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10/11/12 6:27 P

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For me I met my goal because I am very competitive. We had a biggest loser contest and I actual won over $300.00. That made it pretty easy to stay "true" to myself. In fact, I lost about 7 lbs too much and ended up having to put some weight back on. My husband made the comment that I was too skinny as did many co-workers.

Now, I just stay within my calorie range and make sure I exercise every day. Even if that exercise is just a walk. It's working for me. You may have to get creative to find motivation.

Good luck.

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10/11/12 5:43 P

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That's an interesting question, Nell. (and it made me laugh!) I am still in touch with most of the guys I worked with. If they were to call me "Legs", I wouldn't mind. But if someone from my current life called me that, I would be offended. I guess because now I would hope people see me as much more than legs. I am heart and mind and soul and health and would do just about anything to help someone with a fitness related issue if I am able. My life is about helping others and being healthy for future generations- not my legs.

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10/11/12 4:26 P

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I have my share of issues, but so far sabotaging my goal isn"t one of them. Currently, I keep wanting to move my goal lower a few lbs. But that is just figuring out the right, sustainable weight for me.

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10/11/12 4:09 P

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I self-sabotage every time I approach goal also. In order to combat this mindset, I have lowered my goal weight. I know it sounds strange, but I feel like it's working. My goal weight was 155 lbs (at this weight I am size 6). In order to trick myself out of psyching out about approaching goal, I lowered my goal weight to 145 lbs. So far so good!

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10/11/12 10:42 A

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Nancyanne, would you be upset if someone who knew you back when you were "Legs" called you that today? I'll be heading to my 45th high school reunion in a couple of days, and we will all be calling each other by the names we used back then. I wouldn't tolerate being called "Green" today, but from people back then it's fine. And Jimmy and Packy and Muffy and Booper will all be called by the names that would be totally inappropriate today, yet that is what we called each other back then. In this one setting, it will be fine.

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10/11/12 5:03 A
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That's interesting, NANCYANNE. Could be because you're more modest now. Maybe it's also actually a positive thing and because you're less willing to accept inappropriate comments from other people. There are compliments that are flattering and spirit lifting and then there are comments that just seem to be made for the sole purpose of making the other person feel uncomfortable. Those are not cool!

My name's Tina. I lost more than 90 pounds between March 2010 and March 2012 and have been keeping if off ever since.

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10/10/12 8:26 P

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TinaJane- I can certainly understand that. I'm an extrovert, at least to the naked eye. :-) The truth is that while people see me as very "out there", the fact is that I prefer to spend most of my time alone with my thoughts. It's just that I'm loud when I am out and about, so that's how people think I am all the time. I wonder if that doesn't help my situation?

I was thin when I was in the Air Force. My nickname was "legs". I was fine with it then. I don't know what happened to me, but it's almost like a breech of my privacy now. Maybe with age I got more modest?

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10/10/12 7:02 P
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I've definitely had that idea of hoping for freedom once I got close to or reached goal in the past and, not surprisingly, I always gained the weight back. I think I've finally accepted my reality that although being at goal means I can loosen up a bit, I'll always need to be careful if I want to avoid going down that road again.

@NANCYANNE, I don't know if I'll ever be comfortable with getting extra attention but I have learned to manage it better than I did 20 or even 10 years ago (getting older helps!). I think hiding behind my weight over the years probably stunted my ability to deal with that kind of thing. I was also incredibly introverted and bookish as a kid and was happiest when no attention was focused on me at all. It's taken me years to really come out of my shell and realize that attention and compliments can be positive are not necessarily things I need to shield myself from.

My name's Tina. I lost more than 90 pounds between March 2010 and March 2012 and have been keeping if off ever since.

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10/10/12 12:00 P

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Agreed, TinaJane. I wonder if we'll ever manage to not be so concerned with it?

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10/10/12 10:26 A

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I remember getting to goal a little differently. Of course I got attention from men I'd never gotten, but it happened gradually as I lost weight and gained confidence. I was married so there was no pressure, just the embarrassment that teens manage to work through but I had never had the chance to learn.

The point is that it didn't happen at a certain weight, it was so gradual that I can't blame fear of goal as a reason. I think the few months it took me to get my mind around goal was really about anticipating the "freedom" I thought would come with goal. At some subliminal level I thought that once I got to my magic goal number I could then eat whatever I wanted and be safe from fat. Publicly I knew that I would be on the Maintenance Plan (an official part of the WW program back then) but privately I had dreamed of being able to eat whatever I wanted and still look the way I wanted. My body and the scale quickly disabused me of that. Once I understood and accepted the reality that I'd be watching what I ate for the rest of my life did I manage to get to goal and stay there.

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10/10/12 9:32 A

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It sounds like most of us work on getting this "goal" weight and maintaining it. I too have sabotaged my maintaining, but I am trying to see what will work for me. I do agree with TINAJANE76 .. for me going back to basics is always a sure thing when the weight goes up.

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10/10/12 8:44 A

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I've over indulged after a weight loss on the scale. I don't know why. Maybe it's a celebration of my accomplishments. I have to really think when I feel like I'm going to do this and try to avoid gaining that lb back.

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10/10/12 7:50 A

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I think I have a different vantage point. Goals are something we strive for and it is just a number. I struggle with maintaining a 2% margin of my target weight. Adjustments of caloric intake and exercise keep me within my margins. We are so accustomed to the "losing weight" mentality that we lose site of why we started the SP program.

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10/10/12 7:41 A
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I second that thought, NANCYANNE! I think when you've spent the bulk of your life feeling unattractive because of your weight, the extra attention you sometimes receive once you get to a normal weight can be difficult to deal with. Carrying around some extra pounds can quite literally be a protective layer and can, consciously or not, help us ward off attention that we're not used to receiving.

My name's Tina. I lost more than 90 pounds between March 2010 and March 2012 and have been keeping if off ever since.

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10/10/12 7:20 A

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I think with me it has something to do with feeling a little vulnerable when the opposite sex pays me an inordinate amount of attention. Despite my midriff-bearing shirt to the left, it tends to feel a little uncomfy in real life.

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10/10/12 7:17 A

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What TinaJane said.

Seriously, I sometimes feel like the queen of self-sabotage. Fear of failure has nothing over fear of success. It took some deep soul searching to understand what I was doing to myself, and little things like looking in the mirror and repeating my affirmations (like "I weigh 140 pounds") has helped. Also, after I started SP, someone started a now buried thread to turn a negative into a positive. That daily practice helped me break out of my pessimistic self-loathing by turning negative thoughts (some jerk cut me off in traffic) to positive ones (if he hadn't slowed me down, I'd have missed news of a traffic jam ahead until it was too late to take an earlier exit). The negative-to-positive quickly became internalized to focus on negative self talk.

Hope this helps. You deserve to reach your goal. You are worthy of happiness and success. Bear TJ's words in mind on the success, because it means continued work, not slacking off, but you've come a long way, so you're clearly not afraid of the work.

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10/10/12 6:20 A
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I had a similar issue not long before I reached my initial goal too. I was up and down for a few months before I finally decided to buckle down and blast through those last few pounds once and for all. I essentially went back to the basics of my program and treated it as if I were in the first few weeks of losing. It worked like a charm and the weight came off pretty quickly. Once I got over that hump and then my initial issues of being a maintainer (being afraid of increasing my calories, the diminishing excitement of fewer compliments and seeing the same numbers on the scale, etc.), things got significantly easier. I use the same strategy when I find myself slipping on maintenance. Going back to the basics usually refocuses and gets me in line again.

My name's Tina. I lost more than 90 pounds between March 2010 and March 2012 and have been keeping if off ever since.

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10/9/12 9:13 P

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Yep. For some reason, being at goal freaks me out a little.

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10/9/12 8:49 P

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Yes, I have. For me, I've been afraid of reaching that goal and what the means. I even struggle with that when I try to reach for the 150s. emoticon

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10/9/12 8:36 P

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In the last two months I have been within a pound or so of my target goal and EVERY time I get that close I manage to backslide (by overeating) and gain a few pounds, so that I have never made my goal. I know that my goal is reasonable and achievable, but I somehow seem to be sabotaging myself. Has anyone else had this problem? Any advice? I need help!

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