I often watch a TV show on CNBC called "Until Debt Do Us Part" which talks about money issues between couples. According to the host, money issues are the most common reason for the break-up of marriages. It makes sense to me. We often have different views about spending than our spouses, and there are also problems when there is just not enough money to survive. Hope that you and your husband can work this out.
current weight: 111.0
Fitness Minutes: (11,992) Posts: 2,839 12/2/11 6:42 A
This is my second marriage (four years) after a long first marriage (35 plus years.) With my ex, the major problem was a lack of communication. He never told me that he was unhappy, and in fact told me everything was great. I think my problem was that I had a "gut" feeling that things weren't the way he said, but I didn't pursue it.
So far, this marriage has been wonderful, with few challenges. My husband's daughter (grown), had a very hard time accepting me at first, but now she is very supportive. His son is very quiet, but didn't seem to have such issues. I guess the major conflict area is my family need for/requests for money. He thinks they should be able to support themselves without needing help from me. I don't have any major issues with him, but he does have some weird (to me) issues with cold weather. He gets "cold" when the airconditioner comes on at night (set at 82 degrees), and gives me a very hard time about it. All in all, small stuff. We're very happy together.
current weight: 111.0
Fitness Minutes: (468) Posts: 171 7/19/11 11:28 A
The hardest change has been to put others before me. I've always had a selfish streak in me, not that I was a scrooge or mean...just I was constantly doing small things for myself with out thinking how that would make others feel. Reminding myself that everything I do will in some way effect my family, whether it's flirting or buying something I don't need. I've started my change a little while ago and I've been doing pretty good so far.
This is my first marriage my husbands second. When we got married (13 years ago this Sunday) his three TEENAGE children lived with us. Small children I was used too. Teenagers were a different story. We got along great, no problems, it was just a bit of an adjustment. We still get along great I'm close to all three and the great part is they've made be a grandma many times over.
Laura. Mio, Michigan
Lord help me remember that nothing is going to happen today that you and I can't handle together.
If ignorance is bliss why aren't more people happy
Pounds lost: 6.0
Fitness Minutes: (22,942) Posts: 12,783 7/19/11 9:44 A
A few weeks ago I asked what aspect of your marriage you cherished the most so now tell us what is the hardest change you faced when being married. For me it was the snoring and picking up after him that was harder on me. I was always taught you picked up and put things away and with him I am still picking up his things today even after 12 yrs of marriage, even though he has improved some. Having kids helped with that and the little hands they have.
Cherly I can do all things through Christ who strenghtens me Philippians 4:13
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