WOW HOW TRUE! I love that y'all are encouraging to everyone. I remember way back in highschool. I was about 175 and my mom a healthy weightwatchers 140 who constantly nagged me to loose weight became my worst enemy! When I finaly got moving and lost that first 5 pounds, i ran to her exclaiming " I've lost F-I-V-E pounds!" her response. " oh really.... where!" Remember You are your reason!. You CAN Do it. and You are are already 5 pounds healthier! Even if you get stuck you are still 95% successful. DON'T let others bend your brain!
Last time i lost 20 pounds no one noticed, I tried to tell others at work and they just stared at my huge frame and belly and did not say a word. I have since learned to keep this to myself. We are here cheering you on and your gonna be so proud of yourself, we already are!
Wow, some great words of wisdom already written here. Let me start by saying thanks for the question! It has helped me a lot. I struggled with this when I first started with my husband (tough one when you are trying to do something good for yourself and he doesn't want to share) Anyway..... once I got over wanting to share every detail and get everyone on board to Sparkville, it has been better. After the first 10 pounds, I talked to those who asked and told them to shut me up if I didn't stop. It is hard. My husbands side is large and my one sister in law is coming around and maybe wanting to join, but I let her come to me. This is for ME and has to be for YOU. The only person we can change is ourselves. Good luck and stick to it. YOU ARE WORTH IT!! Annabelle
Pounds lost: 51.0
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This is the one topic where there is very little information to prepare yourself for. During the lead-up to my surgery, it was discussed that a lot of relationships can come to an end when one person or the other loses a great deal of weight, however if your bond was strong the weight loss would make it stronger.
I think so far for me, as suggested by others, is thick skin and keeping the knowledge to yourself might be easiest way. People will try to sabotage you. Your goal acheivement is your own pleasure. Only you can truly enjoy it.
There are several topics that come up for me that I still struggle with. The first is people who say "wow, you must be so happy now !" I don't feel that I've changed who I am at my core, I'm just a lot more healthy and can now engage in things I thought were gone forever. The other is people who would not have anything to do with you will now be much more friendly to you. Those are the people I struggle with the most. I refuse to deal with them. They are bigots and there is no longer any place in my life for people like that.
I completely agree with Robert, of course. I actually don't talk about my weight loss very much to people in my real life. If they ask a question, I'll answer it, but I don't take my victories or hardships to them either. I've gotten all sorts of reactions from family -- the diet police, monitoring what I eat and critiquing it; the "helpful" advice about what works for them, despite the fact that I'm clearly succeeding in my own way; the "concern" that I'm losing too much weight too quickly and being too obsessive about it.
So I don't really talk about it to them. That's one of the reasons I'm very grateful for this site. I've assembled my team of supportive friends (I call them my spark pack). They cheer me on, they understand my obstacles, and they don't mind however obsessive I can get! It took me a number of months to get a group together that works for me (and new people become friends all the time!), but now I use this place, and in particular my blog, as my place to vent.
Hope some of this helps.
Pounds lost: 44.0
Fitness Minutes: (27,816) Posts: 6,714 1/6/12 6:45 P
weight loss should probably be added to the things not to talk about in mixed company, right along with sex, politics and religion. it is unfortunate but you do have to be a little discreet and share only with those people who you know will be supportive. this also has a way of thinning the herd when it comes to your support network.
Changing your life is not for cowards, that is for sure and you must be determined that regardless of who says what, you will lead by example and press forward. That is the only way I made it this far.
In my personal experience, I had so many people who were so "concerned" about my weight...until I did something about it....insert crickets chirping sound here..... where did they all go? there is something about losing over 100 lbs, keeping it off for over 2 years, and finishing my first marathon that has a tendency to shut up the "experts"
You should do the same, forget about the know it all blowhards and lead by example, shut them up by results and frankly , its YOUR life, dont waste it on survivors guilt. Put your hand to the plow, dont look back, and instead of feeling guilty, let your success prod them to get off their duff and follow suit.
I know that sounds like alot of tough talk but it is necessary that you develop a backbone if you will endure the long process reclaiming your life and not let your success be turned into failure because of the people spewing out some ignorance.
Its your life, take it back come hell or high water.
It may take a while, but maybe your family will see how good you feel and look as you lose weight and they'll jump on the bandwagon. I also get the same feedback from a couple members of my family and I've just stopped going to them with my victories or struggles. Remember you can always turn to your SparkTeam too!
Good luck and don't let anyone bring you down, it's not worth sabotaging your hard work over!
It's not going to happen just because you want it to. It's going to happen because you worked for it!
Pounds lost: 16.0
Fitness Minutes: (4,193) Posts: 420 1/6/12 3:56 P
Help, I'm struggling with feelings of guilt at finally losing some weight.
I come from a family and married into a family with weight issues. Even though I've only lost 5 pounds so far, it's already starting.
I tried to share my small success with a family member and I get the diatribe of how knowledgable they are about eating healthy and what I should and shouldn't be doing.Of course, this person doesn't follow their own advice. Then I get the "That's nice, I wish I could lose weight." This makes me feel like I'm leaving them behind on the battle field of weight loss.
How have you all dealt with these situations and with people who don't respect your choice to follow a healthy lifestyle.
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