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KAYOTIC
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Well, you still gotta have some fun, but, point taken, perhaps the best type of play is the active kind!

I know what you mean about finding inspiration in the strangest places, I've been inspired by church billboards, commercials on TV, a rubber jar opener with a bunch of sayings on it...Yoda! One never knows what will inspire a new way of thinking...

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lol, no no no ... when things were at their worst following mom's death -- and everything else exploded around the same time -- I spend the most four miserable months of my life waking up, eating fast food, letting my moustache grow over my lips and doing nothing but playing world of warcraft. Yeah, I was that guy. Heh, poster child of depression.

So I'm way done with games, lol. But I still remember them ... all my life my games/comics/music would keep me company. And yet I learned far more from them than I ever did all the spiritual reading and study I did. It always fascinated me, hearing wisdom in the most unlikely places...

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I trust you all are aware of studies showing that play is an important part of health in humans? So I think that means keep up w/ those Star Wars games, eh?

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The most life-changing things I read didn't come from any of my zen teachers, not my copious reading in college ... it came from comics books and two monologues in the video game "Star Wars: Knights of the Old Republic 2."

Clearly, I have no cool point at all.

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Watermellen, I don't think it's embarassing. What's fun is fun! How is figuring out how to dress worse than playing LEGO Indiana Jones on a gaming system? ;) (And lemme tell you, lots of FUN!)



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AFter I went from 230 to 150 in 2000-2001 it took me about 5 years to actually get rid of all my size 20s, 18s, 16s, 14s, 12s --

And when I let almost 20 pounds creep back on earlier this year -- so that my 8s (normal size) were too tight and my 10s also getting too tight -- it was in part the determination NOT to buy anything larger than got me motivated to peel it off again.

But: learning to dress is such a great topic because it involves not just smaller sizes but new style decisions -- at 58 I can't dress like 18 no matter what size I am. But also don't want to look "matronly" or "early elderly". Quite the puzzle, and the experimentation is something of a hobby! (How superficial is that . . . . !! Pretty embarrassing to admit, actually).


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I'm just saying ...

"I will be free of my fat pants!"

Bra-burning for the 21st century! :-)

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...and up in flames the fat pants went....

Too funny!

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Ro, that's some serious dedication to the weigh-in pants! One of my previous "upgrades" I was lucky to find a smaller version of my favorite cargos...

...which, after fitting two of me again and having slits around the pockets, I ditched for a new wardrobe. Threw most of my old stuff out. Size 32 jeans (gasp! Was I ever a size 32? Maybe kindergarten? I was wearing 36, originally 58), plenty of shorts, even a stylish hat like so many new orleanian guys wear. I even did color. Yes, color. I never wear color.

I actually cut out sections of my workout pants to line shadow boxes with my before/after pics and a note to my old personal trainers, so I have my momento. I thought it would take the whole pair ... it took maybe 1/4 leg to make 4 of them, lol.

How about a "fat pants" party? I'll bring the lite beer, some lighter fluid, and a barrel. :-)

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I think it's about time you did it Russ!! Maybe take a picture of yourself in them first so you can always remember how far you came?

I forgot to mention in my earlier post...I did hang on to one pair of pants for a good while because they were my 'weigh-in pants'. They were an expensive pair of pants and made of a really nice fabric that had some stretch to it so they were very forgiving when I was at my highest weight and kept fitting for a good while even though they got very loose. When they got too big, I was lucky enough to find the exact same pants in the smaller size I needed at the time...I was soooo superstitious about those pants...had to wear them every week and no exceptions! Anyway, I STILL have the second pair and they've been altered twice now so I could continue to wear them.

Edited by: ROLOHA at: 6/19/2009 (21:09)
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Hey guys,

And Roh you had an excellent weight watchers leader. I wonder if my clothes would've been such a big deal to me if I hadn't held onto them for so long. Hindsight's 20/20.

But it gave me a wonderfully wicked idea ... if I may. Somehow, when I moved to New Orleans, my original workout shorts made it in the move. Not sure how.

But I'm half-tempted to have a national "burn your fat pants day." Just the one pair, everything else will be donated.

Bra-burning for the 21st century!

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I was saving my 10, 12,14's.my husband made me get rid of 12,14 as they were taking up a lot of space in TOP of my closet.so now I just have the 10's in the top of my closet

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Great topic...and the posts so far are a great read!

I followed my WW leaders advice and started getting rid of the fat clothes as soon as I could. I brought a bunch of stuff in to my meetings and let others find things they could wear and then brought the rest to Goodwill. And, that is where I did most of my interim shopping! No sense spending money on those size 12's and 10's I didn't plan on wearing for too long, right? I found lots of cute stuff both casual and work stuff at great prices and then re-donated when I didn't need them. When I started out I was shooting to get back in to the size 8 clothes I still had hanging in my closet, and one pair of size 6 jeans I got back from my sister just so I could have them as an aspiration during my weight loss...never sure I'd make it. What happened was, ALL those size 8's ended up being too big and ended up donated too! I then had to buy all new clothes for work and play. It was fun, did most of my shopping on eBay, outlet stores and clearance racks, and my favorite, thrift stores. Now, I've changed careers, no longer use most of those clothes and haven't really figured out my style!! I recently entered a makeover contest...I think I could really use help defining a new style that suits my new body and my current age.

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Great, I'm glad to have helped come up with some ideas!! And depending on how old DD1 is, it might be some nice mother/daughter QT!



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Thanks for the idea about the personal shopper. Now that I think about it, my DH and DD1 both do a good job of helping me choose clothes that are appropriate. I need to remember to drag them along more often. And wouldn't it be really fun to have a personal shopper at some time! What a gift to myself. I think I would enjoy it more than time in a spa.


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I actually do what Russ does, when I go clothes shopping except...

I try on the smallest size first. Often times, I'm surprised to find that it FITS. And fits WELL. (sometimes it doesn't and I move on and up) I find that I will often "settle" for my comfort zone rather than finding what works for me.

OwlWho, some stores (like Macy's) often have personal shoppers. I know you said you're on a limited budget, but (and especially in this economy, to be cliched) they're paid by the store to help you and they want you looking YOUR best. I recommend working with someone like that. They'll work in your price range, of course, and help you find what you look good in. You can take that knowledge and march over to a more inexpensive store (or perhaps a secondhand store?!) and find what you look good in, in a price you can pay. Of course, sometimes there are some real STEALS at a store like Macy's, so you can't outright dismiss them.

I also take my husband shopping with me. Since he's NOT me, he sees me more clearly and does a much better job dressing me than I do... from fit to style! (and this is kind of funny, because he's a total farm boy who is content to wear printed t-shirts and Levi jeans, day in and day out... yet, he'll shop for me like it's going out of style!).



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go back and try on those pants! So what if they don't fit, you may get a surprise if they do, and maybe they will be fabulous! It's not like you even have to get them if they fit...

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New goal: 125 lbs, just to see what that looks and feels like! Hit it: Feb 2013!

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"Eat Food, Not Too Much, Mostly Plants" Michael Pollan



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As I mentioned before I was never "fat," but I still have weird behaviour about clothes... Right now I'm wearing trousers that are really big in the hips, and by rights should be tossed. I recently got rid of some of my "famous" trousers, that would fall off without a belt. I still have a few pair that people are telling me to get rid of, but I'm not ready!

Also, I went "window shopping" yesterday, saw a pair that looked like they would fit, but when I saw "size 3" I didn't even try... How could those fit me?? I have come down from a size 12 to a 4/5/6 or so... this shocks me still.

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That's awesome!

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When I was at my heaviest (or close to it) in college I went clothes shopping with a really thin friend and was shocked, SHOCKED, that she didn't want to buy a pair of jeans that fit, just because she didn't think they looked right. I never had that option, as my shopping was always geared toward finding whatever item in that store I could squeeze myself into, and that was what I'd buy. How it looked made no difference to me as long as it "fit".

Now I don't have to shop that way, and it's such a relief. I can say, "this fits, but I don't like the way it looks" and move on. I also find that I have to try on lots of styles, and sometimes I do pick up a couple different sizes in the same style just to see which fits better.

Some tips I've picked up along the way on fit, is you should fit the widest part of your body, if it fits at the waist and squeezes your thighs, don't get it. If you get that muffin top going, you need a larger size, a properly fitting waist will not muffin top. I have a pear shape, so I've found dress that are fitted on top w/ flowing skirts work best for me. I think you just have to go out and try on a lot of things, and pick things you think won't work or that you'd never wear, you may be pleasantly surprised, or have a great laugh! I've done both...

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My friends stage an intervention me from time to time when I wear pants that are just obscenely large.

I understand it's a little different for the ladies, but after constant prodding I came up with a system when I shop that might prove helpful:

a) I pick three sizes: "fat day" size, what I think I can do, and the next size down.

b) I go ahead and grab clothes that are "Safe" for me, the kind of things I always bought when I used to get clothes. Then I grab three things that might make me think "no way am I that guy."

c) I make sure I'm mentally prepared. It's actually a draining experience for me ... way too many memories of just walking away demoralized. An ex once forced me to go jeans shopping when I wasn't prepared, not understanding that I need PLENTY of sufficient mental prep to go pants shipping.

Then I just let myself be surprised.

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I had no problem letting go of the fat clothes. But there is the issue of what to wear now. Like it was said here on this thread, my previous style requirements were "what fits" and "what covers me the best" and "what does not hurt". Now I have other options, but I don't know what a woman my age really can wear. I am not interested in trendy, so I want classic clothes that I can wear for a long time. But yet, I have little money and cannot buy really nice clothes.

The only thing I refuse to wear is the middle-of-the-calf-length skirt with a gathered waist. That smacks of my previous fat clothes and I am done with that.

Oh and the comment about "browsing through stuff that is way too big...." Me too! Crazy!


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way to go Jackie! I'm becoming a bit more daring but my wide shoulders still seem to be quite wide so all those cute dresses and tops with sleeves will never be for me. Shopping is so much fun these days even if I hardly ever buy anything. I don't have to feel like... "oh these fit, I better buy them" now I say "oh these ALL fit, I like them, but I don't have to get them because there will be more."

I still have the disconnect thing where I don't recognize myself or find myself browsing through stuff that is way to big out of habit. Wonder how long that will last.

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And, *laughs,* I think "Freakum Dress" is the funniest Beyonce term ever. The closest male equivalent I could come up with is the "Hello, sailor!" jeans.

Have a blast in Vegas!!!

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It's really interesting, all the different directions the "Fat clothes" can go, and I think Jaq really demonstrated how diverse those reactions can be.

For me, lol, I was happy to be rid of them on one level. But I also kept wearing them and coming up with all sorts of excuses why.

Before, I was just happy when A) I could get pants over my body and B)they wouldn't reduce my inner thighs to bloody ribbons. Nice image, I know, but there it is.

With so few expectations of my appearance before, suddenly I had *choice.* I had to choose how I wanted to look and present myself. As a result, my closet is more like "outfits" -- my indy rock boy outfit, my "Hello, sailor!" outfit, my "power clothes" outfits, my "writer living in New Orleans" outfit etc. etc. etc.

I also stubbornly wore my original workout shorts (when I was 350), even I was 180. My gym friends called it "The Fitness Skirt."

Before I moved to NOLA, I actually cut them in squares and used them to line a shadow box. They were parting gifts to important people from my time there.

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I got a freakum dress in a size 8 ladies and gents and I'll be sporting it in Vegas this week. I'm going to post pics so you guys can tell me how I look in it. How about that???

And I have no problem with letting the fat clothes go...I have no more of them. It was sweet throwing them out!



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Hey guys,

Jaq's the very first of a new feature I'm putting on the site featuring people taking on the challenges of post-weight. We talked for a while about A) how hard it can be to let the fat clothes go and B) taking advantages of the opportunity to redefine your style.

Jaq's featured at http://www.secondhelpingonline.com/?p=573. Please check it out and give some Spark love her way.

Beyond that, I was curious about how everyone else challenged themselves with new wardrobes. Did you take chances with a new style, and did the clothes have a deeper significance to you?

*Laughs* I remember the first time I bought my first pair of "Hello, sailor!" jeans. And cowboy boots. Sort of the male equivalent of a "Freakum Dress."

Funny thing is, that same pair I reserve nowadays for my "fat days."

Give Jaq some props and would love to hear thoughts!

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