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Fitness Minutes: (20) Posts: 36 3/4/13 8:46 P
A little late on the reply, but I am with some of the others. Here in Houston it's scorching hot most of the time and a cover is almost down-right impossible. I do the tank-under-tshirt thing to cover most of the breast. But in the end, if anyone ever looks at me with disapproving stares I just smile big and keep going. Just remember you're doing what's best for baby. :)
-Jenn Mother of three Full-time student Stay at home mom
Instead of giving myself reasons why I CAN'T I give myself reasons why I CAN.
current weight: 166.0
Fitness Minutes: (7,631) Posts: 41 2/19/13 3:12 P
Thanks for all the encouragement, my little guy is 9 months almost 10 months and I am proudly still breast feeding. It still gets a little awkward in public but it has gotten alot easier. Thank you all for the wonderful encouragement and stories.
current weight: 166.5
Fitness Minutes: (24,259) Posts: 48 1/18/13 9:19 A
Truly I didn't ever think about breastfeeding until I was over half way through being pregnant. The reality sunk even deeper when I began leaking before he was even born. The first month was awful, trying to figure it out and not wanting to talk about it because I realized I thought it was gross and didn't want to talk about it at all. All sorts of people men and women alike want to discuss the grossest things now that I have had a baby. It is still uncomfortable for me, but I am seeing that this is a part of the natural order of things and it is supportive that others are talking to me about it. Nursing has gotten a lot easier over time, too because he is latching better and I am calmer. I still feed him in the car sometimes just so that I don't have to deal with people and I can focus on my little one. I also pump bottles so his grandmas can feed him and babysit him.
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Posts: 3,996 1/7/13 11:36 A
Lindie that is just the point most people "think" they are going to see a whole lot and in reality you don't see much. Babies heads are huge. I am a G cup, and my breast are larger then my babies heads. BUT, I still have seldom had people notice, unless they too are breastfeeding moms. I've had people come up and play with my baby, stroke their hair and all kinds of things and then jump after doing this for minutes when they figure out I am actually nursing! lol Well it's not like I told the stranger to come up and be messing with my baby! lol haha But, the truth is most people won't even notice. It should be a non issue!
The thing is our society is sooooooooo into a bottle, that's mainly what we see out there. I'm shocked at the amount of bottles out there. I had one lady at church even ask me if I used x kind of bottles, I said no...she said you don't?!?! Um no, I don't use bottles...you don't use bottles, well what do you use?!?! um.....the containers the milk comes in....but she got it before I had to say that much! lol haha
I would be more inclined to breastfeed in public if I saw more people do it. You'd think in a major city that you would see more mom breastfeeding but I have never seen anyone, so they have been so discreet that I haven't noticed!
Posts: 31 1/4/13 10:25 P
I WAS ALSO EMBARRASSED IN THE BEGINNING. I THINK MY HUSBAND WAS MORE EMBARRASSED BECAUSE HE USED TO SET UP UMBRELLAS AND BLANKETS AROUND ME AND DREW MORE ATTENTION TO ME THAN IF HE JUST LET ME NURSE. I USED TO ALSO RUN TO THE CAR WHENEVER I HAD TO NURSE. BUT IT DOES GET EASIER. MY SECOND I WAS STILL BEING DISCREET BUT FED HIM ON DEMAND. BY THE TIME MY TWINS CAME AROUND I COULDNT CARE LESS. BESIDES THEY ALWAYS WERE HUNGRY AT THE SAME TIME SO I HAD TO DO THE FOOTBALL HOLD WITH THEM AT THE SAME TIME SO THERE REALLY WASN'T ALOT I COULD COVER. I WOULD GO TO A CORNER AND MY HUSBAND WOULD PUT A BLANKET OVER MY SHOULDER BUT THEY DIDNT LIKE IT AND WOULD OFTEN PULL IT OFF. MY TWINS ARE NOW 3 1/2 AND I STILL NURSE. MAINLY MORNING AND NIGHT. I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD GO ON THIS LONG BUT SEEING THESE ARE MY LAST I FIGURED I'D MIGHT AS WELL ENJOY IT WHILE IT LASTS. MY OTHER CHILDREN WERE DONE BY 14 MONTHS SO I AM SURPRISED THESE 2 WANT TO CONTINUE. I HAVE ALSO NURSED THESE GUYS IN RESTAURANTS. BUT AFTER THE FIRST 2, IT WAS SO EASY TO DO WITHOUT ANYONE EVEN NOTICING.
HANG IN THERE IT DEFINITELY GETS EASIER WITH EXPERIENCE AND YOUR CONFIDENCE WILL GROW AS TIME GOES ON.
current weight: 167.0
Posts: 36 1/4/13 9:44 P
It does get easier! I nursed my first until 32 month and now the 2nd is 3 months. I'm certainly less self conscious then I was when first getting used to nursing. I nurse anywhere we happen to be, and I don't ever use a cover. I don't think I've ever had anyone make a comment, or even give me a dirty look. I don't know if it's because I live in a fairly breastfeeding friendly city or if people aren't as judgemental as we sometimes fear. I think it's so sad that our society embarrasses moms for feeding there babies the way nature intended!
"Sympathy and kindness are not small things to be rationed out by droppers, only to those perfectly deserving - they should be ladled out and poured from buckets and flow out of us like rivers." Sharon Astyk
current weight: 124.0
Posts: 99 1/4/13 2:25 P
This is my first baby and I def was embarrassed to breastfeed in public those first few months! I tried the cover up apron and found that it was so ackward that it only made things more stressful and difficult. But I have found that since we have both got the latching down, i don't care any more. I breastfeed in public or at friends' homes.I can't tell you how many of my friends I embarrassed the first time I whipped my boob out in front of them, but they got over it. I try to cover up in public for other people's comfort but often when I'm with friends and family I don't both. The only person this seems to bother is my dad who walks out of the room to avoid seeing any boob! Even my 18 y/o foster son has been awesome dealing with the random glimpes of boob every so often. If anything, I'm proud that I am encouraging him to have a positive perspective of breastfeeding for his own family in the future. I have yet to have a negative experience with others but I also think that I would have a very different reaction now than i would have 3 months ago. It takes time and experience to find your own comfort level and to brace yourselves for other's reactions.
current weight: 175.6
Posts: 3,996 8/21/12 1:09 P
lol Aubrey I love it!
One thing though I would change....it's not that breastfed babies are "higher" IQ then formula fed babies, it's more of breastfed babies are normal IQ and formula fed babies are lower IQ...cause weather you believe in evolution or creation, breast milk was created, or evolved to exactly what babies need and formula was just thrown together by men. So any way interesting twist on a way to look at the IQ part of it.
I'm on my 3rd, so I feel ya. With my first, I used to go hide in the bathroom to feed her, until one day I thought, "Would I want to have my meal sitting in a bathroom?" No! She was good about letting me cover her head up. I was also soooo greatful for nursing the day I locked my keys in my car. Also locked the diaper bag in there, and had to wait for a couple hours for a locksmith. The entire time, I thought, "Thank God I breastfeed!" With my 2nd, she was NOT appreciative of the cover AT ALL. She'd just reach up, and tear at it til I took it off. So, I got creative. I wear a nursing bra, with a tank top (or two), or a shirt, depending on the weather. When baby wants to nurse, I pull down the bra and tank top underneath, and pull up the over shirt. This keeps my belly covered and the top of the boob covered, as well. I practiced in front of a mirror on getting the shirts up and down and the baby latched without anyone seeing. It made me feel more confident to nurse in public. I do this with my 3rd, also. It works wonderfully. I nurse in front of people all the time. (Except my dad, haha. He is totally freaked out that he might see my boob, so he will leave the room everytime she wants to nurse, ha. No, my mom didn't BF, obviously.) The last breastfeeder in my fam was my great-grandma, who only did because she was too poor to afford food for her babies and they would have starved... so, I have dealt with LOTS of negatives from my own family on it. (Even my MIL, who is a nurse was trying to get me to wean my 1st at 2 weeks, and always makes snide remarks about "YOU breastfeeding mothers"...which is really fun to blow her mind and reply, nearly every time she makes a comment on how smart my baby is, "I think it is definitely the breastmilk." and throw in tidbits of info about how they have higher IQ's, etc... she always shudders and it gives me a little giggle). Anyway, most of the negatives have come from my inner circle. Luckily, I've always done things my way (homebirth, homeschool...) so, now nobody says a word to me, since my older two miraculously turned out well, ha. I have only had one lady in public (recently) grimace and shake her head at me while I nursed. Then, she proceeded to pull out her phone to take pictures, which I found extremely odd. SOOO, I said, calmly, "I know it is such a rare sight to see a human mother nurse her baby in the wild. Wonderful, isn't it?" To which she put her phone away, and looked away and never caught my gaze again. Some people are full on idiots.
Edited by: AUBREYJO at: 8/21/2012 (12:53)
Aubrey :) Workin on losing the baby weight so I can get back to "maintaining" my 100 lb weight loss... Ticker reflects PP weight and my goal weight... "Behind every beautiful thing there’s been some kind of pain." ~ Bob Dylan ~ Not Dark Yet
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Posts: 3 8/20/12 5:17 P
I am five weeks post partum and I'm just now starting to get comfortable NIP. My first experience was empowering because I met a friend with a 3 month old three hours away. We had to both nurse, so that was easier. I have some nursing shirts that I love from Old Navy. I feel better in them too because they hide my belly fat (which I had way before he came along). I also do the shirt with a tank underneath. My second experience was at a church function where there was no privacy. I sat a shower room in the bathroom because I was embarrased. So many mommies were so supportive stating that I shouldn't have to feed him in there and one even sat on the floor with me until we were done. That helped me have the courage to try NIP without being as shy. Its a slow process getting comfortable, but I'm getting used to it. Hang in there mama! Our culture sure has a lot to change, but by doing what's right for our babies, we are part of the change of acceptance :)
current weight: 235.6
Fitness Minutes: (10,447) Posts: 537 8/14/12 3:18 P
The more practice I got with bf in public the easier it became which made it so much more comfortable for me. The nursing cover helped me in the early days so I could get her latched on and comfortable then I would take it mostly off. Buying clothes is one of my least favorite things to do so I don't have any nursing shirts. I use a nursing bra and make sure my shirt is stretchy. Once she is latched on I pull my shirt down to her mouth and tuck it in under her belly to cover up mine. I make sure we sit in a bit of a corner or my husband will sit on the side she is nursing to help cover a bit. We've never had a bad experience or really had anyone even notice I was feeding her. Lots of times people have commented on her sleeping and had whole conversations with me without ever knowing she was nursing. There was one time the young waiter taking our order figured it out. He was so flustered I couldn't help but think it was funny. Once I was comfortable with latching her on and covering up when she was done it was incredibly liberating. I take her to work with me and work with all men. They will come in and talk to me if they need to while I'm nursing, because I'm so comfortable they are as well.
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current weight: 154.0
Posts: 54 7/29/12 12:04 A
I do the tank top under a shirt trick the others have mentioned. I've carried on full conversations with ppl who did not even realize I was breastfeeding. They thought I was just holding my sleeping baby. Where I live NIP is really common place and it is more normalized here. Even when I lived elsewhere I've never had a problem though. Most people do not care. I have four kids and have lived all over the country and have never had a negative comment thrown my way. The more you do it the more confident you get too.
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Posts: 42 7/19/12 6:15 P
I agree with all the responses. I am nursing my third and it gets easier with practice. I have only ever had positive experiences.
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Posts: 599 7/19/12 12:32 A
Not embarrassed to bf in public. I use a nursing cover if I'm around a lot of people but if the closest person is further away I skip the cover, especially when it's hot out.
"I'm in the race but I've already won And getting there can be half the fun So don't stop me until I'm good and done Don't you try to rain on my, Perfect Day"
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Posts: 3,996 7/17/12 8:44 P
lol I love that response, are you hungry too! lol haha!
With my first I was totally afraid, now honestly I just feed my son. He refused to use a cover so I just always wear a tank under my shirt and just lift and place him on. I've been lucky, I have gotten few stares but when I do I just ask if they are hungry too, it usually makes them walk away :)
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Posts: 3,996 7/17/12 12:21 A
yeah it's really hot even under the thin ones...put your head under and see...I did and wow it was really really hot, I figured out fast why baby didn't like it! lol
Using a cover never worked for us. At first it was because I was new to breast feeding and couldn't latch him without seeing what I was doing. Once I got it figured out, he was old enough to know he didn't like his head covered and would rip it off. Even when I did try to use a cover, it was solely for the comfort of those around me - I'm not worried about modesty when it comes to breast feeding. But it just wouldn't work, so I started wearing a tank top under my shirt so I could pull the top of the tank down and the bottom of my shirt up and could still be reasonably covered without covering my child's head. I must give off some sort of "I dare you to confront me" vibe, because I have yet to experience the rudeness we hear about others experiencing. Even at the Target Nurse-In, I was the only one who showed up locally, and no one gave me a dirty look or asked me to cover up or anything.
The tragedy in life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach. ~Benjamin Mays
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Posts: 137 7/12/12 12:52 P
My girl hates having anything covering her up, I have a cover, but she hates it and get mad and ends up wearing more milk than she's eating. I wear a tank under everything so I can pull the tank down and the top shirt up and I stay covered. I also try to seat myself in somewhat of a corner so I am not too noticeable, but I've found that most of the time people don't even notice that I am feeding her. Please don't feel embarrassed to feed your baby in public, its natural, and most people don't have a problem with it if you are at least trying to be discreet. The intent of the photo was not to make BFing moms feel awkward, but to help support them. I figure you see more at a beach than you would watching a mom BF (although, there are exceptions to this statement, I've seen some moms let it all hang out). And honestly, if anyone would ever tell me to feed my baby in a restroom I'd politely smile and ask if I can move their table into the bathroom, since they feel its a sanitary place for my baby to eat, they shouldn't mind eating there themselves. Now, there are some places where I would elect to feed my baby in the car, and I have done that...I wouldn't feed my baby in a 5 star restaurant (I wouldn't have a baby in a five star restaurant to begin with...). But, I've fed her in the Smithsonian Air and Space museum, most restaurants I've been to, the subway, at the doctors while having my ring cut off since my finger swelled around it...I look at it this way; would people be more upset with me feeding my baby or my baby screaming because she's hungry? Then again, I have a 'screw you' kind of attitude about some things :)
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Posts: 1,940 7/12/12 11:20 A
I've never been embarrassed about nursing and do it proudly. I've never received a dirty look or nasty comment EVER! And I've nursed 4 kids for approx 10 yrs total. I don't blatantly show boob but I don't cover up either except for my pulling shirt down over where baby is nursing. I also decided with baby #3 that nursing shirts were a great thing! Mainly because they hid my side and belly skin and THAT was what I was more self conscience about-LOL
But everyone has to get to a place where they are comfortable and whether that is with a cover or just nursing in the car, you have to do whatever works for you!
PS-I HAVE rec'd funny looks about wearing a breastfeeding T shirt but not actually bfing-go figure!
I bought one of those coverup blankets on Amazon that has a strap that goes around my neck and a stiff plastic half-circle around the front so I can see the baby while she latches on and eats. I didn't buy this until baby #4 and I sure wish I had it 12 years ago with #1. It would make a great shower gift. I always use a coverup in public, but I also do not hesitate to nurse in public even at a restaurant or in a store. I figure that I probably bother a lot less people nursing than listening to her scream because she is hungry. We do nurse a lot in the car so I can corral the other three children and so the baby will settle down to nurse with less distractions. We do not use a coverup at home or in the car. This coverup doesn't bother me due to the heat because it is so thin, not like a blanket. I always just wear fuller clothes and lift my shirt up from the bottom so I feel like I stay more covered. Breastfeeding tops never worked for me and I ended up investing a lot of money in tops I didn't care for and would never wear again learning that lesson.
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Posts: 3,996 7/11/12 6:25 P
It's too hot for us with a cover/blanket. I just pull my shirt down to the top of babies lips. It doesnt bother me....I just do it, the more you do it the easier it gets. It's not just what drs say is right though, we know this is how all mammals including humans have exsisted since the beginning of time. It wasn't tell a few years ago that formula was developed that there was any other way! And formula was developed for children who maybe their mom died during child birth, or for some reason or another couldn't produce milk, etc. Not for the regular birth/healthy babies!
Fitness Minutes: (88,237) Posts: 15,044 7/11/12 5:17 P
I am on baby #4 and still feel self conscious. Granted, it isn't as bad as it was with my first, but I am not one to let it all hang out, lol! I normally plan my outings around baby's feedings so I typically avoid nursing in public but if I do I keep a big blankie with me to toss over both of us.
*Amber* ~ALP for the BLC~
current weight: 163.0
Fitness Minutes: (7,631) Posts: 41 7/11/12 4:49 P
Ever since that photo that came out with the 2 breast feeding military women I'm kinda embarrassed to BF in public. It feels like its a shameful thing to do it, people stare at you like you are doing something wrong. But on the other hand all the doctors say it is best to do for your baby and we should be doing it till they are a year old. I do cover up when I do breast feed but I don't know how many times I have went to the bathroom or car to BF because I was embarrassed. Does anyone else feel the same, if not how do you feel about doing it in public?
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