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I didn't sleep well despite being thrilled about having today to myself!!! But once I finally fell asleep, I woke up at 7:45 and need to get busy cleaning and clearing. After a horribly rainy week it's gloriously sunny and the birds are chirping. I opened a couple of windows and will get started on my housework after I eat something. I always have renewed purpose on Sunday!!

MaryAnn, how wonderful that your husband is better and that you met up with Dale! I loved meeting you last year and all my Spark friends from so many places...probably well over a dozen so far! Have a good time with your mother and sisters. What a blessing.

I will get back later...I have an enormous amount of 'stuff' to do today and will meet two of my kids for supper. I want nothing on my agenda left undone by then so I need to get started.

Mary!

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4/19/15 3:36 A

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Yes! SUNNY great that you got to meet dale!

have a good sunday, all!

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Sunny, how nice that you got to meet Dale and Scott. You are lucky that you have a lot of family not too far from you

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Sending really warm sympathetic thoughts to all of you having issues right now. Seems like there is a dark cloud following some of us around.

Dale, her friend Scott and I met up for lunch in Monterey Calif. It was a perfect day and the restaurant sits right over the bay. Dale and I chattered along for several hours and did get out for a walk around the area. She is a lovely person and I really was glad we got to meet in person.

I combined our meet up with a trip to see my mom and my sisters. So I am still traveling. Went to see one sister and a good friend last night. Then off to another sisterS house for the next few days. Tomorrow I am going to spend the day with my 93 year old mother. Then Monday off to see my other sister whose husband is fighting cancer. Then Tuesday I head home

Thank goodness the DH is feeling much better. I hated leaving him but he is feeling just fine



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It is rainy & dreary here this Sunday afternoon I have never been on e-bay myself.
I'll have to check it out!

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4/18/15 10:36 P

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DORIS

I do that a lot on Ebay! Check out the stuff I already own. Also do it when I am in the store. It is kind of fun to know.



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4/18/15 5:20 P

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Bonnie, I love to look at those antique stores to see what they're asking for the things I still have in my cabinets! LOL I rarely buy anything because I really don't need more of what I've already got. But I do love to look.

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4/18/15 5:16 P

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Hope you have a lovely evening!

Bonnie

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I am going to do 10 minutes of exercise every day that my body will allow it.


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4/18/15 5:15 P

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BRENDA

I am with the others. Be as kind to yourself as you are to the others in your life. Love you too.

MICHELE

At 4:00am, I might just be getting to sleep. LOL. Or have only been asleep for 2 or 3 hours. Funny how people are so different.

MARY

Yay for you for planning.

I am a pretty bad pack rat myself. I stopped at an antique store this afternoon. On the way out, I was talking to the owner and his helpers. Told them that I still want to look and buy stuff, but I have no where to put anything else. If I did not need the income from someone living upstairs, I would have 4 bedrooms to furnish. How fun would that be. Alas, don't have enough money anyway.

When Laura and Derek lived with me, they put me on notice that I was not allowed to buy any more furniture. There were so right.

I look around, thinking, well if I could sell some of my stuff, I could get new. Nope, can't find a thing I can part with. LOL

Guess I will just have to look and not buy.

It was a very nice day today It is getting cooler now, and I guess I will have to close the doors and windows soon.

Supposed to have rain, wind and cooler weather for the next few days.

Have a good weekend

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Bonnie

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"LIfe is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain,"

I am going to relearn doing each day, one day at a time.

I am going to do 10 minutes of exercise every day that my body will allow it.


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Mary, so glad you're having time this weekend to "breathe". And I'm proud of you for thinking "cull" the school things instead of stash them. I wish I would have walked out the door with nothing but my purse. It has taken time for the pack rat at my house to turn lose of her stuff!

Brenda, just keep writing. It really does help. Include feelings. too, if that helps. I found things I had written back in 1976 when I had a major health break and spent a year recovering. I think it really helps to "clear the head" of all that extra baggage. You have been through so much, but you are a "victor" rather than being a victim of your circumstances. Hang in there and don't feel rushed to get back into normal routine until you really feel ready.

We're going to our friends' house tonight for sandwiches and 42. Should be fun!

Hope everyone has a great weekend.

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Michele, how can you get up and go for a walk at 4am?? Aren't you just wiped out by noon? On those nights when I don't sleep well I just find it so hard to function!

I color my own hair...Nice and Easy, lol! This was my monthly cut. My hair and nails grow so fast and when my hair is short it really gets out of the cut pattern quickly. In and out today in 45 minutes!

It hasn't started raining again so I will get out and do a couple of errands, then go to Mass tonight. I will meet my kids for dinner tomorrow but I will have the whole day to change out my winter clothes for summer ones and redo the closet!! I will also begin the daunting task of culling out my school stuff!!

Mary
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All in good time...and with the help of my friends.

Today: I pray to shift the way I approach life, to move deliberately and consciously, to become attentive.

SparkPeople editor Stepfanie says:
At some point you realize that life is just that: life. Ups, downs, good, bad, it's all just life. It all balances out, and letting every little bump in the road sideline you is no way to live.


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MARY we must have been posting at the same time! Isn't it great when things go right on scedule? How was your hair appt? Did you get it cut? Colored?


Change is good for your brain, remember. If you don't use those brain cells, they are going to die. I might be getting a new phone by the end of the year as well. Everyone keeps tellingme to get a smart phone. We'll see.

BRENDA I also agree with Mary about writing things down. It is a way of healing. How are you feeling today? GOtta go!

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Brenda, it takes a lot of courage to open up to anyone when you are a quiet and private person. You are venturing into sort of unknown territory---or at least territory that hasn't been looked at in a long time. Take however long you need to reminisce and writing things down might be very cathartic. Good for you! Maybe you and your sister will ease into a good pattern. I hope she will come see you eventually. This has been so hard on you. Hugs and hopes for al of this working out for your good.

Bonnie, a quiet day is one of my most wished-for times! I hope your day is fine.

The IHOP breakfast was great. The kids were sweet and funny. They scarfed down their food, cleaned their plates actually! Then we walked them to a park nearby and we played for about 40 minutes. The parents came right on time and I made it to my hair appointment with time to spare. I just got a call from my daughter. My younger son and his family and my daughter and her family will meet for supper tomorrow and the son will give us our new phones for our new plan. I hate change of any kind but this will be cheaper for our 'family plan' so he's changing us. We'll see how that goes!

Happy Saturday!

Mary
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All in good time...and with the help of my friends.

Today: I pray to shift the way I approach life, to move deliberately and consciously, to become attentive.

SparkPeople editor Stepfanie says:
At some point you realize that life is just that: life. Ups, downs, good, bad, it's all just life. It all balances out, and letting every little bump in the road sideline you is no way to live.


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BRENDA glad you are taking it slow! I love to hear you rambling! It gets me to know you better.

MARY how busy you still are! How was your IHOP lunch? I miss the IHOP! haven't been there in ages.

BONNIE glad you enjoyed your day

I am off for my early morning walk--it is only 4 am here It is so peaceful at that time

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Thanks everyone. I am taking one day at a time and have just been resting most of the days and given up doing things here for a while. The only thing I did yesterday was go down and fill two boxes of food, one for Kathy and one for Elinor because they couldn't come to get their own. It was Elinor and my day this morning to provide breakfast for our Saturday morning Breakfast Club. I just gave Elinor some money to get some muffins or whatever. I am not going. She is on her own. We take turns doing the food. There are usually about 12 who go. It is just a chat session and the women enjoy it.

I have a doctor appointment Monday afternoon for a follow up visit from going to the hospital. For now I am leaving my door unlocked in case I have another incident and have told several residents that it is open. When management is not here no one can unlock doors unless the EMT's are called. There is a lock box with a master key for them to use. They have a key for that.

Sam picked me up my blueberry frozen yogurt yesterday when she took Lura shopping.

My sister has been corresponding with me since I sent her a FB message. Haven't heard or seen her for about 15 years. She never responded to my messages. She just lives in Tacoma, about 80 miles from me. I have asked her several times for her address and she still has not sent it to me. She is 61 and married to my first husband's brother.

I have started writing down things I remember from growing up. So far I have listed 16 different places I lived by the time I was 18 since I was three years old when we moved to WA from TN. Mom always rented and were moving all the time and I never stayed in one school over a year or two. Consequently had no close friends, therefore I was very introverted.

Forgive my rambling, I just sit here thinking and I have to get it out of my head.

The sun is out this morning and the days are getting warmer. Maybe I will feel like driving in a few days. Going to Costco Thursday with Sam. I bought my own Costco card on line the other day and they are sending me a lot of coupons for free stuff.

Have a good day everyone. I love you all so much. You are my rock.

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BRENDA

Prayers and Blessings my friend. Hope you are feeling more yourself very soon.

MARIELLE

Hope your meds will help. Glad you were able to sleep.

MARY

You are so busy with your kids from school. Hope you have a great day.

MICHELE

Hope you enjoyed your time with the kids.

We have having a very beautiful day today, and yesterday was gorgeous as well.

I have already been sitting on my front porch enjoying the quiet and the warm breeze. Lovely.

Have a good day my friends

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Hi, friends! I have an early morning breakfast with my teaching partner and 6 first graders at IHOP today! We've had terrible rain the last few days with massive flooding in Houston last night. We are hoping that that today's rain holds off so we can take the kids to a local park after breakfast. Then I get my hair cut and have the rest of the weekend to myself. Woo hoo! I haven't had a weekend 'off' since before spring break last month and my house shows it!! So much cleaning to do.

Brenda, first of all, I am SO very sorry to read all about how tough things have been for you. I was hoping that all the turmoil caused by your son's wanting to reconnect wouldn't have so many repercussions but knowing how we can tamp down emotions only to have them resurface when we DON"T need it, it's not unlikely to have a panic attack or something similar. Just take it one day at a time and do only what you feel like doing. You are a strong woman and have been the one people lean on for years. Please accept comfort from us and your friends who are close...I'm sure the ones who truly 'know you' care so much! I hope you will be okay, but in the meantime, guard yourself and be your own best advocate!

Marielle, I have had times when I can barely hold a coffee cup. I am left handed and it's worse on that hand/wrist, but it affects the right one also. I probably do have arthritis and maybe carpel tunnel as well. I have never had it checked out. If I can hold out until my July well-woman visit, I will make a list of questions for my doctor and get things evaluated. Once I'm not trying to open thermos' for kids each day I hope the repetitive stress on my hands and wrists will ease. I hope you can get the septic tank mess taken care of.

Michele, enjoy the teaching and the Starbucks! I hope to get to the pool tomorrow for water aerobics. It's been several weeks. I have gone to the gym twice and have done a dvd this week. I am walking a lot at school but my Fitbit won't count those steps as 'active minutes'. Ugh!

Doris, it's great to hear that you are cleared for whatever comes you way. Enjoy the trip to see your granddaughter!

Bonnie, You are always so busy with the nieces. I'm sure they really enjoy all you do with them!

Okay..gotta get ready for my busy morning! I will check in later.

Mary

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All in good time...and with the help of my friends.

Today: I pray to shift the way I approach life, to move deliberately and consciously, to become attentive.

SparkPeople editor Stepfanie says:
At some point you realize that life is just that: life. Ups, downs, good, bad, it's all just life. It all balances out, and letting every little bump in the road sideline you is no way to live.


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4/17/15 9:13 P

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MARIELLE yes, maybe you should have a dr look at that wrist. My cousin also had Carpel tunnel syndrome, & I'Ve heard it's quite painful!

BRENDA glad you are feeling better. One day at a time!

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Marielle,

Sounds like we are both falling apart. Your wrist sounds quite painful. I had tendonitis once when I was working at the retirement home as the dining room hostess. I poured coffee and tea and did the dishes and vacuumed the dining room. I was off work for about three weeks. I could not even open a can and we didn't have an electric can opener. I also could not cut anything with a knife. I had to wait for my husband to get home from work. It was my right hand.

I hope you feel better quickly.

I have been taking my BP every few hours today and it is staying normal but I do get breathless when I walk down the hall.

The sun has been out all day and it is pretty warm. Sam picked me up some Frozen blueberry yogurt when she tool Lura to the store this morning. I was wondering how I was going to get more because I eat a scoop of it everyday. My addiction. emoticon

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I will be going to Tokyo this Sat. afternoon to teach DH'S cousin's kids That is a lot offun!

Just finished vacuuming my house---makes me feel good that it is once again clean!

TIme topractice piano!

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Hi all. Couldn't stand it and went to the doctor today for my wrist. I was able to get in to see the PA. She had Xrays done but won't get the result probably til Monday. Because I can't take NSAIDS (CKD 3) she gave me steroids (Methylpred) for 6 days. I have to immobilize it too. Makes it hard to type. She thought it was a bad attack of osteoarthritis or tendinitis. The wrist area is swollen now and it the pain starts at the bone in the hand just below the little finger--ring finger hurts really bad and it as well as the index and middle finger tingle when the carpet tunnel area is touched. Not so much fun. Believe it or not I fell asleep after taking the first dose of the med.

Take care everyone. Good health and healing to all.

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Thanks for the Goodie and the laugh! Hope things are going well for you.

MARY ANN

Have a lovely trip and a nice visit with Dale.

MICHELE

Glad you are getting the posts now. Sometimes that happens to me as well

Have a great weekend my friends

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Just dropping in to say "hi" I wasn't getting the posts again. So I have lost touch.

Sounds like we are all dealing with our physical issues here.

Have a good friday, all

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I am a rightie and I had carpel tunnel in my left hand. SO please don't rule that out. Have you had a pregnancy test emoticon You sound like you could be having false labor pains emoticon emoticon

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Going off to visit my mom this weekend and check in with my sister who watches over her. I am planning to meet up with Dale who is in the Bay Area. She is about 3 hours away from my family so I am going to stop off on the way.

Back on Tuesday but I may be able to find some time to check in.

Everyone take care. Sounds like we are all dealing with some sort of physical issues. Everyone think positive

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That is great news. Glad you are cleared to go ahead and do what you want.

MARIELLE

Maybe you should at least talk to the Dr about what happened to you yesterday. Just to be sure

I can speak to the issue of carpel tunnel. I have had surgery on both wrists. A couple of ways to have an idea about carpel tunnel. Your thumb and all of your fingers EXCEPT your little finger will generally be affected. The tendon to the little finger does not go through the carpel tunnel, so there is no problem for that finger.

Because when you are sleeping your hands have a tendency to curl up, kind of like in a fetal position, you may wake with numbness and tingling in the three fingers and the thumb

From all of the work you have been doing, it could be an issue. Hopefully you have just strained you hand and it will improve.

Good luck with that.

Spent my time with Ellee and Gracee this afternoon. Had a nice quiet time. They did not have homework, but Ellee needed to do her reading. Gracee, as usual, was doing cartwheels, and other tumbling activities, plus dancing. When she was small, and I was in better shape, we had a couple of days a week together when the other kids were in school. We would dance, and do exercises. Sometimes I would bring my Richard Simmons tapes over and we would do those. Anything physical is her idea of a good time. We had a lot of fun together.

My back is better tonight, so hoping that I will be even better tomorrow. My friends Amy, Debbie and I were to go on a little day trip tomorrow, but Amy is very sick, and Debbie had a bit of food poising yesterday, so if we feel ok, Debbie and I will go to lunch together tomorrow. I don't think Amy will be well enough.

Anyway, I will have a pretty quiet day tomorrow. I think, right now, that I am better off to spend a lot of my time alone.

Have some activity with friends, but I just need to heal.

Have a good Friday

Bonnie

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Brenda, sorry for your incident. Hope you're feeling better as the day goes on. Please make sure you have one of the others check on you in case you haven't come down like you usually do.

Marielle, it sounds as though the owners of your place aren't in any hurry to get things completed. Do get it all like it needs to be before you sign anything to complete the sale. Hope the wrist improves soon.

My re-check was good today, and I'm cleared to move on with my life.

Be back later.

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Brenda, I am so sorry. It does sound like it could be an anxiety attack. My ex had something called SVT (subventricular tachacardia) where he would get racing heart - the doctors said it wasn't life threatening. I hope you don't get any more attacks. You've been under so much stress.

Betty, not enjoying it fully yet. We love the roominess etc. but we have a septic problem which the owner keeps putting off fixing--it has to be cleaned & certified before the house can close escrow and it needs two trees removed from on top of it and the roots cleaned out to determine if it is salvageable. By then my house should close and if this doesn't work out who knows where we will go??!!! One day at a time--let go and let God so to speak. You new heat pump sounds very expensive to me.

Mary Ann, I forget where you do your volunteering--I thought you quit the one place a while back--is it the same or a new place that you are acting as a docent?

Mary, how wonderful your kids got to perform at a professional baseball game. You sound like your last year is keeping you very busy. It will all end soon though and you will be free with much less stress.

Auntie Darling, you have a great sense of humor about your walking regime. Keep it up. It is probably the healthiest thing you can do to keep your muscles "young" and your body fit even if you're not quite the "size" you want to be.

Bonnie, glad you had a nice relaxing day!!

Michele, you definitely are a trooper. Take care of yourself and be at peace. DD has to do her own thing.

Doris, enjoy your vacation in NC. I have never been east of Kentucky and Missouri. I would love to tour the USA and see all the sites - we'll see if I ever make that one happen before I pass or get too old to enjoy it.

I have had some interesting things happen. My left wrist has been hurting for several days and it's finally gone into a full blown issue (feels like I sprained it somehow)-I've tried ice and heat to no success. I hate arthritis--what a pain it is (pun intended). I also had some kind of excruciating cramping/sharp pains in my upper, middle, and lower abdomen yesterday that lasted an hour and a half. No other symptoms magically appeared and after it stopped it never came back. I had some kind of "aura" beforehand-felt out of it and and weird, took a nap and woke up with the cramping/stabbing pains. I was ready to go to the ER but then it stopped as quickly as it started. I don't take pain pill or much else except what the doctor wants me to take (prescription meds and vitamins). I sure wish the wrist pain would do what the stomach pain did. It is my left hand so can't be carpel tunnel, who knows??!

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So glad you are feeling better. I am so sorry you are having such a tough time. Please don't let it continue to weigh on you, but do try to let some of the stress out. Being stoic is a good thing, but there are times when you must let go of that and give your mind and body what it needs, some release.

I too am saying many prayers for you God Bless my friend

BETTY

You are making me tired just thinking about all of the work you are doing. Good luck with the curtains.

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You have had a very exhausting week. I am counting down the days with you.

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Sending good thoughts and prayers your way

I have been sleeping quite well, but I still don't have much energy. I think I just have to relax and allow my body to get over the stress of the last few weeks.

Working on taking care of me right now.

Hope you all have a great Thursday

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Brenda how scary. The people at the hospital sound nice but it is disconcerting how often they wake you up in the middle of the night. Do take care and try to relax.

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Hi Friends,
Sorry, I haven't been on here in weeks.

The only post I have read today was Brenda's. Sooo happy you are ok. That was quite an experience. I would check in with my regular MD just to be sure it was an anxiety attack, simply because you were feeling strange all day.

We have just been busy-still painting-lot's of cleaning involved in putting back things. Then I have spent hrs on internet just trying to find new drapes for living room, which I still haven't found. Having trouble getting the width I need as it's a triple window.

Then Den's brother ended up in hospital with an operation to remove cancerous lump off his kidney. Then they found another one which couldn't be removed yet. He is home now recuperating from that.

Now, we are involved getting a new heat pump. Ours would be ok for another year, but the one we want price is going up on it and getting it now gives us a rebate from the company+ one from the electric company which amounts to over 2000.00 so we decided to jump on it now. This one is so much more efficient than what we have and will keep our home at a more comfortable level. Everything gets so expensive. When we had this heat pump installed it was about 8,000. The new one comes in at 18,000 before rebates. So now Den has to tear out ceiling downstairs in our den so they can do wiring. It just involves taking out tiles he put in. The ceiling will be lower now, but that's ok. So this will be done in approx 2 weeks. There goes any vacation we may have wanted for this year!

Now for the weight. I am still trying to lose. Easter week-gained a pound after indulging in peanut butter cups I made. Then this week lost it again. Still on the low carb, but went to phase 3 slowly adding them back. Now the loss is much slower. So after eating spaghetti with chicken cassia-tore yesterday I am cutting back starting today again. Keeping one's carbs below 50 is hard for me. And my biggest thing is I keep craving something sweet! I do have small pieces of dark chocolate in refrigerator, but doesn't seem to cut it! LOL Another thing, since my reader died, I really have trouble forcing myself to get on the treadmill!

Ok, that's my tale of woe. I will try and read the rest of forums here today. Hope all of you are doing ok. And Marielle, you must be enjoying your new home by now.?

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Hi everyone, I can't speak to each of you individually tonight because I am totally exhausted.

I spent last night and most of today in the hospital and am still kind of shaky. Yesterday I was feeling kind of "off" all day, like I wasn't really here. I called it an out of body experience, feeling confused and I kept dropping things. Burned my wrist on my curling iron when I lost my grip and I tried to catch it and it hit my wrist and left a big red stinging welt. I put aloe vera on it.

Then I decided I could go down for the soup lunch that Faith cooked for everyone. Well, I did eat a bowl of soup and a little of Elinors dump cake, helped clean up a few things in the kitchen. Still feeling like I wasn't there. Well, I stayed and visited until after 3. I thought I was feeling all right.

Jeanette and I left a little before 5 to meet Sam. We went in and ordered our food and I ordered a Lemon Lipton Tea. Well, I'm sitting there listening to Sam and Jeanette talking and all of a sudden my heart started pounding, I was having trouble breathing and my hands were shaking uncontrollably and felt shaky inside. I said, "Sam, there is something wrong with me and you better call someone" Jeanette took my pulse and said it was really beating fast. So Jeanette called 911 and told them we were at the Fox Tavern and I was having a very rapid pulse. "No she is not drunk, we just came for dinner" she told them I don't drink. Sam went to the bar and cancelled our orders and paid for my Snapple. The firemen came in first and took my BP. 209/109. Then the ambulance arrived and they all agreed I was going to the hospital. One of the paramedics told me this is the first time I have hauled anyone out of a bar who was sober. emoticon

So we get to the ER and they wheel me into a room and everyone comes in. The male nurse started taking off my shirt and bra and put a gown on me. The EMT's were still in the room and a couple other nurses. The EMT's wished me good luck and left. It was wild. They asked me a lot of questions and took my vitals, hooked me up to the BP machine. Nurses took blood samples and a urine sample. Then this doctor came in and I told him I have children older than him . He was very cute, married with a couple of kids. Then he asked me questions about various things and all my answers were right. Then they sent me to get an MRI to check my brain and heart. Could not find anything. Decided I would get a brain scan this morning. Their findings at that point was all my blood work, sugar level, cholesterol and everything else was perfect. They decided it was an anxiety attack.

Jeanette and Sam came back and I told them about Jon being in prison. Jeanette decided she would write him a letter telling him about me and all I do around here helping others, my sewing and what a nice person I am. Yes, I will write Jon but not right now. I need to get myself calmed down before I try it.

I finally got to sip water and they brought me an egg salad on gluten free bread (yuck) but the egg mixture was good, I was in a bed with an alarm because they told me I could not walk by myself. I set the alarm off three times just rolling over, they changed the setting.

At 1 am. I woke up and there was a black man sitting beside the bed talking to me. I looked at him and said, "are you in my dream"? He finally convinced me he was indeed real and was there to take a blood sample and that someone else would come back for another one at 4. Well, I never really slept after that, waiting for the other nurse. She came in at 4:15 and then I was able to go back to sleep.

I woke up at 7:30 and the day nurse was there. I told her about the black man and she assured me he was a nurse. A lady came in an asked me what I wanted to order for lunch. Then a young man came in a said he was a physical therapist. He got me another gown to put on to cover my backside. We went walking down the hall and around the corner and finally up and down a staircase. I passed both but he still gave me a cane to bring home. He showed my how to work it. We get back and there is a nurse in the hall with a wheelchair waiting to take me to my brain scan. Prior to that the nurse gave me a Zanac to calm my nerves and a shot in the belly to prevent me from getting clots in my legs.

The brain scan machine looked like a rocket. He put ear plugs in my ears to dull the noise and told me to keep very still and the test would last a half hour. As soon as he put me in all the way I shut my eyes so I wouldn't see the ceiling of the 'rocket', I am chlostrophobic. Being in the rocket wasn't all that bad but it was very noisy.

Jeanette brought me home and stopped at the pharmacy to drop off my prescription. She went to pick it up for me.

I came in to come home. The elevator opened and Ruth got out and said, "Oh Brenda, I am so sorry you had a stroke". OMG I said I had an anxiety attack so I had to tell everyone that there was no stroke. That's enough to cause me another attack.

Everyone was praying for me the whole time so I think I am in good hands.

So my dear friends, I am very glad to be back home and I hope this is the end of anymore attacks. I am one who holds everything in and then I just blow up from the strain. I do put on a good front.



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Mary that was quite a list of impressive activities.
Dede NC is on my list of states to visit.

Wednesday is my docent day and today was really long. I am heading off to bed

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Hi, friends! I had an extremely long day yesterday. Most of our 1st-5th graders sang and signed the Star Spangled Banner at the Astros game! I was asked to go out on the field with them and to lead them in and back for the 2nd row. I think I was as intrigued as the kids were. Its a huge stadium and we saw the players and grounds people as we walked through the tunnel and out onto the field. There were cheerleaders as well and the kids were thrilled. They did a great job with the National Anthem. But it was a very long day. I am SO looking forward to retirement, a little over 6 weeks to go. I saw the owner of the school today and thanked her for a very sweet and poignant email she sent me on Sunday. She hugged me and assured me that they will call me to sub. I hope not too often, though, lol!
Good for you getting to the pool, Michele. I get my hair cut Saturday during the class time but I hope to go on Sunday afternoon. So sorry your lesson AND your Starbucks didnt come to pass. You have us to rant and rave to whenever needed. Know that we are here for you!

MaryAnn, your husband is on the mend..so glad to hear that! I hope your visit with Dale will be so much fun!

Brenda, you have surrounded yourself with a protective bubble and its served you well all these years. Now someone has poked a little hole and stuff is seeping somewhat. Of course youre going to be feeling vulnerable and weepy. Let yourself do/feel whatever and whenever you need to. Its a sort of grief, really, if you look at the big picture. You probably have been so stoic for so long---Im glad youve reconnected with your sister. Boy, you have really had a difficult and interesting set of life circumstances! All in all, you are a survivor and I hope so much that the good will out and you will come through all of this just fine. We are here for you, too!

Doris, I know youve been wanting to be with the granddaughter. Ive heard N Carolina is pretty! Get those things that need to be done ou t of the way and enjoy your time away. I hope the recheck will go fine.

Bonnie, your experiences with people over the years and your determination to be your own person is so great! I am a work in progress on all of that! I tend to cry so easily and need to learn to assess where I stand on many issues! Throwing myself into things is hardand NOT doing it is harder, lol!

Im sorry you are physically worn out, Marielle. You have been so very busy. So far, do you like your new place? I hope you will soon have things like you want and can sit back and enjoy the place!
I have a field trip tomorrow and our Field Day on Friday has been cancelled because of 60% chance of rain. My partner and I are taking 6 1st graders to IHOP on Saturday for our Auction breakfast, then I get my hair cut. After that, I hope to do absolutely nothing, lol!

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Hello everyone,

Read all your post. You've all been busy while I've been off line. If this worked on my cell phone I could do the "woe is me" everyday at the school waiting on the bus for the kids to get out. But for some reason it doesn't work on my android phone but then again it could be the operator (yup that's probably it) . Well I left my woe is me on the blog. Feel somewhat better but not a whole lot.

I'm making it to the gym 2x a week and i'm walking 1.5 miles every day in the afternoon no matter the weather. I've gained 4 pounds since November and not sure why. I feel like I walk my butt off and yet it's still there . emoticon

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Have a great vacation.

MICHELE

I had a nice day. First went to see Dr Mike. He worked on my back, and then I had the electrodes treatment. I feel much better. Hope it holds.

Went to the park and sat in the sun reading my book.

Stopped and had a bite to eat, and then home. It was a nice day.

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It is a great State! Have a good time! Stay safe!

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Michele, we are vacationing in NC because our granddaughter's husband is stationed there for 10 months with the Air Force and we wanted to see them and the GGS. We've never spent any time there and I've wanted to see the lighthouses and the Outer Banks. Also want to go to Asheville for several things there.

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DORIS how busy you are! why are you going to N. C. ? It is so good that you do ministry at the prison. OUr chuch goes to the prison to give them books to read, donated by the church members.

BONNIE so what did you do with your free day?

We had a whole day of sunshine yesterday; I managed to hang the futons, did a lot of laundry & a friend who just moved in across the street from me came over to say "hi" It was nice to chat with her!

Today is piano lesson & tone chime day, this sunny thursday morning! emoticon emoticon

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Good Wednesday, to all!

I am trying to get things done this week so that next week won't be impossible. We leave on Thursday of next week for North Carolina, so this week I'm trying to get clothes ready to put in the bag. I also have a doctor's appt. tomorrow for re-check after surgery so I want to do some shopping while I'm close to a mall that's not convenient otherwise. Next Tuesday I go for the steroid shot in my knee again and will do more errands while I'm in the Waco area. This Friday DH and I will fill in at HH for the directors so they can attend a conference. Our job will be to register guests and have sandwich makings for them as they come in, if they want a bite to eat. The next week is busy!!

Michele, I'm sorry you wasted the trip only to find there was no lesson and coffee. Maybe she thought she could go ahead with it but glad you didn't pick up a bug from her.

Bonnie, I think you're doing great with managing your grief. Some days are better, some more tearful.

Brenda, I can understand your tears, too, when you've wished for contact with your kids and now find a sad situation when you do get the contact. It will be interesting to see if you do get a real letter back from your son with no strings attached. It is so easy for one to take the role of victim rather than, like you, taking responsibility for moving ahead with life. You would be such a great role model for those women at the prison where I was Sunday night. Part of our discussion was about victim or victor, and the characterists of each.

Better get busy again. It's a beautiful, sunny day here and I need to take advantage of that.

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You are so right. We just have to learn to not let them bother us too much, or to avoid situations that won't ever change.

MICHELE

Thanks so much for the prayers. I really appreciate them.

Sorry no coffee! Darn.

It is sunny here today, so I am going to get out of the house.

I don't have anything planned today, so will do just as I wish.

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MARY ANN that is so true I am glad for you that your DH is on the mend. Slow & easy!

BONNIE you are so wise. You too, say all of the things that i want to say, but don't come out right! Thank you for always being there for me! emoticon
I will keep Lib & her mom, Alice in my prayers I did keep you in my a.m Rosary this morning, as I did for Brenda, & all of my other SP friends who need Him.

My lesson was cancelled this a.m. ----- DH's cousin called me at the last minute AFTER i arrived in Tokyo to say she was sick! emoticon I did manage to clean FIL's bathrooms, of which the house is also DH's office. The plumbing shop runs out of that. But I am going tomiss my Starbuck's coffee this week! emoticon Oh well. there will be next week! Now, onto my piano practicing!!! emoticon emoticon

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Family issues never seem to completely disappear. They seem to ebb and then rise up. The same stories, same difficult feelings and same recriminations. I am sure we all have our family issues. I am amazed how they never go away no matter how old we all get.

DH is feeling better. Still weak but he is eating regular food, still bland.

Everyone have a great Wednesday, back on Thursday

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I am still praying for strength for ALL of us.

I have never had children, but have always had many "other people's" children in my life. My friend Alice and her daughter Elizabeth lived with me from the time Liz was 8 months old until she was 4 years old. We have always been very close. When Liz had her child, her mom was living out of state, and Lib and her husband were living in Toledo still. So, I was the one who was there with Lib and her husband when Cheyanne was born. I think that she was 6 years old the 9th of this month. Ricky, Lib's husband is in the Coast Guard, so they have lived in the south for most of that time. But, I still feel a kinship with all of them.

Lib has been battling cancer for several years. Now she is fighting lung cancer. It is difficult to be here, and they are in Florida, but at least her mom, Alice lives where they do. She is 31 years old.

She also went through her tough time when she was a teenager. But,because I was NOT the mom, she came to me with some of her issues. I tried as best I could to help, but they all have to grow up as best they can.

Once a person reaches a certain age, and I think that both of your children have surpassed that age, they must take responsibility for your their life.

If you have issues, deal with them. Blaming them on someone else is just a cop out, and keeps you from growing. God Bless them and I pray that they will get some help, or learn to help themselves. You are not responsible for their lives, they are.

Oh, I just ramble so. I am in kind of a melancholy state. My brother was one of those children. He always worked, kept a good job, and provided for my nieces, but was not a great dad. He was very selfish. He told my dad one time that all that mattered is that he be able to do whatever it was HE wanted to do. That is how he lived his life.

I am sorry and sad that he is gone, but he made his own choice to not take care of himself. My mom and I had a conversation about it again today. She is a real rock.

I was told in Alanon that an alcoholic would stop maturing at the age they began to drink, or use or whatever. My brother began drinking in his teen years.

Ok, I know that I have to mourn, but I need to stop dwelling now. I have had enough for today

God Bless you, all of my friends here.



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very well said! I am a crier, too. And when I cry, sometimes I just sob. I like being here, too, b/c I am not judged
. With all of the stuff with DD----it has been going on since Aug '13 when she 1st went to BSU (boise state Univ) I just sob everytime I thnk about the fact that she called the police at 11 pm on Friday, Aug, 22 '14 on me for slapping her face. No, I shouldn't have slappedher. If I could go back & take it back, I would! But something just snapped in me that night. Ever since then, she has claimed that I have been an abusive parent since she was in High school. I was not!

and so, when I talk about it, I tend to sob like you do, BRENDA
I have to take deep breaths & keep going on.

But without all of you, I am pretty sure I would have gone over the edge so to speak, & maybe even have committed suicide. I am no where near those kinds of feelings now, thanks to all of you.

BRENDA how was the new place that you went to with J? Do you think it will be worth going to regularly? I haven't had a taco in years! I do miss them!

I agree with you about the kids---they get themselves into trouble, they have to get themesleves out!

It is raining again here this Wed. a.m. The news said that this April has a new record for lack of sunshine, that it hasn'T been this way for years!

I am off to Tokyo to teach Tad's cousin at Starbuck's this morning. Can't wait for my free Italian black coffee! I would never indulge in one myself as they are just too expensive! emoticon

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Bonnie, thank you for your wisdom. What I plan to do initially is just send Jon a note with my address and that I will respond if he chooses to contact me. He told my sister, Bev and her husband, Dan, that he wants me to write to him. He is blaming me for all his problems since divorcing his dad. Well, I am not. I always told the children that if they get themselves in trouble, they can get themselves out. The way I was treated growing up, I never even considered going out and drinking or doing drugs or selling my body. I just figured out what I needed to do to survive and went for it. Maybe if I had had some counseling after mom died, it would have helped but I was just the poor child who's mother died and no one ever talked to me about it. I never knew about counseling.

I am planning on going out to dinner tonight with Jeanette and Sam to check out another place to go for our monthly dinner trip. We were told about it last night. They serve tacos and burritos and whatever else and it is really cheap. like $2 so.

I sent Jeanette an email this morning telling her about my son but I don't want to talk about it in person because I end up in a sobbing heap. In the mean time, I just take a lot of deep breaths. I just hope I can pull myself together to go downstairs for the soup lunch at noon. I did tell Elinor last night when she came over. I feel like I am a nervous wreck and am on the verge of tears any second.

This, too, shall pass. Am trying to Let Go and Let God but it is not working yet.


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Please come to us with anything that you need to talk about. I talk to you all more easily than even to my best friends.

I think it has a lot to do with really being able to think about what you are saying, maybe seeing it to rewrite it to have it say just what you mean. There is a real benefit to the written word.

I have a thing about crying when I am upset, and then it is difficult to express myself as I want.

The other thing about coming here is that none of us judge, we just listen and give advise or our thoughts, which we all know we can use or discard without worry of someone's feelings being hurt.

I have had a very rough 4 years. I think that God lead me here to have so much support

When I first joined, I lost 70 pound, and kept it off for several years, but then had all of the physical issues and my weight has gone back up.

But, I do feel, that without you all, I would be even heavier than I am.

God Bless all and thank you for being my support system.

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MARIELLE do take care of your back & knees! I have 3 slipped disks in my back & had to give up all kinds of things. How is the house going so far?

MARY I wanted to say that you speak so eloquently! Everything you say is what I have wanted to say----it just doesn't come out right!

I just finished watching a youtube movie--"unconqueored" with Gary Cooper. IT was a great moive!
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Dear all, so much going on. Sorry to be neglectful of the team. So much going on with the house and I'm still trying to rest from all the work of moving which gave my hips, knees, back, hands and elbows fits of pain. I haven't been able to sit on the cushion in meditation without a lot of pain.

Brenda, I am so sorry so much is going on - I really understand your fears about what your son's motives are for contacting you. You are wise to protect yourself from being hurt. As humans we seem to suffer so much. Take care of yourself and give yourself lots of loving kindness.

Mary, I am sorry about your daughter's kitty. I had two cats who passed at home: one in my arms and one while I slept. It is traumatic each time we lose an animal but they are so loving and sweet and love us just as we are.

Michele, I am so sorry about your daughter. She sounds like she might have some sort of disorder. Bipolar illness can cause such mood swings especially if it is coupled with depression. You do not deserve her anger to be taken out on you though--I do hope she gets help with whatever is going on with her. But that must be her decision as you cannot make it happen. Thank goodness you have Tad to support you. I take a small dose of citalopram (Celexa) daily. It is an antidepressant and helps to just take the edge off of the anxiety that I get. Since I started taking it (because of the water district thing I was on) I feel much better and sleep much better as well. I think Alanon could help you be able to talk about your feelings.

Bonnie, you sound very wise. I think we all struggle with how we want to be. It is so hard to hold your tongue when someone is pushing your buttons.

MaryAnn, glad you DH is recovering. Where are those housekeeping fairies--somehow they never show up at my house.

Doris, how nice of you to go and work with the women in prison. You have a lot of compassion.

Have a good evening everyone!



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Thank you Doris, that is exactly what I am going to do, let him talk first. Elinor just came to borrow some pineapple and I tried to talk to her but the tears just started flowing again. She told me there is a soup lunch downstairs tomorrow at noon and she is making a pineapple dump cake. She said if I don't remember to go she will come and get me. I really don't know if I can go if I'm going to continue crying.

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Brenda, I'm so glad you went to Frosties and got out of the house for a while. I like your idea of putting the ball in Jon's court by sending him your address and letting him write first. Maybe that will help you figure out his motivation. You have had a difficult struggle and are to be commended for being able to overcome all the things that have happened in your past. emoticon

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Thanks for all your kind words. Yes, I did go to Frosties but I didn't tell anyone because I cannot right now. I haven't even told Sam and she is my best friend. She went to Frosties with us and that is not the place to have a serious talk. I will talk to her tomorrow. Ruth popped in this afternoon because she was bored and wanted to visit, to my chagrin. I did not want to talk to anyone and she stayed for two hours. She finally went home and I got ready and went downstairs and the bus was here. When I went downstairs at noon, Jody was there and asked me why I didn't go to the Bird and Butterfly talk this morning. I just told her I have family issues that I don't want to talk about, started crying and came back home.

My sister is about 12 years younger than me and we have different fathers. I don't have a whole sister or brother to my name. Both my brothers are passed on. I have two more half sisters on my dad's side and have no contact with them. I send them cards every year but they never respond. I did talk to both of them on the phone when I finally located them and we exchanged letters for a year or so and then they both stopped. I still have the letters. One lives in Kentucky, the other was in Ohio but that address is an old one, they moved. Funny thing, no cards have ever been returned by the Post Office so I assume they got them. My dad had two girls and a boy. My mom had us two girls and my brother.

My growing up years were very dysfunctional and I never turned to drugs or blamed anyone for my life. It made me a very strong person and I am a survivor and will always be all right. The road may be bumpy at times but you just keep going on and it starts to smooth out.

I brought most of my onion rings and the rest of Sam's curly fries home. I wasn't very hungry but my hamburger was really good.

Forgive me with all my rambling but my head is just so full of memories and stuff that it just has to come out and you, my friends are here to read them all. See, my sister and I have never been very close after she was adopted. I ran off and got married at 18 and lived in Nebraska, came back to Washington in '63 and lived in Tacoma. My sister grew up in Seattle, the same as I did only she had a better, stable life. We would go to Seattle on every holiday. Then she met my brother in law and married him and they moved to Tacoma but I still didn't see her very often and she only lived a mile away. We were both working and raising babies and keeping very busy, seeing each other on birthdays and holidays. For the life of me I can't remember how my sister and brother-in-law met except he was stationed out here in the Navy and I must have told her about him and she came to meet him. She was out of College then.

It rained really hard on the way to Frosties. I heard a blurb on the news after I got home about a small tornado but I think it was in the Seattle area, not here in the valley. It wasn't windy.

Mary I am so glad your mom is so much better. My sister is not being mean to me by not telling me what Jon has done. That is her way and that is fine with me. She has talked to the children over the years to try to get them to talk to me but to no avail.

Bonnie, I remember you talking about your cousin. You handled her visit well. I hope they are few and far between.

Doris, I am thinking about just sending a note to my son and saying, here is my address if you care to correspond with me. I really don't know what to say to him. He is 43 years old and a stranger to me. I will not put up with any finger pointing. He is the one who made his choices to do what he did, whatever it was and he cannot blame me for his actions.

Sunny, that is so nice that Dale will be visiting you soon. I know you will have a great visit. I hope your cleaning fairies came back to work. Mine have been on strike as far as doing the deep cleaning.

Thank you everyone for listening to my rambling and giving me great advice.

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I am so sorry that you daughter and family lost their older cat. My cat is a huge comfort to me. I had two cats who lived long lives, one to 17, the other to 18. it was tough, but their quality of life was no longer good at all, so I knew it was time. They were suffering so.

Thank you for your kind words. What I have had to work on over the years, is to NOT overreact. I have been defensive all of my life. But, I have had to make myself understand that I am only hurting myself by making a big deal out of stuff.

I have worked hard to think before I speak. Having lived with so many different people in my house over the years, I have come to a decision. If someone is doing something that is annoying to me, I ask myself if it is a deal breaker. If it is then some discussion is required. If it is not, then I just learn to let it go and move on with my life.

Just finished watching "Dancing with the Stars". They have a good cast this year. I really LOVE Patti LeBelle!

Have a good Tuesday my friends.



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Oh, Brenda, my heart just goes out to you once again. You have had SO much to deal with in the way of rejection and less than desirable actions of your children. How strange that your sister wont tell you whats going on with your son. Do you think its a good thing that he now wants contact? Maybe hes hit rock bottom and realizes that he actually needs someone. I hope whatever your decision, you will do what you feel is best for yourself. You are so right in that you do NOT need anyone to mess up the life youve carved out for yourself!! I have 2 friends who have had or now have sons in prison. They agonize over it and worry that it will be repeated because of drugs/alcohol addiction in addition to all the other offenses. Once leads to another so often. Hugs to you as you face another trial. And I like the fact that your sister will act as a go-between with your children. At this point in your life they need to know your side. I hope it will end with some contact in a good way with at least some of them! Cry if you need to/want to. Its good to get it out.

Doris, yes, its so hard to worry about do I go or should I wait? Once Im retired it wont be so much of a struggle. I got a very sweet email from the owner of the school today, thanking me for being me and she sounded genuinely sad that I am leaving. I told her that this most recent crisis with my mother cemented the fact that I need to be available. There are actually 5 girls in my family. I am the oldest. But the 2nd sister lives in Illinois and comes once a year. Because of the recent concerns shes been here twice since October. She travels almost every month or so and takes fabulous trips but when she comes home she doesnt stay very long. There are issues that she is working through on that, too!! But she does come at least once a year to visit Mama. You are wonderful to do the prison work. I have a friend who used to teach at the womens prison. She had some rough characters to deal with but the ones who had children nearly always wanted to change their lives around.

Please send your cleaning fairies to my house, MaryAnn! I am lazy and have so much to do. All the trees are dropping these ugly pods and they seep in under the door. Nasty stuff! Im hoping the soft diet and rest will help your husband. How great that you will get to visit with Dale. Have you met her before?

Good for you, Michele. Self preservation is needed. Sometimes its a spouse, a parent, and sometimes a child who walks on our hearts and leaves huge footprints. Youve done all you can and you need to take care to guard yourself against further hurt. I hope the time in the pool at your own leisure will be a good time for you today. I think we all bonded and found ourselves here for a reasonto help and support beyond diet! We are a group who gives support for so many reasons. It all helps so much.

Bonnie, how good to know yourself well enough and to be your own person enough NOT to allow someone, especially a relative, to keep egging you on! Its taken me most of my life not to roll over and play dead. I hate conflict and will cry and rant/rave to my friends but rarely have enough gumption to say knock it off to the offenders! Good for you. And you worked it out by driving around after the chiropractor visit. Again, you handle things well. Grieve as you see fit. No one can tell you how or what to do with it!

On top of moving to the apartment and signing the papers for selling the house, my daughters 15 yr. old cat passed away in her sleep.they went to the house and brought her to the apartment yesterday afternoon. She was so disoriented and my daughter and the twins cuddled her and petted her. She had a nice cozy bed on the new enclosed patio with her food and water. When my daughter went to check on her this morning, she was gone. I dont like cats but I cried! This was her cat from the time she had her first apartment after graduating from college and was such a part of the family!

The bad weather is gone for new with a gorgeous sunset. I went to the gym and did 35 minutes on the treadmill. Life is good!

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BRENDA I am so sorry for your pain! I do understand the pain,however. I too, hope you are well enough to go to Frosties. Maybe going will be good for you, make you feel better. I hope your sister is able to help you in the way that is needed. I will be keeping you in my prayers!

BONNIE you handled b very well! Good for you. I would have done the same thing. I am glad you are feeling better. Good for you for keep trying. I believe where there is life, there is always hope! That you do not see her often is also a good idea, I think

As for my DD, & the rest of my kids, for that matter, we are a bi-cultural family over here, a kind of a "national geographic" family so to speak. I like to use that word, too! That does not exuse Annie's behavior, but I do think she is strugglng with her own self-worth. And who can she feel the most comfortable to take it out on but mom? But yes, I have had enough! There is also mental illness in my dad's side of the family---both sides, infact. Schizophrenia on his mom's side, & bipolar on his dad's. If I was forced to choose one, I would lean toward the bipolar.

I am letting go & letting God handle this now. I am taking your advice, BONNIE & I will not contact her when she leaves here on the 19th UNLESS or UNTIL she REALIZES that I AM NOT AN ABUSIVE PARENT! I am going t also look up the Alanon, as I have been advised before, b/c maybe I just need some physical support over here. thank you all for always listening to me go on & on & on. B/c of all of you, I have been able to keep myself sane L& together! Without you, I may have just done myself in!

Enough said on that. I am going to go to the pool. God is good to me today---the weather is very bleak, but it will not rain until noon, by which time I will be already back from the pool that makes me very happy!

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I hope you are feeling well enough to go to Frostie's and that the trip helps to redirect some of your emotion and thoughts.

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BRENDA

I think that "disconcerting" is a very good way to describe what you are going through.

You have your life worked out your way and are content, although I am sure there is pain in your heart, but you have been very strong.

I think the others all gave good advice. I am praying for you for guidance and peace.

MICHELE

I am praying that for you as well. Another saying that I took away from Alanon, is probably the most difficult for me to use, but I try really hard, "Let go and Let God".

I have a really hard time recognizing that I am not in "charge". I am definitely a work in progress.

I have to say, and I think I have said this before,that I truly believe that your daughter is struggling with some kind of mental, and or emotional disorder.

That is why I think the Alanon philosophy might be helpful. The first step in Alanon is to recognize that "I am powerless over the alcoholic". I think this applies in your situation even if there is no alcohol involved. I don't really think that she is "just mean", I think she is ill. We are taught that alcoholism is a disease.

Detachment is also a tool we were taught to use. That too is the hardest, because of the first step, we do not want to accept that we can't fix it.

It is really all about the first step when you think about it.

MARYANN

Glad to hear your husband is getting better. It is so difficult to see someone we love suffer.

I am so excited that you and Dale are going to get together. Have a wonderful time.

DORIS

It sounds as though you are in a position to be somewhat helpful to Brenda. God Bless for trying to help those woman.

I spent time with my cousin Barb, this morning. She almost always makes me angry. I go long periods with out seeing her because of this, but then I do love her, and I want to see her, so I try again. It will be quite a while before I see her again.

She wanted me to talk about some things that I didn't want to talk about. She got annoyed with me because I would not allow her to talk about all of her problems, I kept redirecting her, but then she told me that something like, "You should have gone through what I went through years ago". What if you had lost a spouse? I told her I don't have a spouse. Don't remember exactly what I said, but the bottom line is that she is so self involved that I was not allowed to be grieving I guess. I held it together to go to lunch, and then when she brought me home, I said I have to go to the chiropractor, which I did really need, and got out of the car and got into my own car.

I was so angry that I had to drive around for awhile after I left the chiro just to get over it.

I am ok now.

Life is always interesting, if nothing else!

God Bless and prayers for all of you

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I have been sending my sister in Tacoma private FB messages about my son. She is the one who told me where he is. She is married to my first husbands's brother and I have been telling her things about my life with him and why I divorced him that she never knew. She is going to take all the stuff I told her and write it and send it to all my children so they know my side of the story. Not just what he told them. He died in 2010. I have never bad mouthed him to the children so I think having my sister be the go between would be the best thing and they can accept it or not. Their choice. They would probably think I am lying.

I am going to Frosties for dinner today for the $2 burger. I just hope I can hold it together and not break down into a sobbing heap like I did downstairs a few minutes ago when I went to check my mail. This is all very disconcerting. I don't know what that means but I like the word. emoticon

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MARY ANN I do hope your DH is better! did you get all ofyour housework done?

BRENDA as for your son--I agree with DORIS as to what you can do. It is your choice & I agree that a simple letter would not hurt.
As for Annie I have let her go. I am getting on with my life. I am taking BONNIE's advice. I do pray about it & am trusting the process, which for me in this case is God. How things ended up the way they are is beyond me!

MARY hang in there! you are almost done! My sisters & I would also "panic" everytime something went wrong with dad as he was declining. He died on the 15th of Jan. after successful major heart surgery. He knew it was his time.

I will be off to the pool again this rainy Tuesday morning. I have no students to teach this Tuesday morning so I can do things at my own pace! I am looking forward to that!

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Bonnie you write with such compassion. I really appreciate how you look at life and your wise observations.

Brenda it must be hard not having contact with your children. But I would be concerned about motives. I know I have some issues with cousins and the way I only hear from them when they want something.

Mary so sorry your mom is having serious health issues.

The DH got a gastrointestinal virus according to the doctor. But he has been on soft foods and liquids for a week with some periods of a low grade fever. So we have been staying home and being very quiet. He is still weak but seems a bit better this morning.

I am planning to meet up with Dale while they are in California. Just not sure which weekend that is going to be.

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Thank you Doris for your input as to my dilemma. I do feel that he may be trying to use me and I am usually right in my feelings. Yes, I will write to him but he is a stranger at this point. It has taken me a long time to get to the point where I am in my life and I am happy where I am. I don't need anyone else screwing it up.

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Brenda, we must have been posting at the same time.

I'm sorry you got bad news about your son. I do know that when they're incarcerated, they get time to figure out what is important in life, if they will. It's your choice about what to do, but be aware that sometimes they do try to use you, also. A short letter doesn't commit you to a relationship again, but it puts the ball in his court so you can see whether he is really interested in being a part of your life. I do know how much the ladies last night valued the correspondence they received--even a one line email saying her son was going to write.

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Michele, just hang in there a few more days--then relief will come. Maybe you can find a good book to read while Tad is gone and just enjoy the peace and quiet.

Mary, I understand where you are with your mother's health. We lived several years on the edge where phone calls in the night summoned us to the hospital, etc. It's good there's four of you to respond.

Bonnie, I hope the flowers do OK. I'm pretty good at killing potted plants! It's nice that you willl have the good memories of the party.

I went to prison last night for Bible study with some of the "ladies in white". My friend Donna goes each Sunday night, but is on vacation, so I subbed for her. I will go back next week also. The study focuses on helping the women take responsibility for their actions and communicate positive Christian ideas to the children they've left at home, with the hope that those children don't end up in prison like their moms.

Mary Ann, has your husband improved? Hope so.

Brenda, how's the weather today? Did your area get lots of rain this past weekend? We heard you were supposed to.

Hope everyone has a great week!

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Michele, Had that been me in the car and I was driving taking Annie home. I would have stopped the car and told her to get out and walk. She is an abuser for sure. You are right in everything you do and have done raising her. Raising children is not easy and we only know how we were raised. I spanked my children too. So get on with your life and live it as you can. Annie is not worth all the agony you are putting yourself through.

I got a private email from my sister on facebook yesterday and she told me my youngest son, Jon, contacted her and told her he is in the Olympic Correction Center in Forks, WA. It is way up at the top of our state on the coast. It is a minimum security facility. He wants me to write to him. He will be there until next January. She won't tell me why he is there, that I have to write and ask him what he did. I have not known where he was all these 20+ years and now at age 43 he wants to reconnect. He is my youngest child. I do know that he robbed the company where he worked after he was first married and went to jail for that plus he has done a lot of drugs. He is a stranger to me and I am not sure I want to reconnect with him. It is very disconcerting for sure.

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Bonnie, your advice to Michele is full of wisdom and 'it happened to me' ness!! We have to reinvent how life is to be when the old way doesn't work. I am so glad that your brother's party went well. It sounds like your family works very well together and the younger ones are learning from you 'how to be!' May you have sweet memories to hold your family together!

Michele, stay home and find something that makes you happy and let Tad be with Annie. You do not deserve the abuse and to taint the going away even more would be senseless. Do try to let her go and you just continue being the sweet person you are. Hugs!

Seven weeks to go....thanks for the prayers and good wishes for my mother. Every time something happens my sisters and I just panic now. One of these days it will be her time. Until then, we want to be there whenever possible!

Off to school in a bit!

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MARY I too, am glad that your mom is better & that you had a good visit. Thank heavens you made it home safely! I am keeping you in my prayers.

BONNIE thank you for sharing your story with me! I don't quite know what brought on this latest abusive attack lastnight; we were coming home from a family farewell party for Annie & had dropped everyone off. SHe suddenly started on this tirade. Tad tried really hard to defend me---I just sat in the front seat of the car & said nothihng to encourage her to go on. Finally I begged Tad to make it stop. Mark her stop! He couldn't. but he did try! She went on to say that she has recorded (I think I mentioned this before) everything I have evey said on her phone. I once again kept saying, "sorry! sorry! " but I WILL NOT Apologize anymore.

You are so correct, BONNIE that I WILL NOT contact her nor talk to her for a while I don't know how things got this bad. Tad is going with her to Larinburg to help her get started so the both of themwill be gone, Tad for A week, Annie for good for a while, starting on Sunday the 19th. I most likely WILL NOT go to the airport to see themoff---I would cry too hard b/c of missing her and the same time DO not want to take anymore abuse. ENOUGH SAID ON THIS SUBJECT. But i am takng your advice to the T Bonnie,just so you all will know!

I would love to have some of your cookies, BONNIE! And I am also good at taking care of plants. I hope Barb is able to help you with them.

To the rest of you, enjoy your day! And Happy Monday to all of you!

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Glad you had such a great time with your family. .

Glad your mom had a better day, and that you and your sister had a nice visit. Such a time it is to drive in such rain. Glad you are home safely.

Seven weeks! Take it from me, it will fly by. I have been retired for 11 years on June 1. I will tell you that time has really gone fast.

I have a cousin who is retiring this summer as well. I believe she taught for 36 years. A long time. She too is looking forward to it.

MARY ANN

Sorry that your husband is sick and you are worried. Illness can just be so scary. Prayers for you all.

I am sorry you are having a tough time with food right now. Just try to remember to take it one day at a time. I know you can do it.

Are you meeting with our Dale? If so I hope it is a great time.

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I am hoping that when your daughter leaves, that you will not take her calls home. From the sounds of it, she is just torturing you and Tad. When she is that far away, she should not be allowed to continue. Obviously, she is not going to call and say nice things if she is this bad before she leaves.

I am sure that as a mother that is so difficult. But, realistically, until her attitude changes, she should not be given the satisfaction of even talking to you. Perhaps if she is allowed no contact, her attitude may change over time. Even if it does not, it does no one any good for you to give her opportunities to abuse you.

One of the things that I learned in Alanon, is the definition of "crazy" is to continue to do the same things and expect a different result. To me, that means that she should be allowed no contact.

I had a issue quite a few years ago with my father. He was in a bad mood, and took it out on me. I left the house, and told my mom I would speak to her during the day when he was not home, see her away from the house, etc. I told her that until he could learn to treat me with respect, that he did not need to be a part of my life.

My mom told him that he owed me an apology, and she was not happy with him either.

At the time, we were working on the committee for the multi class high school reunion that we were both on and we always sat together at the meetings.

The next meeting, I came into the room, chose a small table and spread my stuff out. He came in and stood in front of me, and asked if he could sit with me. I told him fine, if he wanted. That was as close to an apology that I was ever going to get, and I had the good grace to accept it. Our relationship has been so very much better since I stood my ground. I did not shout, I did not scream, I did not do anything but leave. Once I had stood up to him, he respected me so much more. That is what worked for me, and I know you will have to find your own way, but you do need to quietly take a stand. Do not engage with her, it just feeds her need to hurt you.

I guess, what I am saying is don't react to her awful behavior. If you need to leave the house, do so. Whatever can work for you.

It is very difficult for me to see you in such pain. If I am off track, please just ignore what I have said, but I feel the need to at least explain what helped in my own life.

God Bless my friend

We had my brother's party today. It all went very well. My mom had my Uncle Jim stand up and talk a bit, and others also shared stories. My great nephew Max, 11 years old, wanted to say something. I told Uncle Jim that Max wanted to speak. When he tried, he cried, and Uncle Jim was going to just move on. Well Max pulled himself together and told his story of fishing with my dad, and my brother.Gary was his grandfather. I was really proud of him.

Then we all said the Lord's Prayer. My mom said it was just the way she wanted it. There were over 100 people there. Mostly family, but some of Gary's friends, my friend's Amy, Gary and Debbie, and some neighbors that we grew up with and so on. It was very good to feel and share all of the love that was in that hall.

Came home and called my brother Terry who lives in Houston. We talked and cried, as I told him about the party. He had come home right after Gary died to be with us all, as we all felt that would be a more important time for mom and dad and me, for him to be here.

My nieces, their mother, and her sister worked really hard and kept things going, cleaned up and helped so much. I told them that I knew they were doing it for the girls, but that I really appreciated it because I can no longer do those things. I was always the one keeping things going, working in the kitchen, etc, but my body just can't anymore. Anyway, I was grateful for all of those who helped. My great niece, Gracee, went to her grandmother in the kitchen and asked her if she had brought another dish rag, and she took it and went out into the hall and washed to tables off. Almost 9 years old.

Anyway it has been an emotional day, but I think it was good for all of us.

Yes, girls, I am a pretty good baker. I learned it from my mother. The cookies that I make are a recipe of my moms. She had made these sugar cookies so many times, that she did them without a recipe. One time she looked at the recipe and realized that she had doubled the butter. On instinct, she had added enough more flour to make it work.

Anyway, they are very good cookies. I used to make them with my mom for Christmas gifts every year and learned how to make them. It does take some practice as they are not like regular cookies. They actually have more of a cake texture and we frost them with butter/milk/vanilla/powdered sugar frosting.

I had put them all in baggies of 5 cookies in each, so they could be frozen. The woman that bought them was donating to the theater in her bid. What she did, was take out bags of cookies and give them to my friends that love them so. Chris said she could told him that not eat 80 cookies, so she shared. He said he asked her if she ever had them, cause if she had, she would know she could have eaten 80 cookies. LOL. That was all fun for me.

Well, my friends, I guess I have gone on long enough.

My cousin Barb is coming over tomorrow so that she can help me separate the plants in the planter baskets to try to keep them from dying. I am not so good at that, but no one else wanted them, so I am going to try to keep them going. She is good at that stuff

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Sorry Ive been MIA for several days or only had brief posts. We finished up our testing and although some of the kids did very well I am worried that several did poorly when they should have had much better scores. The dad of my child who has so many social and emotional issues asked when he picked the child up to get his scores!!! I told him that we JUST finished testing that morning and that the tests were sent off to a company to be computer-graded. The scores wouldnt come back until the report cards went out after school was over! He seemed surprised that I couldnt give him the results. Oh, my goodness!! I did tally the errors along the way but I dont know the weight of each part. On some, missing one puts the child in a lower category! On some others, you can miss several and its not scored as harshly. Its not up to me at any rate. Im so glad its over. Now for the next 7 weeks to go, which will probably go by very quickly.

Yesterday it took me 45 minutes and 42 miles to get to my daughters apartment! I helped with the girls and helped unpack boxes and boxes, lined shelves, and just helped in general. Its a lovely apartment with 3 bedrooms and 2 baths. My son in law says its so nice that hes thinking of cancelling the house and just staying put! My daughter says not on your life! It was a long day but I was thrilled that I could help them get settled. They close on the house theyve sold tomorrow and on the one theyve bought May 1st.

I went to Beaumont today with my youngest sister. Heres a recap of the bad episode Friday night with my mother. She was pale and listless after dinner and needed help getting back to her room. The nurse took her blood pressure and it was 260/190. They called 3 of my sisters, 2 of whom came right away. They didnt take her to the hospital, though. One sister indicated that they had so its hard to get 8 emails in a short period of time and get all the right information. Another sister said her speech was slurred and she was having some trouble retrieving words so the little sister and I went to visit today. She seemed fine and was in a good mood. Several residents and 3 nurses stopped in to check on hershe is very well liked!! Thanks for the sweet things youve all said and for the prayers. This has been a rough beginning of the year for her and for my sisters and me.

Michele, you are a wonderful daughter, wife, and mother. That your daughter cant see that and acts so immature and rude to you is HER fault. I wish there was something we could all say or do to help you. Maybe with her leaving, it will give you some peace. I hope your pool visit was good today. I got home too late to go to my water aerobics class.

Brenda, the drive to see my mother this morning only had light rain but the one home had torrential downpours with more slated all week. I thought of you when my sister asked to stop at Sonic for a drinkmocha something or other! It was like Starbucks Mocha Frappachino!

MaryAnn, is your husband sick with something specific, or just exacerbating some of the issues he has already? Im so sorry hes not well. Its hard on the spouses, too. I hope your TaiChi will be good day! Good for you cleaning out your closets. I have 3 sizes of clothes and keep them all. I seem to fluctuate so much and 5 pounds on me means I have to go up a size!

Wow, Bonnie.you must be a fabulous baker! Im glad your cookies were such a success. Im glad you had a good turnout and a good time at the Gala.

Doris, yes, I will always have sweet memories of our times together. She loves her girls very much.

Tomorrow starts another busy week. I hope everyone is doing well. Thank you all for the sweet comments and good thoughts for my mother. Shes 94 and I hope she will be with us longer!

Mary


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Bonnie how wonderful. Your cookies must be really spectacular.

I have been struggling for while and the scale is really showing it. I am in a challenge and tracking everyday which will help. Sometimes it seems that I cannot have much of the foods I really love and so occasionally I go off track. I love Thai food but it is too full of fats and salt. I had some noodles the other night and I am now struggling to get back down.

DH is still sick and I am concerned. I am trying to arrange to meet up with Dale next weekend, I hope he is doing better.

Everyone have great start to the new week.

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BONNIE she leaves next Sunday for a job with a japanese Co. called "FCC" in Larinburg, N.C. I am so sad.... Not only will I miss her, but I just can't for the life of me figure out how she became the way she did. I think her going to BSU (Boise State Unvi.) has a alot to do with her thinking. That, & the spoiled college over here she went to. The mental abuse is so awful! But I am glad that I am experiencing it rather than anyone else----b/c I would NEVER, EVER, want anone else! to go through this, not my worst enemy! I am not perfect. None of us are. If we could all have a 2nd chance, I'm sure we would all go back & redo some things over again. I am NOT an abusive parent, not physically or mentally. I have hit my kids yes, once too many times, like my dad did, but I know as I stand before God as my witness, that I did the very best with what God gave me. That is all the love & care that I gave her FAR OUTWEIGHS any negative thing. I think most adults can say this to be true.

I am ok today. I am going to go to the pool. We all have something in our lives that is very hard to deal with. I am so sorry for you for all that you have been through withall of the deaths of your loved ones. So see, we do all have somthing.

At least when Annie leaves next sunday, the stress will be out of my life. I won't have to face the abuse anymore. I am just sad that not only that I may never see her again for along, time, but that she is the way she is.

Thank you for your understanding. It means a lot to me! emoticon


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Oh MICHELE I am so sorry your daughter is so cruel. I am hoping that she will be leaving very soon. God Bless

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BONNIE young or not----I am ready to go on to a betterlife.

Dolphins are washing up on the shores up north. I have heard before that they do this before a big earthquake, that their sensors go wacky. The news & sesmic people keep reportinghere that within the next 20 years or so, that there is a 70% chance that Tokyo will have a devastating earthquake, with at least 2 million dying.

At 54 years, I am ready to go. I am not on a death wish at all. No, no. But after the Sunday I had yesterday, & being told what a physically & mentally abusive parent I am, I am ready for some real peace. I wish my dad were here, b/c I was told yesterday that I was just like him. Well, SHE doesn't realize what a GREAT man he was, faults & all. I wish he were here & could give me a real hug. DH is so uspet with HER from yesterday that all he is doing is going around saying,"Lfie sucks!" He is so upset for me, but being in the middle of all of this, likeme, he is at wits end of what to do.

I am off to the pool. Maybe it will help me calm down some.

And thank you for callingme young! emoticon

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We are getting a Sonic burger joint here soon. I have never heard of them. I have lived out of the big cities since we moved in 2001. I guess the big city is coming to us.

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I think you are just too young. How many times do you hear that? LOL


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there was an A& W restaurant, however, that I do remember! but it was not a drive-in the few times that I went

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Around our area here in Toledo, the "car hop" restaurant that I remember the most was the A&W. Their specialty was Root Beer and hot dogs.

I actually think that Michelle is just enough younger than me that they were gone by her time. I think they had them in Detroit as well.

MARIELLE

Hope your knee is better. I know that kind of pain for sure. Your friend sounds like a very determined person. She seems quit "spunky". good for her.

MARY

Prayers for your mom, have a good visit tomorrow.

BRENDA

I love the story about your resident cats. You are so right, the can be little teases. My girl really is a lot of comfort to me. She does spend a lot of time on my lap. She would lay on my lap in bed too, but it hurts my knees, so she has her own spot beside me. LOL

The night that Brielle spent the night, she was in Sophie's spot, and Soph was none too happy about it. When we went to sleep, Brielle went to the couch, so she got her spot back.

I had a lovely time at the Gala tonight. My friend Debbie bought a Keurig coffeemaker with a lot of coffee for a very good price.

Amy won the 50/50 raffle, it was $151.00. I was happy for her. Her finances are a bit like mine, sometimes kind of iffy.

I did not bid on anything myself. But, my cookies went for $50.00. My friend Jason came over to me and said, he had been bidding on them, but when they got to $50.00 he had to quit. I was very happy that they made that much money.There were 80 cookies, and I had put a reserve on them of $25.00, so I was thrilled with fifty!

They are not terribly expensive to make, maybe $10.00 depending on what you pay for the butter, but they are quit a lot of work.

DORIS

The Sonics do not have the charm of the older drive ins. Not as good of food either.

We had the hot car thing too. If I am remembering correctly, I think they had nights for the guys to show off their fancy cars. Brought in a lot of teens.

MARY ANN

Sorry your hubby is so sick. Hope he recovers quickly Glad you enjoyed your walk, and hope your tai chi was great.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend all


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Mary, I am glad for your mom.

Mary Ann, sorry your DH is ill. Hope he gets better soon.

Doris, I too remember the 50's and drive in eating places: we had Bob's Big Boy, a McDonald's across the street and would cruise Central Avenue in Phoenix. There was a Sonic as well.

Brenda, hope your weather is kind to you.

Michele hope your Sunday is enjoyable.



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MARY ANN hope your DH is better, soon! Cleaning is so therapeutic for me!

Have a good weekend, all!

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Mary that is good news about your mom. It is very disconcerting to see her become more frail.

Brenda hope the weather is settling down

There were wonderful drive-in restaurants when I was growing up and we would have a great time with the food off the tray. Not too many around here and I am not sure I have seen a SONIC nearby. What we are seeing in the area are expensive gourmet hamburger places.

The DH is still sick so we are having a quiet weekend. I am not sure he is going to be over it before Tuesday or Wednesday.

I did get out for a nice walk this morning, I am planning to an hour of Tai Chi also. I am going through the closets and clearing out the old clothes. I have been hanging on to some larger sizes that I haven't worn in 2 years. I am just a bit concerned about the maintenance. Also I am running out of room in the closet. I am going to go through a couple of storage bins in the garage. I have a tendency to keep things for sentimental reasons rather than useful.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend

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MARY that IS great news about your mom! Only God will decide what is next! I hope you don't have to work so hard today!

BRENDa I do not remember those kind of drive-in restaurants. I have only seen them on "Happy Days" sitcom series.

Today, Sunday, is our only nice day before the rain comes back tomorrow. Lots of errands to run!

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Mary,. that's great news that your mother is better today. Yes, it does sound as though your mother may not be expecting to live much longer. That will be a happy memory for you to have when she is gone. Hope your trip tomorrow is good and that the rain waits until you get back home.

Brenda, the drive-inns around here were called things like "Milk Bucket", "Dairy Land", and our favorite-"Chathams" back in the late 50's. When we were dating, we went there after going to a movie and got something to drink while we visited with some of DH's friends who frequented the place and harassed the waitresses. There would usually be several single guys showing off their spotless "hot" cars. The Sonics in our area are all drive-in now, but there's no tray--only a sack with your fast food in it.


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Mary, such great news about your mom. We are having rain storms, thunder and lightning over the weekend. So far no snow so keeping my fingers crossed that it will stay in the mountains. It is not so cold this morning.

Try not to work so hard, I am sure you will be busy with the twins.

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Thank you so very much for your prayers....they worked!! I am so grateful to get a text from sister #4 around 8:30. She took Mama to the hospital and her BP came down from 250/something to 126/110. She recognized my sister then and was talking normally. The doctor doesn't think she had a stroke so we are all so grateful. I will go see her tomorrow even though it's a 70% chance of rain. Ugh! I hate driving in the rain but I want to see her. We had a sweet but very brief conversation on Thursday night and she told me how excited she was the night I was born. It was so touching and looking back, I wondered if maybe it was a 'goodbye' conversation. I hate that she's getting so frail. Even on her 94th birthday she wasn't as frail as she is now, 4 months later.

I have an extremely busy day and will be helping my daughter most of it. Hugs to all, and thank you again for your prayers.

Mary

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Michele, I am not talking about drive in movies but drive in restaurants. Now they have drive through places and you have to leave the parking lot. The drive in restaurants, you drove in and parked and a girl on roller skates would come to your car and take your order, then bring it back on a tray and hang the tray on the partially rolled up window. Occasionally a tray would fall off and spill everywhere. They mostly served burgers, fries and milkshakes and pop. They also had a little call box on a post that you could call them if you wanted to order something else. So much fun. On Saturday nights we would cruise through the parking lot around the building and then go cruising down the main street.

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I visited my friend this afternoon. She is still very active even scooting around on her chair-she also has arm crutches and a walker with arms added for stability. This will be her 3rd knee replacement. The first one wound up being a class action suit so it was replaced and not this one-her kneecap is crushed but as long as it isn't chronic infection things should go well. She was diagnosed when she was 9 years old with rheumatoid arthritis.

Mary, sorry about your DD being further away. I am sorry about your mom. I hope she is okay. I will keep her in my prayers.

Brenda, I hope you only get rain where you are--no snow.

Michele, Charlie is fine--it was me and my left knee which I really stressed out while doing all the moving, carrying things and all the cleaning. My steps increased but I was so exhausted each day, my whole routine got sidetracked. I'm trying to get back into my routine and hopefully my knees will "calm down" and get better.

Take care all..

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BONNIE yes, do enjoy your gala this weekend! Cats are such cozy pets sometimes, aren't they?!

MARY I too, am sending prayers your way . Hope your mom's BP does come down It is such a scary, stressful thing.

BRENDA I don't remember drive-ins on roller skates, but I do remember drive-ins! I first saw "CHarlie & the Chocolate Factory" there at one! We used to go to them now & thenback in the 60's if we were all goodgirls!

I hope your storm isn't too big

I am off to Tokyo to teach English now. The rain has temporairly stopped The news said that Apirl was a new record of the most lack of sunshine days since the record system first was started!

Michele in Yokohama, Japan


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