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7/28/14 4:05 P

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Well said!!! And you voiced thoughts exactly as I have had them myself! I lost 60lbs last year, and it was on an extreme doctor supervised diet. When I decided to stop that extreme weight loss, and instead make my own decisions, and not knowing how, I gained back 15lbs. Not bad considering, but all I see are the 15lbs that I gained back, and how my dresser is now full of pants that are too tight. And I want to fit into them. And I have had the same thought of if I would buy pants based on fit instead of size, I would be so much happier. But that is a story too, the reality is that we have been imprinted with the need to fit into single digit sizes, and it is hard to accept that we can look good even if we wear a larger size. But we probably do!

Another story is that we will feel confident and pretty when we can fit into those smaller sizes, but the reality is that even when we can fit into those sizes, we will still see the imperfections. And that just plain sucks!

JEFFSCOGIRL's Photo JEFFSCOGIRL Posts: 24
7/12/14 12:24 P

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Story: I didn't meet my fitness goals this week. I failed.

Reality: I was much more physically active this week than I have been in the past. And walking 20 minutes instead of 30 does not equal failure.

Dear LORD why do we put such pressure on ourselves? I definitely need to work on positive self talk!!!

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7/10/14 11:27 A

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Story: There's no reason for me to gain weight on vacation. We'll bring all the supplies camping. Maybe I'll even lose weight!

Reality: I lost weight on vacation once ever. It's harder to figure out good, vegan, wheat-free meals while camping and staying with others. I may gain a little and that's pretty okay under the circumstances.

Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.


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JEFFSCOGIRL's Photo JEFFSCOGIRL Posts: 24
7/9/14 9:19 A

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Ohmygosh that's the story I tell myself ALL the time!!!

Story: I've been eating terribly for the two weeks I was on vacation. When I get home I'm going to eat veggies and fruit and 5lbs will just FALL off.

Reality: A) I didn't eat that great before I left, B) pounds don't fall anywhere. ever., C) Reversing the damage I've done to my body will take twice as long to repair as it did to do the actual damage in the first place, BUT it's totally worth the work.

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6/22/14 10:11 A

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Story: It's a party! I should indulge a little. Seriously, when's the next chance I'll have to enjoy cake and pizza and beer.

Reality: There is always a reason for a party. My life is a party. When there are 3-4 parties a week, that's not a special occasion, that's a diet! I need to find other ways to celebrate with people. No one is going to be offended if I skip a piece of their kids 4th birthday party cake.

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5/30/14 11:06 A

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Excellent advice! Thanks!

Story: I don't want to stretch before my walk because the kink in my back will work itself out while I walk.

Reality: I'm getting OLD and need to stretch before I walk now. Yikes.

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THE_SHAKESHAFT's Photo THE_SHAKESHAFT SparkPoints: (120,401)
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5/30/14 1:11 A

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Set yourself small goals which are easier to achieve. These small goals quickly add up to big ones!!

I'm similar in the way my mind quickly escalates thoughts about this sort of thing.

Life is for living!

Don't let yourself down.


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JEFFSCOGIRL's Photo JEFFSCOGIRL Posts: 24
5/29/14 10:04 P

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During my walk this morning, I started to think about fitness and, like many of us, started to make grand plans of how I'm going to completely revamp my ENTIRE life in TWO SHORT WEEKS.
And then I'll be skinny and beautiful and intelligent and funny and everyone will like me.

Yeah...things escalate quickly when I'm left to my own devices...

But in all seriousness, I really did start to think about ways to move forward with my fitness and my quest to be Healthy COgirl. I thought about how I really need to start going to the gym and lifting weights, because I know that building muscle is key to being healthy and losing my love handles. And somehow, I started to tell myself that if I don't start going to the gym, that I'll NEVER lose weight. That's the story my brain tried to sell.

But the REALITY of my situation is that I have been basically sedentary for the last 6 months. And the fact that I've walked for at least 30 minutes a day for the last four days in a row is a HUGE success that should be at least acknowledged if not celebrated.

So here's how I look at it:

Story: I need to go to the gym - walking alone won't help me lose weight
Reality: Lifting weights would help, but just being more active every day is at least a step in the right direction.

Here's another one:
Story: If I lose 20 lbs, I'll look so much better in my clothes.
Reality: If I would stop trying to fit into clothes that are too small for me, I'd probably look so much better in my clothes. Losing weight might help me feel better about what I see in the mirror, but the size printed in my pants does not dictate how "good" I look.

So, fellow Sparkers - what are the stories and realities you tell yourselves?

Edited by: JEFFSCOGIRL at: 5/29/2014 (22:05)
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