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9/7/08 1:42 P

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Yes, this is happening to me all the time at work.

Co-workers are now constantly saying how good i look, but always end it with a sour note of "i hope you've stopped losing weight" , making me feel like i'm just shy of being anorexic and looking yucky. I'm at a great and healthy weight, and i'm tired of them saying how skinny i look b/c it's making me feel defensive. I just smile, and tell them "thank you".

Can you believe the gall of one male co-worker who is asian, very short, very thin (skin and bones), telling me that i should stop losing weight.. lol lol. i looked at him like something was wrong with him. if anything he looked like he needed to eat a few sandwiches.

You know what i think.. people don't know what a healthy weight is anymore. Being overweight has become the norm.. so when people see a normal weight person, they are "too thin".

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9/4/08 2:47 A

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We have a standing dinner date with a group of friends every Friday night. I don't make that date very often because of the hours I work (I've been on permanent 3-11P since Feb '05). On the rare occasion I do make it to dinner I'm asked, "Why are you still DIETING?" when I order a salad for dinner. It makes me crazy! Why can't people accept and understand that I'm not DIETING, I've changed the way I eat!?! I've come to like salads, and the places the group likes to eat serve very large portions of very greasy foods (they go to a lot of truck stops). I like the salads that come with grilled chicken or shrimp instead of a gut bomb bacon cheeseburger or 24 oz prime rib. I carry my own dressing because I like the dressings I can buy at the grocery store, and by using my own dressing I know who many calories and how much fat, sodium, etc, I'm adding to the salad.

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SOPHIEGIRL517's Photo SOPHIEGIRL517 Posts: 666
9/1/08 8:03 P

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I know that I am sick of it..being called "too skinny".
I am a healthy weight, and the family just seems to think I am anorexic with an obsession to exercise.
I guess that what happens when you come from a family that EVERYONE is overweight.
They obviously just don't get it.

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YOU define who you are!
So, just be you, because you are AWESOME!
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9/1/08 5:04 P

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this does not seem crazy to me AT ALL! in fact some of these comments are driving ME crazy lol. everyday it's oh my god you are getting way to thin, or will you please just eat something. WHERE were these people when i was 250 pounds and my blood pressure was through the roof?? why do they think it's ok to constantly ask me how much i weight or how much i have lost? i would never ask someone that, to me it's very personal. i do realize that since i was never ever thin in my entire life that my appearance can be a little shocking at first but they are starting to make me feel as if there is something wrong with me again, just like when i was fat.

sorry had to vent

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TERRIPHILL's Photo TERRIPHILL Posts: 2,862
8/13/08 8:24 P

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Isn't funny that I have come to dislike the word "skinny" almost as much I did the fat (O.K. I did say almost) I think I like "healthy" a lot more!

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RUNNER_TIFF_07's Photo RUNNER_TIFF_07 Posts: 2,745
8/13/08 2:57 P

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SUEBEE -- I completely know what you mean about the "skinny" word. I hate being called "skinny". To me that sounds like I'm anorexic or something and it doesn't give any credit to my increased FITNESS. I'd much prefer to be viewed as healthy and fit rather than some skinny girl who doesn't eat. So, anyway, it drives me crazy too :).

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8/13/08 2:56 P

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SUEBEE -- I completely know what you mean about the "skinny" word. I hate being called "skinny". To me that sounds like I'm anorexic or something and it doesn't give any credit to my increased FITNESS. I'd much prefer to be viewed as healthy and fit rather than some skinny girl who doesn't eat. So, anyway, it drives me crazy too :).

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Next Race: Wine at the Line 5K/5Mi

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5K: 11 [PR 25:28, 5/09]
4-4.5 Mi: 3 [PR 37:48, 10/10]
5 Mi: 3 [PR 45:45, 10/09]
10K: 2 [PR 55:57, 11/09]
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13.1: 5 [PR 2:17:17, 9/10]
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8/13/08 2:41 P

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I can so relate to this topic. Before I changed my lifestyle & got healthy I was not overweight. Now when people see that my eating habits have changed and, as a result, I have gotten slimmer they feel the need to comment on everything especially on what I do or don't eat. I hear all the time how small I am and that I need to eat more. Personally I think that's funny because I eat all the time, just different and healthier.

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8/13/08 12:39 P

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That cracks me up. I love the skinny word! Joann

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8/13/08 8:39 A

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The only thing that bugs me is when they actually use the word "skinny." I always politely correct them, and tell them I am "healthy" now. ;)

It amuses me, though, when they skirt around the "fat" word. That word is fine by me... I WAS fat!! There's no denying it.

Go figure... "fat" I can deal with, but "skinny" makes me crazy. LOL!

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8/12/08 9:40 P

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I would agree with you on the jealousy aspect. I think that a lot of people feel envious of those who can stick with a lifestyle change and actually see results especially when they have tried and have not had the same results. Hang in there and just let it roll off and remember that no matter how hard it is not to, don't let the outside world replace how you feel about you!! Celebrate yourself and your accomplishment you have made great lifestyle changes and should get a pat on the back for you great efforts. If they can't do that, then you should!!

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Way to go on your achievements!!

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TERRIPHILL's Photo TERRIPHILL Posts: 2,862
8/9/08 8:12 P

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Thanks y'all for your insight and advice. Sometimes I think I'm being overly sensitive to thier comments. I know that I seem to get them the most from my co-workers who need to lose the most and I sense a little jealousy that I committed and did what I said I was going to do (Not like I don't usually!) I know that losing the weight is not actually where the work is for me ( I have lost neaarly 700 pounds in the last 20 years...40 off--50 on--50 0ff--60 on--60 off--70 on.....!) Maybe on January 17 (my 1 year anniversary with SP) It will all settle down and they will get used to the "New ME":)

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SHRLZI's Photo SHRLZI Posts: 4,088
8/9/08 2:31 P

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I love your advice, Tiffany!

re: "THAT niticeable?" I think there are certain points in the journey where the body sort of changes 'type' -- I remember a woman I knew years ago, who went from a '5X5' to adorably cute pudge to svelte bombshell -- she decided (with her therapist) that she didn't want to deal with all the attention from men, and deliberately re-gained enough to get herself just barely past the adorably cute pudge stage, just to the point where the guys stopped leching on her, while she worked on her ability to deal with it. It was a difference of about 15-20 pounds!

...there is a place in you where you have never been wounded, where there's still a sureness in you, where there's a seamlessness in you, and where there is a confidence and tranquility in you. ~John O'Donohue
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That happens to me too, and I only lost 17 lbs. At first I was like, "wow, it was only 17 lbs... is it really THAT noticeable?" But now instead of getting all freaked out, I just say, "Thanks I've been working out and eating right," and move on. I think you just need to focus on the fact that you have become healthier and people are going to notice. Love your new body and take everyone's obsession with your weight loss as an annoying side effect of a wonderful journey to good health.

Edited by: RUNNER_TIFF_07 at: 8/9/2008 (09:30)
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First Race: Polar Bear 5K 2/21/09
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31 Races Completed
5K: 11 [PR 25:28, 5/09]
4-4.5 Mi: 3 [PR 37:48, 10/10]
5 Mi: 3 [PR 45:45, 10/09]
10K: 2 [PR 55:57, 11/09]
15K: 1 [PR 1:32:51, 4/10]
13.1: 5 [PR 2:17:17, 9/10]
26.2: 1 [PR 5:01:48, 11/10]

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8/8/08 6:19 P

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Yes and no.

There are certain people that do act this way, but it's because they didn't think I could lose the weight or stick with a "diet" long enough to produce results.

Even then I just ignore them.

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8/8/08 12:21 P

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I have a slightly different take on this - and it may be because I am thrilled to be back to skinny. I just say thanks, isn't it great and go on. Now, if we discuss how improved my housekeeping is argh. Gets old quickly, so I do understand your irritation. Even that is generally offered in the we want to recognize the improvement and encourage you to keep it up frame of mind - but it still is a sore spot! Joann

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8/8/08 9:25 A

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It happens to me too, which is particularly frustrating because I know I have plenty left that I could lose if it was important enough. I just figure that I'll give myself plenty of time for everyone else to get used to it and for me to get used to it too.

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8/8/08 7:10 A

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I understand where you are coming from. I feel like there are a few people who understand the amount of work I put in over the last year and a couple have even recently joined sparkpeople but there are some that are waiting for me to give them some inspiring insight how one day I just woke up and lost all of this weight. They don't really want to work to loose the weight and I don't think they appreciate how hard I worked.

My biggest pet peeve is "You have gotten to skinny" I am finally fell just in the healthy range. My husband finds it funny so everytime I am cold or someone says this to me he tells me, "go eat a cheese burger."

I try to let it roll off my back and for the most part I have but lately I feel like everyone is watching everything that I put in my mouth and judging me and how I lost the weight. (This bothers me because they don't see all of the cardio I do and planning of meals)

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Do you love the way you look? Do you love the way you feel? If the answer to both these questions is "Yes," forget about others being rude or jealous enough to go on about it, just tell them you feel great and twenty years younger and you'll probably live a lot longer for having shed those pounds. Good on you girl.

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8/8/08 2:28 A

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Isn't it nice to be annoyed by people complimenting how you look??!?

You might try this: Let *your* focus guide the conversation. If you just let their remark go unacknowledged and continue with your work conversation, they will let it drop.

...there is a place in you where you have never been wounded, where there's still a sureness in you, where there's a seamlessness in you, and where there is a confidence and tranquility in you. ~John O'Donohue
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Everyone looks different to everyone else. You must have lost enough weight to have it made that much difference to them. I wouldn't worry about it. Let it go and you'll have peace about it eventually.

It's only been recently that I see my self as thin in the mirror now. It takes awhile for the brain to catch up with our bodies for some reason. I congratulate both of you for the healthy look now. Be content with yourselves. emoticon

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8/7/08 9:11 P

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I can relate to this only it's my family. I realize that I have been over weight for the past 20 plus years, but this is who I am now. And I love it! I guess my biggest problem is that I still don't see a "skinny" person in the mirror yet. Everyone just needs to get use to the new me.

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. : Ralph Waldo Emerson


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8/7/08 8:49 P

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Do you find you are getting a little tired of constantly being told how thin you have gotten? I know this seems a little off, but the people I work with seem to really go on about my weight loss. I have shared this site with them and told them what I did to lose the weight and they seem to keep going on. (It's not like I have lost any more weight since May 17) If one more person calls me "skinny".... I'm sorry to seem rude but I can't ask a question or talk to anyone anymore about work because they can't seem to get over the fact that I lost weight. Was I really that fat?

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