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1/13/10 10:33 P

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I taught my son to cook and do laundry. He had a Cabbage Patch doll named Gary. I wanted him to be a nurturing person. At almost 25, he seems pretty masculine to me. It didn't make him girly.

I was a "hot house flower". I liked cooking and being inside, not because I am a girl, it's my preference. I probably would be healthier, if I had developed more active interests.

If your daughter decides she doesn't like camping, hunting, etc, and you are forcing her to do these things, it would be different. You are letting her experience nature. Some future husband will love you.

Just as I feel some future wife for my son, will be happy that he is self-sufficient.

Sam

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1/13/10 8:09 P

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I can honestly say I grew up a tomboy and am proud of it. I drove a tractor at the age of 10, learned to drive my dad's pickup at 14 and learned how to take care of myself. I feel if you raise your children with lots of love and teach them wrong from right it doesn't matter whether she wants to do the boy things or girl ones. She will always know she is loved.

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1/13/10 7:46 P

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I agree with Amanda. The idea that different activities determine gender identity is just plain silly.

Both boys and girls need time with their parents. If one parent enjoys opera and the other sewing, taking part in both activities will be enriching and fulfilling for all involved. My younger dd loves camping and fishing and hunting with dad, my older one does not. Both are true girls!

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1/13/10 6:12 P

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Feel free to use my post that's fine with me.

~Amanda~



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1/13/10 3:09 P

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Amanda,

Excellent!

Do you mind if I post this in the replies on my page? The only identifier wil be your first name (no user name, email or anything like that.) Let me know!

Thanks again,

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1/13/10 2:57 P

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I think you said it best in your article, raise her to realize that she can do anything her heart desires. The idea that you are making a boy of her is just plain silly.
My sister and I are girls (shocker), we go to the shooting ranges with dad, we camp, we fish. Does that makes us boys? No.
Just like cooking, and sewing, etc. doesn't make a boy "girly".

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1/13/10 1:26 P

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Heyya Sparkers,

I had an interesting conversation yesterday.

I was talking to a woman at the library about how we (my wife and I) had just taken our daughter on her first camping trip, and I mentioned, with a laugh, that it was good practice, as she might be in hunting and fishing camps with daddy for the next twenty years or more.

The woman looked at me askance and said “Well, remember she’s a girl, don’t try to make a boy out of her!”

Looking for some opinions on my this, here:

"Gender Roles: Am I making a boy out of my little girl?" ow.ly/W6EH

Thanks!

-Perry

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