Story: I'm a fitness/weight loss failure if I don't work out.
Reality: I work 7+ days a week (7 (8) hour days + blog a few times a month + another job a couple hours in the evenings a few times a month). Working out can be done - at the expense of me being exhausted and not accomplishing other things around the house (like cleaning or laundry).
I hated to admit that working out was just going to have to go to the wayside for now. I've started doing more activity in my day (like going for a couple mile walk over lunch), and still have my moto riding and racing, but additional workouts just aren't going to happen very often - and you know what?? THAT'S OKAY! I can still lose weight, my fitness isn't going to improve much, but losing the excess weight will help with my energy levels on it's own. And when I'm ready, I can start including more frequent exercise. But it's okay to not do it all!
Story: Losing the weight will be as noticeable to everyone as it is to me.
Reality: Nope. I dressed to cover my fat nicely, other than my pants getting too tight and the lumps I saw under my jacket that so conveniently hid them from the world, other people are NOT noticing. I've lost 14 pounds from my all time high a few months ago, 10 from where I've been hovering for a few years. My friend who I haven't seen in weeks? "You don't look different to me."
Accepting that it's OKAY - because I feel better, my clothes fit better, I don't have to hide things as much....and I'm only halfway there.
Edited by: COONSY at: 8/20/2015 (15:37)
Four wheels move the body, Two wheels move the soul.
Try not, do or do not. There is no try.
Never argue with an idiot - they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
Ohhhh...that's a story I tell myself all. the. time. AND it has a sequel:
Story: It's after work, I've had a long day and I'm exhausted. I'll get up first thing in the morning and work out. What I need to do now is sleep/veg out on the couch.
Reality: If I lay down on that couch, I will get a terrible night of sleep and I won't work out tomorrow morning OR tomorrow afternoon. The only time I can be certain of is right now AND I'll actually feel less tired if I do something physical for 30-45 minutes. I'll sleep better and I'll be healthier.
Story: If I don't work out in the morning, I will just do it later....timing doesn't matter as long as it gets done.
Reality: Dude, I know myself better than anyone. If it's not done in the morning it's not getting done! I can have every intention of working out later but later never comes because I lam the biggest procrastinator lol.
Well said!!! And you voiced thoughts exactly as I have had them myself! I lost 60lbs last year, and it was on an extreme doctor supervised diet. When I decided to stop that extreme weight loss, and instead make my own decisions, and not knowing how, I gained back 15lbs. Not bad considering, but all I see are the 15lbs that I gained back, and how my dresser is now full of pants that are too tight. And I want to fit into them. And I have had the same thought of if I would buy pants based on fit instead of size, I would be so much happier. But that is a story too, the reality is that we have been imprinted with the need to fit into single digit sizes, and it is hard to accept that we can look good even if we wear a larger size. But we probably do!
Another story is that we will feel confident and pretty when we can fit into those smaller sizes, but the reality is that even when we can fit into those sizes, we will still see the imperfections. And that just plain sucks!
Story: There's no reason for me to gain weight on vacation. We'll bring all the supplies camping. Maybe I'll even lose weight!
Reality: I lost weight on vacation once ever. It's harder to figure out good, vegan, wheat-free meals while camping and staying with others. I may gain a little and that's pretty okay under the circumstances.
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
Ohmygosh that's the story I tell myself ALL the time!!!
Story: I've been eating terribly for the two weeks I was on vacation. When I get home I'm going to eat veggies and fruit and 5lbs will just FALL off.
Reality: A) I didn't eat that great before I left, B) pounds don't fall anywhere. ever., C) Reversing the damage I've done to my body will take twice as long to repair as it did to do the actual damage in the first place, BUT it's totally worth the work.
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Story: It's a party! I should indulge a little. Seriously, when's the next chance I'll have to enjoy cake and pizza and beer.
Reality: There is always a reason for a party. My life is a party. When there are 3-4 parties a week, that's not a special occasion, that's a diet! I need to find other ways to celebrate with people. No one is going to be offended if I skip a piece of their kids 4th birthday party cake.
During my walk this morning, I started to think about fitness and, like many of us, started to make grand plans of how I'm going to completely revamp my ENTIRE life in TWO SHORT WEEKS. And then I'll be skinny and beautiful and intelligent and funny and everyone will like me.
Yeah...things escalate quickly when I'm left to my own devices...
But in all seriousness, I really did start to think about ways to move forward with my fitness and my quest to be Healthy COgirl. I thought about how I really need to start going to the gym and lifting weights, because I know that building muscle is key to being healthy and losing my love handles. And somehow, I started to tell myself that if I don't start going to the gym, that I'll NEVER lose weight. That's the story my brain tried to sell.
But the REALITY of my situation is that I have been basically sedentary for the last 6 months. And the fact that I've walked for at least 30 minutes a day for the last four days in a row is a HUGE success that should be at least acknowledged if not celebrated.
So here's how I look at it:
Story: I need to go to the gym - walking alone won't help me lose weight Reality: Lifting weights would help, but just being more active every day is at least a step in the right direction.
Here's another one: Story: If I lose 20 lbs, I'll look so much better in my clothes. Reality: If I would stop trying to fit into clothes that are too small for me, I'd probably look so much better in my clothes. Losing weight might help me feel better about what I see in the mirror, but the size printed in my pants does not dictate how "good" I look.
So, fellow Sparkers - what are the stories and realities you tell yourselves?
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