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7/22/11 2:39 P

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What a wonderful tradition!

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We try to have "date night" every Friday. Usually it's stay at home date night. We have a nice dinner and "play". By play I mean we play on the wii, play darts, or cards. It's just an alone night just the two of us. Friends and family all know Friday night is "date night" so they leave us alone.

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We sometimes do, when duties and kid stuff don't interfere.

But there's a light, Sam, at the end of the tunnel?

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My hubby and I have date night at least twice out of a month..we go out to diinner and a movie..much needed time to keep the spark going...

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6/28/11 5:52 P

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Yes. Usually every Friday. He took me to have Thai (my favorite) last Friday. It does our marriage good :)

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6/28/11 11:19 A

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We don't really have the need for date night, since we are empty nesters. We also take dance lessons together and we have the 45 minute ride to and from our lesson.

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3/12/11 10:38 P

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I remember those years of not having dates in the evening unless baby came too! It will pass, don't worry!

We used to go on 'car date' - we would bundle up the little ones in the car and go for a drive. The babies would usually doze off and we could have time together to chat. Sometimes, we would stop for a snack at a drive in and drive to the river to eat, watching the lights of the city over the water. It was peaceful and relaxing. If the current nursling needed to eat, I would just nurse them, and then we would continue on our way.

We also had afternoon dates a lot (lunch and a game of mini golf or a short movie) as the little ones couldn't be left in the evening.

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Edited by: CJBAGGINS at: 3/12/2011 (22:38)
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Valentines day was our first date night since our daughter was born almost 21 months ago. (and she doesn't sleep well so evenings together are usually shot too trying to get her to sleep!) We are planning another date night coming up in April... going to a concert. It feels weird going somewhere without Rachel, but it's nice to reconnect with my hubby too.

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3/10/11 12:24 A

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I might actually have to ask my dh what his name is again - we've had so little time together of late - we are pulled in different directions with work. I'll have to plan something for us to do before he goes to Europe at the end of the month!

He's given up watching tv for Lent, so perhaps we can play some cards or something before bed in the evening.

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3/8/11 5:33 P

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3/7/11 6:14 P

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What a good idea, and a great commitment!

cj

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3/7/11 3:39 P

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When my husband became a councillor we made an agreement that we would make sure we shared at least one meal a day together because we knew he would get caught up with meetings. It worked and it has become a vital part of our married life.

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3/6/11 6:11 P

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That's really sweet.
I've heard of couples sharing a pot of tea a the end of the day, or going for breakfast together. I guess the truth is, we can make any time of day work for us, if we let it.

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My husband who is 81 is a councillor for our town so there are many times that I don't see him for a good part of the day. Lunch time is the time we get together. We share our meal and talk and it has become very important to us.

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3/6/11 1:13 A

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That's wonderful!

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Chevygurl, I can relate with that! It is exactly what we did when our children were younger thank goodness they grow up into teenagers who will babysit once a week lol I know my daughter doesnt realize how much I appreciate it but she watches the 2 younger boys once a week so Kevin and I can go out.

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Those times are precious, aren't they?

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We used to do date night every payday when we had a trust worthy sitter. Now we just wait for the kids to go to bed and play video games together or get a special movie that we wont let the kids watch so we can have movie night together. It definitely makes life better being able to just be us and not have to involve the kids or pets or bills.

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Hang in there - determined couples can find ways. I'm sure it makes you very creative to sneak moments in together.

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11/22/10 3:39 P

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We're trying to have time together more often. We work opposite shifts, so we don't see each other during the week. It's really challenging lately. We have two kids, so that makes it all even harder to be alone.

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Great ritual, PEGJOHN!

MOTIV8TEDMOM - that's what we do as well - we purposefully find ways to go for drives together, or do errands, and call it a mini date!

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My dh and I don't have set date nights. We tend to go in spurts - we like to golf so in the spring and summer we'll get out to the course about every other weekend. Last winter we took a ballroom dancing class together - giving us a night out most weeks. Sometimes if one of the kids needs to be picked up - we'll go together just to get some time alone on the ride to the pickup location.

One thing we definitely do is to get a weekend away once/year, in August. Now that the kids are older (almost 12, 13 and 16) it's a lot easier to leave them with my parents or his father.

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My dh and I share a bottle of wine and snacks while watching a movie in our bedroom with the door locked as often as possible. Our locked door is the signal that we are off duty.

My kids are all grown, but my oldest son lives with us now with his two small children.

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11/11/10 2:56 P

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You're right. You will eventually. It's just difficult in the mean time, I bet.

Hang in there.

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My husband is a fireman and works weird hours. And he also has a part time job as a manager. So when he does have time to be home h spends it with the kids and when they arent up he likes his "downtime". Alot of it to himself. WHich he deserves. We do catch a few minutes to ourselves. But not much. I know evntually we will get a date in there. :o)

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What a shame. Sounds like maybe time for some brainstorming to see how you can catch an hour or two alone - even if it's after the kids are in bed and all you do is chat for a bit and share a pot of tea of a bottle of wine.

It will get better as the kids get a bit older.


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I have not had a real "date" with my husband in over 2 and a half years!! Ughhh. Kids and his work schedule make it impossible!

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Sounds like dates to me, RITAROSE!

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not really, but we spend most of our time together on the weekends on purpose.

We do chores together, sometimes cook together and often enjoy a movie or a bike ride together.



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7/29/10 10:46 A

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It looks like my dh and I are not the only ones who work together. DH is a teaching vice principal and I am an EAL instructor. We get to see each other every day!

BIKERMAMA - I am finding as my kids get older that dh and I sometimes get to go to Mass alone and have lunch together as the teenagers will go at different times than us. We get to sneak away for odd times just us, as the kids can fend for themselves.

NABDULSABOOR - that's the sort of date my dh and I used to have as well. We'd also like 'car dates' when we would bundle the little ones into the car, and go for a drive. The kids would fall asleep or just look at the sparkling lights as we drove, and we got some time to just talk. We'd sometimes stop for a treat and eat it looking out over the river.

We'd also go for lunch dates if we could get a babysitter. That would work out better than dinner and a movie, as the babies were fussier without me in the evening.


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My hubby and I work for the same company, we love our time together. We go to work together and have lunch together. When I am stressed with work, I always look forward to talking to him. He helps me relax and survive the rest of the day.

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My husband and I don't have a specific date night, but we go out for dinner about twice a month. We also go fishing together which we both enjoy. We both love just calling each other and saying how about a date tonight. I think it keeps it exciting because sometimes its me that ask him out and sometimes he's the one asking me out! emoticon Candy

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Yes, but for now it is only 1 time a month!! hoping for 2 or 3 times a month!!!

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No. But we work together. Not only are we in the same department, we work the same shift. That, and we find it's better to just kind of be impulsive and not try to plan every little thing out too; we'd end up in a rut.

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yes, every saturday night we order a movie off of pay per view and eat junk food. we have 2 small kids, so we have to fit it in when we can

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It would be so nice to have date night with hubby....
We have been so busy lately and are split up in so many directions! We do have supper together almost everyday of the week, just never alone.
I would love to have some quality time with hubby. Sundays are wonderful, because we go to mass together and have lunch together (not alone).
It sounds so sad but we do sneak in a hug, kiss and prayer before bed.
Wow, our life seems to be associated with family FOOD and friends... emoticon



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We used to sit down and watch a weekly tv program together but our schedules got to the point where we miss it - so we make sure that we spend some time together every day before we go to bed - even if it's just sitting quietly together reading or just staring at each other.

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We don't get it super often. We have 2 young boys who we both adore!! We use to do a date night at a church I use to attend, but that was before our youngest was born. And more often than not we wished our oldest son was with us! We are really enjoying our boys, because we know they will be gone before you know it. They grow up so darn fast!!

I know you should make sure you have time for your spouse/marriage otherwise you'll look at each other and go 'who are you?' We just don't feel it needs to be hours at a time. You can steal minutes every day. "Our time" is after the boys go to bed every night. We usually catch up with what is going on then. Or when our youngest is napping and oldest is off playing. I agree with the afternoon date idea. The driving with the kids is fun too, we did that about a month ago. Looking for a place to ice fish. It was so nice, being able to talk & reconnect without taking time away from out boys.

With that said. . . we are going shooting today alone. My mother-n-law is watching them for us and then after we are going to her house for Chop Suey. I think it's important to show your kids your marriage is important & they see you making it a priority. But I don't think it should cause fights either. There has to be a compromise, middle of the road. Which I think we do good at.

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It is important to have some time alone with our spouses. When our children were tiny, my dh and I would have 'car dates'. WE would bundle the children up and set off in the car. We would drive around for a while. When the baby at the time needed to nurse, we would pull into a parking spot or to the side of the road, I would breastfeed, and then we would be on our way again. If we got hungry, we would buy something like an ice cream cone or serving of fries from a drive through and then drive by the side of the river or something and see all the lights. We could meet the needs of our children for our presence, yet get some time for 'us' at the same time. It worked very well for us!

Again when the kids were little, we would have weekend afternoon dates as well, instead of 'dinner and a movie' in the evening, when the babies tended to be fussier and needed me more. My parents or in laws would either take the kids to the park, or watch them at our house, while we had a picnic at the park, or took in a matinee, or went out for lunch.

Lately, we hadn't had much time together, until we were invited to a couples' evening that ran for four Monday nights in a row. We watched a dvd with other couples about laughing your way to a better marriage. It was a wonderful time and we promised ourselves that we will continue to have some date nights in future as it seemed so beneficial to our relationship.

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I suppose the best answer would be Fri. night we put Abby to bed @ 10 then we watch something or talk. That's about it besides she goes to bed between 8-8:30 Sun.-Thurs. then we can do what we want until we go to bed @ 9:30 or later.

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My husband and I know the value of keeping our connection strong, so we make sure that we have a "date" night once a week where we spend at least two hours with each other without kids. Sometimes we have the funds to actually go out to eat and/or movie or we'll make sure the kids are tucked into bed and spend time together or we will make sure the kids go to their grandparents for the night on a day that we can sleep late.
I can't tell you how helpful that has been for our marriage. We have a chance to make sure that other feels loved. Many couples I know let everyday life keep them from enjoying their families.

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