Oh wow. What a difficult situation.
I'm not sure where to start in suggesting some ideas.
You are cooking healthier meals - it is he who is choosing not to eat them.
Hmmm...I just thought of a book that I read years ago. It was called the Dance of Anger and talked about relationships and especially when one person in a relationship changes, the other person consciously, or subconsciously wants them to 'change back'. It had some great ways to talk about your choices, without getting defensive.
Sparkpeople also has some great articles that may help.
Here is one: www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivation_ar
If you follow the link, you get to an article called "Is weight-loss hurting your relationship?". The whole article may be useful to you, and in particular the #4 they list about your partner gaining when you are losing.
There are also other links along the right-hand side of this article.
All the best to you!
Edited by: CJBAGGINS at: 12/6/2010 (18:34)
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