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8/6/08 12:49 P

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This gave me chills. Anytime I feel like me and my hubby are getting lost in the "life" of everyday stuff, I like to stop and give him a big kiss. In that moment I don't hear the kids and the day just seems to stop, its just me and him. Now I'm not saying that he feels the same but you know how men are they wouldn't tell you if it was. LOL

I KNOW GOD WON'T GIVE ME MORE THAN I CAN HANDLE..SOMETIMES I WISH HE WASN'T SO CONFIDENT IN ME!


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8/6/08 10:54 A

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Thank you for posting this story. It brought tears to my eyes.

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8/2/08 11:42 A

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My hubby's promise to me was that he'd never leave the house without giving me a goodbye kiss. I don't think it's a good idea for him to TRY to pick me up and carry me! After 15 years of marriage, I can still fit into my wedding dress (SOMEHOW????), but that means I'm still 100 lbs over what he weighs!

The sentiment of caring in little ways still meaning a lot and helping to renew connections that were lost in life is still WONDERFUL! Thanks for sharing!

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7/21/08 12:29 A

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I just found this too, because of the thread bump. Thank you for the warm fuzzy I got from this story!

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7/20/08 10:31 P

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I know it has been a while since it was posted by Cooltwinmom3 but I just joined and I was just browsing the posts and read it. OMG it made my heart stutter a little. I absolutely loved it. My sweet hubby and I will be celebrating 14 years next month exactly. I am showing this to him when he gets home. emoticon

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6/20/08 5:33 P

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Congratulations on 5 years! Have a wonderful dinner! I guess five is wood (traditionally) or silverware (modern gift), so you'll have to make sure the boat is wooden and you use your cutlery at dinner!
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6/20/08 4:01 P

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Congratulations on 25 years!!
My anniversary is tomorrow, we've been married 5 years and we are going back to the place we had our reception for dinner tomorrow. I am also hoping we can take the same boat that took us there from the little chapel on the lake that we were married in. Hoping for a little rain in the morning, just enough to give us another rainbow and then a beautiful day! emoticon

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6/20/08 12:40 A

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Sounds lovely!
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Thanks again! We had a nice day together. Breakfast out (we left or 19 year old home for the summer son asleep) by ourselves. Took in a movie and are now awaiting a nice dinner. Nothing fancy, but just nice!


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6/18/08 10:46 P

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Well, that calls for a big
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Have a great day and enjoy it together!
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6/18/08 10:38 P

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Thanks CJ! Tomorrow's our big day!!

It is not immoral not to finish a meal, but it is of questionable morality to treat yourself like a waste-disposal system.

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6/17/08 8:21 P

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Anna - that is a shame. At least you get to read it though and can share it with your husband!

Shekirk - how beautiful. Congratulations on the 25 years.
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Thank you, that was beautiful and a great reminder to all of us. This Thursday is our 25th anniversary and never a day goes by without a kiss good morning, good night and just before we go out each day.
Thanks again!

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6/17/08 1:56 P

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I wish I could share this with my uncle - who is leaving my aunt for another woman after 40 years of happy (so my aunt thought) marriage, but sadly it has gone too far and he has hurt my aunt too much for anything to be salvaged.

A beautiful story, thank you for sharing.

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This was amazing..it brought tears to my eyes...

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Thanks for posting and sharing. That was a great reminder.

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Wow, that was great. Thank you so much.....


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Wow. That was good. Thanks for sharing.
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That was a very nice post and I am very touched by it. Thank you

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Wow, that was touching.

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This was great and I appreciate you posting it. Thanks so much.

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Thank you

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THIS IS SO POWERFUL AND A MUST READ FOR MARRIED COUPLES AN EYE OPENER) AND FOR THOSE WHO DESIRE TO MARRY.

Be Blessed!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her
know what I was thinking.
"I want a divorce". I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me Softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night we didn't talk to each other. She was
weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had
happened to our marriage.

But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew.
I did not love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce
agreement which stated, she could own our house, our
car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces.
The woman who had spent ten years of her life with
me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her
wasted time, resources and energy but I could not
take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was
what I had expected to see. To me, her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found
her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table
writing. I just did not care so I turned over and
was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: She didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible.

Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with
our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning.

I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce,
she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared
clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, "daddy is holding mommy in his arms". His words brought me a
sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; do not tell our son about the divorce.
I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down
outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to
work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily.
She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance
of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at
this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her.

For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our
sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell
Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the
month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I
could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me. She had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out.
To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out
had become an essential part of his life.

My wife gestured to our son to come closer and
hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I
was afraid I might change my mind at this last
minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from
the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and
naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just
like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight
made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school.
I held her tightly and said, I had not noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs.....Dew opened the door...and I said to
her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my
forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into
my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us part. Dew seemed to suddenly
wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed
the door and burst into tears.

I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, "I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart."

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah.. blah.....

These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.
Have a real happy marriage!



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