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8/29/08 1:23 P

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Marriage is treating me great, too. Sometimes I do get frustrated and irritated with my hubby, but that's because we are both human. I would never want to be without him, and I don't want to go back to our early relationship, either. On MySpace last year, I wrote a blog called "The Honeymoon's Over". It is, but I prefer the mature love of a marriage that has grown and budded and blosomed, anyway. It is full and rich and steady. those early years are great in their own way, but the joy and love doesn't fade if you are commited to your spouse and truely love them. Sometimes even the anoying things can be endearing. We just celebrated 20 yrs in July.

~Martha

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6/17/08 8:26 P

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*whew* I'm exhausted just reading about your year, Anna. I don't blame you for sleeping for the first part of your honeymoon. I'm glad you got a new job relatively shortly after being made redundant. I remember when my father and father-in-law both lost jobs within a few weeks of each other, and both a few years from retirement. Not a good time in either family, that's for sure. I can imagine how difficult it was for you to go through.

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Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labour in vain.
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6/17/08 1:39 P

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I get asked that question loads too. My usual response is "Life is Chugging along happily, and that we are really having fun now we are past the chaos that was last year."

Just to fill you in on what friends/family know about last year -

In feb I was made redundant, in april got a new job at the same company, in june we bought, and july moved into, our own appartment (and started the never-ending renovations), during the course of the summer we attended 7!!! weddings and three baptisms and then finally we got married in October having organised the whole thing ourselves. I tell you, the three weeks we went on honeymoon was soooooo needed! we both slept almost constantly for the first 4 days just to have the energy to enjoy the rest of the trip! emoticon

Still we managed to survive the year, with all the highs and all the lows too, and it only served to make us stronger in our relationship. All I can ssay is that I feel priviliged to be sharing my life with my husband emoticon

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6/14/08 5:32 P

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Beautifully-said, Christine!
cj

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6/14/08 2:22 P

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It's going great!

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6/13/08 8:35 A

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Marriage has been great for me during the last 23 years. I have been married to my senior prom date and boyfriend since I was 16/17. We got married right after college at the age of 20, turning 21. We had our first child at age 22. I would say the most difficult years were the 7 to 10th year after the purchase of our first home and birth of our second child. However if I were to rate our marriage from 1 to 10 (10 being the best), I would give it 9.5. My husband and I complement and make each other whole. When one is in a bad mood the other is happy, we barely fight. We give and take each other's short comings. We work for the same company and are together basically all the time. I think marriage works well for me...and I am so happy about it!!

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CJBAGGINS's Photo CJBAGGINS Posts: 30,572
6/12/08 5:31 P

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Mythical Angel - I hear you about the economy. It sure adds stress to a marriage, doesn't it, when the economy isn't strong!

Wendy - From what I hear, having trouble finding our roles after a spouse has been away is very normal. I was reading a long series of articles in our local newspaper a few weeks ago. It was all about women (and a few men) who have spouses in the armed forces and how difficult it is after extended absences to fit back into their usual roles, for when the spouse is away, the at-home spouse must fulfill all duties and roles. It is difficult to give up that control and responsibility to the other when they return. Good luck working it out in your household! Although it sounds like you may not have to deal with it much anymore.

cj

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Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labour in vain.
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6/12/08 1:29 P

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I want to thank everyone for sharing their marital experiences. It seems we all have our ups and downs but its generally up and the institution of marraige is still a worthwhile one emoticon





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6/12/08 1:04 P

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Much better than the early part of last week that is for sure! My husband works out of town for 2 weeks then comes home for 1 week and it's always a struggle to detirmine who wears the pants when he's home. The first couple days are usually spent on eachother's toes but towards the end of the week things get on beautifully. He's gone again but luckily this should be the last out of town trip!! We bought bikes last week though and went for a ride together, it was sooo much fun!

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6/11/08 6:34 P

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It's GREAT! Currently I am a little cranky cause of Aunt Flo visiting but that's more me not the marriage. We have a great time. Go bike riding almost everyday with the kids and try to have at least 1 date a month!

Just remember..........one day at a time;-)



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MYTHICALANGEL's Photo MYTHICALANGEL Posts: 6,691
6/10/08 10:56 A

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Mine is going okay husband is great and so are the kids I just wish the economy was better!

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6/10/08 12:24 A

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I love married life and am thankful I found a fantastic man. After 16 years of marriage, living together for 2 years before marriage, and 5 kids and 4 dogs there has not been one day that we did not say I love you or call each other during the day to tell a joke or catch up on the news or kids. We are best friends and we compliment each other well. WE have the same thoughts and finish each others sentences. I have no complaints.

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6/8/08 3:13 P

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Married life is fine.

"Only by seeking challenges can we hope to find the best in ourselves."
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6/8/08 1:46 P

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Its so nice reading that others feel the same as me!!! My hubby and I have only been married a little over a year, but we've been together for over 3 years... but we never had the opportunity to live together first. We finally lived together after we'd been married for 3 months (he's in the Navy and was gone). I already had 3 kids, so we jumped right into being a family. We do so great together. We've had to "prove" to so many people that we knew what we were getting into and that we WANT to be together. Some of his family has made it an issue (not sure if its because I'm white, older or already had kids) but he has told them that this is his choice and he is happy with his life. They still don't get it, but WE are happy. Knowing he stands up for our relationship, even to his own family, makes me so happy. I love him more and more each day, and I'm so happy he's my husband. There are days that he annoys me, but he is also the person who can "get inside my head" and knows what I'm feeling. And he is quick to admit he's wrong when he needs to. I've had a bad marriage before, so I truly know how to appreciate the wonderful husband that I have now!!!

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6/7/08 7:36 P

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Good question!
Married life is treating me fabulously right now. After the health scare with my husband just a few short weeks ago when we didn't know if he'd actually make it or not, I would have to say I am eternally grateful that he is still around and we were able to celebrate his 40th birthday and our 18th anniversary last month.

My husband is a vice principal and our former principal died last year (in his early 40s). Every time I see his widow or his children I thank God then and there for the blessing of my hubby in my life.

All that being said, we have our ups and downs, as everyone does. We just know we are in this for the long haul. With God's grace, though, we will celebrate our 40th, 50th, and even our 60th together, I'm sure of it.

Take care and may God bless you all. It really can get better as time goes on!

cj

God is closer to us than water is to a fish.
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Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labour in vain.
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6/7/08 2:02 P

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This isn't my first marriage, but it is my best and last. I have to pinch myself sometimes to make sure life is real. After living all those years as a struggling single mom to practically wanting for nothing (financially or emotionally) has been a shock to my system. But, a great one and one I definitely can live with. We have a great life and we share everything. Well, we could share a bit more on the housework but that is an ongoing issue that probably won't ever be resolved. So, he 'tries' and I bite my tongue. That's compromise!



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6/7/08 1:34 P

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I'd have to agree - married life is great :-) KHARAHLYN, I can so relate to what you wrote. We'll be married 2 years this summer, and I've had people tell me "oh, you're still in your honeymoon stage," as if I won't think marriage is a good thing in a few years!

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6/7/08 1:11 P

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lol when someone ask how married life is we have the same response. "well neither one of us wants the kids (there are 4 of them) so its not going anywhere" the truth of it. we've been told we put very high ideals of how marriage should be in our single friends heads. this was from my best friend who is single and has seen my hubby and I at our best and at our worst. makes me feel good. i've had a bad marriage don't want to go there again.


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6/7/08 11:23 A

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I've been married for 26 yrs! to my best friend, yes sometimes he drives me crazy, but lets face facts, I drive him crazy too! It gets me all riled up to hear people just put down there spouse, like it was nothing, One thing I have recently learned is to really look at what I have, and it makes me appreciate more how truly blessed I am in being married to the man I have fallen so deeply in love with!

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6/7/08 11:04 A

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What marriage doesn't have it's up and downs but I wouldn't trade mine for the world. He great and we will be married 10 years in November.

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6/7/08 8:54 A

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I love married life. I love life as a mom. My hubby and I lived together before marriage too, so when we got married, things didn't change very much. We have been married just over 2 years. Baby J came along unexpectedly after just 2 months of marriage, so I was 2 weeks pp at our first anniversary. So, I think the only thing that has really been different with marriage, is learning to be a parent as well.

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6/7/08 6:27 A

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its great to hear that there's even better to come!





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6/7/08 5:49 A

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Married life is treating me wonderfully! I'm one of those people who always has that response......and you're right, people expect complaints. Because the response I get to my answer is always along the lines of "you're young yet," or "wait till you have kids." I love my husband and though marriage can be hard at times (far be it from me to say otherwise), it's always worth it for me.

Yes, I have only been married for 6 years, but it just keeps getting better!

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Married Life is treating me the "same." Okay actually not, I think my husband and have gotten better at marriage the longer we have been married. I wake up daily and thinking that's my husband, usually with a great deal of pride.

This morning it was "that's my husband" with a great deal of frustration, as I had to feed the cat and walk the dog (again). But he had been up for 3 hours already. It was a small thing I quickly got over. I love my husband dearly and don't want to live life without him. But somedays.....

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6/7/08 4:25 A

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Since I got married last August this is a question I get asked continually. And I always say 'the same'. I think most people expect you to complain about your partner after asking and some are looking for 'oh its wonderful'. And it is wonderful but it was wonderful before we got married too . emoticon
So for me its the same, we lived together before we got married so there's no major difference and this is fine for me. So I now ask...
How is married life treating YOU?





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