready to go back to work...just have to have Sean get a work vehicle. In the meantime, I'm getting things ready here. Salina's working on catching up the laundry...I have to train her to stay on that better today. And, while she's doing that, I'm going to go through my clothes to see if there's anything that fits me that I could wear to the office, and make a list of things I could buy. I know I need a pair of black dress pants. I bought one and it doesn't fit. I don't know why I'd buy something and not try them on...I guess it was a stressful day that day. I am going to look up some comfortable clothes...I feel better if I am prepared. I also need to look for some really comfy shoes. I need extra support per my physical therapist. I will run them by her when I find them. Continuing to pray for provision.

Salina is so sweet. She started cleaning the bathtub and decided to make a spa for Destini. She has such a giving heart!

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Good evening, ladies, I think summer has finally arrived as it was just gorgeous and sunny and in the 70's today. I was able to work outside most of the day and got lots done in my vegie garden.

Christina seems in better spirits today. A lady contacted her and feels that we can challenge the rating decision because of her disability. She wants to help and needs us to get a letter from the doctor stating what her disability is and what her limitations are. I told Christina that maybe she is meant to be an advocate for those with disabilities. God always brings good out of everything if we let him and I need to remember that myself.

I am thankful that we had some family time today. A meal together and also attending church together.

God Bless you all!

Dore, I hope everything is okay. I am sure that you are extremely busy with the little one. Hope you are able to get a little R & R yourself and hope to hear from you soon!

Have a great evening!

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Mary: I hope she's not too disappointed. It sounds like they are pretty hard on people to get in there. I watched a couple of movies today which had horse competitions. What is the type of competition called? I sent Salina to the coolest horse camp down here. They taught the girls how to do gymnastics on the horses' backs, and we got to see it after. She worked in a veggie garden, helped groom the horses, etc. They also had bible studies there, but I couldn't get her there. Now, they've sold the farm and her daughter is riding across the country on horseback to raise awareness for human trafficking.

I am so tired. Salina left the door open and it brought the house up a degree. She's bringing her dog in the basement to cool her off.

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Good afternoon, ladies,

Well, it was a disappointing day for Christina. She was tested in different areas all day long and I thought she did just excellent, despite her disability. I don't know how familiar any of you are with pony club but to advance you need to perfect everything. Because of her disability, Christina is not capable of holding one of her legs in the position it is required to be in when she rides and they would not pass her because of this. They make no exceptions for disabilities and that is sad. Sometimes life seems so unfair.

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Jo: I am drawing near to the Lord today. It is so draining to do anything else. I took Clariton today for the first time per my doctor and I'm not sure how it's making me feel because I didn't sleep well last night and can't attribute any of what I feel to the medication...except it seems to be allowing me to breathe better, which helps. I am going to fill out the financial aid form today online. I was distracted last night. Sean came home with some soup from the Thai restaurant he liked to share with everyone. It was a $5 soup. The problem is we're out of dish soap and laundry soap. He says he will pick me up some laundry soap and dish soap today. There are 2 large checks coming on Monday. I am so worn out today, and I got a letter from Medicaid saying I do have a deductible starting in July that is over $1,000.00. I so need a job before then! Also, in August school starts. I'm trying hard to train my oldest to keep things in order here while I'm busy and working. Sean is not answering his phone, but I need to express urgency in my getting a job so I can maintain my health. I am full of anxiety so I am going to pray today and I'm living as though my life depends on my relationship with Him...and it DOES anyway, so I need to keep going, and focus on Him. I feel so abandoned by Sean. I agree...I need to stop looking at anything that guy (Rob Bell) says or thinks. He is really lost, and yet his charisma is drawing so many people in. There's also some strange movement around lately where people want to combine the old and new testaments into one. Don't these people KNOW who they serve??? Jesus Christ DIED for us to be able to LIVE, free from the law, and so He could live THROUGH us and so we can avoid hell. When people bring back the law they diminish Christ's sacrifice!!! THEN they want to say a loving God would not have a hell included. WITHOUT free will who would we be? I must say personally, lately, with all the junk I'm going through and have been through, I wish sometimes He WOULD take over and live through us and love would prevail, but because He wants a relationship with us, He allows free will for us to worship Him, hang with Him and just choose Him. Without consequences we would not know how awesome Jesus Christ is! We need Him, we appreciate what He keeps us from experiencing because of the law of reaping and sowing. I know that for me, a peaceful financial future where my children always have food and clothes is going to mean hard work. I'm working hard on improving my physical strength so I can do that. I need to include my spiritual strength.

Anyway, I'm so thankful for all of your prayers!

Jan: I started reading "Battlefield for the Mind" again.

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JAN: It is so good to have you back with us again and congrats in the grandbaby news!! AWESOME!! But it sounds like you will be in UKRAINE while your son and dil will be in Michigan. That timing doesn't sound right.... :-(

ELAINE: I believe that prayer IS the answer but that REAL love comes out of a solid prayer life.

I am VERY familiar with the book and author you mentioned and I'd be careful about listening to ANYTHING that person puts forth. Stick to Scripture and if you listen to advice from others, be sure THEY stick to Scripture.

That is why I so want you to get Biblical Counseling. You do need to protect your children but how do you do that and honor your dh? It gets VERY hard and my heart goes out to you. Having someone in your corner to help you would be so awesome. I'm renewing my prayers for that counsel for you.

You know when God promises to bless us, he does not necessarily mean in the here and now, although many times that is true as well. How can we look at Paul or ANY of the disciples and believe the "propserity gospel" that so many are preaching today? Paul was beheaded!! He spent much of his life in jail! HIs afflictions were but a momet for an eternal BLESSING. I, like most folks, forget that most of the time and want material and emotional and physical blessings right now. LORD, give us spiritual wisdom and YOUR Love!! Help us to lean you YOUR power, the power that raised Christ from the dead. Give us patience that comes out of that love. Take away our fear, LORD. Thank you for loving us so much! AMen.

MARY: Praying for Christina's safety and Tim's apprenticeship. Jo

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Mary: Thank you...I hadn't thought of separation. I am filling out my application for financial aid in a few hours when everything is quiet. I have been thinking about preparing myself for anything that he throws my way, but things are really getting out of hand. I got a call from the accountant and she had some great ideas for Sean to work figure out his business better and the challenges he's facing, and he just started talking about some kind of card he wanted to get, and I don't mind about the card, but I said he really needs to stop running from the judgements, and not just let them chase after him. He yelled at me that he was not filing bankruptcy and I said I'd not mentioned that, but I felt an attorney might be able to give him SOME options, rather than leaving us unprotected. He just blamed me, saying we wouldn't be in this place if I had put my name on that account. I used to let him really get to me but lately, I'm just focusing on my own finances, and putting myself in a position to take care of the girls. I don't want anything to do with his games anymore. If he doesn't want any help from the accountant, there must be something else going on. I found a van for under $1K for him to drive for now. He might be able to buy it with his next big check which is supposed to come on Monday. Pray for me girls...I don't know the first thing about separation, but it seems like the only option these days. I'm praying carefully every step. I want what is best for my girls. I need to be able to pay the bills on my own. That is the most important thing...actually whether we are together OR separate...someone has to. I told him I would NOT pay all the bills and let him stay here a long time ago. Things have to change.

There is a guy in town that wrote a book called "Love Wins". I don't agree with the book because it portrays hell as not being a consequence because God is love. So often we forget that God has consequences for us because he loves us enough to give us free will. If we didn't have that, we wouldn't need a Saviour to give us the strength we need through His sacrifice and the Holy Spirit to make the choices that we were created to pursue. Anyway, then, he has a sermon that describes 5 ways a wife should be honored...and each description of the men portrayed my husband in one way or another. Though I don't quote the man because I'm not for his book, the sermon someone shared on Facebook really hit home, in that what is lost so often is honor. One thing he said was that women have to step in, parent the children, teach them to honor regardless of dad's actions, and all the while fighting fear that he will either leave them, hurt them, or lose all the family assets. I am determined to pray for Sean. I am determined to do what I can to honor him. I am determined to walk through this fire to get myself in a position that doesn't leave my children in a worse place than we already are. Please continue to pray with me. I believe God has a plan for me.

I am so incredibly happy for Tim! He is making the best choice for his future. He is pursuing something early on and with being a one on one situation he will be blessed. He will be blessed because he is honoring his parents.

I can understand your fears with Christina. I think I will need to pray for strength too when Destini starts doing more physically. Though I'm so proud of her too, it is hard not to see her as someone to protect as opposed to someone like Salina that will be strong, and able to handle every adversity that comes about. I will pray for you Mary here. She is so accomplished for someone her age.

Thank you for the encouragement. This is a hard time.

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Dear Elaine, we are all Christian women here on this site and we are all praying for you and your family. We know that God wants you to do the right thing when it comes to your children and your husband, but what exactly is the right thing in this situation. In my first marriage, I experienced both mental and physical abuse. I tolerated it when it was aimed at me but after our daughter was born things changed and I knew I needed to protect her. I gave him many opportunities to get counseling and offered to support him through treatment but he refused, so I did what I felt was right. If he was not willing to take care of me and our daughter, then I had to.

Many couples go through a separation process while they try to work things out. One of my close friends moved into an apartment with her two children because she felt that she could no longer live with her husband's anger, gambling and drinking problems. During the time of their separation, they received counseling and my friend found that she had also been contributing to the problems in the marriage in ways she was not aware of. They both wanted to make things work. They were separated for an entire year. It gave them time to work things out in a neutral environment. I am happy to report that they are happily married to this day and ended up having three more children together and just had their first grand baby this week.

I guess, Elaine, you have to decide what the best environment is for you and the girls and Sean has to make the decision whether or not he wants to make things work with his marriage and family. My prayers are with you!

Jan, I would like to congratulate you on the new grand baby on the way! Will this really be number 12?

I would also like to ask you ladies to pray for Tim as he is trying to get into an apprenticeship program to learn a trade while being paid a stipend. He went through orientation, work keys testing and had a physical and drug test and passed all. He has an interview next Friday but females and low income participants get first chance. I just pray that he will get in as he needs direction and purpose right now. I was reading in my devotional how much God loves our children and how he paid a high price for them and I know I must leave this in his hands.

Tomorrow, Christina will be doing a rating for Pony Club from 7:00 until 3;00. Part of the testing will be speed and jumping which makes me extremely nervous. She does not know if she wants me there because I may agitate her with my concern. I think that Dave may go instead. Please pray for her and her horse, Leo.

I am thankful for all of you sweet ladies and your prayers.

Have a great day!

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Jan: I am not sure we're really sick...I think possibly just weakened from too much sun the other day. The doctor's office is in a meeting so I should be able to get some answers of what they think soon. I'm feeling so much of an urge to work out harder but I think running on the treadmill (though it helps me lose weight) is a bit too hard on my neck right now. I am a bit frustrated, but I am going to keep walking and doing my pt. I also have been recommended by the doctor to join weight watchers...but we have no money. Literally...we have no money. I am praying for the Lord to provide today. I'll update later when the answer comes through, but I am in a place where I have no options other than prayer. I have no car that I can drive as Sean has the only one. I'm still waiting on taxes. I'm hoping to get an answer from this new accountant today. I just sent her an email. I filled out a hardship application for our mortgage and I'm hoping to revise that. Called and saved $300 on our insurance by down-grading the van that doesn't run to stored vehicle insurance (cheaper than taking it off per the 2 car discount). I'm also going to start the process of "No Worker Left Behind". Dh has both accounts in the red by $900. There are checks that might come in but we don't know when. One is $6K...I think...because last time he told me about it it was $7K. He is waiting on another check for $1500. And we have no laundry soap, no dish soap, and I need to do groceries. Last week the church dropped off food. He is taking it out on us. I am holding my breath for this breakthrough. He is a ticking timebomb. Salina is his target. I know teenagers are slow to react but he is being pushy and threatening about her. She is a really good kid, but sometimes doesn't just listen...but thinks she has a better idea to help. Because of this, it can be annoying. Unfortunately, he thinks that no matter what she should just listen to him, and not question or add anything. He tends to handle things as a bully rather than just tell her. They were trying to get the dog to bring her in, but she runs away from us when we try to get her in. He was taking a stick and a rope and trying to scare her out from underneath the van. He told her to stand there. She did, but thought about her being food oriented and ran inside and got her peanut butter. He grabbed the peanut butter, threw it at the side of the house, and pushed her into the house and sat her down and yelled at her. I heard some kind of thumping around and was givnig Destini a bath. He was yelling and asking me whether she should listen first. I said yes, but what was all this about. He said it doesn't matter what this was about. I said it seemed pretty important for all this yelling. She told me in tears what he had done. I told him I know it is frustrating handling teenagers, but this is not the way. She needs to listen, but so do we. I don't think its OK to ignore your parents at all or to talk back to them, or even for me to come against him, but I can't accept the threatening, and the pushing her into the house or throwing things. I said it is important to note that this dog is her responsibility and we need to teach her to think for herself when it comes to caring for it. There needed to be a balance in what happened but he would not listen. Later, I found out my mother in law is treating her different too. I'm wondering if she's pulling the same mind games with my daughter now that she's stood up to her that she did with me, talking about how badly Salina treats her to him, and that he had better watch it. I don't know, and I don't care what she thinks at this point but need to fight to keep my daughter's heart. I was able to encourage her not to talk back, but to ask him to forgive her for her part. I told her, God's commandments don't change when those we are to honor are cruel. Sometimes, Jan, I feel like a complete loser in my life, having a husband who is unloving, not supportive, and blaming it all on me. I am pushing past that and trying to raise them to know Christ, not just about Him.

Hoping to carry a good attitude about the same thing weight loss too. I am exercising more now. I really need to learn to balance the whole thing out (eating & exercising).

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I forgot to mention my other good news for the day.
Today it was confirmed that we are expecting grand baby #12. My son and wife shared this news when we were in Ukraine last month but it was not confirmed by the doctor until today. Now it is official. Praise the Lord.
They return to Michigan for the summer June 14 and she is now starting morning sickness. Pray for her as you think of it. Her name is Valeria


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Mary it sounds like you are doing great. Good job. I think it is good you are finding ways to keep busy while waiting for your house to sell. Attitude is the biggest battle. But you are choosing to have a good one. That make a big difference.

Elaine sounds like your house has been having illness. Not good. Hope you all feel better soon.
Today we went out to deliver the parts for the picnic tables. I rode with Sveta the lady we built them for. The guys took the parts in Pastors van. Along the way Sveta has shared that her husband has a drinking problem. Sometimes she feels embarrassed by him. But she is a strong Christian so she continues to persevere. She said today she has learned prayer is good but not the answer. She has prayed for him for many years to know Jesus. She said she needs to pray but she needs to love more. Love is the answer. In loving she will show him Jesus is real and her heart will change too.
He decided to move to their summer garden house last winter. Sveta did not move with him but then she decided she loves him and her place is with her husband. She moved there recently. She has made a choice to love him. And love him more. It is not easy but she said he is beginning to soften. Especially when he asked her reason for leaving a 5 room flat in the center with all conveniences to live with him out there in a one room house with no running water or indoor plumbing. Her answer was simple,,,,I love you and you are my husband I belong with you. What comes to my mind is Love hopes all things, bears all things and believes all things. She is now calls the home her little cottage and she is making the best of it. She gave me the tour and was so positive in her attitude. It is a simple little house but she is making it a home. Again a lesson in our attitudes.
I have been using the Joyce Meyer Battlefield of the Mind devotional for Bible study. So much in there about attitude. That seems to be a topic I am in lately.
Now to work on my attitude about weight loss.
A friend of mine's son recently lost 112lbs on weight watchers. He was just on their new commercial that is running this month. His name is Chris. Anyway it is a big encouragement to see what he has done. I hope he keeps it off. It has required an attitude change for him as well.
Well it is bedtime here so need to get off here. Tomorrow we are planning to go back to Sveta's and put the tables together. Dale was too tired to do it this evening. Now I see the weather forcast is rain but I am asking the Lord to hold it back until we are done.
Tomorrow night is family ministry so not sure I will get on to post.
Have a great weekend all. Be blessed

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Mary: I wonder if the walking is helping your mood. It seems to be helping me some...but we walked in too hot of weather the other day and we turned back because Destini looked red, and I was worried I hadn't given her good enough sunscreen (used one with bug repelent) and so we turned back but she is not sunburned so she must've been just hot. But though she said her tummy hurt it was Salina who seemed to be hit the hardest, and Destini slept well, but I didn't eat and Salina and I had headaches. I am having one today and so is Salina. We've been staying inside for the most part. I walked to the rec center and had a good workout the day after, and the girls went in the splashpad. But I figured I had some sort of allergy. The nurse said she'd call me back and my phone wasn't working.

Jan: I love hearing all of your adventures and God's using you both mightily. I'm praying for you whenever I can...I am sorry to hear about your illnesses on this trip. I hope Dale is feeling better after this being his second time within a mission trip. I know those shorter term trips can be a whirlwind as it is.

All: Pray for the following: Sean has been very difficult lately...moreso than usual. He gets angry with Salina and just yells and is unwilling to hear anything we say. He was angry because he was using a rope to hit the dog to get her to come out of his van, and wanted Salina to stay there while he did it but was not willing to hear anything she said. She went inside to get the dog's favorite treat (peanut butter) and he took it from her and threw it at the house.

Also: an aquaintance from church called me tonight and my stupid phone put it to voicemail and she is looking for a place to live. Her husband is doing drugs, and she needs to get out. I am going to call her after my daughters go to bed or possibly in the morning. I'm not sure whether Sean can help her but I know the guy is pretty crazy because I told him my husband could not help him because he couldn't work to move and I had severe neck pain and he tore into me saying Christians are all like that, and said some pretty nasty things. I was afraid to talk to him after that.

Anyway...God is in control. Pray with me that I will find a vehicle soon and get word back from the new accountant. The van is tore up and smells awful. I just need something reliable. He has spilt food all over it and it is sticky and really very gross. Besides that it has high miles. I think he will need it for his business, so I am going to get something else. I don't know that I'll have enough for the Ford Focus now, or any wagon, so I'm looking for a simple sedan with low miles. I can get something else when I get my ducks in a row.

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6/2/11 8:13 A

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Good morning, ladies,

Jan, I was thinking that you fell off the face of the earth and glad to learn that is not the case. I do not get on face book much so I am glad that you checked in. Sounds like you are doing well and have some great projects going on despite your rocky start to things. Now I have a question for you, do the people speak English or do you have to have an interpreter to lead the Bible study? Sounds like Dale is busy as well. I am sure that your work is so appreciated. I will continue to pray for your health and safety.

Yesterday, I had a great day. I got my walking in, stuck to my food plan, drank my water and worked in my garden. I do have to be careful about not overdoing it. This morning I will be walking with a friend again. Seems best for me to get the exercise done in the morning.

Here's to a great day! emoticon

"Change never happens until the pain of staying the same is more than the pain of changing." (from my friend, Jo)


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6/2/11 7:02 A

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Hello everyone it seems like I fell off the side of the earth or something. I have not been active for almost two months. Some of you follow me on facebook so know what we have been doing.
We left the states April 27 and it has been a whirlwind since. Our travel experience was a challenge with extra luggage and flying standby. First stop was Michigan to Chicago to JFK to Budapest. It was the week of all the storms in the Midwest so we got bumped a few times. But God kept providing. It was an adventure.
Once we got to Budapest all was well. Then it was in to Ukraine for 2wks. The end of the first week we both got food poisoning. That was terrible. It caused us to be limited in what ministry we could do. Then with our strength we headed to Russia on May 15. A few days after our arrival Dale got a bad cold with bronchial issues. Again this limited what we could do. Now it is June and finally we are both back on track. Work projects have begun. But we are pacing them this year. Last year we wore out doing so much. The heat last year was terrible too. But this year so far the temps are great for working. About mid 70's and cool nights. I like it.
I am leading two women;s bible studies again this year. One is a small group on Friday evening and the other is every other week Sat evening. The off weeks we have family ministry. Next week I will meet with my orphan worker and plan a few visits to orphanages. Dale is building a fence at the street children shelter, picnic tables for one of the worker church, and kitchen cabinets for the pastor's home. There may be a few other tasks at the shelter too.
We have 6 wks left after this week so it will be busy. I need to get a newsletter out to people because not all have facebook.
As for my weight I am getting some workout in by helping Dale. Today worked several hours in the workshop lifting and moving lumber for the tables. Eating is not easy to keep track of but I may give it a try.
I would like to try to focus on water intake and smaller portions. From there I will see how things progress. I am sure the homemade oatmeal raisin cookies did not help much last night.
I will try to read some of the May posts to catch up somewhat on everyone over the next few days.
Blessings to all

Janice

"Without God I can do nothing. But with Him all things are possible."




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6/1/11 1:39 P

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emoticon Woo Hoo! Got my walk in this morning. I found a buddy to help keep me accountable. I am going to plant my tomatoes, lettuce, peppers, zucchini, cucumbers, some herbs and also the plants for my planters. Can't wait to get it all done!

"Change never happens until the pain of staying the same is more than the pain of changing." (from my friend, Jo)


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6/1/11 7:49 A

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Good morning, everyone, and welcome to a new month!

I really need to find some joy. I have been putting my life on hold, waiting for this house to sell. The truth is, I don't know when that might happen and I feel discouraged. I need to balance my focus, yes, I need to keep my house and yard up but I should also be doing some of the things I enjoy, like riding my bike, horse back riding and maybe even going out of town with my husband.

What about you?

"Change never happens until the pain of staying the same is more than the pain of changing." (from my friend, Jo)


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