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I'm just the opposite. I love to be by myself and I do best when I'm on my own. When I have to deal with other people--their schedules, what/where they want to eat, parties where i want to drink so I can be more social--that's when I screw up.

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All your ideas are great. I'm definitely going to look at why I feel I need to eat/binge when I'm by my self. I know it's not because I'm hungry. Hmmmm am I brave enough to look that deep. I love the support I get here!

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9/29/08 3:45 P

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I'm the same way. Friends tell me that their downfall is eating out- Not here! If I'm out where people see me, I'm much better, b/c I know (or think, anyways) that people notice what a fat girl eats. At home, especially alone, is where I fall into the overeating pit. And I mean binge, not just an extra snack. I'm really wanting to beat this. You can do it!

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9/29/08 2:38 P

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are we just talking about an extra snack or two or are we talking about a binge?
I think PWDRKEG12 had some really good suggestions. If you are like me, I track everything, and find it takes more energy to list what I pop in my mouth than it does to simply not eat it.
I can see how easy it is to binge as I have done before so many times...and its a sneaky beast. You might have not had a craving to binge in months and then it rears its ugly head and you just want to eat and eat even though you know its not hunger.
I think everyone has great advice on what to do when you want to eat. One thing I would suggest though, especially if this is a binging issue, is to think about WHY we are eating. It's something that goes along with tracking food. When you snack, log why you are snacking. When we are eating and we're not hungry, why do we do it? We cant say its socializing because we are by ourselves.
I have caught myself standing in the kitchen, away from everyone else gorging myself. I hid it from others because i was ashamed and knew my wife would say "honey, you just ate a fudge pop and a twinkie, why are you still eating?"
If we are not hungry ask why am i eating? am I bored, mad, sad. Write down the snack, the time you ate it. How you were feeling b4 and after you ate the snack. You might find that certain feelings make you eat accordingly. This might sound like a lot of work and you'd think its simply easier to just snack, but if you really have a problem with it,its worth the time to try and figure out why we really eat. Binging is a disorder and an addiction and sometimes you might need to seek counseling to try and figure this out.



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9/29/08 2:34 P

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are we just talking about an extra snack or two or are we talking about a binge?
I think PWDRKEG12 had some really good suggestions. If you are like me, I track everything, and find it takes more energy to list what I pop in my mouth than it does to simply not eat it.
I can see how easy it is to binge as I have done before so many times...and its a sneaky beast. You might have not had a craving to binge in months and then it rears its ugly head and you just want to eat and eat even though you know its not hunger.
I think everyone has great advice on what to do when you want to eat. One thing I would suggest though, especially if this is a binging issue, is to think about WHY we are eating. It's something that goes along with tracking food. When you snack, log why you are snacking. When we are eating and we're not hungry, why do we do it? We cant say its socializing because we are by ourselves.
I have caught myself standing in the kitchen, away from everyone else gorging myself. I hid it from others because i was ashamed and knew my wife would say "honey, you just ate a fudge pop and a twinkie, why are you still eating?"
If we are not hungry ask why am i eating? am I bored, mad, sad. Write down the snack, the time you ate it. How you were feeling b4 and after you ate the snack. You might find that certain feelings make you eat accordingly. This might sound like a lot of work and you'd think its simply easier to just snack, but if you really have a problem with it,its worth the time to try and figure out why we really eat. Binging is a disorder and an addiction and sometimes you might need to seek counseling to try and figure this out.



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9/29/08 12:00 P

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I struggle, too! When I am with my boyfriend, I eat perfectly and monitor myself. But when I am alone - especially running errands where there are drive-thrus - I ultimately overeat and give in to temptation. I hate it.

There are some great suggestions in here!!!! Now I need to find a craft/hobby :)

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9/29/08 11:24 A

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A few things that work for me are:
Keeping a food diary every day that I show someone else. It really helps keep me accountable -- I think twice before I eat something because I know I am going to have to record it and own up to it
Posting my motivators, why I decided to eat right and exercise, on my fridge. When I get in that mindless eating mode, I forget why I started this in the first place. Seeing those in black and white gives me pause and helps me get back into a good frame of mind
Exercising. I hate, hate, HATE exercising, but I have also seen the results. When I am obsessing on eating something, I drag my fat rear off the couch, throw on my tennis shoes, and start walking. Every time, by the time I get back, the craving has passed. And I know I've burned off some calories.
And probably the biggest one for me: forgive myself if I do give in and make a bad choice on what I ate. In the past, as soon as I fell off the diet wagon, I said, "See, I can't do this, it's too hard, I quit!" and then I bagged the whole plan. This time, when I do make a bad food choice, I catch myself, I analyze what triggered it, I come up with a plan to address that trigger the next time, and I move on. I am not going to do this perfectly -- if I expect to, I am setting myself up for failure, you know?

I still have a long way to go (I lost 18.5 pounds before I found SparkPeople), but one day at a time, I'm going to get there.

Good for you for sharing your trigger, and keep on keeping on.

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9/29/08 10:02 A

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I have troubles with this too. If no one sees me, it doesn't count. Until I get on the scale of course... When I'm alone in the house that is the worst time ever. This coming weekend will be tough. My kids will be with their dad for the weekend, my husband will be in the field (it's harvest season for famers in MN) and I'll be home. I've got plans of what to do, so hopefully I can stick with them!

Success is just around the corner for the person who refuses to quit.

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9/29/08 9:45 A

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you guys are awesome. i too worry about being alone. it helps to know that there are others like me and the suggestions are great. i struggle while at work not so much at home where i am so busy with kids and such. at work i sit at desk all day and i tend to just want to snack all day long. i have found gum helps a whole lot.

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9/28/08 2:11 A

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A lot of times, thinking about how much the "grazing" will set me back stops me. Think in terms of how many minutes of cardio that food will cost you. It's also a good strategy with money. If you have a problem over-indulging in the credit cards or impulse buying, think about the item in terms of how many hours you have to work to pay for it. Stops me in my tracks some days!

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9/28/08 12:33 A

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I struggle with the same issue. I live alone so when I get lonely and/or bored, unfortunately I use food to keep me company. I'm learning to find other ways to occupy my time, cleaning, reading a book and when all else fells - GET OUT THE HOUSE!!!

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9/27/08 10:20 P

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i'm good or bad either way. I'm good at home alone or not, but I'm horrible on my own eating out.

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9/27/08 12:29 P

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If I'm alone, I can be nearly perfect. It's when I get around others that I eat (well if they are, I might as well).
For me, if I'm alone, I'm either reading or on my bowflex or playing a video game or outside watering or just sitting on the porch reading or playing cards or something like that.
And I've always always always got a bottle of water beside me.


A man never likes you so well as when he leaves your company liking himself. --Anonymous

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9/26/08 4:31 P

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Sweet I'm gonna try that too! LOL

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I like that idea on the crunches swingcat.

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I actually had to march myself out of the kitchen no less than six times yesterday. Finally I just left the house and went shopping (mostly window shopping) just so I could feel like I was doing something!! I guess we're in the same boat as it were. My son and husband aren't around and suddenly I feel like I could eat a whale. Not good! But we CAN and we WILL beat this!!

Tomorrow..lol...I've decided every time I open the fridge for no good reason (ie its time to actually eat, or I'm thirsty) I am going to make myself do 10 crunches. If nothing else my abs will get a better workout than my fridge door for once!

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9/26/08 3:27 P

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Thanks for your support and suggestions. I'll give a shout out if I get crazy!

Our greatest glory consist not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall~~~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood ... And I took the one less traveled by And that has made all the difference ~~~Robert Frost



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9/26/08 2:38 P

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On the peppermint part brushing your teeth is good too. Nothing tastes worse then eating right after brushing your teeth.

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9/26/08 2:28 P

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Lots of good suggestions here.

Definately keeping busy helps. I do arts and crafts, so when I get involved in one of my projects,
half the night is gone before I realize it.

Also, I keep gum around the house. Everywhere. Very pepperminty gum. It helps keep my mouth busy til the craving (or boredom) passes, plus the peppermint makes anything I might want to eat taste bad.

One other thing, sometimes at night I'll have a cup of decaf coffee. It fills me up and I'm too full to eat anything.

Good luck!
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9/26/08 1:47 P

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I have difficulty with this on a daily basis. I don't have a husband or kids to watch over me and critique what enters my mouth. When I make a good choice, I realize that I am doing this for ME. When I am thinking of making a not so good choice, I weigh the options(no pun intended). Will this affect my progress? Is it really worth the 2 seconds that I am eating it? How much exercise will I need to do to burn this off? After I have asked myself these questions, I am usually on to something else, like doing crunches or push ups. I remember a friend telling me that every time she wants chocolate, she makes herself do her most hated exercise, whether it be jumping jacks or crunches. After she has completed the exercise, she reevaluates and usually decides that its not worth the pain for that piece of chocolate. Good luck and remember that we are here for you!!!

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Try keeping busy. Can't overeat if you're talking to us.

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You have to find ways to keep yourself busy and distracted. If nothing else logging onto the sparkpeople boards can help, but really the best way to deal with it is to take the time you are alone and get active. Find something physical to do to get you up and moving. It will keep you out of the fridge and it will burn calories. A double benefit!

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I'm going to have to deal with this very thing this evening. My girls will be with their father for the weekend and I'm not looking forward to being all alone all night long. I am very tempted to just eat to my little heart's content, but I know I shouldn't and really can't do that! Instead I intend to keep myself busy. If I'm feeling particularly weak, I know I have sparkfriends here who I can count on to keep me accountable. Keep your body and mind otherwise occupied and you can overcome it.


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What's wrong with me!! I can't trust my self to be alone. When no ones around I want to over eat. It's like calories don't count if no one sees me put them in my mouth. It's nuts, everything else is going great but the alone time. Any suggestions!!

Our greatest glory consist not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall~~~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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