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LADYINWAITING's Photo LADYINWAITING Posts: 29
2/10/07 10:26 A

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Yeah.... can't even imagine moving back to the states. I have always been a bit of a blacksheep of my family and find more interest in being different than being the same. But, that in itself can have it's costs I guess.

Went look at a new job this week. It is a prospect as well as one I just saw advertised in the paper.

Have a week off now because of half-term and plan to really recharge and enjoy myself!

Thanks everyone!

Life's too short to be unhappy!

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2/10/07 9:57 A

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Yes Ladies,
I have noticed cycles in feeling like you're sick and tired of being out of your country of origin.

I noticed it at about 3 years; then 5-6 years, again at 10; then 15. If you make it past 10, you are usually home-free.

Although, each person has different impulses for wanting to leave, run home. I know a woman who left France after 14 years here. But she had her reasons.

If I go back to the US about every 3 years, that seems to satisfy my homesickness. I realize, like CHAMUCAA, that I am more out of place in the US than in France!
I get my dose and then that's enough for awhile!

Bye for now, Dedene

Edited by: FILLEFRANCAISE at: 2/10/2007 (09:57)
Dedene in France
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CHAMUCA48's Photo CHAMUCA48 Posts: 49
2/8/07 6:34 P

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It is just like a marriage. They say marriage goes thru a bad spot at 7 years also.

When Ihave to go up against govt I just HATE it here - Mexico is sooooo corrupt. But after being here for 37 years it certainly is home and when I do go Stateside I feel like a forgeiner.

As I get older I find that dealig with the bad stuff is getting harder and I get homesick more often - but then where is home ??? Many of us expats are nomads since birth - if we were not we would not have had the gumption to marry someone "different".

Gotta hand it to us - we are BRAVE and our other halves are also BRAVE !

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2/6/07 3:12 A

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Dedene, was it you who told me that being an expat gets more difficult again around 6 years?...
Glad it's getting better for you, Lady. You've been through so much already, and succesfully, it seems! Hang in there.

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LADYINWAITING's Photo LADYINWAITING Posts: 29
2/6/07 1:22 A

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Thank you everyone! I am feeling better. I have been in the UK for 5 1/2 years now and do consider this to be home. I guess it this is bound to happen when you come up against something you haven't had to deal with in the new country.

Car is getting sorted out, my whiplash seems to have gone away, work... well, a major development occured yesterday that I will get to shove under the nose of the "boss" and PROVE that my team is working hard.... probably the hardest in the school at the moment! HA.... put that in your pipe and smoke it! LOL

I do count my blessings.... I have the most wonderful husband in the world who treats me like a queen and the most adorable son who loves me very much!!

Thanks again everyone!

Life's too short to be unhappy!

If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got!!


 
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2/5/07 4:02 P

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I know what you mean regarding government agencies. I live in Spain where it is so laid back..hence the saying Manyana...meaning tomorrow.


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2/5/07 4:41 A

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I have a full sympathy with you. The life in another country is not always so smooth especially when you have to deal with government agencies.

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SARABLUENOSE's Photo SARABLUENOSE Posts: 744
2/4/07 9:28 A

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Oh Lady, I think that's something we've all been through!!! And it really sucks!
I think De's onto the right thing with sweating out the frustration... I find Combat and Tae Bo super good for that...
How about doing something that reminds you why you like to live where you live... I find a walk through the old part of town with my husband helps, or a frolic in the snow... Or a visit into London when I lived in the Uk...
Hugs and warm wishes...

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2/4/07 6:06 A

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LADY,
Oh you poor dear! We have all experienced these incredible frustrations! Just be calm and work through them slowly. At least, you don't have the language barrier!!!!

Just vent and go sweat at your gym. You'll feel better.

Gosh, when I think that even after all of this time, I still get these "horrors"!

Be well, and try to adapt. You'll never get the whole country to change!
Good luck, Dedene

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2/4/07 3:52 A

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I'm sorry to hear life is confusing for you right now. I'm sure we've all had those moments of doubt- like, is this just my life right now or my life HERE? I know I've thought that many times. I hope things get sorted out with the insurance (which is a hassle anywhere as far as I know) and with the job, too. You sound homesick so it's good that at least you have a trip home soon to look forward to! I totally lived from trip to trip in the first couple of years, couldn't wait to get back to Miami and breathe a sigh of relief. Nowadays I don't feel that way anymore, though.. Helsinki has really become home.

Well, stay strong and we understand!! Hugs!

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LADYINWAITING's Photo LADYINWAITING Posts: 29
2/4/07 3:42 A

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that sometimes, as a expat, we take too many things to heart.

Or.... that you can't make the differentiation between the hardships of being an expat and just life itself?

These last few weeks have been horrendous. One being that I had a car accident and trying to figure the whole system of insurance and how it gets sorted out. The second being my job and trying to figure out if the way I do things is because I am an American and the way they do things is so British that they are not compatible anymore.

Sighs.... just some bad weeks all in all and longing for some nice warm weather!!

Roll on April when I can spend a few days back in the states!!!

Life's too short to be unhappy!

If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got!!


 
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