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1/23/09 10:23 P

I can't add anything to the discussion - just my prayers are with you.
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1/22/09 9:19 P

Ouch. A tube filled with fluid does sound very painful (I know when the doc examines and palpates the ovaries, sometimes it is very uncomfortable, so I can imagine). Sorry to hear of the physical limitations to conceiving. My SIL has only one fallopian tube and it is scarred from endometriosis. At Christmas, after trying to conceive this time for almost a year, she announced her pregnancy! Your chances are very very slim, but I think there is a tiny hope there.

In the mean time, as you say, I wish you well with your precious child and come to terms in your own time with accepting this stage.

All the best.

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1/22/09 8:38 P

Thank you for your words of encouragement.
My doc had to remove my right fallopian tube because it was filled with fluid and causing a lot of pain. My left fallopian tube was damaged after an ectopic pregnancy.

Sometimes I think God is trying to guide me because I do have my hands full with baby J as is. I would love for him to have a sibling though.

We are considering adoption but at this stage hubby and I aren't mentally up for them probing into every aspect of our lives. I am hoping that once we get over this rough patch (and have fully come to accept this new stage of our lives) that we'll be able to move forward with what's best for our families.

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1/21/09 9:54 P

I have two friends who both were told they could never have children. Both adopted and both afterward got pregnant, one almost immediately after the adoption was complete. The other years later and just gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.
Sending hope and best wishes.


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1/21/09 7:58 P

I have not been through this myself, but have many friends who have.

My heart goes out to you as I can imagine it is very upsetting and frustrating to want to have a baby (or have another one) and to be told you cannot.

I would suggest that you find some information from a natural family planning organization. In Canada there is one called "Serena" and I know of one in the States (I don't know if you are there) called the "Couple to Couple League. Often used by couples who wish to space their children or prevent pregnancies, they have fabulous information that can help couples wishing TO conceive.

I can also suggest that you don't lose heart. I have known many couples told they are infertile but who now have two or more children!

Good luck to you!

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1/21/09 1:52 P

I am not dealing with it but had a friend who also had to use IVF and has a healthy little 4 1/2 month old baby girl who is healthy as a horse. She also had a 2 yr old son as well.

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1/21/09 1:49 P

Last month I found out I wouldn't be able to have any more children naturally. (I have a 4 year old autistic son.) We were trying to get pregnant for a couple years.

My doctor has recommended IVF but I can't handle the emotional rollercoaster of all the hormones and implantations and of course the risks that would be involved.

I have been trying not to cry but I realized just how much this is affecting me when I woke up one night in tears.

Is there anyone else dealing with (or who already went through) something similar?