I am very sorry that you are having to do deal with this, however you, like myself have done it to yourself. I do not mean that in a bad way it simply
how it is. The good thing is once we realize we are responsible for the situation it SHOULD allow us to see we have the power to change it.
Now that's the tricky part because it seems FAR easier to get into this situation than it does to get out.
You should know how you got here...little to know exercise, eating the wrong foods ETC just like I should...but looking in the mirror its hard to shoulder the responsibility.
Perhaps you have food issues like I do and a lot of the time the food gets the best of us
I have been diagnosed with an eating disorder (binge eating) and I know that I have food addiction. Now my problem might not be as bad as say a drug addict or alcoholic in the eyes of society but to people like us the fight is equally as hard. Maybe this is you maybe not.
The secret answer is....THERE ARE NO SECRET ANSWERS!!!! The sooner we get on board with that the better off we will be. No Pill..No Book...No Equipment...No magic BS is going to help us take the pounds off...proper diet, and by diet I mean what we consume not some convoluted idea someone has come up with... we NEED to eat what you should..stay way from stuff that is not healthy for us and exercise any way that we can. The traditional route of exercise is available to us, but so its swimming and tai chi and a variety of other things. People like to say they don't have time to exercise..Bull****
if someone cannot fit 5 minutes into their day to exercise they are a liar...but not to me...to themselves. See it doesn't matter to me what people can do or not do, no excuse they come up with effects my life in ANY way shape or form..Just like any excuse or way I justify eating Burger King or Pizza is going to effect anyone else but me. Its so very easy to trick yourself into believing the lies we tell ourselves "well you have not eaten much today so you can have those burgers" or
well you are allowed XXXX amount of calories a day what difference does it make if you eat them now or spread them out.
The side of us who just wants to satisfy that craving and urge is a silver tongued devil and will tell us whatever we need to hear in order to get its way
We will not win every battle we are going to lose some of them because we are human, but if we don't give up and keep trying and take responsibility for our actions we CAN win the war.
I cannot tell you how to do this for yourself, we are all different...what works for me might not work for you...who knows..I do not believe in following any "slick" diet plans or joining any organizations that "help" you lose weight.
I am not bashing them...too each their own, I just don't think that its good for us to rely on someone else in order to succeed. In the night...in the dark....its only going to be us fighting this fight and WE need to find a way to be strong and stand on our own, its good to have help but I do not think we should EVER rely on anyone else because they will always let us down, it wont be intentional but it WILL happen. Either people will get wrapped up in their own lives and not have time, which is understandable. What if money gets tight and we can no longer afford the personal trainer or gym membership, or cannot afford the dues that are required? What then? Are they going to allow us to come for free? Its not very likely. I have run into some situations where people have reached out and allowed me to attend stuff for little to no money (Tai Chi lessons) but that is the exception NOT the rule. We must become strong and self reliant. Its tough, it hurts..it sucks but it has to be done and we WILL find a way to master ourselves and our life if we but try.
Cant afford to go to the gym? Thats fine get out and walk..even if its only for 5 minutes a day everyday...whats 5 minutes? its nothing. We can use stuff from the grocery store as "weights" canned food....2 liter bottles filled with water...use the imagination...create a customized plan that is all our own
Sit down and figure out what you want to accomplish and what tools you have to get there and start with that, don't worry about the rest we will figure it out as you go.
There are plenty of free websites out there for us with exercises we can do sitting down in a chairs...sparkpeople is a GREAT resource we just have to tap into it and really use it. But there are others out there as well should we hit a road block.
These are my thoughts and my ideas..nothing more if it doesn't make sense to you or does not work for you thats fine..just ignore them...its ok....really :) DO what is right for YOU!!!! We are all in the same battle together but our tactics will differ from time to time. The bottom line is and I really don't give a rats behind what anyone says...proper nutrition and exercise are the only 2 tools you need. If we are eating right and getting some form of exercise the weight WILL come off..it might be slow...it might be hard but it will. I see so many people saying they are doing everything they can and its still not coming off...I have said that myself...its BS....if we really were doing all we could the weight would come off...obviously if its not then we are not doing all that we can. And that's a personal choice...if someone wants to lie to themselves or fool themselves its their choice and I respect it...as i said it impacts my life in no way shape or form..I struggle just like everyone else and I know their pain but if someone is not willing to help themselves there is nothing I or anyone else can do for them..we all MUST want to help ourselves before we can begin.
I hope my words helped....like everyone else says YOU CAN DO THIS!!! It might seem impossible...but pick a place and just start...it doesn't matter what it is...just start....walk for 5 minutes a day....cut out soda...cut out this or that...journal....write down what food you are eating...just do SOMETHING...anything is better than nothing...I really don't listen to people who say "oh yes you have to do this..this and this or you aren't doing anything"
you know what them blow it out their tail pipe...that works for them...and that's fine..FOR THEM....don't let someone else tell YOU what works for you :) you can figure it out and do it..you..and I..but need try :)
" Taking ACTION is the ultimate power of Motivation. Nothing beats it, period."
Do not stop enjoying the wonders of life despite the inevitable hurting that impairs our soul. Hence, it does not make you less of a person when you weep in tears and are in distress. Nonetheless, learn to withstand the stings of time; rise on your feet for no one can ever bring back the soul in you and the beauty of life except you, and you and you."
| Pounds lost: 94.0