I'm sorry to hear you have such a dilemma to deal with. I hate situations like that. They are friends of your dh, not you, and you don't feel comfortable with the activities (drinking and staying the night) nor the company.
Have you mentioned to your dh your feelings, what you have told us here? Try asking him for suggestions of what you can do to both enjoy the evening. In my experience, men like to solve problems, so perhaps approaching it in that light will help you to find a solution. Let him know what you are willing to do (you'll have to figure that out first yourself! Perhaps you are willing to attend, for him to drink if he wishes, but that you will have one drink and then stop and have water or diluted juice or what have you, but then leave at midnight or whatever).
I'm sure with some communcation and some give and take, you will be able to come up with a solution that works for both of you.
Honesty with your dh, and calmly expressing your feelings (without attacking his, after all, he may be looking forward to such an evening, even if you aren't), will hopefully go a long way in sorting it all out.
Good luck to you both! Let us know how it goes!
Edited by: CJBAGGINS at: 12/13/2008 (16:40)
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