I also know how you feel and try my best of control our money as well. I am a SAHM and do my best of provide for my kids even if it means mom and dad do without. Like CJ says pray is the best way to handle this with your hubby and you. I also used to work full time as well as my hubby and after I had my son I up and quit to keep him. It was a big step but we just put our faith in God and so far he has seen us through some pretty rough times. I will pray for you that he gives you peace as well.
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Super welcome to you! And, no, you are not the worst mother! You are a caring mother and it shows in your words! These financial times are rough ones, but hold strong and, hopefully, things will improve for everyone and soon! Now is the time to hold your ground and you can work it through! Hugs to you, hun! You can do it -- and I'm here for ya anytime you need to chit-chat or vent! I sooo understand and I want to help you any way I can! My new friend!
I'm so sorry that you are feeling so frustrated and like a bad mother right now. What an awful way to be feeling. My heart goes out to you, as I well know that feeling!
My good friend also struggles in this area and in the same way - her dh spends while she struggles to make ends meet. Are you a praying person? Have you given your struggles to your God? (I will certainly pray for you if you wish)
I'm afraid I don't have any suggestions except to speak with your dh honestly and openly (not when a problem with the money arises, but when you are both calm and loving towards each other). He needs to know your frustration and feeling of failure. He may be unable to curb his habits, though.
Perhaps some of the other members have been through similar things and can help?
I also think Sparkguy has a Team related to this, does he not? Or there may be other ones as well.
All the best to you.
God is closer to us than water is to a fish. - St. Catherine of Sienna
Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labour in vain. - Psalm 127:1
Hi new to the group. Have been married this time for almost 8 years. We are going through a rough patch due to finances. We are both working, but more money going out than in, including those horrible payday loans. I feel guilty for I don't think I am providing for my family well enough. My husband spends like we have money, and I want to save to take care of the kids. This is DRIVING ME CRAZY. I am always apologizing for losing my temper for him spending money again. I have hidden the checkbook, anything. The bad thing is that we are now taking Financial Peace University through a church. It is founded by Dave Ramsey, and I figured this would help. It has me, and my husbands phiosiphy is the same, spend then let me find out when I chck the bank online. I am SO frustrated. I feel like the worst mother in the world.
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