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5/30/15 10:29 A

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Hello Everyone

Well .. it is over. I had my final days at work this past week, and the last day was yesterday. I did ok .. there was crying involved .. my boss hugged me and cried .. and that started me. He apologized several times .. and explained that it was not his choice. (I'm sure he was not supposed to do that) .. we had a pretty good talk. He's a young guy and really didn't know how to handle it .. he told me that. I feel very drained, but i know that this is a new phase in my life, and I plan to enjoy it. I thank all of you for the support.

I've been doing pretty well eating wise .. trying to eat healthy to keep up my strength. I now need to get back on track .. measuring, tracking, walking AND checking in everyday .. this will help me be successful.

Hope you are all doing well .. I don't think I can get caught up in all the posts, but will work on them a bit at a time.

Today (and tomorrow) .. 2 of my grandkids have their dance recitals. Granddaughter (10) does ballet, tap, jazz and hip hop .. 8 yr old grandson does hip hop. You should see him do that walking in a circle on the floor .. it is amazing!

Well .. I'm off to buy flowers for the dancers.

Have great day everyone!
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5/30/15 9:03 A

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I am off this morning to get my hair done in Waldorf, MD (about a hour drive around the Beltway); then I am going to my friends house, where I attended the "Fight Party" 4 weeks ago. I will pick up the wine I ordered; and attend a block party for my friends son and others who graduated from high school. Tomorrow I am going to finish a work project that i don't have time to do during the week. I also have to get ready for company next weekend; as my sister and friend are coming for the Capital Jazz Fest Weekend. I am going to the festival only next Saturday.

Tammyand--A full weekend; chockfull of eating opportunities. You'll be OK. Are you bringing something for the Potluck? 1/2 pound is better than nothing. Sounds like a fun weekend.

Debbie--I wish I was going on vacation next week too. I know vacations aren't supposed to be about food; but food stares you in the face wherever you go; at least on the kind of vacations I take. No wonder I come home at least 7 pounds heavier. Wish I could take those strawberries off your hands. Lately I have been eating them stewed, with lemon juice, stevia, and water. Corn is in season here and I have been eating a cob every day; its 20 cents an ear now on sale. Love my white corn. I cut if off the cob and heat the niblets with a little water, salt, and pepper, and a dab of light butter.

Justme-Your lentil stew sounds delish. I did a lot of vigorous things when I was heavier too. I guess the older I got; being heavy was no longer acceptable. Glad to hear your cousin's treatment is ending for now.

Hope everyone has a good Saturday.

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5/29/15 11:59 P

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Linda - It's amazing how an injury or health problems can throw us off our game. I know I had so many injuries over the years that I quit taking care of myself, too. I still have issues that I have to deal with, but I persevere. I didn't start out exercising like I do now. I had to take it little steps at a time, but now I'm strong and healthy and fit. And, I still have to do some things differently to accommodate my body. You can do this. The only way to fail is to quit. And I know you won't do that. I agree with Marlene, I wish I was there to see what you're doing. I confess I have tried just about every diet out there: Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, Fit or Fat, Low Fat, Low Carb, Curves, 17 Day Diet, you name it. Since this is your first time out, you'll find it frustrating at times, amazing at times, rewarding at times, and any number of things that go with trying something new. As long as you don't quit, you're good.

Paula (TammyAnd) - what a busy day you have planned for your day of rest. Take it easy and enjoy the company of friends.

Marlene - We've been visiting the resorts within our time share system for years and have always enjoyed the fact that there are fully stocked cooking facilities and we do use them. We rarely go out for breakfast, often for lunch (as we're off being tourists at lunch time) and usually about half the time for dinner. So, I really do plan to use them. We're taking a lot of healthy food to use during the week.

OK - My personal trainer once told me that weight loss is 60% diet and 40% exercise, so as long as your diet was good, you should still see a loss - or at least not a gain. It may be smaller than you'd hope, but better some than none. I hope you're staying safe. The weather looks formidable in that part of the world right now. My mom lives about an hour north of Houston so I worry about her place. Not her right now as she's in South Carolina for my niece's wedding, thank goodness.

PaulaG - congrats on that size loss. It's significant. I had to get rid of all of my big clothes as I used to wear at size 24 (and that was tight) and now wear a 12 or 14 depending on make. Good going and keep it up!! And, as I told Linda above, you'll get there with exercise and being able to move. My medical history for surgeries for injuries and degenerative disc disease in my neck and now a problem moving down my spine is lengthy. You do what you can and you get stronger and then you do more. Repeat. Pushing yourself is important, but not to the point of hurting yourself.

I up to my eyeballs in strawberries. They all ripen at once. So, we've been eating lots of them. I told my neighbor - who is taking care of my dogs and cat while we're gone, to please pick as many as they want while we're gone. I'd hate to have them go to waste. The blueberries are starting to turn blue, so it won't be long before we're eating those, too. Raspberries are starting to bloom, so maybe by early to mid July on those. My garden is growing well, too. Lettuce is starting to poke through the ground, tomatoes have a few blooms, snow peas are starting grow well and the other veggies are also thriving. We've had a really mild winter and spring and it's helping everything grow early.

I stayed compliant again today. The scale is already showing some downward movement. I hope to stay even at least while on our trip. Normally I would do at least an hour of intense cardio tomorrow, but our shelter is having a fund raising event that I will be at for several hours. Fortunately, it's a 5K, 10K run and 1 mile walk with dogs (Called Hike on the Dike - the dike being the dike along the Columbia River). Since I don't run I won't be doing the 5 or 10K, but we will do the 1 mile walk with our dogs. I also have to pack tomorrow. And, yes, I will exercise while on vacation, whether it's a dedicated hour and a half or it's part of the activity we're doing (i.e., kayaking, hiking, walking the beaches..) One of the things I love about being healthy and fit is being able to take an active vacation. And who needs to exercise if you stay active all day?

Have a great weekend everybody.


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5/29/15 11:05 P

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Just a quick check in from me tonight. I already took my melatonin and hope to fall asleep soon. I was not on track today, for no good reason. I felt out of sorts, but I am well aware that that is no excuse. I will be at church most of the day tomorrow. First we have a service at 10 AM, followed by a potluck lunch. After lunch we have a speaker. I am not sure how long the afternoon discussion will last. I also had plans to go to a minor league baseball game about 90 minutes from here. I canceled those plans tonight. I thought it would be just too much for one day, especially since I will be away all day Sunday, going to the cemetery where my parents & grandparents are buried as well as other friends and relatives. There will be a special prayer service for the departed at noon. This is an annual event, held on the day we celebrate Pentecost.After that, I will go back to the home of one of my cousins where we will have a very nice meal I am sure. I suspect Sunday will also be a long day. I was a little disappointed this morning when I weighed in and lost only a half pound. Perhaps, that is why I was not on track. I wish everyone a good Saturday. I will probably check in sometime Saturday after I get back from the church events.

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5/29/15 10:54 P

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The lamb is already frozen. I would not keep it over 3 days in the fridge. My lentil stew is filled with veg, carrots, onions, peppers, garlic, shallots, celery, yam, butternut squash, and diced tomatoes. I just love the flavor of lamb and green lentils together. I was active and healthy up until the last 5 years. I never dieted because I could do everything I wanted to. Then my knees gave out, and I developed diabetes. I used to hike, ride horseback, swim all at over 200 pounds. Now, I deeply regret my decision to ignore my problem.

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5/29/15 7:45 P

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Justme--Stick to meatless Monday; those lamb shanks will freeze well. Do not throw caution to the wind; its only Friday and Monday you may feel like sticking on plan. These lamb shanks should be a treat. For the calories in one measly cup of lamb and lentil stew, you could have a big filling stir fry using veggies and 4 oz of lean meat or seafood:. Now that I know you are relatively inexperienced at dieting; I wish I was there to watch what you are doing, LOL!

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I am feeling a little better today. I have started the process of refinancing my house. I realized that part of my problem yesterday was the pressure from the different loan companies to "use their service." I do not deal well with high pressure sales at all. I always feel as if they are trying to rip me off. The high pressure works exactly the opposite on me. I start backing off and questioning if I really want to do it at all. I have decided to go with the lowest pressure company with also offered me the best deal (by $20 a month, but then $20 is $20)
My cousin is slowly getting back on her feet. I am taking her to radiation on Wednesday. That will be her last for a couple of months.
School finishes next Friday. Slowly but surely things should settle down.
Tonight is fish and chips (oven baked sweet potato fries and multi-colored cauliflower) Everything into the oven - so it is an easy cooking night.
Monday is usually meatless Monday and I was going to make lentil soup, But I just bought these 2 beautiful, lean grass fed lamb shanks. Should I throw caution to the wind and make lamb and lentil stew on Monday or should I be good and make quinoa and lentil soup?

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5/29/15 8:45 A

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Good Morning:

Well I have lost the pounds I gained over the weekend. The strict approach does work, just need to keep it up. I really want to make it to 150....sooner than later. Its important to have a goal to work towards. I worked at home and took a day off from exercise yesterday but will do it today. There's also a BBQ as usual at work today, but I have work to do. My DIL sent us a pix of her US fetus. Just looks like a little lump at this point she's only 5 weeks.

PaulaG--Congrats on losing a whole size! All of your efforts are paying off! I have coconut oil but haven't used it much for cooking. I do avoid using real oil as much as possible; even olive oil. I like to cook without oil now; combined with eating lower carb--works for me.

Debbie--Everytime I take a trip and stay somewhere with cooking facilities--I never do save any money still eat out because it is vacation..but do make use of the microwave to heat up eating out leftovers; LOL. Congrats on getting the cat adopted. So glad to hear I struck a compliance chord..stringing those days together combined with your exercise will help you start that downward trend. On vacation; maybe you can cut down to a later brunch and then dinner. I am usually so busy I don't adhere to a regular meal schedule on vacation. Two meals kinda saves money. Most folks love destination weddings; it certainly is cheaper.

Tammyand--How is Mr. Scale today? I love it how you get your walking in while shopping. I am always in and out of the stores too. I have a freezer and fridge bursting with food and opened bottles of sauces. I love to try different products.

Justme--Your the one thats quiet--no recipes! How is refocusing working for you.? I am still amazed that you have little experience with going on a diet. Most of us being on a diet is something we have tried and tried again.

Changin--Enjoy your Friday. Hope you can stay compliant with the work directed plan for you. Try not to hobble when the boss is around...sounds like they are looking for a reason to deny you your benefits.

OKphoenix--You are on a roll too. Your daughter sounds like she trusts you to make her decisions. Sounds like she wants a big wedding but just wants to show up and say I do..I am with you don't overspend a lot of money on things where your daughter has not considered the price. If you are paying; nuff said.

Discoverlh--Hope this day finds you well and in good spirits. Take care of your Daughter.

See how all of you have such heavy things on your mind other than diet. And I am in a tough work situation. We have to stay the course. I see my diet as a lifeline--I am not going to let anyone or my work situation affect my weight again. Its a must have for me to get to the gym and control my weight and not run home and eat my head off like I did in past years--Its remains my number one priority.

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5/29/15 6:59 A

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Good Friday Morning Everyone!

Whew it is finally here. I don't know why but I have really wanted this week to end. For the month of June I am going to be so busy and driving a lot, I don't know why I am in a hurry to get there. Well still raining here but will try to find a time slot to get out and walk and then hopefully get back to the gym this evening. I haven't done strength training all week, too much going on even in the evening. I have a feeling I am not going to have lost this week since my exercise has been off. I have eaten fish twice this week, so maybe that will help.

Linda -- I hope you have a brighter day today, maybe a good nights sleep will help. I didn't know that depression was related to diabetes. So if it is diabetes related is there something they suggest you (we) do for it?

Debbie -- What a wonderful trip! I love orcas! When I read your post I flipped over and looked at pictures on the internet of the place. I will have to show to my husband, it looks like a wonderful place. When we retire, maybe its a place we can go. My husband and I eloped and then did a party later and it worked out pretty good for us emoticon .

David -- Enjoy your day off!

PaulaG - Congrats on the size loss! Keep it up! No, I haven't generally included time in for stops so I can move some, but I need to. My legs bother me a lot more than they used to after being immobile for a while. They start bugging at work when I am behind the desk too. I have started getting up a couple of times just to stretch them. I have occasionally used coconut oil, and really like to use Pecan oil. Pecan oil doesn't have a strong flavor that it adds to the food and it has a higher smoke point than olive oil and 1/3 less the fat than olive oil. I don't get to use it all the time, because it was more expensive. Don't know if it still is. For coconut oil, I keep seeing conflicting information on it, so I am waiting for the dust to settle before it use it more extensively.

TammyA - Have FUN with your me day today!

Everyone have a wonderful and safe Friday!

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5/29/15 12:47 A

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Good evening everyone. Just a post before bed.
I still am having trouble getting any help at work on helping me with my knee injury.
Had a June 1st appointment to start knee injections. But am still in a holding pattern. Dr wants to help but meds needed are still being denied by medical insurance. I continue to hobble around the best I can at work. That will be all I can fo for now.
I signed up for free consultation from company nutritionist for June 11th.don't know if she can give me advice or not, but I'm going to show in writing in doing my part as the company has asked.
I was asked about the current flooding. We had water up to the edge of the cars roofs but luckily, ours wasn't flooded out or apartment. We are supposed to get most of next week with heavy rain, but as of tonight it was lower 90s,
I have more to say but falling asleep as I text. I'll checking tomorrow. Friday is a day off this week. So till later....
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I'm happy to report that I am on day 3 of staying compliant. What Marlene said he other day about choosing what we want really struck a chord with me. It's helping me stay compliant. Today I rode the recumbent bike for 50 minutes at 15.5 mph and then went to my senior fitness class for an hour. This is a typical Thursday for me, so it's nothing new, but it did burn over 1000 calories. I only ate about 1600 so my total calorie deficit for the day is over 1100 calories. Over the past three days I've had about a 2500 calories deficit, so it should start showing on the scale soon.

We leave on Sunday for Orcas Island in the San Juan Islands. It's one of the most northwest of the Islands and only a ferry ride away from Vancouver Island in Canada. (It's where Victoria, BC is located) We're staying for a week at a resort that is part of a system of time shares that we own. There are cooking facilities in every unit, good exercise facilities, and always well maintained and located in beautiful places. The cooking facilities really help with staying on track, but we do not plan to cook every night as we do want to enjoy some of what the Island has to offer. Still, we'll eat in more often than not to save money and to be able to stay on track for the most part.

Our plans are to hike at the nearby state park, kayak on the ocean (hopefully seeing some Orcas, but if not, maybe some other cool sea life), take a three hour cruise to go whale watching, maybe take a ferry over to Victoria (where we honeymooned nearly 33 years ago), and generally relax and explore the place. Weather looks to be in the mid 60's all week, but no nasty weather predicted except a little bit of rain one day. And, hey, we live in western Washington so what's a little rain?

Today I adopted out a kitten to a wonderful home and that always makes me happy. Then talked with my daughter awhile. She's panicking about having to walk down the aisle - not because she doesn't want to get married, but because she doesn't want to have all those people watching her, so she wanted to know if I would be hurt if she and her fiance went to Vegas and eloped. I said no, that would be fine. I suggested that if she decides to do that that maybe they could have a good party afterwards at a time when people could celebrate their marriage. She's considering it. She's fairly introverted and has never liked being the center of attention, though she has no trouble with standing in front of a classroom or public speaking related to her work or classes. It's always something with our kids, isn't it?

Anyway - Paula is right, it has been a little quiet around here lately. I know I've contributed to that by not getting on the computer every day. If it means we're all busy and happily going about our lives working on getting healthier and achieving our goals, that's great. So, I hope that's what it is. I'll have internet access next week so I'll try to share pictures of anything that is really cool.

Have a great day tomorrow everyone.

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G - that is wonderful - another size down! Woo Hoo

Paula - I also noticed it was quiet today. when you said melatonin I started looking for mine. I have to go on and off it. It definitely helps me sleep, but it also gives me nightmares after taking it for about a week, so I take then leave it, then go back to it.

David - I hope things are okay in your part of the world. Is the flooding effecting you?

Phoenix - glad you had a good day. I am not going to stress over exercise for a while. i will do my 4 days a week at water aerobics and add the bike and chair exercises in after next week is over (no more driving grannies to and from school, no more chemo trips with cousin for a while, no more morning babysitting).

Marlene - I hope that your work situation is not causing unnecessary stress in your life. Take care of yourself and don't let the B grind you down.

Laura - I have noticed that so many people with weight problems have a history of alcoholism in their families. My mother was an alcoholic and my father was a drunk. the difference? You ask? When my mother tried to stop drink she had convulsions, DTs and paranoia. My father quit drinking with no problem the second the doctor told him he had hepatitis.

I am plodding along. I am down and feel just blah. No reason, but I do know this can be a side effect of diabetes, it could also be my cyclic mood swings. Nothing bad is happening at the moment and i am carrying on, but the world just seems a little grey at the moment.

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5/28/15 11:23 P

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OH! And the good news! I've lost a size! WooHOO! Hubby afraid I'm gonna' hit him up for new clothes...what he doesn't know won't hurt him. emoticon

�Eating crappy food isn't a reward -- it's a punishment.�
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Well, Im still at homehubby left yesterday to go back to Hot Springs. Im hanging around to wait until school is over so I can take the grandgirls back with me. They love it there, and Hot Springs has a water/theme park. The food plan is going well. Im Sparking, signing in, commenting on threads, reading articles, so that is going well, too. I got my Sparktracker today and installed it onto the computer. Im excited about that, but Im also frustrated with the pain interfering with my physical activity. I am stretching every day, but I really want to be more active. I have an appointment with the bone doc on Monday, and we shall see. I want him to get me 2 sessions with a physical therapist so we can create a workout for me. Ill let you all know how that goes. I hope you all are having an excellent week!

DISCOVERLLH
After a bad day, Ive found that drinking lots of water helps me to find myself and feel better. I hope you feel better today. This is the CD I have: Guided Relaxation Hypnosis / Hypnotherapy CD - Meditation technique for stress relief which leads to increased energy improved immune system and an all round feeling of well-being by Mark Bowden. I got it from Amazon.

This is the link:
http://www.amazon.com/Guided-Relaxation-
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I think Im now going to look for a CD for positive affirmations to work on that little negative voice in my mind. Ive decided Im getting RID of that weasel. LOL!

Linda, my doc wont even talk to me yet about hip surgery. While I love the fact that Im too young (LOL!), Im like you. I have to deal with the pain. So some days I deal pretty well, and others are in the crapper. I did the research, and I know he is right. Hip surgeries only last around 10 years, so I need to waitand lose weight. My mama always said to be careful what you pray for, and I guess at some point in time I prayed for patience. The Good Book does say that blessed are those who wait on the Lord (Isaiah 30:18), so I will wait. While I may not know what Im doing, the Good Lord does know. I ordered the pitas! Cant wait til they get here.

David, Im still praying for you. Hang in there. My mama also said, This, too, shall pass. Of course for me, the key is to hang in there without strangling anyone. Now WHERE is that stress hypnosis CD?

DEBBYHS, where are you going on your tripand can I go with you. LOL! I love traveling, and I see that several of us have that in common. Please travel safe and have a great time! I wish I had your green thumb. 

OKPHEONIX, when youre working and having to travel, do you stop and walk? I used to really love being in the car, but the pain has kind of ruined that for me. If I dont stop and walk, I cant move.


I have a question for yall (yes, bless my heart, Im a Texan). Do any of you use coconut oil (or almond, avocado oil) for cooking? I see that Marlenes been stir frying, and she used broth. Great idea. Im just wondering.


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Phoenix Interesting about your MIL taking the bleach baths. I dreaded them at first, but now I have come to enjoy them. I was told to take a bleach bath every other day. Hope your weather clears up so you can keep up with your exercise plan. Routines are important to me to help keep me on track, both with eating and with exercise.

Laura I didnt get to buy the kelp noodles yet but will let you know how they are when I finally get them. Good luck with your DDs doctor appointment on Friday.

This thread is unusually quiet. Hope everyone is doing ok. I had another on track day today. My sleep is much improved as I have taken Melatonin the past few nights, and it really makes a difference. Ive been taking just 2 mg, which it seems to be a good dose for me. I now see that when I am feeling very well rested I tend to move a whole lot more and dont mind doing it. I was a busy beaver at home today with laundry (up and down the basement stairs more times than I care to count) and other chores, then got my haircut, and then did more grocery shopping, even though I also grocery shopped yesterday. Tomorrow is a me day as I have plans for Saturday and Sunday. So I think tomorrow is just do whatever I want to day. I will exercise but mostly I want to read and relax. Will bake fish for dinner tomorrow as a friend at church who is an avid fisherman gave me more fish this past Sunday.


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Good Morning Everyone:

Yesterday was a good day and I behaved myself. The storms are rolling in this morning and not sure what they are going to hold for us. So I am making my post quick. I will be in the office all day and hopefully the weather won't shut down our network like it did last week. Don't know exactly what happened but I guess its always a possibility even with state of the art network equipment.

Laura -- I hope everything went well at the grocery store and that your DD actually was able to enjoy getting out for a while. I hope you had a good day as well!

This weather is really playing havoc on my exercise schedule that I got going, but I am going to try and make it to the gym this evening. Not a chance to walk during the day apparently, storms are expected most of the day. Oh well, work on keeping the calorie intake lower so that I don't unintentionally exceed my range. When you get used to having exercise in there, it is easy to do when you missed the workout.

Everyone enjoy the day, Friday is coming!


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Hello! Thanks so much for the support last night when I was struggling with my DD issues. It really means a lot to me. I am still feeling a bit "meh" this morning, which is probably residual from eating so much junk last night. Oh well, today's a new day. Once I start moving I"ll be back on track and feeling better (I hope). DD is still sleeping, so I'm not sure how she will feel when she wakes up. She doesn't have any finals today because her school waives finals in every class where you've earned an A for the entire semester. I think her depression is due to the doctor weaning her off one of her medications. She has been completely off it for a week now. She has an appointment with the doctor Friday, and my guess is that she will put her back on it. I think I will take her with me today to get groceries. Sometimes she gets overwhelmed when there are a lot of people in the store, but during a weekday I don't think it will be bad. Plus it does help me stay on track and buy healthy things.

PG - Thanks for the link to the stress website. I will check it out. Which hypnosis CD do you use? Where did you get it? I didn't see this, but my ex told me that last night someone on America's Got Talent hypnotized Howie Mandel to shake hands with people (he is known for being a huge germaphobe). It sounds like you and I teach in much the same way....perhaps that is why we both like the junior high kids! You've got to be able to not take yourself too seriously in order to get them to buy into what you're teaching. Let us know how the kelp noodles are. I just keep thinking of that nasty seaweed that floats on top of the water when you are trying to swim in the ocean. I love the idea of a manicure. I may actually splurge and get a pedicure before heading to AZ (only one week! Woo Hoo!). I really can't afford it, but since I'll be wearing sandals, I may indulge myself. And you are right, this is absolutely the best thread on SP!

Linda - I love what you wrote about doing the best we can each day, letting yesterday go and not beating ourselves up, and that today is the only thing we can control. Wise words! Thank you. I needed to hear them. I don't understand why your doctor won't do knee surgery until you lose 50 more pounds. I weigh more than you and my doctor didn't even mention my weight before doing my knee surgery. Can you get a second opinion? It seems crazy to wait to lose weight when you are in such pain. If you could move more, you would be able to lose it faster! I didn't realize you were going to a diabetes class. Were you recently diagnosed? Congratulations to your daughter for being in the academic pentathalon! She must be very smart!

Phoenix - I had to laugh at your comment about your daughter's expensive taste. My cousin (who is in his late 30s) and his fiance (who he has been living with for five years) are getting married in November. He booked this elaborate resort on the New Jersey shore (in NOVEMBER!) for 300 people and then gave the bill to my uncle to pay! He hadn't even asked him first. My cousin thinks everyone in the family is going to fly to New Jersey and stay at this three-hundred dollar per night hotel in order to come to his wedding. It's crazy!

Marlene - I hope your week is going better. Great work keeping up with your exercise and staying compliant despite the stress. The stir fry vegetables sound lovely. I have always stir fried veggies, but I use olive oil. I didn't realize you could do it with broth. Will definitely try that! Thanks.

David - Like Marlene and the others said, it may be best for you to take baby steps with your eating at this point since you have so much going on in your life right now. You don't want to overwhelm yourself with too many changes at once. I would recommend trying to adopt positive behaviors, too, instead of just restricting unhealthy food. For example, try to get out and take a walk with your wife for ten minutes each night. It may help the two of you stay strong together and will help you feel better as well.

Deb - I love what you said about our weight and eating being something we choose. I tend to eat mindlessly, but thinking about it that way, that is just choosing NOT to be mindful of what I'm putting in my mouth. You are right...being overweight isn't something that just happens to us. Your garden sounds lovely. My poor garden is really having a rough spring. It was all I could do to keep the tomatoes alive with the freezing temperatures in mid-May. Now we are getting rain, rain, and more rain. The blueberries are way behind schedule. I am hoping it will start warming up before all my seeds rot. I have a very tiny vegetable garden because I have a small yard, but I'm going to plant some lettuce in hanging baskets so that miserable rabbit doesn't eat it. Still have to get some peppers. Someone on the Gardening team thread said you can grow cucumbers, squash, etc. in large pots, which I didn't know. I may do that, too, so I don't have to dig up more yard. Sorry to hear about your son having had the problem with meth, but what a miracle that he is clean and ok now! I am so grateful that neither of my kids has a problem self-medicating with drugs or alcohol, especially with the depression and alcoholism that runs in the family. Where are you staying when you are at the islands...do you camp, or are you staying in a cabin or hotel? I can't wait to see the pictures!

Laura

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Good Wednesday Morning Everyone!

My plan is to stay on track today, although the rain here and work has stepped on my attempts to get back into my workouts. But I will keep at it. I will be in the car much of today, traveling around the state for work. So hopefully my two hard boiled eggs will stay with me until I get back.

Laura and David -- I sure hope today is a better day for you! I send warm and comforting wishes your way. Keep in mind that this journey is about taking care of you and if you don't take care of your health you eventually will not be able to help your loved ones very much. Since many of us are motivate to help and care for others, it is important to remember that you can only run on bad breaks for so long.

TammyAnd - No I have never tried kelp noodles. I have tried the Shirataki noodles but the don't really have a nutritional benefit. They are 0 carb and 0 calorie though. I have used them in place of pasta noodles and have purchased some of the rice to try it. They do have a different texture and perhaps a very subtle taste but not much. You definitely want to use a strong flavored sauce with them. WooHoo on the exercise and sleeping! My MIL routinely puts bleach in her bath water. She spends a lot of time outside in the garden and she swears by it for early intervention for things like poison Ivy, chigger and mosquito bites etc.

PaulaG - It sounds like you really did love the work you did. You quick wit is perfect for middle schoolers!

Linda - I think you are doing fabulous for some in need of knee surgery. It sounds like you had a good day and here's to another one today. Of course I am behind the curve with weight loss to many of you, but so far cutting carbs to almost nothing is what it is taking for me.

Debby -- Your garden sounds wonderful! Ours is not doing so well with the rain this year. We are afraid of root rot right now even for my established rose bushes. And we are adding additional cover for the onions bulbs that are struggling. We do have leek seedlings that seem to be keeping up with it, but we have grown these before. We will see. If the heat doesn't come soon, it may be too late. We are very wet and unseasonably cool so far this summer. Hear Hear to mind set. Its my stinkin' thinkin' that always gets me in trouble with diet and exercise.

Marlene -- I sure hope you get some good days at work soon! You are a very capable woman and I know you can do anything you put your mind to. Hopefully things will be better when your boss leaves the country for a while. It was nice watching my daughter try on dresses. Right now she is so stressed about school and work that she is some what of a reluctant bride. She wants to just buzz in and say I do and buzz out. I told her this weekend she was going to have to start owning her wedding (lol). She doesn't like to make decisions normally much less with something like this. She has a pintrest page of everything she wants until she starts pricing... and she has very expensive taste that I will not pay for.
Eventually she will have to come to earth with the rest of us and make some decisions..

ChangeN -- I agree with Marlene on small steps. A little at a time, target the BIG contributors at first. On the pop, switching to diet is good. If you are drinking caffeinated drinks switching to water can be drastic as you are reducing sugar and caffeine at the same time. I would suggest first one and then the other. Caffeine withdrawals are pretty nasty!

I send hopes and blessings to everyone!

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Linda Interesting comment about the feeling of starches in your mouth. I have never heard anyone mention that before. Glad your DS and his wife are taking care of the truck issue on their own. You called that one right!

Laura When I read your post about your DD I wondered about her medication, if she is taking whatever was prescribed, if she needs a med adjustment, etc. As for grocery shopping, can you shop while she is at school? Can you ask her to go with you.tell her you need her to help you stay with healthy choices? I know she likes to support your weight loss plan. At least she used to as I recall. I would not be comfortable leaving her alone while going away at this point. Actually, in my (perhaps overprotective) opinion, I would not leave a junior in high school alone for several days, period. I know she is a good kid overall, but I still see it as a risk. The maturity is generally just not there yet, no matter how bright some kids are.

Debby How long will you be away? Looking forward to reading about your adventures when you get back.

Marlene Will your job be a little better when your boss goes away to England? Is she going soon? Woo Hoo for your compliance today. You are in a good place these daysable to indulge a bit and then get back on track.

PaulaG I love fresh veggies. Some I can eat like candy, especially freshly steamed green beans and freshly steamed asparagus (still crispy).

David You have so much stress going on! Do you have any connections where you can get some support (emotionally and otherwise)? Is there a church/pastor you could turn to? Sometimes you can find support groups listed online or in the newspapers. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Please take care of yourself.

Has anyone had any experience with kelp noodles? I read an article about them that claimed multiple health benefits (high is nutrients, cancer-fighting properties) as well as low sodium, low calories, and low carbs. I saw they are available on Amazon, but I think I might find them at one of our grocery stores, Wegmans, which is not my usual grocery store, but I might stop in sometimes to check out the kelp noodles. Today was a good day for me again. I had no problems staying compliant. I also ran some errands and got my walking in at CVS. I feel like I accomplished a lot even though I slept a bit later than usual again. Tomorrow I will get my manicure and then grocery shop (list ready, coupons in order). I also have several bags of clothing all ready to go to the local thrift store. It is in the same shopping center as my nail salon, so I have been trying to take donations there every two weeks when I go for my nail appointment. My skin is acting up a bit and annoying the heck out of me. I am going to take another bleach bath and see if that helps.

Good night all. You all are such a great group of folks Id venture to say we are the BEST thread on SP!


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Linda, teaching middle school is a strange form of insanity. LOL! It is so easy for me to get into that 12-13 year old mind. You have to have big sense of humor...like when one of my girls called me a bitch, and I calmly looked at her over my glasses and said, "That's Dr. Bitch to you." I then asked her if she was having a bad day, and she burst into tears while trying not to laugh. LOL! Or when someone interrupted class to inform me that a bad four letter word was written on the dictionary, and my comment was: "Is it spelled correctly?" Anything to keep them off balance. My favorite was when one of my little knuckleheads wouldn't behave, and I would whip out the old "does 4553 sound familiar to you?" That was the last four digits of his phone number...and he shut up pretty quick. LOL! I was also the teacher who occasionally wore a Tina Turner wig and sang Proud Mary while doing hall duty between classes. BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

You can tell l loved my job....

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David - I will give you the advise I should have given myself. Each day we do the best we can for that day. Do not beat yourself up over yesterday. The only thing we can control is today. So do the best you can today. We can plan for the future and we can learn from the past, but we can only live in the moment. So make each moment count. That also means being good to yourself. Forgive yourself the same as you would forgive a friend. Would you even say to a friend "We are through because you ate a doughnut." So why would you condemn yourself because you made a food mistake? You are a great person. You are working hard for your family and you are their rock. It is okay for a rock to need some support too.

Laura - I need knee surgery (bone on bone) but the doctor will not do it until I lose another 50 pounds.
it is so hard to deal with adult children and their spouses. My son had drug problems and while he has not used drugs in over 15 years his personality is that of an addict. he obsesses about things and can focus on one small incident without seeing the bigger picture. He and his wife went through some very rough times at the end of last year and she is bipolar. they say that one in ten people are alcoholic, and one in ten people are addicts and one in ten people suffer from some form of mental illness then you take all of the people that are living in those dysfunctional families and I think there maybe, just maybe one family somewhere in the world that does not have a major problem.

G - When I was teaching I started in high school, then taught junior high, then taught preschool, then went to elementary where I stayed for 25 years, during that time I was also a guest lecturer at a couple of the local colleges and did some adult education. I have taught every grade level except for sixth grade k-college. I ended my career as a staff development trainer in the district office. I liked high school I loved elementary. Preschool was fun and adult ed could be challenging, BUT I hated junior high. I swore if one more flipped her hair and rolled her eyes I would not be responsible for my actions. So when you and my daughter talk about how much you love your seventh graders (she teaches seventh grade) it sound like a strange form of insanity to me.

Marlene - chopped green onion is a must for me in so many things, on soup, in egg, potato, chicken, tuna or turkey salad, in stir fry, the list just goes on and on.

Debby - congrats on finalizing your loan. I am looking into redoing mine next week (hopefully before the interest rates go up). You have a wonderful time on your vacation. You Marlene and Cat are the masters of having a great time traveling. Once I can walk again I will be giving all of you highlights from my trips.

I had my last diabetes class today and the instructor asked me to be a guest speaker at the opening session of her next group so I think I will. Life is good right now. My daughter is at Disneyland with here academic pentathlon students. My SIL is home with the little ones. My son seem to be doing okay. Can you believe it? When I said no to helping them fix their truck they figured out how to do it on their own. Will wonders never cease? I went to water aerobics, took the grannies to school and went to my class.

goal is to be able to walk again
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I'm starting to get so excited about our upcoming trip. Only five more days! I just love exploring new places and doing new things.

I love reading everyone's posts. It really makes me know that my own problems are not so big and that I have so much in common with all of you. I read Marlene's post about making up our minds and just doing it. She's right. I was nearly perfect on track for over a year and lost 98 lbs. I have since not been as focused and have played with the same 20 lbs. up and down. I'm, sadly, at the top end of that (AGAIN!!!) It's so easy to do. It's so hard to do. It's easy because the formula is simple. It's also easy because is all about the mind set. This is something we choose. It doesn't happen to us. We create our own mindsets and our own motivation. Yes, things happen and often our bodies are not in the shape we'd like them to be to get the exercise in, but bodies can be exercised in so many ways and they can get stronger and have better endurance if we're persistent. As many of you know, exercise is not the problem for me. But I can get really out of control with my eating. I'm so ready to work on getting these extra pounds off again. It's ridiculous that I let it get out of control in the first place.

One good thing - it's garden season again and my plants are in the ground, my strawberries are ripening like crazy, blueberries are ripening and will be ready to eat sometime in the next month and the raspberries and blackberries are blooming - looking like an early harvest this year. My garden has snow peas, tomatoes, zucchini, cucumber, red lettuce, green lettuce, bok choy, and two kinds of hot peppers growning in it. Fresh salad all summer long... and then there's the farmers markets.....

No excuses....

David - I feel for you. I have had similar experiences with my meth addicted son some years ago. He got clean and has stayed clean. I'm keeping positive thoughts flowing your way.

PaulaG - my daughter taught junior high for a few years then changed to high school. She teaches English, drama, television and radio and this coming year will likely be teaching a Baccalaureate class called Theory of Knowledge. She loves the classroom (hates the politics and administrative stuff) and just watched some of the first students she taught in junior high graduate from high school. The world need good teachers and it sounds like you were one of them. My daughter, like you, is dedicated to helping kids love reading.

TammyAnd (Paula) - I'm glad to hear your skin is improving. Also, sounds like you're getting some well deserved "me" time and staying compliant. You go girl!!

Linda - I hear your frustration. (I share it) I also know you have it in you to change what you need to change. The only thing bad would be if you gave up and I know you won't.

Marlene - Thank you. I needed your wake up call.

Laura - We all have guilty pleasures. Enjoy them. They are some of the spice of life. I'm sorry you didn't get the job. It can be so discouraging. Keep working at it. The others had some great ideas and I am glad to see you thinking about them. Something will happen, whether it's a job or something else.

Well, my refinance looks like it should be done by the end of the week or early next week. It's been a long process, but finally there's light at the end of the tunnel. It's going to help a lot for us and save a ton of money over the life of the loan.

Time to get some dinner ready... love you guys....

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Hi everybody
Don't have time to write much. Another grueling day, but I left work at 4:45 and did my workout and felt better. Strict compliance today. Made a low cal turkey singapore noodles for dinner.

Discoverlh--Chopped Green Onion to me is a must have in egg salad--its also especially good in potato salad. makes all the difference--my mother always made hers that way and thats the way I like it. Adds such a fresh savory taste after the flavors have blended. Sorry to hear of your daughters depression. Sometimes we need a do nothing day.

PaulaG--Glad you located those Pita's you'll find delicious things to stuff them with.. I have even cut the pita around the perimeter into two circles; then toasted them and topped with a little salsa, grated parmesan and a few turkey pepperoni rings to make two mini pizza under 100 cals. You sound like you would be such a wonderful caring teacher. Goof move to go back to teach the middle school kids. I found that to be a tumultuous age as girls would want to fight after school. I like Hormel turkey pepperoni--you get 15-17 slices for 70 cals. makes a nice savory snack. Spouseless is the story of my adult life, I am divorced since 1989. I like to whiz chopped veggies (zucchini, carrot, celery, peas, cabbage/greens, peppers, onion and garlic) in a wok with a little broth and oil spray, cook until tendercrisp. Stir in 2 tablespoons of Stir fry sauce just to coat veggies and turn off heat. Yummy and fast!

tammyand/Paula-Thanks for sharing the lemon chicken recipe. Its my younger son and his wife who are going to leave after the baby. They moved in Oct 2013 to Dallas and came back last spring--I thought they were homesick. This time he would get a full relocation as he is staying with his company.

Justme--A diet novice! I suspected you were frustrated at the slow pace; but then again; you can't exercise like some of us can. But you can lose weight without exercising. Even if you exercise you'll still have a lot of loose skin that won't firm up-like me on my abdomen area. I am not saying you have to go down to 900 cals--you know best for your diabetes. I suspected maybe you go over your portions since you like to cook...tasting and nibbling go along with having a good food and leftovers in the house.

OKPhoenix--I wish I were in your shoes to have a daughter to plan a wedding. Again, 900-1000 calories is very low and you can lose eating more than that.

Changin--I feel for you--- you gotta get a break. I too think that its best for your daughter to stay away for a while if she is having issues with drugs. In-law problems--at least they are not yours; but collectively with everything else going on it must be so overwhelming. I think you should take baby steps with your diet. Cut the soda one week and then next week maybe stay away from fried foods....

Debbie--Count down to your trip! I think giving up the dog shelter is a good idea, with your busy life and exercise schedule. You can always go and visit. is your weight stable or are you slowly creeping up? I was horrified to see my number this morning and I have been strict all day after that weekend of eating off plan foods. You know, I enjoyed the pizza, I hadn't ordered one in over a year.






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Laura, don't get angry with yourself. There is no crime in watching The Bachelorette. Who says this is not productive? It might've been exactly what you needed in that moment. A bit of relaxation before the storm? Also, take a deep breath: http://www.stress.org/take-a-deep-breath/ My daughter is also bipolar as well as her oldest two daughters. Bipolar has nothing to do with not being "sweet" because my daughter is sweet, too. It has to do with how her brain processes and her responses to that. I would ask if she is taking her meds. It sounds like she isn't. The main point is that you are not in control of any of this. Take a deep breath. You may want to get a hypnosis CD for stress. They work for me and may work for you--it is far better than meds. It will not help her for you to get so stressed. I am lifting you and your daughter up in prayer.

Edited by: PAULAGRIFFITH75 at: 5/26/2015 (18:19)
�Eating crappy food isn't a reward -- it's a punishment.�
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�Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels.�
― Elizabeth Berg

�If I hired one of the stock boys to chase me around the store with a licorice whip, I'd be thin by Christmas.�
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Just a quick check in. I am not having a good day today. The schedule is out the window today since I was goofing off all morning watching the Bachelorette instead of being productive. I have gotten absolutely nothing done and am so angry with myself. I also got a call from my ex that HE had gotten a call from my daughter's friend's Mom in CA, who was worried about my daughter because apparently she was texting some worrisome things. As background, my daughter struggles with severe depression and anxiety. She was diagnosed as Bipolar II last month, but I'm not sure that's an accurate diagnosis. Anyway, she is the sweetest girl...never wants to worry us when she feels bad, but then she ends up in a very bad depression. She has been hospitalized twice this year...most recently she was out of school for a month in March. Anyway, I called the social worker at school, who talked to DD briefly. She did say she has been having suicidal thoughts again, although no plan of action. Needless to say, I am worried sick. Eating is out of control. Don't feel I can go out and leave her alone so I can go get groceries. I am heading to AZ in a few days and was going to leave her here to watch the pets, but now I don't feel comfortable doing that. Waiting for the psychiatrist to call. Thanks for listening....Just grateful tomorrow is a new day.

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SCRIMP1, I can see using those pitas to make something like this:

Speedy Hummus Pizza Recipe
Ingredients
1 prebaked 12-inch pizza crust
1 cup hummus
3/4 teaspoon dried oregano
1/4 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
1/2 cup crumbled feta cheese
1/2 cup oil-packed sun-dried tomatoes, chopped
1/2 cup pitted Greek olives, chopped
1 tablespoon olive oil

Directions
1. Preheat oven to 450. Place crust on an ungreased baking sheet or 12-in. pizza pan.
2. In a small bowl, mix hummus, oregano and pepper flakes; spread over crust. Sprinkle with cheese, tomatoes and olives. Bake 8-10 minutes or until heated through. Drizzle with oil. Yield: 6 slices.

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�Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels.�
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This is a wow day. Ive been saying wow for most of the day since getting up and looking at all the widespread flooding in the Houston area. We live south of Houston closer to Galveston, and thank the Lord, the worst of the weather was north of us. Im praying for all those who suffered loss in Texas and Oklahoma these last days.

Ron left for Arkansas this morning, so Im spouseless until I leave to join him June 5th. I need to be home a couple of weeks for family, friends, and health. Im also waiting for school to be out so that I can take my grandgirls back with me. I wrote a blog today about food as medicine. Im working hard at changing how I view food. I want to learn to diagnose what I need to eat and eat accordingly. I just settled down to eat a bowl of medicine, and it never tasted so goodfresh Bing cherries and blueberries, both anti-inflammatory foods! WooHOO! The scale genie was good to me this weekend, and I did lose 2 pounds last week. Onward and downward I go.

Paula, LOVE the chicken recipe! Im gonna try this soon. I make a lemon basil recipe, and if I can find it, Ill post it. It is very easy and delish. Really good with jasmine rice and vegies. Ive been trying to find recipes that make me want to eat more vegies, and Ive decided I really like those foil packets you stuff with vegies and a little olive oil and seasonings then grill or bake. LOVE fresh vegies and this is the season for them. There is a Farmers Market in Hot Springs and a bigger one in Little Rock I want to go to. There is nothing better than Arkansas tomatoesso flavorful I can eat them raw! LOL! I retired the same time you did, and it is an 8 hour drive from Dickinson, TX to Hot Springs, AR.

LindaI hope things are going well for you today. I loved Paulas comment about processed carbs. Im trying to avoid these, too. I found Jenny Os Cajun turkey breasts. They come in a package already cooked so you just slice and eat. I use this for a protein snack when I feel that afternoon blood sugar dip. And it is WONDERFUL on a salad with fresh greens and yogurt dressing. If you havent gotten one of those fruit infuser water bottles, you might also want to try that. LOVE mine. I noticed that at the spa I go to, they always have iced water with citrus for the patrons. Of course, in Hot Springs, it is natural mineral water. Wishing you and wonderful week, and if you find yourself short of motivation, post and let us know.

SCRIMP1 (Marlene), I found the pitas on Amazon! YAY! I LOVE pita breads and flatbreads. I can use these pitas for so many things. I love Schlotskys California chicken avocado flatbread, but they have too many fats and calories. I can use this to make my own healthier version of that treat. Thanks a bunch! I LOVED the egg salad recipeegg salad has always been a fav. I also like Regency romanceand a lot of other romance genres. I also read a lot of young adult lit because I taught that class. Im thinking of starting a blog for parents who are looking for good books for their kidsespecially middle school kids. Most parents are at a loss when it comes to getting a nonreader to read, and that was my specialty. I LOVED your soapbox because it is exactly the mindset I need at the moment. Any time Im thinking of varying from my program, I ask myself, What are you willing to do to lessen the pain?

DEBBYHS, sometimes the payback for sacrifice is so much more than what you can conceive when you first make the decision to give up something you love. I retired from a profession that I loved, and I retired because of pain. For a few months, I went through the grief cycle. And Ill be honestthere was a pity party complete with hats, banners, and whistles. Im so over it now. Im finally focused on getting myself healthy and am finding it joyful, enlightening, and challengingjust like my 7th graders. Not only that but Im doing this for myself. Ive never done much singularly for myself. And it feels good. Ive noticed that its also improved my family life, marriage, and attitude. You go, girl!

OKPHEONIX, weddings are difficult at best. When is the wedding? This is a big stressor, so Im going to invite you to join the Stress Buster challenge. There will be more money to plunck down, and the stress doesnt even end with the wedding. Then theres the commentaries and picture reminders. LOL! I will keep you in my prayers.

DISCOVERLLH, middle school has been my joy and honor to teach. I decided I wanted to end my career in the classroom practicing what I preached, so for the last two years, I returned to middle school and left the university. LOVE those kids, and it was so worth ita great way to end. You need to come to Hot Springs. It is historical, quaint, and interesting. Theres lots of history and lots to see. It is nestled in the Ouachita Mountainsgreen and forested mountains quite unlike New Mexico and Colorado. There is poverty there, too. The economy is not too great, but I love it. My hubby and I have our camper up there in an RV park. We go sightseeing every opportunity, and I am enamored of the thermal baths. LOL! It does help the arthritis. I would love to meet up with you if you decided to come. Just let me know so I can make sure Im there and not home. I will be returning on June 5th. My hubby is hauling my recumbent bicycle up there so I can ride it and listen to the creek where the RV park is located.

David (same name as my brother), I feel your pain and it hasnt been that long since I had that same day. LOL! Its horrific. My daughter and family have been living in my home, which has really been a Godsend since we are gone most of the time. Her oldest turned 17 in Jan, and the child is bipolar. In fact, her two oldest daughters are both bipolar. Neither will take her medicine. Two weeks after the oldest turned 17 (shed been threatening to move out with the sorry boyfriend), she attacked her mother, punched her, and pushed her though a wall in the bedroom. My daughter responded by getting her in a head lock to shut her down and keep her from hurting my daughter. The child then went after her feet, which are damaged. The granddaughter was thrashing around and hit her head on the entertainment center. When the police arrived, they arrested my daughter. She now has a really great lawyer, and we are awaiting the outcome. Prayers for you and your family.

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Good morning! Wow, there was a lot to catch up on this morning! Nothing very exciting planned here today, just grocery shopping and house cleaning.. It's raining (again), so it won't be an outside gardening day for me, which is disappointing. I always feel so much better when I get outside and soak up some D3. Thank you, Paula, for the chicken recipe! I am planning on cooking that this week. Also, I appreciate the tip about the 50 cal pita roll, Marlene. We don't have a Giant around here, but I will check Jewel and see if they have it. My favorite sandwich is egg salad. I have never used green onion in it, but am going to try it. I like to add a drop of two of worchestire (sp?) sauce.

MARLENE - Preach, Sister! I love your soapbox message! I'm going to copy and print it out to remind myself of the commitment and dedication it takes to succeed. I especially love your reminder that we are eating to live, not living to eat. Yes, I am definitely tired of riding the fat train, and am getting off at the next stop! I also love the way you are able to realize what you need to do to get off the little bit extra you ate this weekend. That's FOCUS, and that's why you are such a role model for us. I hope to develop that skill. Right now I will admit that I still get mad at myself when I overindulge and throw in the towel, thinking I've blown everything. I hope your work situation is better this week.

PG - Middle school is my favorite age to teach. They are old enough to "get" jokes, are relatively independent, but haven't developed the attitude of high schoolers yet. I always consider it a personal challenge when a child says they hate reading. My response is that they just haven't found the right book yet! I enjoy historical romances, too, but don't like it when they get too graphic. One of my best friends (and college roommate) moved to Hot Springs and really loves it there. She keeps inviting me to visit. If I do I will have to meet you somewhere and say "hi"! Congratulations on just eating one serving of mixed nuts! That is really hard to do. I love nuts and have been trying to use them as a protein source more, especially since my son has moved out now and my daughter won't eat meat. I also love ice cream, and yes, it was used as a reward for me when I was younger, too. After a piano recital...let's all go out for ice cream! Got straight As on my report card...let's celebrate by getting an ice cream sundae! In fact, one of my earliest memories is sitting on my grandmother's back porch eating an ice cream cone with jimmies on it. I was probably only about 2 years old. We also had the Clean Plate Club. Guess who was the president...literally! I have osteoarthritis in my knees, as well. The ortho doctor told me that it is very important to keep moving the joint and recommended biking. As you know, I started swimming and am hoping that will help as well, especially since it is moving the joints without putting a lot of stress on them.

Linda - I don't think I learned why you are hurting when you stand, if you don't mind sharing. That must be so hard for you! Are there any exercises you can do while you are sitting just to get your metabolism sped up a bit? Can you lift any pound weights or something like that? If I were you, I would talk to my doctor about a good calorie level for you with your activity level, or maybe use the tool on SP that helps you set calorie range based on your goal. I am certainly no expert, but I am concerned that 900 calories might be too low and that in the end you won't be getting the nutrition you need and that eating so few calories will slow down your metabolism more. I just want you to be safe on your journey to good health.

Phoenix - Did you have fun helping your daughter choose her wedding dress? That has always been a dream of mine. Did you cry when you saw her in it? What kind did she end up getting? It sounds like you did just fine with the cake testing...so proud of you! Sorry to hear about the flooding in your area. I hope your house will be okay.

David - OH MY GOSH! I thought I had family drama, but nothing like what you are going through! Your blood pressure must be through the roof! Is your brother-in-law in the hospital to get mental health help? I sure hope so. As for your DIL, I don't know if you bailed her out or not, but it may be better to let her stay in the jail for a bit to get clean. Maybe they can recommend a rehab program for her. Try to focus on that baby and make sure she knows she is loved and safe. Sending out hugs to you and your family.

Have a great, compliant day, my friends!

Laura

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I guess if there was a panic button im reaching for it now.
I'm seriously not on "the program" for more than 2-3 days at a time. I have "0" will power do do more than wake up, go to work, return home and when possible off to bed.
I get motivated, then as always "life slaps the ...out of me and im back sitting on the porch hoping and wishing I was someone else.
I should be used to feeling this way year after year, but......
I'm not looking for sympathy, I just want to know what a good day feels like again.

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Happy Tuesday Sparks,

David - OMG! what a weekend. I am sending positive thoughts your way. Are you also effected by the flooding? It sounds as if your household would be better without your step daughter right now. It also sound like she needs to get a big dose of reality.

Paula - the garlic chicken sound delicious. I am feeling those positive vibes. For some reason the sugar in fruit does not seem to trigger me. I think part of my problem is mouth feel, once I have the feeling of starch in my mouth I just want more and more.

Phoenix - I think even with the cake you were compliant. That was not a slip but a planned event for someone else's benefit.

Marlene - you said we have all lost weight actually I haven't. I am maintaining the first thirty pounds I lost with Spark, but I have never lost weight before that. Once I started gaining i gained about 5 pounds a year every year. I did not diet, so this is actually my first venture into the world of weight loss. I was thin as a child and a teenager and started gaining weight after the birth of my daughter.

I am heading out to water aerobics and taking my grannies to school
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Hello everyone, its been a ....of a weekend.
#1 Brother in laws wife ran off and brother in law talked about suicide.
#2 sister in laws husband moved out
#3 while I was at work (all of this on same day), my wife told me that a PD Detective with 2 uniform officers came with warrent and picked up my step daughter. The tried to be easy as our 3yr old granddaughter was sitting on her lap when they entered our apt. They didn't handcuff her in front of the baby to try to help the situation. They asked her to step out side. At which point she took off running . They took awhile but caught her. Now adding evading arrest. Oh and did I tell you if my wife wasn't already stressed out enough , the same day was her sons both, birthday and 5th yr anniversary of his 15 yr incarceration....
What a day.......

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Laura I think I posted this recipe in the past but maybe not. So here it is. I found this recipe on line a while agocant remember where I got it however. This is a family favorite in our house.

Baked Chicken With Lemon-Garlic Green Beans
Serves 4
6 tablespoons olive oil
2 lemons, 1 thinly sliced, 1 juiced
4 cloves garlic, minced
1 teaspoon kosher salt (I dont use the salt)
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
3/4 pound trimmed green beans (I usually use more.)
4 chicken breasts (bones left in) (I use boneless skinless breasts instead, and it works out just fine.)

Directions
1. Preheat oven to 425F. Coat a large baking dish or cast-iron skillet with 1 tablespoon of the olive oil. Arrange the lemon slices in a single layer in the bottom of the dish or skillet.
2. In a large bowl, combine the remaining oil, lemon juice, garlic, salt, and pepper; add the green beans and toss to coat. Using a slotted spoon or tongs, remove the green beans and arrange them on top of the lemon slices. Place the chicken in the same bowl with the olive-oil mixture and coat thoroughly. Place the chicken in the dish or skillet. If desired, pour any or all of the remaining olive-oil mixture over the chicken.
3. Bake for until chicken is cooked thoroughly to appropriate temperature (use meat thermometer to check). Remove the chicken from the dish or skillet. Place a chicken breast on each of 4 serving plates; divide the green beans. Serve warm.

Linda Consider yourself picked up and ever so gently kicked in the buttquickly followed by a hug! Repeat...this is our year. I am sending positive energy across the country directly to you..can you feel it??? Hope so! You will do this. We will do this. And yes, you and I know the importance of sleep. It really does help with weight loss when we get enough (but not too much) sleep. I think one thing that really helped me tame that hunger monster is avoiding the processed carbs. But trust me I know I am just one bite away from going off track. I have to be very careful. Other things that have helped me a lot is having healthy food options available virtually all the time such as keeping natural almonds in my car, hard boiled eggs in the fridge, some other kind of protein at the ready (cooked chicken, turkey burgers, etc.), and not eating fruit after 2 or 3 pm. I love my seltzer water which also helps fill me up.

Debby Good for you for cutting back on your volunteer commitments. You might recall that I did the same thing several months back and do not regret it at all. I am still active with all of my charities, but I passed a lot of my former responsibilities on to others who are very capable and doing just fine. I have found that I now enjoy my volunteer work much more now.

Marlene Congrats on your DILs pregnancy. How wonderfully exciting! I hope your DS and DIL dont move away, but if they do, you will certainly be able to visit with them, especially after you retire. Are your two sons close? Would that relationship be enough to keep the younger one from moving away? How about employment? I think it is not easy to just pick up and move without a job to go to these days.

PaulaG How long have you been retired? I retired in June 2012 and am quite happy. How far is your drive between your TX home and your DH I Arkansas? Marlene is right. I love the Josephs brand pitas from Giant. They are very satisfying. Good luck on your eating plan. There is plenty of support here when you need it. This thread is populated by an incredible group of caring folks (all women except for David aka Changin).

Phoenix Way to go with compliance even given the cake tasting. I bet it was wonderful to have such a great time with your DD.

I stayed compliant today in terms of food but didnt exercise. I did work a bit on some charity stuff, but it took me less than 2 hours. The rest of the day was mine, and I enjoyed reading and relaxing. Will run some errands tomorrow but have no other specific plans. It feels good too. Soon I will be off to bed for at least 7 hours of sleep.


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Happy Memorial Day everyone!

Well my daughter has left to return down south. I plunked money down on a wedding dress and photographer and made it through cake tastings. And yes I tasted but between the 4 cakes to taste, I am pretty sure I keep all the tastes down to a small piece. Now I have to get my back end in gear and start walking more consistently again. I have been compliant all weekend except for the cake. So not too bad.

I am way behind on reading everyone's posts and have decided I am not going to try and catch them all up. I just seem to stay behind on all of these when I have something come up. I do want to say welcome to PaulaG and Tsenty. I hope everyone has had a good weekend, we are flooding all here, but so far so good.

Marlene -- good soap box. That is the message(s) I have to repeat to myself and especially the part of finding a reward that does not involve food. I''m not at restricting my calories to 900 calories but I fairly frequently end up with less than 1100 calories a day. But I am still a work in progress and I think eventually I can get there when I am not exercising.

Everyone have a good and safe evening!

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PaulaG--I get them from Giant Grocery store (huge east coast chain). The full name is "Joseph's Flax Oat Bran & Whole Wheat Pita Bread". they come 8 in a pack for the small 50 calorie ones. Tammyand (Paula) tried them and she realy liked them too. They are usually in the bread section in front of (underneath) the deli counter.

I either cut them in half and fill with low cal egg salad; curry chicken, shrimp; etc-anything. I cut off the top 1/3 if I want to fit a small burger in it, 1/2 slice cheese, and ketchup and relish.

I am a ketchup freak and I have to have salt--never gave them up during my weight loss.

Low cal egg salad: 3 hard boiled eggs cut in half, discard 1 1/2 or 2 egg yolks. Chop egg whites and 1 or 1 1/2 yolks. Mix with 1 large sprig on green onion chopped (white and green part), salt and pepper to taste; and dash of paprika; 2 tbsp of Hellmans Light mayonnaise (35 cals per tbsp).

Makes enough for 2 generous sandwiches or 4 halves of Joseph's pita bread. If making a sandwich I would recommend open faced to save calories.

I see you love to read and travel--me too. We will have lots to chat about. My preferred genre is Regency/Victorian/Edwardian Historical Romance.

Discoverlhlh--I have one 7 year old grand daughter, her name is Arianna.

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SCRIMP1, I need to know about 50 cal pita rolls.... LOL! Where do I get these?

�Eating crappy food isn't a reward -- it's a punishment.�
― Drew Carey

�Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels.�
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Soapbox Time:

Regarding my statement,. Its about eating to live and not living to eat. When I wake up I immediately review my day and plans and how they would impact my food. Like am I going to the cafeteria or am I taking my lunch to work? Do I have to go out to eat and how will I cope--do I need to bring snacks; or something like my 50 cal pita rolls to use for a hamburger bun? Like learning to like open face sandwiches/burgers and losing 1/2 the bread. What nutrition do I need? And then I get on the scale. You guys know I weigh every morning and I don't care about the advice not to focus on the scale. I feel while you are out of control you must keep a tight watch to stay focused. To see how what you ate yesterday affected your weight today. To learn from past missteps. You'll notice things, like when I eat fish I seem to lose weight the next day. You'll learn not to use olive oil with abandon; and cook lightly where possible..smart substitutions and feel proud of yourself for making adjustments.

You have to want it so bad that staying on plan is the primary action in your life that you are doing for YOU. Its your Lifeline to improved health and appearance. Helping your family with everything and putting your self last is not helping you. You guys know what every single food you like tastes like--you have had it before. When you control what goes in your mouth you take charge of how fast you are going to loose. If you are not losing consistently you are eating too much, too often, and by storing the excess food as fat your body is telling you just that--you are taking in way more calories than you need for your current weight.

Get off that Fat Train. Aren't you tired of riding? Everybody who has lost weight struggled with it and yes you do need to deprive your self of certain things and learn to like foods prepared in a natural and healthful way; watching carbs and cooking low fat. It won't kill you to say no, thats not on my plan. Or to eat grilled fish or chicken or salad or seafood and veggies when you eat out. Or to take 1/2 roll.

Overeating got us all to this place. If others who have successfully lost weight can sacrifice/deprive and make changes so can you. There's no quick fix. We have used food for many things other than hunger--boredom, depression, etc. Its about finding new ways of coping with stress (and we all seem to have it). As far as deprivation--yes--deprive away--and have that food for a RARE treat. You don't have to eliminate foods, you must control the portion and frequency of indulging.
I knew darn well that eating off plan at the BBQ Saturday would make me gain weight. But it could have been worse. Could have ate way more. I know how to get that weight off this week--I am not letting it set me back to regaining even more weight. I control food it does not control me.

When I hear people say I can't do this or that--its sometimes you simply don't want to do it. Stop sabotaging yourself by returning to behaviors that caused you to be 100 pounds overweight--thats morbidly obese--and everyone can see the evidence of overeating by our size. I need only take one look at my before picture and I shudder to think that is how I presented myself to the world. Unhealthy, fat, and miserable because of it.

Take charge of your diet, get some exercise, and it will happen if you stick to plan the majority of your days. I was no angel, I gained weight on vacations too, but of the 16 months it took me to get to goal I totally was off plan (not just one or two cheats) I'd estimate no more than 1 month of intermittent days.
And now I am below goal and still remain focused on losing weight; for me there is no in-between. Either I'm losing or I am gaining. And that's why I am still here on SP and attack my plan of action like I still need to get to goal. I decided goal weight was not enough and I could stand to lose more. So will continue on.

Thanks PaulaB for being here and letting us get to know you. Issues do go deep. My mom made us clean our plates and she always gave us an evening snack--which I crave to this day and struggle with.

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A peaceful Memorial Day Sparks.

G - glad you jumped in. We love people that join in. My daughter teaches middle school and her family lives with me. My son's family lives around the corner. I am so jealous of everyone who has a Y in their area. My daughter was the director of aquatics at the Alttoboro (sorry about the spelling) near Boston, at the Y. It was absolutely fantastic. The closest full Y near my is over 50 miles away.

Laura - LOL - even with his need to gain weight my SIL still eats more than I do. He is a 6 foot active male and I am a 5' 2" inactive female. the math is disheartening. I have to listen to Marlene. I have been eating between 1200-1400 calories and maintaining. I went up to 15-1700 and started gaining. I think I really need to go to 900 -1000 to lose. I just sit too much because it hurts to stand. I have to move more and eat less.

Marlene - I have been mentally fighting your message for at least 6 months.. I Know you went to 900 -1000 calories to lose the weight. I know that is where I need to be for a while, but I did not want that message. I hope it has finally gotten through. Once I have lost some weight then I should be able to walk more and maybe able to go up to 1200 calories on a daily basis. Without your example I really think I might have just given up and died.

Tammy - you have tamed the food dragon for the moment and I know it can be done. So I am back and trying to reevaluate my food plan.

David - are you in that terrible flooding? Are you okay?

Love you all
Linda

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Everyone, I know theres two Paulas, and if you want, you can call me PaulaG. My middle school students called me G, so you can use that, too.

I was a middle school teacher, school librarian, and school librarian professor before I retired, and as you can guess, I love to read. My main goal as a teacher/school librarian was to teach kids to love to read. I live near Galveston, TX but Im mostly with my hubby in Hot Spring Arkansas as he has a job theredid you know Hot Springs is the FIRST National Park? Im enjoying the thermal baths and just joined the YMCA there. Were both home for the Memorial Day weekend, and Ill take two of my grandgirls (ages 10 & 11) back with me. My daughter, son-in-law, and grandchildren (Aidyn, age 3; Gabby, age 5; Neveah, age 10, and Chloe, age 11) live in our home while we are out of state.

Wow, SCRIMP1! Food cannot be the center and focus of our days. That is a very profound statement. I tried to think of a reward list for when I achieve my goals, and at first, all I could think about was food as a reward. I think that was an ah-HA! moment. I thought back to my childhood, and my mom rewarded us with food. I am on a quest to discover the underlying reasons I am obese, and I think you just gave me that first step. THANKS!

DISCOVERLLH, Kudos to you for walking the dog! I just love you to death--I also have food cravings, and since it is summer in Galveston County Texas, Im craving ice cream. Ive realized I cant have it in the house. and I dont walk down that aisle at the grocery store at all. LOL! One of my goals is to be able to control myself around foods I love, but that is really slow going. I also want to learn how to eat a little of it and leave it alone. Last night I actually ate ONE portion of mixed nuts. LOL! My hubby is really good at this and he is relatively thin. His candy ALWAYS lasts longer than mine. I didnt learn how to do that as a kid.

Im looking forward to getting to know you all. I was startled the first time I logged on and Linda commented about leaving. LOL! Im not sure I planned on jumping in like that, but I know Ive dropped out and suffered really negative consequences. Linda, Im so glad you decided to stayyou are wonderful. You just need to create a more accurate self-image.

Thanks for the welcome, TAMMYAND and everyone! I will be checking in. This week I will be tracking my food and keeping it within the limits; visiting my bone doc (I have osteoarthritis) to see about a couple of sessions with a physical therapist to design a doable workout; moving and getting out and about; and visiting with high school friends. My goal is to lose 1.5-2 pounds this week. Hubby is going back to Arkansas on Tues., but Ill be here until June 5th enjoying my own bed. LOL! I hope all of you have a great week.



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Good morning, my friends!
I just want to let you know how much I appreciate all of you. I really look forward to checking in and seeing how everyone is doing each morning. emoticon

Yesterday was a mixed bag for me. I actually bought an entire Palermos ultra thin pizza at the store on impulse and ate the whole thing in one sitting. I don't know why I did that and I didn't even enjoy it. Impulse, I guess! I felt terrible afterwards, both physically and emotionally. I realized that pizza is a trigger food for me and I need to stay away from it for awhile. I was feeling overly full and it was too wet to garden, so I almost blew off my exercise. Then I realized I did not want to blow my exercise streak, so I forced myself to get outside and walk the dog. I can't even describe how much better I felt afterwards!

I did relax yesterday, and appreciate the feedback from you guys that it was OK to do that. Paula, my grandparents always taught me that Sunday was a day of rest, too. When I would visit them, we would go to church, eat dinner at a restaurant, and then sit on the front porch reading on Sunday. (All the stores and gas stations would be closed on Sunday when I was young, too. I think it was just a different time.) My mom was a severe alcoholic, though, and when I was home all the work fell on me. Nothing I ever did was good enough and if I laid down to read a book or something I would get criticized for being lazy. Yesterday I watched Mockingjay Part I and stayed up until 1:00 AM to read a book, and it was WONDERFUL! I am definitely going to plan on keeping Sundays separate from the rest of the week and focus on getting my work done on the other six days. I definitely struggle with "all or nothing thinking" as well! I will definitely check out flylady! I had never heard of her before. The lemon garlic chicken sounds yummy! Can you please share the recipe? So glad your skin is better and you are sleeping better! emoticon

Linda - I am so glad you are preserving! You are a vital part of our team! Why do you feel you struggle with starches? Is there anything that would give you the same satisfaction but would be a healthier option? I don't know if there is...but I know that sometimes proactively substituting something works better than saying, "I can't have it", which sets up a feeling of deprivation. In terms of how you are feeling about your weight gain, think of yourself as one of your students. Looking at the data you have available, what steps would you take to help her learn not to make the same mistakes? What would you say to her to help her feel better about her past failures? I think one of the big problems with restaurants is portion size. I heard somewhere that it is a good idea to ask the waitress to put half of the entree in a take home container right away rather than bringing it to the table. Here's a thought...make a plate of food for yourself that you would typically eat and have your SIL make a plate of food for himself that he would typically eat...then switch plates! emoticon

Deb - Sounds like you are doing the best thing for yourself to give up the dog work at the shelter to focus on the kitties. You are right...you are retired, so your volunteer work should be fun for you, not exhausting. It is hard when you are such a compassionate person not to want to help everywhere, but I think focusing your energy on what really matters to you and then enjoying your free time is a smart move.

Marlene - I love how you are such a deep thinker! You have such a great way of zeroing in on the truth and putting it out there for us! I really appreciate that about you. You are absolutely right...in order to achieve our goals, we must get strict and we must be consistent! Thank you for the reminder and for being so motivating. I have a quick question for you, since I struggle with this. How do I not have food be the center / focus of my day when I need to track everything and not go over my calories? I am still new to tracking (just the first week) but I have a hard time finding balance between staying on track and not obsessing. I am so glad you had fun at your son's house! It's great that you and your ex and his wife get along so well. And congratulations on your impending grandchild! emoticon Do you have grandchildren already? I sure hope your son doesn't move away. That would be SO HARD not to see your grandbaby! Hopefully they will decide to stay near you. I don't have any grandchildren yet, but am looking forward to that someday. I love being a mom and miss the days when my kids were little. Glad you are back on track today!

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Welcome PaulaGriffith75. I like your spirit of encouragement and confidence. We can never give up on ourselves. As we are all over 50 here the gift of health is critical to our physical and mental wellbeing.
Justme-- I lost over 100 lbs by June 2011 and regained it back in 2012. It took me another discouraged and depressed year to get myself together to re-start my diet in July 2013. From there, you know my history. Here I am today at 155, the thinnest I have ever been since my early 30s. Almost 130 pounds lost. The changes in my life are quite profound; especially my health. No more pain, no more high BP, Glucose, cholesterol; increased energy; everything in my closet fits and I look fabulous. The same benefits and more can happen to you and everyone else here. My advice is to get strict. Weigh and measure everything. Know the calorie count and stay within your range. We simply have to be on plan most days. Consistency. Food cannot be the center and focus of our days. For me, I turned to reading to occupy me. I saw carbs in a new way; and learned the excess carbs were keeping me fat and preventing me from sustaining weight loss. Fast food only gets us in trouble but cannot be avoided. We have to learn to deal with it, incorporate the occasional FF meal; while making the best selection for me. When I go to McDs--I always get an fish burger no sauce; and remove half the bread and eat it open faced. Or one of the grilled chicken salads; with no croutons or tortilla chips.

I had fun yesterday at my son's house in Delaware. Where the family gathered to celebrate a birthday. I wound up staying over night; as I was involved in a penochle card tournament. I had not played in years; and it quickly came back. My ex-husband was playing and he is the type where you don't dare make a mistake if he is your partner; as he can count cards and will analyze your every hand in detail and loves to catch someone reneging. He loves to win and had taught all of us how to play. He played with his wife as partner. Only me and my DIL were able to beat them.
My younger son and his wife also annnounced they are expecting. All of us were thrilled and then we heard his wife was trying to get them to move back to Texas; right after the baby is born in February. Her sister and mother are moving there and she seems to want to keep him from his family. I don't think (and others agree) she likes it that he is close to me; his brother; and sister.

I face today up a few pounds because of overeating this weekend. Yes--I had fried chicken, pizza; BBQ meats, the usual fattening summer salads and alcohol drinks. Its OK; and I am back on track today.
I'll be planting herbs, watching a movie, and relaxing home alone today.

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Linda - I agree with everyone here. Don't you dare go away. You deserve good health and I know you'll get right back on the wagon. I haven't been perfect and have gained and lost pounds in my journey - as much as 20 at a time (I'm at the high end of it right now), but I keep coming back and I keep beating it back. So will you. You're our friend and we will support you through thick and thin (no pun intended!)

I've got to get myself back on the right path again, too. I'm still fitting into my clothes, but they're on the tight side, so it's time to change from what I've been doing lately. You'd think with me burning 4500-5000 calories a week in exercise, this would not be a problem, but it is. I still gotta watch every bite. There is a lot going on in my life right now, but it's no excuse.

I decided to give up my dog work at the shelter. I just have so much going on with the cat side that doing the dog side is just getting to be too much. I retired so I could take life easy and it's making it difficult to do so. I don't feel too bad about it, though, as I have lots going on with managing the volunteers at Petco and with doing once a month adoption events there as well as going into the shelter to do adoptions by appointment.

Well, it's only a week until we head to the San Juan Islands, hopefully to see Orcas and lots of other wildlife, do some hiking and touristy things. We're pretty much prepared, just gotta pack. We bought a waterproof camera to be able to take pictures when we're kayaking. I'll post some if we see anything good.

Wish I had time to post more, but I still have shelter duty tonight. Take care everyone.



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PaulaG75 - Welcome to the group, we are an active group and enjoy new voices. I am a retired teacher and staff development trainer.

Tammy - I was just overwhelmed to see every single pound back - I thought I had been doing well - but two things - I have not been riding the recumbent bike in the evenings because of the problems it caused and those problems went away when I stopped the evening cycle, the other thing is eating out with my cousin - while I have made sure I got what I thought were healthy choices that is not always the case when you are talking restaurant food. I have been eating a lot of sodium because of the restaurant food. she certainly not up to eating out at all right now and she only has one procedure a week from Wednesday which I am sure will be just a take there and bring back since she is feeling so terrible. Pick me up my friend and dust me off I need a pat on the back and a kick in the butt. I am doing better on sleep - but the last couple of days have been 6, not 7 and that also interferes with my metabolism.

sue - you have fun - you deserve it and a little rest from the stress you have been under.

Laura -11 Wow! You needed that. I think everyone needs a day of rest. There is a reason why even God took a day of rest. We need to refresh, regroup, and realign our lives.

Thank you everyone for the kind words. I really needed them. This is the most discouraged I have been in a long time. This is where I come for support and I definitely got it when I needed it.
I am still working out exactly how to balance my needs to lose weight with the family needs of more calories. I have not been buying some of my standbys to eat raw - broccoli and cauliflower. I can make a larger portion of meat for my SIL and sometimes grill a sausage for him. He is still at the other end of the spectrum. His doctor is constantly on him about his need to gain some weight.

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JUSTME9898, that is the most important thing--to make that decision. Decisions have more power than what we think. We move forward and backward based on our own decisions...and the good news is that we CAN control our decisions. I wrote a blog earlier today about my stressors at both my home (Texas) and Arkansas (where my hubby is currently working). I listed them and figured out that even though I have different stressors depending on where I am, the same is true of both--I really can't control them. However, I CAN control how I respond to them with decisions. Kudos for making the decision to move forward. Now...how can we help you? emoticon

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I can't give up. I know what that means. It means a lot of very bad things, uncontrolled diabetes, more weight gain, never being able to walk again. But I was really discouraged with myself this morning. I stopped eating potatoes which are a real trigger food for me and then ate pasta and bread which are also trigger foods. Between my family obligations and my ability to rationalize my behavior I shot myself in the foot. back to the beginning. I keep thinking I have learned my lesson, I have to do this everyday. No excuses, no time outs, no "just this once.
so here I am starting over again and not at all happy, but persevering.

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Linda I understand your frustration. emoticon Until the beginning of this year I was playing up and down with the same 10 pounds for about a year. Please dont give up on yourself. You have had a lot to deal with lately, and all of those issues can interfere with your weight loss. I hope you will focus on the positives like your faithful attendance at water aerobics, your time on the recumbent bike, and your wealth of healthy recipes. Even if the scale number isnt showing a loss, you are improving your health by increasing your activity level and movement. You have great analytical insights. When you are ready, take a look at why you think you gained that weight back. (For example, when I gain it is usually because of over-indulgence in processed carbs and the tendency for all or nothing thinking.if I strayed off track then lets just blow off the daygobble, gobble, etc. ) Then maybe you can target one or two behaviors to get yourself back in weight loss mode. So many of us struggle just as you are. I am sure the others on this thread will have great ideas for you too. We need you on this thread. And even with your gain, rememberthis is our yearThere are still over 7 months left in the year.You can do it!

Laura I was raised with Sunday being the Lords day emoticon , and I live by this as an adult. Even before I retired, I never did any housework, laundry, etc. on Sundays. Knowing that I will not work on Sundays was sufficient motivation for me to take care of whatever I needed to do and to keep Sunday as a day of rest. On Sundays I start the day with church, followed by fellowship at coffee hour. The rest of the day is up for grabs.time with family and friends usually or like today, relaxing, reading (including church-related books, articles, etc.). I try to not shop on Sundays as well. I grew up in an area when the stores were not open on Sundays so I dont feel a great loss by saving my shopping for the other 6 days of the week. As far as your feeling overwhelmed by how much house work you have, I suggest looking at www.flylady.net if you have not done so already. I have recommended this website to other buddies here as well. The flylady is amazing. She provides routines and suggestions and reminds us we are not behindjust jump in where you are. She points out that often our perfectionistic tendencies paralyze us and thus keep us from making any progress. You dont have to do everything everyday..Flylady provides great suggestions and guidelines. I hope you have time to check her out. The issues with credit vs. debit cards are complicated. Some issues are credit card specific, but I have learned that if your credit cards are stolen, typically you are responsible for no more than $50 as long as you report the lost card as soon as you know it is gone. With a debit card, the thief can drain the money out of your accounts and that money is likely gone forever. Also, some credit cards provide protection for your purchases in the event that a product is defective, etc. The danger with credit cards is running up bills that you cannot pay off each month and then end up paying interest. That is the pits. I will not carry a balance on my credit card because I refuse to pay extra money to the bank that issues the credit card. I worked too hard for my money to pay it to a bank and get nothing in return.

Paulagriffith Welcome to the buddies thread! Nice to see your post. emoticon My real name is Paula too, but Tammyand is my spark user name. Well have to be careful that people dont get us confused!


Sue So happy that you are enjoying your getaway. Glad you are taking care of yourself. Enjoy! emoticon

I am having a good day today. Fortunately there was fruit at coffee hour at church, so I was able to stay compliant. I had left over very veggie turkey chili for lunch and already made lemon garlic chicken so I will just have to reheat it for dinner later today. I plan to relax for the rest of the day, curling up with the accumulated newspapers that I didnt finish during the week, and perhaps later read the book I am reading. My skin continues to improve. I took another bleach bath yesterday. I still have a long way to go, but I am sleeping much better, and a good nights sleep carries over into just about every area of my life (including healthy eating.)

Hope everyone is he all having a wonderful Memorial Day weekend. Take a moment to reflect on the sacrifices made by the men and women in our armed forces so that we all can enjoy the freedoms of this wonderful nation. emoticon


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Linda. Don't give up ...we all love and support you here.

Checking in quick from the north woods of WI. Doing good so far. I love it up here. Definitely God's country... too bad the Internet is so bad ..in town now to do my check in.

God's peace all
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There is NEVER EVER EVER any reason to be embarrassed on this Web site...we all share so many similar problems and obstacles. Yes, I have gained back weight so many times, and I have promised myself that I will learn more about WHY I'm obese so that maintenance should be easier. We need to love one another as we are and love ourselves.

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Linda - DON'T YOU DARE SLINK OFF! I MEAN IT! There is absolutely no need whatsoever to feel embarrassed about gaining the weight back! I gained back everything I lost in 2013 and was so embarrassed I stopped sparking. I gained an extra 10 pounds back on top of that! Am I mad at myself? You betcha! But I'm going to put my big girl panties on and lose that weight again, and so are you! NO ONE on this team or thread is judging you because we have all been there. Try not to judge yourself. OK? (There, I will get off my soapbox now).

As for me, I woke up way too late today (11:00! Yikes!). I never do that, and it has really thrown me off, especially since I missed church. I have been trying to make Sundays relaxing and different than the regular work week but am struggling with feeling guilty about doing "fun" things when so much "stuff" has to get done. I'm interested to hear what everyone else does...do you still do your work on Sunday?

Laura

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JUSTME9898, no, no, no, no! Do not ever feel embarrassed with us. On Sparkpeople, you are loved and supported. Please do not leave. I've left, and believe me, nothing good happened. At least if you are checking in, reading, keeping up with info and friends, you have a chance. Sometimes you just have to hang around and let the motivation find you. We have ALL been there. I'm sparkfriending you right now. Please don't leave us!

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right now I feel like slinking off and not coming here anymore. I have gained back all the weight I lost this year. I am so embarrassed. I talk a good game but my actions are pitiful. But I am not giving up and YOU are my real support so here I am starting over again. I have to do this for my health, my life and my self respect.

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Just a quick check in to celebrate that I stayed on track today, even though I was REALLY tempted. I am feeling very proud of myself right now, which doesn't happen often. The Lean Cuisine I had at lunch had too many carbs and I was hungry an hour later. I really wanted to go get a candy bar but I had some leek/vegetable soup instead. Then I went to the UPS store, which is right next to the Dunkin' Donuts and I did NOT get an iced mocha, even though a large was only 99 cents. I finished errands at the grocery store where I had to return something. I love the triple chocolate cake slices there but I walked right by them. Not trying to brag (I hope you guys don't mind), it's just been a really long time since I've been able to do that! Tonight I modified my usual 2 egg with cheddar and bacon omelette to a 1 egg with asiago, onion and 1 slice of ham omelette. I thought the asiago would be low fat like parmesan, but it actually was about the same as the cheddar, so no big calorie savings there, but I used 1 tsp of pecan oil instead of 1 tbsp butter, water instead of milk, and one slice of low sodium ham instead of bacon, and only one egg, so I saved some calories. I know it's better to just use egg whites, but I haven't gotten to the point where I can do that yet (yuck!). Hopefully the small changes will add up!

David - I can't believe something ELSE went wrong! You poor guy! It sounds like your maintenance person is incompetent! I would call the homeowners association again and get it fixed before you start getting flies, etc., from the garbage. Keep us posted about the trailer and CPS. And give your wife a big hug!

Linda - Great idea about the marigolds and garlic! I might try to find some orange marigolds, since I have yellow and purple flowers there now. Where do you buy fox urine? Did it work? And where do you buy garlic to grow...do you just stick a clove of garlic in the ground? I read somewhere to just spray the leaves with hot pepper spray, but I just feel that would be cruel to the poor bunny. He can't help it that he's hungry! I did put some leftover greens just outside the fence in my field, right by where he sneaks under the fence. Maybe he will stop there instead of coming into the yard. I hope you are having fun at water aerobics! I am planning to register for the water aerobics class at the Y.

Paula - Way to go getting back on track right away! I am so proud of you! Do the same problems happen with credit card numbers, or it is just debit card numbers that are getting cloned?

Off to walk the small, bunny-loving, useless dog!

Have a good night everyone.

Laura

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Laura Woo Hoo and congrats on your terrific weight loss. So happy for you. Keep building on this highly motiving weigh-in. Lindas cousin had the problem with the debit card. Someone cloned it and tapped into her account. This is the same cousin who is battling cancer. I feel so bad for her. Good luck with your schedule. I seldom use my debit card. The only time I use it is to withdraw cash once a month at the ATM at my bank, and I am thinking that I will not do that too much more either. Because I have direct deposit I need to get the cash out, but I think I am going to just write myself a check and get it that way. I have several credit cards but use only one. I use it for groceries, CVS, and of course QVC. I pay it off completely every month so I dont have to pay any interest. I have earned substantial bonus points which can be used as cash so it is win-win for me.

Linda The article you presented is chock full of good ideas and not just for stressfor good living in general. I really dont have a stressful life these days, but I enjoyed reading your post. The one point that hit me the most is to surround yourself with positive people. This is something I have aimed at for as long as I can remember, and I think it is one of the reasons I am so happy with my life.

Sue Sounds like a wonderful weekend ahead of you.and much deserved! Enjoy!

Marlene Great idea to document everything at work. You are so methodical that doing this is probably second nature to you anyway. I am glad you were able to get your vacation time on your schedule. It is always good to have something to look forward to and it sounds like by August you will be very ready to get away! Is your boss American or British? Are you able to get a sense from your co-workers about their opinion of her?

David It sounds to me that your apt. complexs solution to your plumbing problem is probably some kind of violation. I hope they come back and do an appropriate repair for you. Good luck with your housing search. A change of scenery could do wonders for all of you a fresh start so to speak.

I spent the better part of yesterday (afternoon and very late into the evening.got home after midnight) at a friends home. I brought grapes for us, but thats where my compliance ended. So today I am back on track and feeling good. Thank goodness! For a few seconds I was tempted to blow off the entire weekend in terms of eating. But I am such a creature of habit that for breakfast I immediately reached for my standard compliant breakfast of Live Active cottage cheese and fresh fruit (today it was a half cup of delicious fresh blackberries). Once I had the compliant breakfast I knew Id be on track for the rest of the day. I made a pot of what I call very veggie turkey chili which was delicious for lunch and will be my dinner as well. I am really going to just take it easy this weekend.just doing whatever I want to do. Its such a good feeling.

emoticon Celebrate those you served our country on this Memorial Day weekend. God bless America. emoticon


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Happy Memorial Weekend Sparks,

David - Keeping positive thoughts for your move and new home. If you move out I would report the garbage drainage to the health department.

Laura - does planting garlic or marigolds on the outside edge of your garden help keep rabbits out? I used fox urine once to keep them away. I love the visual of you chasing a giant bunny in your nightgown as the neighbors watch. I visualized a bunny as big as Clifford the Big Red Dog.

Marlene - now there's the Marlene I know - making a logical plan to deal with problems. who knows what the future holds, but with a plan in place we are no longer at the mercy of the battering wind.

On my way to water aerobics.


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Hi and happy holiday weekend to everyone.
Cps returned 2days after their 1st visit and made my stepdaughter take drug test while they were at our apartment. Don't know how long till they say or do something else. My wife and I are still looking for a way to move out of our current apartment. Everyday is a new adventure there. Last week we were able to add another problem to the list. Kitchen sink plugged. I took elbow joint out and found clog was way further in the line. Called maintenance. They came out. 3mins later knocked on door and said " we fixed the problem", then left. Later after dinner my wife was doing the dishes and said " I keep hearing running water, sounds like its out side ". I went out and found how clog was fixed. The drain cape on the outside wall under the kitchen window had been removed. Now, when you turn on sink or wash dishes etc., the water drains outside onto the sidewalk and carport. This also goes if you use the disposal.... Nice....whatever you don't eat ends up out on the sidewalk.....ugh.
My wife and I are going to look at some trailors her parents saw just outside of town. It's a pay to be moved deal. Lists a 4bd 3bth for $8,800.00 cash deal, they move and set up for you. If we owned it we could put in trail or park for $296.00 a month. If we finance we have to own land to put it on. Hope this isn't going to be another dead end....
I need to try to stay more positive. My wife is starting to show things are getting to her.
Well, I'm at work waiting to punch in. Going yo read awhile before work.
Everyone have a great and blessed day. David.

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Good morning! I finally wrote my daily schedule to help me accomplish my goals, so I am happy about that. I spent quite a bit of time writing a very detailed one (down to the minute) and then realized it was totally unrealistic and was setting me up for failure, so I went back and revised it to be more flexible. Now if I have to run out for cat food or spend an extra five minutes at the Y, it won't totally throw me off. This morning I plan to get outside and yank those miserable thistles in my flower garden. I swear the roots go down to China! A big fat bunny was eating my bean sprouts this morning while my idiot dog was sitting two feet away munching on her kibble. She is not the brightest dog on the planet! I was like Farmer McGregor, running outside in my nightgown chasing the bunny away. I'm sure the neighbors were quite amused! I weighed in again today even though it's only been a few days since my last weigh in because I want to set my weigh in day to Saturday. I was down another 1.8 lbs, which I was happy about given the fiasco Thursday night.

Marlene - Great job documenting everything! If she tries to pull a fast one on you, at least you will have some ammunition. How sad that your new boss is so adversarial. You don't need that kind of stress! If you don't want to return to nursing, have you thought about teaching nursing at a college? With your supervisory experience, I think you would be great at it. I still haven't bought my herbs yet this year, although the mint I planted last year is coming up everywhere. I'm going to put it in a planter so it doesn't spread more. I also have something else coming up, but I can't tell if it's parsley or cilantro. I thought they were both annuals. Wow, your SE Asia trip sounds absolutely phenomenal! Who are you going with? I also have always wanted to visit Jamaica and climb Dunn's River Falls, but someone once told me they saw a snake there, which petrifies me (I have a phobia).

Tsenty - Welcome to our thread! I hope you come back. This is a great group! Thank you for the suggestion about looking into hospitals, etc. What exactly are health care vendors? (please excuse my ignorance here...can you give me a few names, please?) What type of positions do these places hire teachers for?

Linda - I loved the stress tips! Thanks! I'm going to copy and print them out.

Sue - Have fun camping! Sounds like just what you need to relax right now. I hope the weather cooperates for you.

Talk to you all later!
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Hello Everyone!

Letting you know that I'll be out of town this weekend. We are going to my brother-inlaw's cabin (fishing, reading, relaxing). I have packed up as much nutrition as I can .. and planning to have a repeat of last year's trip (where I lost weight) .. let's see if I can shed a lb or 2!

God's Peace to you all!
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Tsenty -welcome

I read the article featured today and condensed it. I thought it was something we could all use right now
Smart Strategies to Deal with Stress
Here are a dozen tips that will help reduce the frequency and intensity of your stress, and therefore dramatically improve your ability to handle stress when occurs.

1. Elevate self-care to its highest priority at all times. A well-rested, nourished and fit body sees the world through calmer glasses, no matter what's going on. The best way to cope and protect your body against stress is to take exceptional care of yourself.

2. Identify the source of your stress.
What is it that's really causing my stress? Is it within my circle of influence?
Is there a way I can shift my perspective and see the opportunity here?
What action steps can I take right now to alleviate some of the sources of the stress?
3. Make an appointment for some "me" time every day. Many will turn to some pretty self-sabotaging methods to handle stress, such as overeating, oversleeping, drinking to intoxication, numbing by watching too much TV, or just procrastinating. Take a short break to nourish your spirit instead by trying meditation, taking a walk outside or reading a good book. Figure out what works for you and schedule it into your day.
5. Learn the skills of time management and practice them until they become habits
6. Stop multi-tasking on important things.
7. Use technology to your advantage, not your detriment.
8. Nurture your relationships. Plan a date night with your partner, have lunch with a friend, or call someone who makes you laugh.
9. Take a mini-vacation. An afternoon away, one night out of town, or even just an hour escape for a massage will refresh and rejuvenate your body, mind and spirit, allowing you to face the world with a more buoyant attitude.
10. Surround yourself with positive people.
11. Stay in the present moment. When we ruminate on the past, it usually makes us feel sad or angry. When we focus on the future, it usually causes us worry and concern. Reduce stress by taking enjoyment of whatever is happening in the now.
12. Concentrate your energies on the things you can control and impact, and let the rest go.
13. Try to find the humor in life's ironies. Don't take yourself so seriously.


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I work in Health Care at a large University Hospital. Our learning and development department prefers to hire Master's Level Educators. I've worked on the administrative side of health care for 20 years (work as a medical records manager) and it's been a great career. So - you might want to start looking at Health Care (Hospitals), Health Care Vendors, and big insurance companies -- they all want trainers with an education background. Hang in there - something will come your way!

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I did my measurements today and lost an inch on my hip and thighs-36 bust-41 hips-30 waist.42 shoulders, 23 inch thigh.
Weight 154 today. I'll spend a quiet weekend cleaning up as I have company next weekend. Not exericising at work today I have done my 3 days.

I paid off my November SE Asia trip (Thailand, Laos, Viet Nam and Cambodia) today! I can hardly wait to go. I put in for my vacations and informed my boss last month about my other scheduled trips in August (Jamaica) and a week off in July.

I am also going to buy some herbs today; I grow them in planters on my deck. Basil, Sage, Thyme, Oregano and Rosemary are my favorites. Cilantro always dies on me.

Thanks for reading my gripes; I'll be all right. She is very demanding and has high expectations for building systems that do not exist. Shes going to the UK the second week of June to meet with my boss regarding his retirement transition and is not telling me anything else.

Tammyand---My boss appears to be in her late 40s or perhaps early 50s. Classic case of whose Queen Bee. and that is her. Totally into to being Vice Presidential and not lifting a finger unless it is to impress her boss. As the only employee in the US; I am subject to her whims. She has no concept of how busy I am.I decided to keep a detailed diary and am saving all of her communications to me. I need to keep good documentation; although our HR always supports management.

Laura--I shouldn't advised you to have the sundae; everyone else said not to cheat......I was in a bad mood and I told you what I would have done in response. See I am not recovered yet in my responses to stress....When I don't care thats when I get in trouble.

OKPhoenix--I agree with the advice to stay low key. She'll make a wrong move somewhere; my company is a tough one to deal with. She doesn't know the organization as i do. Clearly she views me as an unworthy rival who she has to get up to speed with her "vast" knowledge from working at only one company in her career. I really don't want to return to Nursing--I am conflicted. Its the only thing besides consulting that i know i could make decent money.

Justme--I internalize anger too and sometimes don't speak what I feel as I will explode with a verbal barrage if unleashed. And its hard to say no sometimes for you; especially when it come to your grannies. When you give and give people expect it of you. I know my kids know if we go out to eat Mom always pays....and they order up too!

Sue--Hope this day fnds you in better spirits and in count down mode. You are a surviver and will be just fine. You'll look back and think it was the best thing that ever happened to you as you will get to reinvent yourself.

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Good morning, everyone,

I just want to let you all know how very much it means to me that you are here and for all the support you gave me about the job I didn't get. I was in tears all night last night. I heard from a friend who teaches in the school district, who told me she heard through the grapevine that they are not hiring anyone with a Masters degree for any of the available positions because we are too expensive. I wish in that case they hadn't wasted my time interviewing me and getting my hopes up! My daughter assures me that it's the degree that's the problem and not me, but it's so hard not to take it personally. Something is wrong with the system when schools aren't hiring teachers because they have too much education! I appreciate all the suggestions about next steps, too. My mom did not help last night when she was texting me that I need to stop being so picky and just take ANYTHING. She doesn't seem to realize that I'm not getting offered anything! I was even turned down for an entry level, minimum wage job as a sales associate a couple of weeks ago because I was overqualified. I don't understand it when people attack someone who is already feeling down. Anyway, I am going to follow your suggestions and start looking for a different career that would incorporate my teaching background. I am thinking perhaps editing for an academic publishing company or an admissions rep at a college. I will also look at online teaching and private schools. Speech pathology isn't really an option since it requires quite a bit more schooling and I already owe $70,000 in student loans from my Masters that I can't pay back. I have to admit, I did cave last night. emoticon I started with a Dairy Queen Blizzard and then had peanut butter and BBQ goldfish (which I don't even like) before bed. I'm not proud of it, but I'm owning it and moving on. I just didn't care last night. Back on track today.

Marlene - It sounds like your boss really is horrible and isn't even making an effort to be civil. What a horrible situation to have to work in! I had a mean coworker once who absolutely made work intolerable. I can't even imagine having someone like that being my boss! I think you are right to start thinking about options that would make you happier. Life is too short to be miserable at work. If you stop working late, will they have an excuse to get rid of you before you are vested?

Phoenix - I am a gardener too, but my passion is flowers. I have a very small vegetable garden, and I do like to grow fresh herbs. I'm going to get out in the garden today since it is actually sunny and fairly warm. That should help pick my spirits up a bit! If you have extra vegetables, it would be worthwhile to find a food pantry in your area to donate the extra. I have had to rely on the food pantry in the past, and is not very good quality food....usually expired meat and rotten vegetables that the grocery stores donate for a tax write off when they are unable to sell them any more. That, and canned food. I remember a corn farmer dropping off fresh corn once and everyone in line was so grateful to get fresh produce. Just a thought. As for the cake tasting, if I were you I would just enjoy the time with my daughter and make a memory together rather than worrying about the cake. The portions will be so small I don't think it would be worth worrying about and ruining the experience. I agree with Linda...take pictures! When is the wedding?

Linda - I agree with Phoenix in terms of your DIL. Picking up the grandkids is not your problem or responsibility! You are doing your DIL a favor by getting them, and she needs to be either okay with the time that is convenient for you or she needs to find another way to get them home. Don't let her stress you out! It's great that you realize you swallow your anger. I wish I swallowed my anger with broccoli instead of Dairy Queen Blizzards! Good for you!

Paula - I must have missed something. What happened with the debit card? I have had my debit card number stolen three times in the past year. I haven't had any money stolen from me because the bank caught it in time, but what a pain in terms of changing all my automatic withdrawal numbers, etc. My ex-husband just told me a couple of days ago that his number was stolen recently. His bank caught it when five hundred dollars was charged at a Target in Kentucky somewhere. I don't understand people who steal from others. Don't they understand that people had to work for that money? I unfortunately don't have a credit card and so I use a debit card instead. It sounds like you had a wonderful brunch! You sure have a lot of friends. Congratulations on eating well AND booking it through the grocery store aisles! I remember when I first met you that you were struggling to do your grocery cart walking. I can really see a difference in you! So proud of you for your perserverance.

Sue and David - Thinking of you both today and keeping you in my prayers.

Deb - Hope all is well with you as you prepare for your trip! I am heading to Phoenix in 12 days to see my grandmother and am really looking forward to it.

Laura

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Laura My heart goes out to you over the job. Anyone who doesnt hire you is not worthy of you! Hiring decisions, unfortunately, are not always made logically and for the right reasons. School districts are notorious for nepotism, politics, etc. So while I understand your disappointment, (and I know this is easier said than done) please try to not take it personally. You wont help anything by overeating or binging on comfort food. Treat yourself like you deserve to be treatedwith only the healthiest foods for that marvelous body God gave you! I have to say I was pleasantly surprised that the bleach baths were not irritating and in fact seem to be helping my skin a bit. I too have heard horror stories about Jacuzzi germs. Yuk! I still wont take any chances in a public pool either. I am too prone to infections.

Linda Just today I saw several stories on the news about the dangers of using debit cards/ATM machines. So sorry about your Maxines problem. That is the LAST thing that poor woman needs. Ah, give her hugs from your spark friend if shell allow it. I like individually frozen fish too. My concern is the origin of the fish. Do you know if the fish at Costco originates in the US or is it from some foreign country? I definitely lose weight more efficiently when I eat fish prepared in a healthy way. Thanks for your kind words. I feel good and am doing well....but am almost hyper vigilant as I know how easy it is for me to cave and indulge in unhealthy foods.

Marlene Im curious...about how old is your new boss? Stay strong and good for you for not working late.take care of yourself. a job is just a job. As a nurse, I am sure you have multiple options available to you!

Phoenix Enjoy the moment of the cake tasting and watching your daughters reactions, etc. Those moments are priceless and will possibly help you limit your tasting. I went to a cake tasting last year for a big event I was in charge of. I found that they really dont give you all that much because there are so many different kinds to taste.

I really had a great day today. After our church service this morning 13 of us went out to brunch at a restaurant where we know the owner. We got there around 11 am and stayed till 1:30, mostly talking and drinking coffee. I had a Greek omelet (with spinach and feta cheese.but not much of either really). I did take a few bites of toast but not even a slice of it. That was enough to satisfy me. I tasted the potatoes and found them to be blandeasy for me to pass them upsurely I would not add salt. I so enjoyed the socializing that again the food took a back seat. As we were finally leaving the restaurant, I ran into another friend of mine who also knows the restaurant owner. He walked me to my car and stayed talking to me for another 30 minutes or so. I also go to introduce him to a couple who was with us at the brunch. This couple came to my old church after I left there, but we have become friends and I could tell they were interested in meeting the man I ran into on my way out of the restaurant. So I think I made another nice connection in these folks getting to meet each other. After I finally left the restaurant parking lot, I ran a few errands and then grocery shopped where I got in my good ol grocery cart walking. I surprised myself with how fast I could go in some of the empty aisles. Hard to believe Memorial Day weekend is upon us. I plan to stick pretty close to home and relax as much as I canno pressure to do anything. If I get motivated I might do some additional cleaning out of things I no longer want, but if not, thats ok too.


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Phoenix --- my daughter is allergic to rosemary, but I love basil, chives, thyme, oregano, mint, dill, tarragon and lemon grass. My DIL is a great gardener and my daughter wants to be one. Water is a problem right now. We will see what happens.
Good luck with the cake tasting. I do not really like cake so that would not be a problem for me. Have a wonderful time with your daughter. Take lots of pictures to show all the planning that went into this great event.

Marlene - do not allow this boss to control your life. You are twice the woman she will ever be. Keep your options open, but step back when you can and let her feel the weight of her position and how much she needs you. Do not always make it easy on her. I know you will want to pick up the pieces she has broken but when you can let her see what happens when she over - burdens her employees with her responsibilities.

Laura - I am sorry about the job. Have you considered working at the college level with an on-line university? I know that Grand Canyon was hiring a while ago for people in the ed department. Another thing is what about home schooling for disabled students? They are always looking for people out here to work with the major hospitals for chronically ill students. Have you considered speech pathology? We are so short of speech pathologist in out state it is almost an immediate job. My friend retired from teaching and was immediately hired at the age of 60 as a speech pathologist. I know it means more school but in the long run it might be worth it.

Sue and David - I hope each of you found some sunshine in your day. Take deep breaths and enjoy the night sky, or the morning sunrise, or the evening sunset or a long hug. Peace and serenity are there we just have to allow them in.

Debby and Cat - I hope you are each having fun in your fulfilling lives. Be well.

Tammy - so proud of you an your continued success, even with little sleep, rashes, church suppers and company. You go girl. You are a winner

I had a fairly good day today considering how angry I was this morning. I just realized, or maybe I should say re-realized that I do NOT handle anger very well. I have spent most of my life swallowing my anger both literally and figuratively. All I could think about for most of the day was that I wanted something to crunch down on - preferably salty and carby. I ate lots and lots of broccoli and some wheat thins (thank you God that the box was almost empty). I am feeling better this evening. My DIL did find someone else to pick up eldest grandson. I think she could hear the total disgust in my voice.

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Good evening everyone,

I had a pretty compliant day and the sun came out, WOOHOO!

Laura - I am sorry about the rejection letter. Stay away from the ice cream and chocolate. If you must, try WW ice cream treats. Its good you recognize the draw is for comfort food. So what positive steps can you take now? What other ways can you use your training/education that may have more avenues for employment? I always find taking active steps can help me stay away from the comfort food emoticon .

Linda -- well I putter around the flower beds and do some herbs. I love fresh basil, thyme and rosemary. My husband is a major vegetable gardener. If the garden makes this year I will post some of the pictures of his haul. We fill our freezer and then take produce to both our jobs and to various workers through out the community such as people we see in the morning at the 7-11 or onCue or others who show an interest. Most the time my freezer is fully with onions, tomatoes, bell pepper, jalapenos, different squashes etc. The tomatoes I will use in place of various tomato sauces. They worked well with the homemade marinara sauce recipe that was posted here. It does kinda sound like you are being taken advantage of, but its up to you to set limits and stick to it. I know it is tough to do as you don't want to disappoint any of the ones you love. But it sounds like they still want you to take care of things for them, and its time for them to shoulder their own responsibilities. Whether you have the time or not, it is their responsibilities as parents to get their kids to and from school not yours. If DIL doesn't like when you can pick up the children, then she can pick them up herself or find an alternative. It does not become your problem. Neither my husbands or my own parents, shuttled my kids anywhere. Its nice to have a parent that can help out, but it is not your responsibility. It is theirs and the onus to take care of their own children's transportation and educational needs. They are just lucky that you are willing to help!

Marlene -- You are very talented and can do anything you put your mind to. Since we have to be in it for the long haul and you are definitely a planner, spend some time thinking about what you really want to do and plot a course of action. This year after my they finally determined I had diabetes, I determined I have to start taking care of me. I am still working on that, but we have to do it. They cannot give us our lives back once they take it. So if you are miserable at work, that is not a good place to be. Nursing is a good occupation and they are screaming for trained nurses. With your experience and education, you could probably move into admin. pretty quickly. This may be just the push you need to find something that is more fulfilling. I don't know, but you sure haven't seemed happy a work for a while now. That stress is definitely not good for your health.

Well my daughter is coming into town Friday for dress fittings and cake tasting on Saturday. I am going to have to taste the cakes, so God give me the strength to just each a bite of each flavor.

My prayers are with everyone in the group. It seems like we are all in a rough patch right now. Hugs to all of you!



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In a foul mood. I just know this new boss is going to try her best to get rid of me and tell me I need improvement . She is satisfied with nothing that I do. She's too lazy to send emails, she'll email me and ask me have I got an update from people when she's copied on the same damn email. B*tch!
Nevertheless, I worked out after work and got home after 8 again.

Laura--So sorry to hear that you didn't get the job. Don't give up you'll get something, only God knows what the time frame will be. Meanwhile I think you should have that sundae.

I am definitely forseeing to be out of a job next year. I see it coming by her attitude toward me. She has yet to get to know me, or ask me to lunch, I only see her if I pass her in the hall. So cold and aloof and critical. I plan on saving every cent, and will not plan on getting a bonus next year. But I am not quitting or I'll forfeit my company stock that vests in March.

I'll be OK. Come January I will look for something else or maybe find an easy Nursing job somewhere, after taking another refresher.

I am going to stop working late; its of no use.

OKphoenix thanks for the visual. You nailed it.

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I just got a rejection letter in the mail from the school district I interviewed with. I have subbed there for 8 years and have excellent references....I thought I actually had a shot. I am absolutely crushed, and all I want is a big hot fudge sundae. emoticon


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Happy Thursday Sparks,

Laura - did you make it to the Y? I wish we had real Ys in California. There are a couple in the big cities (LA and San Fran) but here there is nothing. I love a good Y. They offer so much to the community.

Tammy - Woo Hoo on the weight loss. Have fun with your friends and give that toast away.

Phoenix - are you a gardener? I should probably know the answer, but have forgotten. Do you grow herbs? That is my goal. I love fresh herbs and they are so expensive.

David hope all is well.

Sue - I know how hard it is when you are let go to realize that it was the company's decision and may not be based on anything you have done or not done. Sometimes companies decide they just want to make a clean sweep and they will get rid of super employees because they want to "start with fresh" Once a decision like that has been made there is nothing anyone can do. We got rid of out truancy office who was saving the district over half a million dollars a year to create a school police department which cost the district over 4 million dollars a year because one of the board members was retired sheriff and convinced everyone that was the way to go. It makes no sense

Feeling much better with 7 hours of sleep under my belt. On my way to water aerobics I have to pick the kids early as it is a minimum day today. My daughter works at the middle school that my oldest grandson attends, but my DIL wants me to make an extra trip to get him so that he will not have to stay at school an extra hour. I just feel that it is unnecessary and presumptuous.

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Happy Thursday, everyone! I just have a quick minute to write since I need to get the garbage out before the garbage man comes. My plan today is to get to the YMCA and swim laps. I also started tracking my food again but need to pick up a battery for my food scale so I can be accurate.

Phoenix - You are so right about the weather being goofy this year! It feels like November here. I've never seen such a cold spring. My poor flowers are still in the pots waiting to be transplanted. I am hoping it warms up enough today that I can at least get a couple of them in the ground, although it rained last night and I don't like planting when it's muddy. I'll have to see if it dries out enough. I keep watching my tomatoes to make sure they are surviving the nights okay. I LOVED your Paris Hilton comment! I really have a hard time working for idiots...yes, I admit it! I will definitely remember that next time I am frustrated by a boss and picture him/her with a chihuaha in a pink purse! LOL

Marlene - I agree with Phoenix when she said that your manager is looking to you to straighten out the mess....in a way, it's an affirmation that he thinks you're very capable and trusts that you can do it. I hope things are better for you today.

Paula - So glad you are sleeping better! I've been having an awful time sleeping, but I think it is because my fat cat lies on one side of my legs and my dog lies on the other. When I need to turn over, I can't move and then wake up. I woke up four or five times last night. I hate having the cat sleep in bed with me because he's like a 10-lb sack of potatoes. He refuses to move once he finds his place! I think trying to kick him off the bed is how I tore my meniscus, actually. Unfortunately, when I have tried to close the door and keep him out, he makes this horrible wailing noise and then picks fights with the other cat. We call him Tsar Nicholas, and the name certainly fits because he acts like the ruler of the house and we are his peasants! As for the pool, it's interesting that you mentioned your concerns about the sores. I actually saw a story on the one of those morning news shows in which they tested the pool water and jacuzzi water of 10 hotels. In every case the pool water was clean but the jacuzzi water had high levels of bacteria (and really nasty bacteria...Legionnaire's disease, staph, etc.) I will not go in a public jacuzzi anymore! Taking a bleach bath sounds strange to me. I would have thought that would be irritating to your skin, or at least the private parts. Just goes to show what I know! emoticon
I hope you have fun with your old church friends today (and that you don't eat the toast! LOL)

Thinking of you all and hoping you are having a compliant day.

Laura

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I did well today, just need to get more sleep. I will be going to bed soon.
My poor cousin. She tried to take me to dinner and her debit card was rejected. When she got home she found out that someone had cloned her card and spent the day withdrawing money from her account. The bank told her she has to fax paperwork to their fraud department within 10 days or else she is responsible. The last two day have been the first time she has had a painful reaction to her radiation and she can barely move. It never rains but it pours.
My main purchase at Costco is their frozen fish. I love the way it is packaged. I can take out an individual piece for myself at breakfast or lunch. I also wanted to buy swim shoes, but they are not carrying them this year.
I hope that Thursday finds everyone in a better place.

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Laura Good for you for going to the Y and for planning on going to water aerobics. I know many people who love the water aerobics. I am reluctant to do anything in a public pool because I have so many open sores on my body virtually all the time. I know the pools have chlorine but I am still skiddish about the risks. I have started to take bleach baths however to help my skin. Every second or third day I add about to cup of bleach to the tub water and soak in it. It does seem to be helping my skin.


Linda Hope you did well at Costco. We do not have a Costco in this area (yet). One of my best friends loves Costco as there is one in her area. We have BJs and Sams Club, but I dont think they are as good as Costco, and I am not a member of any of these warehouse clubs. I realize that your magnet schools are schools of choice, but if your grandkids lived here the local school district would still be required to provide transportation. Different states have different practices it seems.

Phoenix I am doing well thank you.getting a lot done at home and staying on track. My skin is still improved though not completely better by any means. At least I am sleeping much better which spells good days for me overall.

Sue I am so sorry to hear that today was so rough for you. I hope that in time you will be able to look back on all of the stupidity you had to put up with and see it for what it is.not at all a reflection on you but a strong indication of poor management, poor judgement, etc.

Marlene- Glad you are less stressed. So nice that you can work from home at times. I was never able to do that, and I see that as such a wonderful perk. I would like to lose at least 100 pounds. If I lost 115 Id be at a weight where I looked great in the past but I want to be realistic so for now I am saying at least 100 pounds.

David Glad you are able to provide some stability for your granddaughter. You are doing a wonderful thing for her. I hope her mother gets some help so she can get off of the drugs.

I did well today. I got my exercise in early (for me). I actually considered eating off plan today because my son was going to BK with a friend (and I love burgers from BK), but I opted to skip the burger and have my ground turkey alfredo. I sauted ground turkey and mushrooms, then added a cup of Prego light homestyle alfredo sauce. cup is 50 calories, 3 carbs, and only 1 sugar. The cup was plenty and I have enough turkey alfredo for at least one, if not two, more meals. I also have about jar of the alfredo sauce left too, so I will use that again to use it up. It was very tasty. Going to my old church tomorrow for Ascension Thursday services in the morning, then out to brunch with a group of folks from that church. I am planning on an omelet and hoping to avoid the toast.

Heres to a great Thursday for all of us!


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Hey everyone,

It sound like many of us has had "one of those HUMP DAYS". I've done pretty good today, actually got a walk in before it starts to rain again. One of the geographers at the University said that Oklahoma is often referred to in the field as being "droughts or floods" well this appears to be one of the flood years. We've needed it even though there is a lot of damage in some areas. Hopefully this means we wont hit 113 degrees for 60 days running this summer. Actually it is a totally unusual year with a high in the 60's in lat May. We are usually up in the 80's and 90's by now. Not sure how the vegetable garden is going to do without the heat. Definitely everything is going to run late at least if not rot in the ground for all the rain.

Laura -- I think a schedule is a great idea! Not only will it help you get motivated to take positive steps to find a job (and yes I know, I have had to do the any job thing before) and that will greatly improve how you see yourself. Also, getting more structured will definitely help your weight loss efforts. This one of the things I have gotten from this group too. I used to say I couldn't find the time to exercise but I am starting to make my health a priority and set limits on other time "sucks" that don't get me there, like working 12 hour days or doing everything for my kids. Yes its hard to let your kids float through life or "find themselves" but my experience with my youngest D is that you have too. It is in her personality, she wakes up everyday in a new world. Like that as a baby. When I first tried to potty train her, I asked her if she didn't want to wear big girl panties and she said "No, I like being baby". Well she has been slow to move forward in everything. Didn't want to drive, didn't know what she wanted to do with her life etc. She has now at 24 found a direction and is pursuing it. But it took working a bunch of different minimum wage jobs and deciding, I don't want to do this all my life". Its hard as a parent to watch your child do this, but once that hit that magic age and some before it, they are going to do it there way. So we have to let them fall, but with the pain of the fall is also a lesson if we let them have it.

Marlene -- I know where you are at! It is really hard to keep your head up an move forward under that kind of pressure. It sounds like you have a bunch that are poor managers. But that has been my experience, many of the ones that promote really are not good managers. I hate to say it but the good old boy system is alive and well. Money and connections talk and we all end up being managed by Paris Hiltons. Just imagine your new boss carrying around a chihuahua in a little pink dog carrier. That'll put a smile on your face. You have survived many of them, you can do this one too. You are talented and in the end he needs you to straighten out the mess.

Linda -- If you can stick with it, I think you are taking the right approach with your son. Our children are going to have to take care of things when we're gone. If we don't let them struggle through it now -- good and bad, they aren't going to have developed the skills for later. I know from experience with two of my brothers that not pushing them out of the nest to fly on their own, can have terrible consequences. You sound like you are getting your eating plan and exercise plan in hand -- Great! Are the diabetes classes helping? I am thinking about seeing an endocrinologist and finding out exactly what form of T2D I have.

David -- Unfortunately it doesn't sound like your step daughter is ready to get sober and to get there she will have to hit bottom which isn't pretty. So it may be best that she is in the household when that happens. Dealing with some with substance abuse problems is very difficult and never ending. My prayers go out to you for your job, your health and your family.

Deb - whats up with your neck? I think I missed something. Feel better!

Sue -- The last several days are really the hardest. I always felt like everyone was looking at me with I don't know pity, in some cases relief it wasn't them, in some cases worrying when it would be them. I know you go away feeling that they didn't want you and in part its true. Is not that they don't want you the person with amazing killer skillz and institutional knowledge. It is that they don't want to pay your salary. As I think Laura alluded to, they are going to get more out of someone they can pay less, basically. So it is not about you, it is about profit! American companies are terribly short sighted about most everything because they look at the immediate bottom dollar and not the long-term gains. Also most businesses in the US are making records profits but they are not putting it into their workers. I only say this to let you know it is not ABOUT YOU PERSONALLY. Its about money in the end of it all. So like with me, each cycle of funding I survive, I get closer to the point that I will not be picked up again. I would like to say that you feel this way because it is not voluntary retirement, but I think a lot of people who "voluntarily" retire because they are burnt out, feel that are no longer up to the task, can't compete with younger workers etc. So now is the time to start working on the way you see yourself. I know when I was laid off, there was huge pressure to get everything set up in a way that someone could step in with my ended project and get any other "bennies" they could from it after it ended. I went ahead and did what I could, because in the long run its not the fault of the worker who is going to be tasked to step in or keep everything moving after you left. But don't beat yourself up doing it. Take care of yourself and finish out in a way that you can be proud of the work you did. You never know whats down the road, feel good about all you have done and accomplished.

Paula -- how are things with you?


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Hello, spark friends! I woke up late today (10:30..yikes!) which really threw me off. I am still struggling with insomnia (didn't fall asleep until after midnight). Today my goal is to actually create an hourly schedule for myself so that I can actually accomplish the items on my action list. I have mastered the art of staying busy doing laundry, dishes, etc., and procrastinating on the major things I have to do...like finding a job! I still haven't heard back from my interview but contacted the superintendent's secretary, who said a decision should be forthcoming by Friday. Today I went to the YMCA and used the stationary bike and leg press machine to get my knee stronger. I'm still trying to find a decent swimsuit so I can start water aerobics.

LINDA - You are so right about needing to let adult children make their own mistakes, but it is SO hard to do! I have a 22-year old son who has a gifted IQ but who actually flunked out of college two years ago because he stayed up all night gaming and then didn't go to class during the day. He has been working for minimum wage at Dairy Queen since then, and it is all I can do not to beg him to come home and go to the community college around here. My brothers have all been telling me to let him make his own mistakes, but I am so used to fixing his problems for him that it is hard for me to keep my mouth shut. Anyway, his friends from college all graduated last week, and it hit him hard. He called me and told me he was ready to go back to school and apply himself to his studies. I remember a pastor telling me once that God gave children a mother and a father because the mother is designed to nurture her children and give them a safe place and a father's job is to push them into the world and encourage them to become independent. That always made sense to me, especially as a single mom who has struggled to find the balance in doing both roles.
As for your son giving you TMI, I would suggest setting a "boundary" with him. I had a therapist recommend that I do that with my mother once. She was always complaining about my father to me and it just got really uncomfortable because I love both of them. I just told her that I loved her but I couldn't listen to her talk badly about him, and then I stuck to that rule. It worked out much better.

Marlene - You are so perceptive in observing that so many of us are going through non-weight issues and how we use food for comfort during those times. That is so true! I am so sorry you are having a hard time with your new boss. Is this boss replacing the other one, is he/she your other boss's supervisor, or do you report to both of them now? It sounds as if you are really caught in the middle. Hopefully the new boss is just coming in overly enthusiastically and that it will settle down quickly. Do you really think he expects you to fix everything at once? Maybe you could ask him to what his priorities are so that you are not pulled in so many directions at once. At any rate, you are in a tough position, especially if you are being held accountable for your other boss's decisions. Hang in there, my friend!

Deb - I love what you said about not controlling what goes on around us but controlling what we do for ourselves. That is SO TRUE! I forget it all too often and get pulled into the drama all around me. Then I end up taking the stress out on myself by overeating. Wow, you sure have a lot of vacation plans! I can't wait to see your photos. Sorry to hear about your neck problems. emoticon

Paula - I am so glad your skin is doing better! Hopefully this round of antibiotics did the trick and you won't need any more.

David - How old is your stepdaughter? It may be best if she does move out so that your grand daughter doesn't have to grow up with an unstable mother around. Sad to say that, but maybe being away from her daughter will help her get clean.

Sue - If I were you, I wouldn't put too much pressure on myself to make it easier for the folks coming in. I know you are such a hard worker and a kind person, but at this point, I would do my job the best I could when I was at my job, and then when I left work at the end of the day I would forget about it. You don't need to put that kind of stress on yourself. Try not to think that they don't want you there. I'm sure that's not true. It's probably simply a matter of economy. As someone who has been there a long time, you are probably just more expensive than people just starting out, and they are trying to save money. The phone call to all those people who supported you for ten years must have shown you how much people care about you! I hope you are able to keep in touch with them. emoticon

Good night, everyone! See you tomorrow.

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Hello:
Sue, anyone of us who is working could go through the same thing. No job is safe. I feel for you in that I would also feel angry and rejected--as if all my work counted for nothing and was worthless. I have felt that way many times at my present job. I am sure everyone felt for you whether they kept their job or were new. Certainly many folks are in contracting because they lost a job before and had do something. You'll love retirement! Really!

Changin--Wow. Your BP must be through the roof with all this stress. Well your company has spoken so now you have no choice but to do everything they said. Don't think they won't be checking your compliance too as it seems like either they will document so they can fire you; or refuse to pay anything concerning your injury. They could blame it on your weight. Did the inspectors tell you what were the accusations? How will you manage while you and wife are at work--Do you have someone who can watch your daughter? Don't give up there has to be a light at the end of the tunnel.

Debbiehs--I have the same concerns with sugar; and share the struggles you have to stay on plan. I am happy that you have exciting travel plans to look forward to. is the dog that bit you out of quarantine?

Tammyand--Congrats on losing 4 big pounds! You must be thrilled! With knowledge about a problem comes control. We are faced with food choices everyday; just keep making of the right ones and you'll lose consistently. How much are you trying to lose?

Justme--Costco is a tempting place...Just like Trader Joes. I don't have a Costco membership as the bulk items are too much for one. Are these your son's kids or your daughters that you have to take to school. My DIL, whom I don't have a close relationship, surprised me with flower delivery yesterday. I called her last night to thank her. My son also sent me flowers too

I am less stressed today. I stayed home and fired off a bunch of follow-up emails which should appease...I have so many issues to track I can't remember one day from the next. Things will come to a head. Stayed on plan but need to move been sitting at my computer all day.






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Hello Everyone!

I'm having a tough day today .. tired from yesterday (watched a sick 2yr old grand-daughter, while "trying" to work from home ... now that we're down to days, all kinds of expectations are given to use to complete so it will be easier on the new folks coming in. Yikes! I had to go into work today for my final meeting with the team I was working with .. not my dept team .. but the folks I've supported, and they supported me over the last 10 yrs in this role. There's a couple folks from Europe who join on the phone, and I just wanted to tell them that I appreciated their support and work, and enjoyed working with them .. but I broke down, and kind of "blubbered" it out. The 2 team members in the room teared up with me. Most of us are losing our jobs, as they are contractors that are being displaced, and I'm the only full time employee being let go. Their contract company is placing them someplace else so I'm glad they will have jobs. I came home early, and am dialed in from home now cuz I worked myself into a mess again. BUT .. I do have something good to report. The whole ride home (45 mins), I thought about what I was going to eat .. and now that I'm home, I made some veggie broth, had a 1/2 cucumber, and am chatting with you. {whisper} This group really does help me stay focused .. maybe not perfect, but WAY, WAY better than I have in the past.

Being "retired" is going to be good for me .. I know that in my heart. The hardest part is feeling that they just don't want me .. hurts my feelings. Now that I'm recognizing that, I feel like I'm dealing better.

I hope by sharing my craziness .. I help someone else too.

God's Peace to you all
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Happy Hump Day Sparks,

PandB is still around. She is not real active since her husband is still at home, but I do see her on my feed occasionally. Sometimes life just interferes with plans.

David - I am so sorry about your medical problems. Can you appeal the process? Can you get the doctor to submit relevant information showing that this is an important step toward recovery? It sounds as if it would be better if your step daughter moved out. Sometimes you just have to let go. I am trying to do that with my son's family. They are adults and their problems are of their own making. If I keep stepping in they will never learn from their mistakes.

I am going to go to Costco today which is probably a bad idea just before the holiday, but they are supposed to have swim shoes. I need new swim shoes. I rode my bike this morning and ate a good breakfast. I will get a chicken at Costco and salad makings so no cooking tonight. Tomorrow will be meatless and Friday will be fish.
Spark on
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I am so frustrated with my company. I mentioned about getting injections for my knee, well, I guess that not going to happen either. I received a certified letter stating that the injections were not something that were needed and was told I had to wait a min of another 6 weeks. I have to attend a weight loss class, wear a knee brace( bought my own the day after the injury at work). Shoe incerts, non steroid meds, the list goes on. In the mean time its tylonal....
A question was asked about custody of my granddaughter. We have a motorized paper from my step daughter and signed by s judge. She wasn't placed with us by an agency so we don't qualify for any assistance.
Had meeting with cps at our apt last night( about 3hrs). Took pics of our granddaughter, her bed and bedroom, or kitchen cabinets along with contents of freezer and fridge to prove we had food to feed her. Then had to do a "mouth swab" drug test to prove I wasn't unfit........my step daughter was told that she could not be at home alone with the baby, has to have responsibil supervison. She declined drug test and was told cps would be back on Thursday to test her. She admitted to drug use. Cps was very lienent with her. She was told if there are additional call ins or she tested positive in random testing that she would be given court order to move out and no contact with her daughter. Don't think she took it all serious..... As sad as it sounds, we would be better off.

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I stayed on track today. I need to refocus on sleep. Tomorrow I think I am going to Costco to get some fish and maybe some rotisserie chicken and swim shoes. Taking the grannies to school tomorrow and picking them up. There is no bus service because it is considered a "school of choice" so parents are responsible for transportation. the school district provides buses for the other school in the district

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Laura Way to go on coming up with your action steps. That is a great way to stay accountable. Yep, it is the Plaquenil that requires me to stay out of the sun. Fingers crossed for you and the kindergarten job.

Debbie Like you, my life is going rather smoothly these days, especially since my skin problems are more manageable. And like you, I try to not spend too much time on the computer. For me it means too much sitting, as I get too involved and forget to move around at times. Good for you for all of your good work with the animals. I have a bag of old sheets and blankets to deliver to one of our local shelters for the animals.

Linda I am surprised that transportation is not provided by the local school district for your grandchildren attending a magnet school. In our state, if the local district provides transportation to and from school for its students, it must also transport children to other non-district or private schools etc. as long as the schools are within a certain radius (I think it is 15 miles one way). Good that you get to spend some time with your grandkids while you drive them. I am sure they love seeing you too.

Phoenix Glad you are feeling better. You are right that I was faced with food all day Sunday. I have a pretty full social life as I am blessed with many friends and I am active in several charitable organizations in addition to my church. I was at a weight loss stand still for over a year more or less, losing and gaining the same 10 pounds over and over. I always blamed it on the social functions, etc. but recently the light bulb went on and I faced the fact that socializing (with food around a lot) is just a fact of my life, and if I want to lose weight I have to deal with it much more effectively than I have done in the past year. So yes, I do consider Sunday a victory for me.

Marlene- So sorry to hear about your work stresses. I am certain you are extremely good at what you do, which your new boss probably sees as a threat. And she doesnt sound like the type you can form much of a relationship with. While I loved the work I did, I never defined myself by my profession. I worked hard and sometimes worked longer hours than I would have liked, but I never attached my identity to what I did. I saw my job as a means to an end, gave my all while I was there, but did everything I could to leave it behind when I walked out the door. I was well known in the community where I worked and in neighboring communities as well, partly because I was in the same position for 30 years and because I was very good at what I did. It used to drive my bosses crazy because they perceived that I had a lot more power than I ever thought I had. It took a co-worker to point it out to meI never saw it that way myself.


David Are you able to appeal the rejection of payment for your injections? It might be worth looking into if your doctor isnt able to provide an alternative. Hope everything went smoothly when you met with child services. Do you have legal custody of your granddaughter? If she is placed with you through an agency such as child services, you might get a subsidy to help pay for her care.

My skin is still doing well. Today is my first day off of the antibiotic. I am a little concerned because last time I went off the antibiotic all of my skin problems came back and were much worse. So I will be keeping a close eye on the situation now. I stayed on track today. I voted (primary day in PA), did some CVS shopping and walking, and then went out to dinner with some friends. I had grilled salmon, steamed broccoli, and healthy choices at the salad bar. I drank a couple diet Cokes because the water there, even with lemon tasted funny. I had coffee (decaf) but no dessert (no one had dessert today). I plan to make turkey veggie chili tomorrow. I seem to have settled into a nice routine for my meals at home and am generally satisfied with healthy food choices. Hope this lasts.


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Hi all - I know I haven't been a consistent poster lately. I do read everything you all post and feel for everyone having problems. I guess life is just full of problems. We all have them and we all have to deal with them in ways that work for us. Eating is one way we've all learned to comfort ourselves and it's not been good for any of us. Finding ways to eat in a healthy way and find other ways to comfort ourselves is clearly the trick, isn't it? I do feel fortunate that I don't have too many problems in my life at the moment, other than frustration with how long this refinance is taking.

I'm thinking of you all as you face your issues and demons. We can do this. We may not be able to control what goes on around us, but we can control what we do for ourselves - easier said than done, in many cases, I know, but never-the-less true.

As for me, I've been busy with my animal shelter work, getting my garden in, assembling a new grill and preparing for our trip to the San Juan Islands in a week and half. I also have not let up on any of my exercise, even when I haven't always been as focused about my eating. It helps, but if I really want the rest of the weight off, I really need to re-focus on my eating. Sugar is my nemesis. It's my food dragon. I'm working on it.

I also hate getting on the computer for very long. I have disc issues in my neck and working on the computer for any length of time ends up giving me nerve pain in my right shoulder blade and arm. I'm strong and I'm fit, but I have to work within the confines of my own physical limitations and abilities. I do see what you all post on my Kindle Fire, but responding on that device is tedious, so I don't very often.

Meanwhile, wedding plans continue, trips are being planned (Mexico in February, Maryland in March, Maryland again in October 2016 (for the wedding)). Also we're camping out for three days in July to get away from the war zone that are fireworks in our area. And a hiking trip up Mt. St. Helen's again in August. I can't wait to go kayaking, hopefully with Orcas, in a couple of weeks.

Keep working on it everyone. We can do whatever we set our minds to.


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Hello:
As I read the posts it struck me that everyone is struggling with non weight issues-be it health, home, family. and work. No wonder food has been a comfort to turn to.

I am stressed out about unrealistic expectations by a new boss and expecting me alone to fix the seemingly hundreds of issues from our entire clinical department. I don't know what she is doing; my other boss has mentally checked out and took vacation all week; and my colleague in the UK is out sick all week. Had a late meeting where I got berated by the new boss for something my current boss was responsible for initiating--just what I dreaded being held responsible for his decisions.

Well I went and worked out afterward but I am so wound up I will surely take a pill tonight. I ate on plan today, albeit late at 8 PM; and I still have work to do to prepare for the mornings phone meetings.

Someone told me once if you have a problem you can write it down on a piece of paper. Crumble that paper in a ball and throw it in an arc into the trash and cry "I release you I am not going to worry about this anymore". Then whenever it crosses you mind say "Release it". Positive thinking.

I know folks want people to come back to the thread that have left. Me too. But they have released this group for whatever reason. I try to respond to new posters but when they say I need help to stay on plan and provide no other information to get to know them and you try to provide encouragement and they leave....it makes me feel like I am wasting my time. I'm going to wait for now on to respond with advice until I see that they are going to post more than just once or twice. I'll welcome everybody but they have to make an effort too.


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Happy Tuesday Morning Sparks,

Discover - my DIL feels as if she has been wronged and so owes nothing to the relationship. At one time I said she was the best thing that ever happened to my son. But I think she has really had a breakdown and needs professional help. I know she is showing signs of depression (sleeping during the day, either isolating herself or wildly partying). I know I need to back off and get distance. This is their life and I cannot live it for them. They must make their own mistakes and find their own solutions or they will not be able to grow. But knowing that and doing that are two different things.

Phoenix - I know what you mean about your body not burning anything. I know my problem is my sedentary life style. I get exercise at least 3 days a week, but the amount of everyday movement I do is not burning enough calories. I am always trying to improve.

David - why does your corporate office have any say in your medical treatment? Isn't that between your doctor and your insurance? I live in a different state so laws are different everywhere. Here even if it is workmen's comp it is the workmen's comp insurance that determines what will be covered not the company. I am just curious. I hope you can get this all figured out and get back on your feet.
I am so sorry about your neighbor - what an evil person.
Send the copies of the paperwork to the mortgage company and dispute the information on your credit report. You should be able to get that cleared up.
Your life and my son's seem to be in this spiral of problems that just keep hitting you over and over again. It is time for it to become a gentle breeze.

Tammy - on one hand I have sympathy for my DIL not working. She is very fragile at the moment. One the other hand the $30,000 they owe in student loans so she could have a professional job means that I should stay out of their business. they are adults and I need to treat them as adults. Her youngest child is going into third grade next year. I think this is a case of TMI - I want my son to be able to talk to me, but I think I am learning to much. My son was driving 3 hours a day and working 12 hours a day so they stopped counseling. Partly because both of them are comfortable taking the martyr role.

I am doing pretty well. I have been on track. Yesterday I had no exercise since I was driving my cousin everywhere. But other than that it was a good day. She was very appreciative and in a much better mood than previously.
Today I went to water aerobics and am going to my diabetics class this afternoon. I am taking my grandchildren to school for the next 3 weeks, but it is only about 5 miles away (no bus service - magnet school). this way I get to see them also, so in some ways it is a win - win.
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Good morning, everyone! It is absolutely freezing (40 degrees last night!) here in Chicagoland, so I'm not sure if I will be getting out in the garden today. Looks like a YMCA day. I created some specific action steps for myself to help me get to my goals. They are: 1) Exercise 15 min/day 2) Clean DS's room for 1/2 hr/day 3) Write a daily schedule for myself today 4) Fill out 2 job applications/day.

Last night I made a really good rice pilaf and some baked zucchini for dinner, which my DD actually ate, so I am happy about that! Although she hasn't officially been diagnosed with an eating disorder, I think of it as one because she is so extremely limited as to what she eats. This started when she was a toddler and had severe acid reflux. She refused to eat foods that had a funny texture or had any kind of strong flavor (citrus, eggs, mashed potatoes, vegetables, etc.) Then when she was three and found out meat came from animals, she refused to eat meat. She pretty much lived on pasta, cheese sandwiches, and peanut butter. My family would say to force her to eat other food, and that if she got hungry enough she would, but when she tried to eat it, she would projectile vomit. The pediatrician told me it was psychological and to give her Pediasure for vitamins and to not force her to eat anything. Anyway, she is now 17 years old and has been gradually getting better, but it's been a long road. Her father caters to her and feeds her pasta or pizza every time she is with him because that is what she likes. I refuse to do that, and over the years have gotten her to eat cod and shrimp (she still won't eat other meat), salad and a few vegetables. I can also get yogurt in her now, so I'm not as worried about protein as I used to be. I am still trying to get her to eat legumes and food that has more than one ingredient in it. For example, if I make soup, she has a hard time with pieces of vegetables in it and prefers everything blended.

MARLENE - Thank you so much for the suggestions about weight loss. I really appreciate that. I am definitely trying to work on my eating too! I wish I could come to your house to eat...everything sounds delicious!

PHOENIX - So sorry to hear about the roof damage. I have had screens and a car damaged from hail, but it wasn't as extensive as what you have. I hope the insurance comes through for you. Also, you may want to check if your area was categorized as a disaster zone. I got emergency money from the government after a flood one year. Glad you are feeling better today!

LINDA - It sounds like your DIL is a spoiled brat. She wants everything but isn't willing to work for it. Do they have small children? I stayed home with my kids when they were little, but doing that meant being willing to sacrifice a bit. If she doesn't want to work, she doesn't need her own car. I feel bad for your son, but you need to take care of YOU at this point. You are such a compassionate and giving person, but it is so easy to wear yourself out emotionally. He is a grown man and he chose her. It is not your responsibility to take care of his family. I hope the treatments worked and your cousin will be feeling better soon.

PAULA - I forgot about the medication making you sun sensitive. My mom takes Plaquenel for her lupus and she can't be out in the sun either. I am sending you a massive high five for your awesome job abstaining from the goodies this weekend! It is especially neat that you became aware that you were not eating the food. That had to have felt so empowering to you! Congratulations on your weight loss too! You are really on a roll!

DAVID - You poor guy! How much can go wrong to one person at once! Can you show the divorce decree to the bank / credit report companies to get that taken care of? Can you appeal the decision regarding the injections? There must be some kind of appeal process. Perhaps they just need more information from the doctor. I sure hope things work out for you. We are here for support if you need it.

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Good Tuesday Morning Everyone.

I am feeling better today so need to get back in the groove. I didn't get to exercise yesterday, just could make myself do it as bad as I felt. So I guess I needed the break. I mad sure to eat under my calories yesterday since I didn't work out so I didn't take in more than I burned (hopefully). Sometimes I think my body doesn't burn much of anything.

ChangeN -- Sorry to hear about the your job not covering the meds. Maybe the doctor is working on something and that is why you didn't get a call back yet. Some pharmaceutical companies have a program where they will provide medications individuals in need when they can't pay. The doctors usually have to work this out, so maybe this is what he/she is working on. As far as the ex thing goes, I think the next step I would take is getting my name office the title.

Linda - Praying for your cousin and son. I hope your cousins results come out good. I am sorry your son is having these kinds of problems. Just remember even the listener needs a break from the "chaos" sometimes to recharge their batteries. Your right, you can't own his problems but just being the shoulder takes energy especially when its your child and you don't want them to hurt and have problems. My prayers are with you as well.

TammyA - Great job on the weight loss, even with a friend in town. You are really working it. What a great Sunday but OMG -- you were staring at food all day long. That is one of the things that can really get me, it being there too long. I have to get waiters to pick up plates as soon as I am done or I will pick at it. I will also move plates away from me so its not there just to pick at. You Rock!

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Getting ready to turn in. I should have been asleep an hour ago. It's been another rough day.
I made it over to post office and picked up registered letter. Corporate office sent me news that they would not approve the injection meds. Called DR office and told them about letter. They didn't know what to do. I was told by receptionist that she would have to talk to the nurse and tell her info on the meds. That was at 10am. Never got call back.
Day got even more involved later. We have been having alot of trouble with one of our neighbors. To retaliate she called child protective services saying our granddaughter was being neglected by us. When we got home today there was business card from them
my wife called and was told the baby, my wife and I needed to be at the apartment tomorrow for their visit.
I also was turned down by back for both home and or trailer home. Found out reason was my exwife still had me listed on original bank morgage loan from house we had together over 10yrs ago. That's even after I have copy from court that all property went to her, mind you it was my parents home (both past away along time ago), and I went as far as filing at both the court house as well as the tax assessor office. I feel like every time I try to make an effort to make mine and my familys life a bit better I continue to get knocked down by everyone around me.....got to go to sleep. Goodnight.

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Linda - Since your DIL doesn't have a job, won't they be ok with just one vehicle for the time being? It sounds like your son does have a lot to deal with and is probably trying to hold the marriage together as well. Are they still in counseling?

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He does not want me to get him a truck. He knows that I can't. He wants a shoulder to cry on. His wife has said that she is not going to work. He has told me a couple of times that he feels like he is shouldering the weight of everything. I am worried about his mental health. I do not know how much more stress he can take.

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Sue Thinking of you as you get closer to the joy of retirement! I too gain a lot from going to church. God does have a plan for all of us!

Laura I dont think I knew your daughter had an eating disorder. Is it under control? I know she has typically been very supportive of your weight loss program. Is she still supportive? I actually have to be very careful about exposing my skin to the sun. Some of the meds I take cause me to be sun sensitive. But I do like to wear short sleeve tops when appropriate for the weather. I just have to be careful to cover up if in the sun for any extended time. And of course I am allergic to most (if not all) sunscreens. My arms and the rest of my skin as well continue to improve, but I am far from back to normal yet. I have heard from PandB. She says she will be back but just not yet as she is quite busy.

Linda Now that your cousins chemo treatments are over for six weeks, I hope you are able to take some time for you and relax and pamper yourself a bit. You deserve it. I continue to keep her in my prayers. God bless both of you. So sorry about your sons truck. Do you think he expects you to buy him a new vehicle? That is pretty presumptuous in my book. Does his wife have a job now?

Phoenix Hope you are feeling better. Sometimes just a bit of rest can make a big difference. Good luck with the insurance adjusters.

Marlene- Sounds like the engagement party was a lot of fun. I bet you noticed a great difference playing the baseball game at this weight rather than at your 2 years ago weight. I did get good news at the scale.I lost the 2.5 pounds from when Karen was here plus another 1.5 pounds.

I had an absolutely wonderful time with my friends from NM yesterday. After church and coffee hour (where I ate only a little fruit) we went out to brunch at a local restaurant. the brunch lasted almost 3 hours, just talking, laughing, sharing, etc. I had an omelet, one piece of toast, and lots of coffee. After that I went home to pick up the fruit tray I made for my next function (the charity group meeting). I was about an hour late for that meeting but it seemed like I didnt miss much. This is a small group of 10 to 12 people, and they said that since they knew I was coming, they just decided to wait on the formal part of the meeting till I got there (how sweet of them). The table was laden with foodpepperoni pizza, mini sandwiches, veggie tray, cheese tray, meat tray, and much more. My fruit tray was a big hit. As I expected, no one else brought fresh fruit. And everyone dug right in to it when I set it out. The custom is the host provides the main food (yesterday it was pizza) and a few other things, and then everyone else just brings whatever (there is seldom any coordination of who brings what). We had a productive meeting and I did not overeat at all. At one point I found myself thinking hey look at all this tempting food and I am not eating it. Later I had a few pieces of cheese, some veggies, and some fruit. After the meeting I went back to my church for our monthly Sunday evening prayer service. I got home after 9 pm and was pretty tired. It was really a wonderful day all around. Today I had another good day for both getting in my exercise and eating on plan. I shopped again at Kohls while my 30% off coupon was still valid and I had the $30 Kohls cash to spend too. I got my DS another pair of sneakers and a few other things for myself (3 more tops and another pair of PJs). I dont plan on shopping again anytime soon.but you never know ( I have a $10 coupon that is good for the coming weekend)! Tomorrow I am having dinner with other friends. I am not concerned because at this restaurant I usually get baked salmon and steamed veggies. Mostly likely I will complain about the sodium, but I know it will eventually pass.

Heres to a terrific Tuesday buddies!


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I have been gone all day with my cousin. Day started at 4 AM. This was her last day of chem for 6 weeks, Friday is her last day of radiation for 6 weeks. In 6 weeks they will do another pet scan and another cat-scan and then determine what her treatment will be. I just got home.
The engine in my son's truck blew up. I told him I could not help him. He and his wife are just going to have to figure out how to get along with one car for a while. When they were going through their problems, his wife spent all their savings ($10,000) and did not pay any bills except the house payment because if they got a divorce she expect to get the house and since she had no job he would get the bills.
I am tired. I am tired of other people's problems. I just need to deal with my own for a while.

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Hello Everyone!

Well it was a Monday! I really haven't been feeling well today. Came home from work and went to bed. Just wanted to check in and say I have been compliant today, the roofers came and yes we have roof damage. Now onto the insurance adjusters, we'll see what they say. We just had to replace the roof in 2011. But with tennis ball size hail, there is just so much the roof can take. The roofer, who we have used before, said that in some place it went all the way through the shingle. Not good. We already knew some siding was going to have to be replaced and my hubby's car is going to need work. We would consider a metal roof, but they are so expensive!

Oh well, we just keep trudging ahead. I hope everyone has had a good and happy day. I will check in tomorrow, think I am going back to bed.

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Hello:
Back from work, managed to leave at a decent hour and do my workout and so was home by 6:15. Weight 155 today as my body reacts to the weekends excesses.

Discover-Well its you and me then. So tonight's recipeless meal is exactly as you described. a little of this and a little of that in a wok--ground turkey, green onion, mushrooms, garlic, thin slice carrot curls, 1 cob of cut corn niblets. Seasonings--garlic pepper, stir fry sauce, broth. cayenne Plus I made vietnamese spring rolls yesterday and had one. I just love making them they are so easy to fill with veggies, a little rice vermicelli and chicken; pork or shrimp strips. I used leftever rotisserie chicken meat for that. I measure everything and figure they are about 75 cals each.

I would advise to get the eating under control and then concentrate on exercise. Losing weight is all about the diet. Its the too much food the causing the problem and not lack of exercise. You can help it along by adding in a light walk just to start. You can lose weight without exercise, but its always recommended as exercise wakes up your metabolism. While you are not working there are plenty of opportunities to eat at home even from boredom and habit. I do much better when I take myself off to work instead of working from home.

I so hope you get this job. You are very qualified but at an age when we boomers don't look as energetic and up to the latest as people in their 20s to 40s. The trick is to convince them of your value--you have years of experience to back up your claims.

I thought American Idol was boring this year; same with Dancing with the Stars (who are half of those stars?); and the Voice has gone on so long since January I can't remember who is competing. I hope your chosen one wins.

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Wow, I logged on expecting to see a ton of updates, but you are all silent! I assume everyone is busy, busy, busy today! The after-graduation party was postponed, since the graduation ended up being at night instead of the afternoon due to weather, so that didn't end up being a problem after all. It's a beautiful sunny day here in the Chicago area...perfect for playing around in my garden! I pulled weeds for an hour (270 calories! Woo Hoo!) and really enjoyed listening to the birds chirping. I am always 100% better when I can get outside for a bit and soak up some sun. Still working on getting my eating under control, but it's better than it was. Today I made an action plan for myself and am going to try to focus on one thing at a time. This week it's getting myself MOVING! Usually when that's under control, my eating follows. I haven't heard anything about the job interview, so I'm thinking I didn't get the job. Still, I keep hoping...

I'll check in tomorrow. Tonight I will be busy watching The Voice finale (Go, Sawyer!) I hope everyone is on track and had a good day today.

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Has anyone heard from PANDB lately?


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Hi, everyone! I didn't have a chance to check in yesterday because it was a non-stop running around day. Those are the worst for me...I'm exhausted by the end of the day and have nothing to show for it except driving! Today is my nephew's HS graduation, but it was postponed from 2:00 to 7:00 PM because of predicted thunderstorms (which never happened). Afterwards my brother is having a party for my nephew, so I will have to focus on eating healthfully. My entire family except my mom and youngest brother have serious issues with compulsive eating, so I'm sure there will be a ton of food. They are all big meat eaters, which I am not, but the sweets usually get me. I am going to allow myself one half slice of cake and no other sweets.

Marlene - Thanks for the cooking suggestion about not using a recipe. Unfortunately, I am a notoriously bad cook! For example, when you say to add seasonings, my mind automatically screams, "What seasonings?" You sound very much like my grandmother, who never uses a recipe. She throws a little of this and a little of that together and it always tastes delicious! I have tried to actually watch her and copy down the ingredients she uses, but alas, I do not have the knack and it never tastes the same. So glad to hear the surprise party went well. It would have been pretty embarrassing if she had said "no"! emoticon Good luck sorting out your belts. I only have one belt...a black man's belt that is the only one I have found to fit me. It's kind of depressing. Before I gained weight I had an hour-glass figure and always used to wear belts and ties at my waist. Now it just emphasizes the fat belly. emoticon

Sue - I am SO SORRY to hear about all the stress at your company! I can't even imagine what you are going through. I've got to really question the leadership of a company that has an employee for 42 years and is willing to let her go rather than finding her another position in the company! It seems very short-sighted to me. Unfortunately, that seems to be the trend these days. Older workers are getting squeezed out. I am vying for teaching jobs against 21-year olds fresh out of college with no experience. I have 15 years of volunteer and substitute teaching experience, not to mention I raised kids of my own. Graduated from a top college and earned a perfect GPA in my Masters program. Never fails, though. The young teacher always gets hired! I feel bad for your hubby that he is having a hard time at work, too. I hope things get better for him. Are you enjoying your Minecraft? My son loves that game. He and his friends are in different places around the country, but somehow they all are connected and building the same city together.

Paula - How has your time been with your friends? I am so glad you had a chance to see them! It sounds like you are in a really good place. I am happy for you! I wouldn't worry about covering your arms... I really don't think anyone else would notice or care, and the fresh air / sun may be good for your skin. Thanks for the suggestion about picturing taking food out of my daughter's mouth. I have tried that before with mixed success. My mind is a master manipulator, and sometimes I will think, "She doesn't need this junk anyway!" Her dad bought her another big bag of BBQ potato chips. I just wrote her name on the bag with black permanent marker to remind myself not to eat it. I really think the best strategy for me is Linda's recommendation to just not have it in the house. DD is putting on weight, too, which worries me, especially since she has an eating disorder and loads up on carbs too much. We just had her bloodwork checked this week and she was anemic and was really low on D3 again.

Linda - Sorry to hear about your ordeal at the store and with your phone. Days like that are the worst and usually send me into a tailspin! It sounds like you handled it okay, though, and are on track. I am so proud of you! The grilled shrimp and scallops sound yummy! How was the Avengers movie? My son got me hooked on the superhero movies. I still haven't seen this one, but Marvel: Agents of SHIELD is a guilty pleasure.

David - Great job putting the soda back! Make sure you remind yourself of all the positive changes you are making, even if you list it as an accomplishment on your goal board. That way when you are struggling you can remind yourself that yes, you CAN do it! I have never been a soda drinker (my weakness is coffee), but if you like the carbonation, you could try making a spritzer with just a little of your favorite juice and some sparkling water. I personally like using pomegranate juice, which is too expensive for me to drink plain. I hope you didn't get bad news with your registered letter. I know they are usually not good. The worst part is waiting to pick it up to see what it says...causes a lot of unecessary stress! We are here if you need support.

Phoenix - WOO HOO on your 2-lb loss! That is wonderful! You are right about self-worth being tied to our jobs in this country. I used to have a lot of confidence, but now I have pretty much bottomed out with this unemployment situation. I had to laugh at your note about sitting home watching the DIY home remodeling shows. I sit at home and watch The People's Court! LOL. I really like your thinking about working as a means to live a full life rather than being our life. I loved reading your story and realizing that God had a better plan for you. In addition to my self-confidence, my faith has really taken a hit, too. I don't have the luxury of finding work that I am passionate about at this point because my finances are so critical. I just need to find WORK! I am reading about everyone's retirement plans, and I am almost 52 years old, unemployed, and with absolutely NOTHING in the bank for retirement. It scares the heck out of me! With that said, I have always wanted to start a business making oral histories and funeral videos. I just don't have the money to do that. I think your wish to be a zoo docent is really cool! You must love animals. emoticon

Good night! Talk to you all tomorrow!

Laura

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Marlene - I have only had potatoes once this week. My goal next week is none because it does seem to be helping with other cravings. I also used to define myself by my job. I was a teacher and I was obsessed with teaching. I read, traveled, conferenced and purchased everything to improve as a teacher. When I retired I had over 1000 teacher books. but when I retired and got some distance I realized that I was also a person. It is still hard for me on some days. I feel as if I should be doing more that I am out of step with who I am, but all in all it has been far easier to redefine myself than I thought.

I am off to water aerobic again. Hopefully today will be more normal than yesterday.

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Happy Sunday Everyone.
OKPhoenix: Yes, yes thank you for sharing your thoughts on the "unemployement" it is hard because I know I DO measure my self worth by my job .. In the 42yrs I've been with this company, this will be the 3rd time I was "let go." The first 2 times was thru the union, based on seniority .. This time, there is no union .. It is a personal selection. I know that this company is planning to outsource most of their IT division, so more folks will lose their jobs, so it's not just me .. But right now .. I feel that it IS about me. Hubby has lost about 8 jobs since the recession hit, and I supported our family thru all this, and I feel his pain in all this. He has a job now, but he hates it, and honestly isn't very encouraging. He says to me "it sucks" .. But I feel that he is more focused on his hurts. I think financially we'll be ok, and we had this confirmed by a financial analyst, but hubby keeps hinting that he's worried about it financially. I fear that HE is afraid that he's going to lose his job too, and then I don't know if we'll make it. I get frustrated that I can't seem to find another position with this company .. I've always been a good worker, have a good reputation, and have always had great performance reviews .. If I could understand it, maybe it would be easier. I'm a "logic" person, and to me, this doesn't make sense. It helped me to see that someone else understands this craziness of emotions. Thank you!

Tammy: I feel encouraged from your success and positive outlook. Keep it it, and please let us hang it in your glow. I do think I'll like to be retired everyday, I think about it. I do well until someone says something negative, and then I get scared again.

Linda: fun, fun to share time with grandkids. I would like to see the Avengers movie, not sure about Mad Max .. Afraid all that fast driving will make my heart pound too much. I try to teach my grandkids about healthy eating too .. I always thought I did this with my kids, but we'd go thru phases of junk .. And by "forcing" my kids to eat healthy, I think they went way overboard (in the opposite" direction) when out of my sight. All three of my kids struggle with weight. So for grandkids, I try REALLY hard to make it more fun to eat healthier, but still provide some "less healthy" options too. Sorry to hear of your Saturday challenges. Life does does that to us doesn't it?

David: good for you on your decision to put the soda back .. Each time you do this, it's a success!

Marlene: great to hear about your fashion suggestions. We all have our own thoughts on fashion, and must follow our own comfort level. Your's sounds fun! .. And thanks for the tip on the impulse buy trap. Glad to hear your cookout was fun, and you had time with your family.

I feel like I'm in a better place today .. 9:30am .. So far so good. I'm going to really try to eat healthier today .. And stay on my plan .. ONE DAY I am worth it. I'm off to Church soon, and that will help my day.

Day by day .. God finds a way!

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Hello and Good Morning
Weight 155 this AM (temporary!) I actually didn't do too bad eating yesterday. I brought diet soda for me, a pita bun to put my hamburger in, and took just a tablespoon each of the available side dishes. Big turnout. The engaged couple were thrilled; and his family were nice. I got a chance to play a little kids baseball with my son, GD, and DIL and other little kids. The rain held off to the day was very nice, the pavilion they had was right beside the river. My other son and his wife were there so we had an excellent time.

Tammyand--Let me explain--I didn't mean to put down all QVC clothes as old ladyish--its just certain brands like Bob Mackie, Quacker Factory, and Denim and company where not all styles suit me. I have plenty of Susan Graver clothes and Denim and Company. I like Liz Claiborne and recently bought a maxi dress. I don't like Logo styles; I think many look rediculous of Lori Goldstein--like a bag lady. The Carol Hochman sets look very comfortable. Hoping for good weigh in news for you. I wore the Quacker factory TSV Skort (with cut out and sparkle along the scalloped hem) yesterday and they were so cute and comfortable. I wore them in Denim (I have red and white too) and it was the first time I have exposed my legs in about 20 years!

OKPhoenix--I like shopping at HSN for clothes better. See, when a product is presented on any channel; they have only 5 to 10 minutes usually in which to convince you to order; and must use every tactic in which to get you to impulse buy, in that short time period.
Thanks for sharing your sentiments on working and coping with job loss. I too feel defined by work; its what i do and when you are not working you feel useless and unwanted. I had a period in 2006 and 2003 where I was in between jobs, and it was scary. I still carry that fear of retirement. So much so that I paid off my house early last September in case I got laid off from my present company. My area I live in is very expensive and I could not afford it without a very good job. So I did use up a lot of money I had saved; thinking that I could focus now on just increasing my nest egg until whenever the axe falls. I still have 401K and IRAs which I can access at 59 1/2 with goodly amounts; and a very small pension check I can get at 62 or 67. Then there's Social security at 67. I'll be OK as I am building up my non retirement reserves in cash and continue to add to my non retirement investments. The people around my age and younger (I'll be 57 in July) that are retired all have a pension of some sort. Lucky like many folks on this thread who are enjoying their 50s and early 60s sans having to work. My goal is to be prepared to retire at 60. I'd like an income that I can take 15K per year on vacations. Thats enough for 3 vacations for me to keep like interesting and things to look forward to. You are at a difficult weight--that last 20 pounds to onederland (199) is a rough stretch. But once you get to 199 you'll be so motivated to go the distance; as your new figure begins to reveal.

Changin--Hope the letter brings good news! Agree with Justme--try not to buy anymore coke to bring in the house. Try counting calories and living within a range. It really does help to control eating when you are aware of your calorie limit. A big guy like you surely would lose on going down to 1800 calories a day. Many folks say simply cutting out sugary soda cause them to lose weight.

Justme--Glad you got a chance to do your aerobics. How are you doing cutting out potatoes?

Big painful project today--giving up some of my too big belts for charity. I have hundreds as I have collected them for years because I look better in belted styles with my hourglass shape. I've got a belt hole puncher so I will be punching holes to see if the belts can be adjusted--but most belts are now simply too long.


Edited by: SCRIMP1 at: 5/17/2015 (09:11)
Starting weight 283 lbs, July 9, 2013
Original Goal of 160 lbs Reached Nov. 26, 2014!
2015 goal is 150 lbs and to stay Consistent.


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5/16/15 8:59 P

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David Proud of you again for putting back that soda. It sounds like you are establishing some healthy patterns these days. Thats the way to do it! You wont be sorry. Hope the letter at the Post Office was not bad news.

Linda So sorry you had such frustrations today. You do have a way however of taking all of these things in your stride. Your attitude is great.

Phoenix I learned a long time ago to make the most of what I had. So I have always appreciated pretty clothing and have not denied myself just because I am a plus size. While I recognize that being overweight is not healthy and not flattering (no matter what the style), I always take the time to find fashions that suit my (conservative) taste and minimize my size as much as possible. Comfort is also important to me, so you wont find me trying to squeeze into anything that is too small for me. Thats probably why I have so very many clothes in a wide range of sizes (though little by little I am weeding out the items I no longer want.)

Marlene- I agree with you about the tactics used on Q to encourage purchases, but I cant say it surprises me. They are in business to make money by selling to whoever will buy. I think though that HSN is much worse at the hard sell tactics than QVC is, but perhaps it is just a matter of who is hosting and what the item is. I like some of the Denim& Co. clothes as well as some S. Graver. And I really like Carol Hochmans line. I have never been a fashion plate, so to speak, even when I weighed 127 pounds (my lowest ever adult weight when I was in my 20s). I tend to dress conservatively (always did) so, many of the Q items suit my taste. I think some of the Lori Goldstein clothes are more stylish, but generally not my preference. Cant wait to hear how the engagement party went. Sounds like it could be quite exciting!

I did well again today. I exercised and ate on plan. It is so easy when I dont have to deal with the hunger monster and the cravings that accompany him. I think I am doing so well these days because I am really limiting my carbs to fruits and veggies and few, if any, starches. My skin continues to improve, but I still feel like I must wear long sleeves to cover my arms. It was in the 80s here, but I wore long sleeves when I went to our Farm Market grocery store today. Before my afternoon meeting tomorrow, I am getting together at church with my friends who are visiting from New Mexico. (They used to live here..I was their maid of honor). I am not sure if we will just hang out at coffee hour or if we will go out for brunch or if they are planning to come to my home for a little while. I did not buy anything to serve them, so I hope they eat well at coffee hour! I am making a fruit tray to take to the meeting tomorrow afternoon for my charity group. The fruit I bought is beautiful, and I know that at least I will have fruit to munch on. I was going to make a veggie tray, but figured that the woman who is hosting the meeting tomorrow might make one, whereas there is almost never any fruit at these functions. I wont over-indulge in the fruit either as I know too much sugar (even from fruit) might trigger some cravings in me. Tomorrow evening is our monthly Sunday evening prayer service at church, so it will be a pretty busy day for me, but a very good kind of busy.


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