BUHBUHBROOKE, here is a poem that I have referred to many times with the loss of my pets. i have posted other times here, and i hope it gives you some comfort, like it has me.
Why Dogs Don't Live As Long
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife, Lisa, and their little boy, Shane were all very attached to Belker and they were hoping for a miracle. I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family there were no miracles left for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for the four-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt Shane could learn something from the experience.
The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away. The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any difficulty or confusion.
We sat together for a while after Belker's death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives. Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, "I know why."
Startled, we all turned to him.
What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation. He said, "Everybody is born so that they can learn how to live a good life -- like loving everybody and being nice, right?" The four-year-old continued, "Well, animals already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long."
I've cried over all of my pets passing, from dogs to cats, chickens and guinea pigs.
A good cry is one of the most cathartic things you can do, it's only natural when you lose one of your family because that's exactly what your pets are.
When you start to feel a little better you may want to think about getting another pet, not to replace the one you have lost as that is not possible, but the heart is big enough to love a new pet, it will be a love that you will be able to give over and over.
Peace and long life - Jules
Team Leader Rescued/Adopted Dog and Cat Lover's Team
So sorry for your loss. My dog, Kettle passed away this August too. My emotions are like a roller coaster. I can look at the stars and burst into tears. I came to terms that I would make a donation at the animal shelter in her name so that another pet could be saved. I didn't want another dog as it felt as though I was being disloyal to her; however, the day I drove to the shelter, they had already closed for the day and in one of the kennels I saw a black lab puppy. I went back on Monday and they asked if I wanted to foster her. Ended up adopting her, and it has really helped with my emotions because I'm so busy with the pup. I donated some of Kettle's collars to the shelter too and they made me cry because they featured one of her collars in the newspaper stating a donor who lost her dog to cancer had given it. I made an online tribute to her with many of her pictures.
Shannon living in central Indiana
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Try taking a walk when you start thinking about your furbaby. I'd also suggest volunteering at a pet shelter so you can be around other animals who want to be loved. Turning to food is not the answer. You're in my thoughts!
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how hurt and sad your are. It's been 2 years since we had to put down our beloved Sissy because of cancer. I got an ecard from Petsmart 2 weeks ago wishing her a happy birthday and I broke down sobbing. Though your precious pup has gone on to a better place, you will always have that love and memories. One day your heart hurt will less and you will be ready to love another dog. We adopted two dogs from a kill shelter last year and they are a blessing. Hopefully, one day you will be able to save another dog and give them the forever they deserve. My thought and prayers are with you. And, it's OK to cry!
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I, too, know how you feel. I had to put my 14 y/o Yellow Lab down Dec. 09 and it seems like yesterday. I still miss her so much and there is no easy way to deal with the grief. I love the Rainbow Bridge poem that was sent to me with her ashes as well as receiving copies from friends. I joined the Rainbow Bridge team here on Spark which has helped. I know my precious Honeybear as well as the ones that went before her are waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge and so will your precious furbaby.
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I know where you are coming from. It has been 3 years since my beloved 15 year old Chauncey passed on. I too, came upon something of his the other day- and just broke down. I have his ashes on a table near the window he looked out of. On the wall nearby, I have the poem Rainbow Bridge framed.The poem came back to me with his ashes. It has been a help. If you do not know it- look it up on line.
Im sorry for your loss. My doctor told me that losing a beloved pet can be the equivalent to losing a family member. I know when I lost my doberman Piper after 12 years together it was like losing a piece of my heart and it was the little things that set me off, like thinking I heard his nails clicking on the floor or finding one of his favorite toys under the couch. Im not big on journaling, Ive never been disciplined enough to do it on a daily basis but it really helped with my grief. I poured out all my sadness and pain and anger and everything that came up onto the paper. It is truly cathartic. It is a huge help in acknowledging our innermost feelings and in releasing them so we are no longer weighed down. I wish you all the very best on your journey. Its helpful to remember that what you are feeing is normal and everyone moves through grief in their own time, there is no schedule for when you have to be done.
Allow yourself to cry, create a good memory by cleaning up the collar and putting it in a special place together with a good picture. Tell us what you liked about that dog. Create a blog with pictures in the dog's memory and link it here. Write down 10 things that this dog taught you about life. Do some of the things that you did with that dog and that the dog really enjoyed, like walking through the park. Go to the animal shelter and make a donation in your dog's memory to help another dog get adopted. And when you are ready - get another dog, it will be different, but it will be beautiful. These are just a few suggestions, do what feel right for you. Eating to deal with the loss is not that big a deal if it's just a few times, try to skip the throwing up part if you can. Sending good thoughts your way,
I had to put my dog down in August. I have been doing alright with losing him, but today I found his collar while I was trying to find something else in my car. My immediate reaction was to drive home, eat, throw up, and go to bed. How do I deal with these feelings? :/
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