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3/30/11 7:04 P

Sorry it was such a bust for him, but I agree with he other comments: He did choose to do the chores, and it is also his choice not to have fun. I say that because it IS a choice. We can choose to be miserable or not.

For the things that you think you made a mistake of or did not carry through with what you said you would do - apologize, perhaps do something nice for him, but then move on. He is in control of his feelings, you're not responsible for his feelings. He can choose to accept your apology and attempts at reconciliation, or not.

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3/30/11 7:53 A

I am very fortunate with my husband because he would do all of those chores and never complain. We share quite a bit of the housework due to having 3 children and with the little one it is hard to get alot done that's for sure and I stay at home with her. As for ruining his vacation I do agree with the rest he did the chores and he didn't have too so that was his fault and not yours. As for staying at home with his daughter should have been a blast. I know I leave my little one with her daddy on the weekend sometimes when I shop and he really enjoys the time they have together. He should learn to cherish the moments not dread them. Good luck.

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3/29/11 11:47 P

LOL
YOU! did not ruin his vacation. HE did by doing all the chores and not asking you to help! He didn't even consult you - he just did them. well that is his fault then!

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3/28/11 11:43 P

Yes, do something to make him feel special and appreciated. As far as your daughter getting on his nerves - welcome to the real world of parenting. Maybe all the cleaning was how he coped with his feelings. Or maybe he was trying to make more time for you to do something together.
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3/28/11 4:23 P

1st off do not feel bad. He just wanted you to say that you appreciated what he did & to say thank you. Make him a nice dinner like his favorite & just say it's for the great way he was last week & that you really appreciated how he helped out. Say I'm sorry for not saying anything earlier & tell him he's a great father & husband.

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3/28/11 2:58 P

don;t beat your self up. how was you suppose to know he was up set when he didn;t camunicate with you.
i know people who aren;t the best house cleaners. but they are good at other things.maybe you need to have some kind of family therpy to get to the root of the problem.
if not heres some

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3/28/11 2:10 P

My husband took all last week off work to be home with our daughter during Spring Break. I only took Monday off, and worked 10 hour days Tues-Fri.

Saturday and Sunday he just wasn't himself - he seemed really depressed, wouldn't talk to anyone, wouldn't respond to questions, wouldn't play with our little girl. I was getting really concerned about him, but also on my tip-toes because he's the type of guy that if you bother him too much, he gets really angry.

Last night (Sunday) as I was going to bed he finally told me why he was so upset.

I didn't do any housework all week, or on the weekend. He did everything.

I actually just plain forgot to clean the master bath on Sunday, but the other stuff - he got to it before I did! He started doing laundry Saturday morning and I had intended to do it on Sunday - I had some shopping to do on Saturday and I wouldn't be home to switch the loads. I took my daughter with me on Saturday so he was home alone for a few hours, and he cleaned EVERYTHING. I didn't ask him to.

On one hand, I feel bad because I really didn't do anything. I was lazy.

But on the other hand, I'm a little upset because he wouldn't LET me do anything.

I was letting pans from dinner soak in the sink because they had crap on them that wouldn't come off easily. He started washing them before I knew it. I said I'd do it and he wouldn't let me.

The thing is, I'm always lazy when it comes to housework. I just hate it. And I suck at it. I can never get the shower clean.

I ruined his vacation. He didn't have any fun. He said our daughter just got on his nerves the whole time.