When I divorced, it killed me to not have my kids on holidays. Their dad had them the first Thanksgiving and Christmas. (Every other holiday sometimes does that.) He had them every other weekend also.
It was important that I not make this difficult for my two children. I gave them my cell phone so they could call any time they wanted to. I got them suitcases so they could take their clothes and things to his house without a problem. I told them they had to go and try to make it work even though they didn't want to go.
There is a reason the other person is an ex. Sometimes it has nothing to do with parenting skills.
Make it easy for the kids to go. Make plans so they don't miss your celebrations. I had Thanksgiving on another day and we celebrated Christmas when they got home. When they had the weekend with their dad, they had the cell phone and they knew that although my life went on, I didn't make fun plans without them.
Accept their feelings. They have a right to love both parents. They have a right to be happy regardless of whatever is happening. Listen if they want to talk but never speak badly of the other parent. They will form their own opinion and if you say bad things, it might color your relationship.
Hope this helps. My kids are adults now and are happy and well adjusted. They see their father and me and I don't ask them to choose. I still have Thanksgiving on another day. I actually celebrate Christmas on Dec 26 so my children don't have to choose. Some have in laws and I don't want them to have to choose there either.
Make their lives easy. Love them. Accept their feelings. Help your sister. Smile. You can do this. The kids will survive. So will you.
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