My husband actually is very thin. He has trouble GAINING weight. I can look at food and my thighs get bigger... he can eat all day and never gain an ounce, even though he tries to.
Here's an example. Last night, we went to Subway for dinner after church. I had a 6 inch turkey breast sub, low fat chips, and a coke zero... A total of around 480 calories or something. He... OMG.. He had the foot long double meat philly cheesesteak sub, a bag of chips and a regular coke. His calorie total... a whopping 1500! My whole DAY's worth of calories and he ate it in one sitting. LOL
It's really not too difficult for me. Sometimes it is, but not usually. I guess it depends on what he's eating. Now, I have a sweet tooth.. so if he's eating cake or something.. then there's a problem with temptation. I just have to remember why I am doing this and tell myself that I can't go back to where I was a few years ago. I have come too far! I do indulge occasionally.. I just let it be a rare treat when I do.
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Well I didnt say that the hubby wasnt supportive. I think that its that as a woman its frustrating that he doesnt have to work so hard at it. I think my hubby loves me bigger than thinner....but thats another issue. of course he likes that I am finally working on the weight, but sometimes he forgets that I am dieting, and the temptation is there...because he can eat so much!!!
Well I can speak from the other side of the spectrum. I have always been smaller than hubby. He managed at one time to start losing by going to the Dr. but then got burned and had to eat alot to help his body fight infection. He was so much happier when he was smaller. He has no desire whatsoever to lose right now. I got down to my goal weight and it didn't matter to him one way or the other so that makes it very difficult for me. I've tried to offer for us to work out together but even after 9 years of marriage, he's still self conscious to work out in front of me and I guess I am too. I'm going to begin training for a very small 3 mile walk for the March of Dimes on April 25th, hubby kind of snickered when I told him I was walking 3 miles, (not sure why, I walk that on the treadmill) anyway that shoudl be the motivation I need. So inmy case it doesn't really matter if your spouse is heavier or thinner.
I KNOW GOD WON'T GIVE ME MORE THAN I CAN HANDLE..SOMETIMES I WISH HE WASN'T SO CONFIDENT IN ME!
i have a hubby who can eat anything now since we've been married he's gained but nothing like me. over the yrs of dieting i've managed to get him to eat better but still there are times that he buys chips and munchy food "I'm not dieting" true but grrrrrr. he goes to the gym with me which is nice. he's very supportive but i know if i gave up dieting he still would be which doesn't help much. he does encourage me to do my yoga and belly dancing but i don't think its because i should workout. i do find it hard to sit at the table and watch all my boys eat 3x what i do.
For us it doesn't make a big difference. Although my husband is thinner. He will eat whatever I buy. He supports whatever I do to lose weight. It is frustrating at times that he can eat more than I can.
This was a good question.
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Boy what an interesting question. I don't think my husband thinks too much about it. He encourages me to lose the weight but he will eat whatever I cook. When we met I would eat with him and I started to gain the weight. He kept it off. The kids were born and I gained and lost gained and lost and he stayed the same. Now I am losing and he has gained and we have reversed roles. I am trying to encourage him to walk with me. Age is a wicked equalizer.
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I think it's harder for me. Even thou my husband is very supportive, He can eat anything and it doesn't settle onto his body for the next year or so. Ha!! He likes all the things that are not so good for me, like fried potato's, ice-cream/drum-sticks, potato chips, there fore we always have those things in the house. He is not a salad eater or fruit. I love him dearly but hate the way his body can just absorb those things right on up and still maintain his weight and be healthy. ( all test say he is) So anyway ,I would have to say for ME ,it's harder to have a thinner spouse!
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My husband has the same 32" waist that he had when we met in 1982~!! I do think it is easier for me because he is an active (firefighter/hockey player/hiker) person and he loves to cook and eat healthy. So, as soon as I got on the same road as him I just basically "joined" him ...... FWIW he never said anything negative to me in all my ups and downs. He loved me no matter what my size.
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Welcome and my hubby has always been thinner than me and still is supportive my me no matter what. Remember the biggest thing of losing weight is becoming a healthier person and making a lifestyle change in yourself. He may not be able to see your changes yet but if you continue on he will take notice I am sure. Good luck to you and we are always here.
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My hubby is thinner and health conscious he loves me no matter what I weigh, but supports my weight loss attempts! :) Since Jan. this year, he decided to go on SP with me because he said he didn't want to be "skinny on the outside and fat on the inside" He wanted to be healthy all over! It was a MAJOR help and what a difference! I have lost 2lbs a week since! And yesterday, he apologized for not realizing what I needed to be eating! Hope this helps! Keep on keeping on!
I know for myself, I have been larger than my hubby for many years. At one point he did gain weight, but when he wanted to lose it, it was gone in a month. In Nov of last year, I was determined to lose the weight, for my health, and too look good for my hubby, but sometimes I think its harder because he is not going through the same struggles as I. Not that he is supportive, but he was used to one eating habit of mine, and now, thinks my eating habits are the same...sometimes we dont see eye to eye....
Do others have this problem? If so.....how do you compromise?
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