Some good thoughts. I especially liked Sam's comment about changing herself. That is the only person we can change, unfortunately. (or is it fortunately?)
LEAN_MOM - so sorry that you are going through this. It is an awful feeling to not only feel unappreciated, but to feel unloved in some ways as well.
You ask if you have to tell your husband, if it doesn't feel natural for him, if it will feel forced. Good question. But, things that do not come naturally to us can still be learnt! We just have to put in the effort.
I strongly suggest you let your husband know what you have told us - how much a little gift or card would mean to you - and how much hearing how much he appreciates you would mean to you. He needs to know. He may have no idea of how you feel, and then you feel more and more resentment, and he doesn't have a clue that you are feeling upset with how things are.
All the best to both of you!
The smallest good deed is better than the grandest intention.
Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.
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