There is 2 sides to this coin. I personally allow myself 1 day per week where I treat it as a free day, yes I still try to keep it within my calories but if I don't that is ok too. This will allow for going out 1 day per week. On the other hand it is perfectly ok to talk to everyone and just let them know what is going on in advanced. This too will eliminate any conflict. :) There is no right or wrong answer to any questions.
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Good luck with the talk and working it out with the in-laws. I personally would rather let someone read my diary than let them know I'm trying to lose weight, so if you're similarly minded, would it help to use code words, like "paying attention to portion size"?
I feel your pain, somewhat vicariously. My BIL is doing Weight Watchers and my MIL (his mother) was always on him to calculate his points, and she also said to everyone at the table that the breakfast she was serving was VERY HEALTHY and GOOD FOR [BIL] to eat. Jeez, give it a rest!
Another thing: it might be hard to swallow this, but if she or anyone comments on your food, that's almost always about them.
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I understand completely!! I recently learned that my mother-in-law was adding sugar to her "steamed corn" that she was making. Just frozen sweet corn that she steamed in the microwave, but she added almost 2 TBS of sugar to about 1 1/2 c. of corn!!!! She has also been adding extra oil to the pasta and extra cheese to boxed macaroni and cheese. All these things she adds to food adds extra calories. She doesn't see the problem because she is still losing weight. Well when you skip meals completely and only eat once a day but consume 1200 calories in that one meal it isn't going to make much difference. I have already eaten about 800-1000 calories in a day before we go over there, that is a big sabotage for me!! DH is not happy that I am cooking fewer portions overall, but he will have to deal with it, lol.
That is difficult to deal with. I am working on losing weight. My husband needs to as well, but is one of those men with the attitude that he is going to eat what he wants and doesn't care what anyone says. It makes it difficult for me because I sometimes get similar comments from him. When I tell him, "If I want to lose weight I have to cut back", his response is some version of "Why, you were the same size when we got married(12 yrs ago), you know I love you no matter your weight." He doesn't get that I'm not trying to do this 'for him', I'm doing this for me because I am quickly closing in on 40 and I just don't want to be this size for the rest of my life.
What kills me is that night I set out my portions on my plate (wasn't much, she made pigs in a blanket and baked beans) and she actually said "is that all you're eating?", as if I had done something wrong.
I think openly mentioning your goals is a great idea. I've had to do that with some of my friends especially when we have late night Dennys or Steak n' Shake after their concerts, but now that they know they're even more aware of what they're eating. =)
I agree that one portion is better than a lot. I would also talk to throne laws and let them know you're working on losing weight. I have that problem with my in laws. They finally got the message, and they know I'm not going to eat like i used to. They've been understanding and even supportive
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