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KOLEAWA
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11/8/12 9:27 P

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Coraline I have noticed people are kind of territorial around here! But maybe that is ok. It is nice to have a place to "talk" with people who have similar goals! emoticon


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CORALINE01
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11/8/12 6:41 P

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you are so right on about the "i just stop eating- it's not that complicated" thing! they are sooo annoying. i do like the idea about allowing only certain bmi's and that is exactly what sparks has done, you should need to lose 100 pounds to be in this very support group! i never looked at it like that before.

i had a question that could only be answered by maintainers/ goal reachers. so i joined one of "their" chat rooms. boy did i get some crappy comments and responses, like i was invading "their" territory. you do not imagine this stuff.

Marriage isn’t like a tray of hors d'oeuvres. You can’t just pick what you fancy; you’ve got to take the lot or nothing. – Cary Grant, The Grass Is Greener

“Fairy tales, are more than true. Not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be defeated.” — G.K. Chesterton


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11/8/12 12:15 A

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there is definitely tons of support here. Have you signed up for our holiday challenge if not and if you are interested let me know and i will give you more information. :)

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KOLEAWA
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11/8/12 12:10 A

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Thanks! I think you are right about talking to people about who they are inviting. I just don't want to be the one to exclude people. You are probably right about going it alone for right now. And I am getting support here which helps!


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GAS_SAG
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11/7/12 11:55 P

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I have never had any major issues with that but then again the groups I have joined have restrictions on bmi's and that kind of thing. I would say just keep at it on your own or find out who is inviting them to come and talk to that person. ... You have every right to state your opinion and just tell them how you feel and that sometimes it is not that straight forward if you want to do it the right way! :) You can do it and if you have to find a new group that will support you better!

*** Sharleen *** Motivational captain 30 something challenge

The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends, red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family. You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination, an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, a driver called Jesus, you will make it to a place called Success.


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KOLEAWA
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11/7/12 9:24 P

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Does anyone else have trouble finding local weight loss buddies because they feel like they have more weight to lose than everyone around them? I don't even like people to know when I am trying to lose weight because I end up with "helpful" advice from people who have like 10 pounds to lose.

I am feeling really discouraged right now because a few friends and I started supporting each other in our weightloss at the start of the school year (we are homeschool moms). We started a facebook group and it started to grow. Originally we were all ladies who had a lot of weight to lose. But as more people were invited we ended up with ladies who had just a few pounds to lose. Some of them were trying to lose about the amount I would lose in maybe a month. I lost interest in the group and left.

The same thing happened last new year. We got a group together that was going to go out once a month for a light meal and support each other in our weight loss and pretty soon there were women joining in who didn't really even look like they needed to lose weight. Some of them would make coments like. "When I need to lose weight I just stop eating for a couple weeks" or "I just cut back on calories for a couple months, it isn't that complicated"

These comments make me feel uncomfortable and embarassed since obviously I am quite overweight. It didn't seem to bother some of the other heavy ladies as much as me though. So maybe I am just being too thin skinned?

Anyone else dealt with this? Any ideas for becoming more comfortable losing weight with others who don't have as far to go? I would love some face to face support but always end up feeling so bad.


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