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SHRLZI's Photo SHRLZI Posts: 4,088
4/8/09 5:31 P

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When I stay with family, there's not such an issue any more because they all have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, etc and are watching their diets too... Before all that started up, though, I used to go grocery shopping on my way from the airport and pick up instant oatmeal, 1% mile, WW bread, and any other 'staples' I felt I needed, plus ingredients for a dinner I would cook for my hosts. I talked about my 'lifestyle change' (well, I was a vegetarian for years so they were already used to my quirkiness) so we got the '800 lb gorilla' out of the way by talking about it. I bought some SFFF pudding and/or light fruit yoghurt and showed it to them, so they knew when they brought out the cookies or cake, I would go get my pudding. Sometimes families can make things hard, but sometimes they are more supportive than you expect if they understand what you are doing.

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4/8/09 3:06 P

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Before I reached goal weight, I had someone say "you're still eating healthy." Maybe they thought I was going back to my old ways.For those who are unsupportive, I don't pay any attentive to their comments.I stick with those who are supportive.

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4/8/09 9:55 A

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I just spent a week visiting family and ugh lol. They don't SAY anything but I feel watched and it makes me self conscious. I really hate eating at other places too man all the white bread I got served and limited vegetables made me feel gross by the end of the week. I couldn't wait to get back home and eat my high fiber and vegetables!! I didn't want to be rude and ask for healthy choices lol....got a burger and fries for one supper with one lettuce leaf and 1 slice tomato lmao! Not to mention no snacks whatsoever! All my dad had for coffee was actual cream omg lol and I hate regular milk in it.

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4/5/09 2:15 P

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I agree with you Shirlz, better to be a positive influence on your friends then have them be a negative influence on you!

My boyfriend is constantly thanking me for bringing him to the "light" side of healthy eating! It's such a nice feeling.

And Sarah, I like that your coworker has had that influence on your boss and she is bringing fruit to staff meetings along with the doughnuts. It's really all about presenting all the choices, and we get to decide what to pick!

Don't stay in the habit of feeling guilty for choosing to treat your body good by providing it withe healthy, natural foods!

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4/5/09 7:22 A

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If it happens, I am unaware of it. That is probably because I really don't care what other people think of my eating habits. I don't mean to trivialize your situation, but for me in the grand scheme of this, this just isn't important to me.

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Discipline is practicing something until it becomes a habit.

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4/2/09 2:20 P

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Thanks SHRLZI. I know you're right. I've had bad influences all my life and now that I know better, I shouldn't let what others do be an excuse to do something I'll regret later. It's just like they taught us in grade school about peer pressure and drugs. Just Say No! Hahaha. emoticon

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SHRLZI's Photo SHRLZI Posts: 4,088
4/1/09 2:31 A

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Jaquilantern,
Would it be better for them to be influencing you? Do they feel bad that their choices might take the fun out of it for you? We all influence each other all the time -- better you should be a positive influence!!!
Kudos to you!

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3/31/09 6:59 P

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The last few times I've gone out to eat with friends I feel like I'm taking the fun out of it for passing up the beer or wine and ordering water or asking for my dishes with no rice and extra salad, dressing on the side. Maybe it's all in my head, but I just tend to feel bad that I may be influencing their choices even if it is a positive choice. I guess that's my own problem that I have to get over.

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3/31/09 3:52 P

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Absolutely! Whenever people see me making healthy choices they assume I'm dieting or trying to lose more weight. They don't understand that maintaining weight loss (and a healthy lifestyle at that!) involves making permanent life changes.

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3/31/09 8:34 A

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I know that people thinking I'm judging them. I've basically kept my weight off since 2006... but in my last department (where I worked from 2005-2008), many of them watched me lose the weight and keep it off. They all would apologize or make snarky comments about WHAT they were eating.

Pff. I pick my poisons, with regards to what I'm going to eat. It may just not line up with lunch.

Now, of course, I have a coworker who is very interested in eating healthy so it's easier for me, to have her for back-up! Her attitude, however, has brought about some good changes, like our boss bringing fruit trays to staff meetings, instead of just donuts.

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3/30/09 4:48 P

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All extremely helpful tactics and strategies.

I am glad to know I am not alone!

Thanks to all!

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3/30/09 2:38 P

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I used to have friends who drink coffee all day, snack on candy bars, chips....then they wonder why I am dieting (I am in maintanence). Or else they explain to me how "their" healthy eating means skipping lunch entirely! ( the same ones, keep drinking coffee all day!)


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3/30/09 1:01 P

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Select people at work always seem to push their unhealthy food or snacks on me. I just keep saying NO NO NO NO! ...after 10 "are you sure???" questions. It's ridiculous! I meant no the first time I said it!

On the other hand, The ladies at my break table at work always make comments when I treat myself to A snickers bar, or A bag of chips. I don't have them that often, so they are always shocked when I do, like I'm doing something wrong. ?? I don't make comments when they put 1/2 cup of dressing on their "healthy" salad, or have tons of fruit, then 5 cookies following. Grr!

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3/30/09 9:26 A

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Yes! The comment that bugs me the most is your skinny now you can eat that or have more.... My response is if I continue to eat more or eat unhealthy I won't be thin anymore. Then I get a funny look and it's done. I also feel people get annoyed with me if I ask for low fat dressing or healthy menu options. Oh well. Unfortunately we have those in our lives who aren't so supportive of our healthy lifestyle. I do have some family members who have been very supportive though so I am very grateful for that!

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SHRLZI's Photo SHRLZI Posts: 4,088
3/29/09 10:37 P

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I had a rash of personal comments recently -- I just smiled and said "thank you for your concern" and changed the subject.

...there is a place in you where you have never been wounded, where there's still a sureness in you, where there's a seamlessness in you, and where there is a confidence and tranquility in you. ~John O'Donohue
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FREEDOMSTAR's Photo FREEDOMSTAR Posts: 13,816
3/29/09 1:35 P

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I learned the hard way
(dont care waht other people think or say)
they may mean well, or fear that youre changing too much, or unhappy with their own poor food choices and by seeing you doing the right thing are forced to look at themselves.

I listened to people in the past and it sabotaged my efforts, but not this time, my fitness lifestyle is here to stay.

People have started telling me that I have Inspired them those are the comments I focus on, the positive ones.

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Thanks, I especially like the party tactic. As far as the splitting hubby and I are both students, so maybe I'll cite budgetary concerns!

No, I'm not new to healthy eating, so you're probably right they're used to my habits by now, anyway.

I think you nailed my issue, I think I am worried that by not indulging with them I am condemning or judging their habits, but I am not. It is probably more in my head than anything else.

Anyway, thanks for your response it was helpful!

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3/29/09 1:08 P

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At a party where there are lots of snacks, or where there is a buffet line and I carry a plate around, I will fill up the plate with mostly healthy foods, but also load on some potato chips or other less healthy snacks too. Then I eat the healthy stuff and leave the rest on my plate. That way, if people look, my plate never seems empty, and they rarely notice that I'm not eating the bad stuff.

At a sit down dinner, I probably would not split an entree, but I would order something healthy, and get a take home container for half of it. I have no problem ordering dressing on the side or no cheese etc. You can always say that you have found that recently too much 'rich' food upsets your stomach.

If you have just recently started to eat healthy, your friends may not be accustomed to this, but they will get used to it. Just be careful not to give the impression that you are judging THEIR food choices!!

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3/29/09 1:01 P

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I get the same from colleagues at work, who should know better, really. They are always commenting on how little I am eating. It wouldn't fill a bird according to them. I just reply that I control my portions and I am eating enough for my body's nutritional needs.

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FREEDOMSTAR's Photo FREEDOMSTAR Posts: 13,816
3/29/09 12:55 P

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Yesturday at work a client someone came up to me and said "You Look Too Skinny !" " you lost too much weight"

when I was over weight and unhealthy no one said anything. Now that I did something good for myself and am healthy

People feel they have the right to make a comment on my body Grrrrrrrrrrr

John

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I was at a party last night where almost no one works out our cares about their diet. This is a good group of friends, I love them all dearly, but I always feel uncomfortable "making my good food choices" around them.

For example, hubby and I splitting an entree while everyone else chows down, or ordering a salad, no cheese, dressing on the side. I almost feel "guilted" into eating less healthy because I feel like they all scrutinize my choices.

My parents have the same effect on me except they actively try and push my husband and me to over eat unhealthy foods.

Just curious, do you guys experience this? How does it effect you? How do you cope?

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