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5/27/13 11:56 A

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After taking care of my mother it was getting back to taking care of my self and getting back to working and getting back into the social mane steam it took a while finely git back into working and enjoying it.

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5/25/13 1:50 A

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CHERYLHURT, I can so relate. I used to wonder how caring for my parents ended up totally on me when there were six of us. Most of them lived too far away. Everyone was working and raising families. They expressed thanks for me being there to care for Mom and Dad. The load could get very heavy, dealing with health issues and second guessing if I made the right decisions when it came to their health care.
I got a break the last year of Dad's life (Mom had already passed away). When his health took a turn for the worse, he went through a lengthy period of being between the hospital and rehab facility. My sister who was retired moved in with me to help care for him the next year when he came home, until he passed away last year. I could not have made it without her. I am so blessed to still have her with me.

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Cherylhurt hang in there. I know it is hard. I had the same problem when my mom was alive. My sister never helped me she just drank and thought about herself. It was all up to me and my nephew to take care of my mom. It was mostly me and I know how hard it is but you are strong and can do this. Remember we are all praying for you.

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2/12/13 8:01 A

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Doing well. Disappointed my two sisters have both completely checked out when it comes to caring for Mum. No visits, calls once a week "if not too busy". The load is completely on hubby and me...sometimes I go upstairs and just cry. Life shouldn't be like this.

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Hi everyone. Hope you are all doing well. It has been very busy at work and have not had a chance to post often. By the time I get home I'm tired and just doing things around here are about it. I retire in 8 months and that sounds great. I'm doing well. Keeping my weight and trying to take off a few more pounds. Take care all and I'll try and post more often.

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Hi everyone

Having just read the posts from last couple of months ...sorry don't get chance to get on here that much these days.. not sure if that is a good sign or not! lol but you know what I mean......but its always good to pop in here and see what others are doing and to know that we are all on the same journey with regard looking after our parents or having looked after them.

As we all know, it can be an arduous task at times always being there and the roles now having been changed where we become the 'parent' and the parent has become the 'child' .. so often I catch myself giving instructions to my Mum and sounding like I did when I talked to my children.. it makes me sad when I realise that every day bit by bit I am losing her.

Our relationship has changed and the mother who was there for me always and still is in some respects, even if its just emotionally considered by her as opposed to actually being demonstrated, means that all is not lost.

I am not complaining about any of it........just sayin' emoticon

Its just another transition in our lives... we have our children and we raise them to the best of our ability and then they fly the nest, and although it saddens us because we miss them, w know and accept that it is totally an intrinsic part of life and loving .. and yes they do come back from time to time and isn't that grand that they do.. but then just as we start to gain freedom that we thought we would not ever be graced with, we suddenly find ourselves in a care role to our parents.. and all those plans we had for our own lives are somewhat thwarted for now .. that can make you feel very sad at times.. as though you have missed out in some way on your own purpose.. yet we are where we are meant to be sometimes .. no most of the time and that means that my role in life is a care role ......at least for now .. that does not mean I can't enjoy other hobbies and interests and I do trust me.. I have a very full life, a happy blend of working from home as a hypnotherapist/caring for Mum/taking care of my granddaughter every week/socialising with family and friends/swimming etc ..

I don't feel ungrateful or lacking in blessings as I have many of them in memories of my childhood, growing up in Wales and America .. boyfriends, homecoming dances, football games, Halloween, marriage, children, and all that goes with that .. comforting them when they fall and using all your own wisdom and university of life experiences to help them through their various troubles of youth.. first heartbreak etc.... and watching them grow up and mature .. now I have a granddaughter of 4 with my 27 year old daughter and our relationship as mother and daughter is even more precious now she is a mother herself and the whole cycle of life continues ..

It warms my spirit to know that at times although my mum is hard work mentally and I am exhausted myself mentally from dealing with that .. that she is here with me and that I am giving her the best I can give her at this time.. that the tables have turned and that its now my turn to give to her as she always gave to me.

My children are supportive and my son stays with his Gran to give me respite.....and all that care I bestowed upon my children is being returned to me also. So do I feel blessed....? Yes I most certainly do...

I am human though and boy do I have bad days sometimes.. there are days when I could get in the car and drive and keep driving ........but the reality of that is of course I won't so I find something that takes my frustration or sadness away and yes sometimes that is a chocolate bar and remind myself that my Mum is still the same person underneath all her furstration and fears she has and just get right back in the saddle. Life goes on.....

However, being able to come here and read all your posts makes me realise I am not alone and that out there not very far away are so many others going through similar or worse.. and that there is always going to be someone who will only offer support and not judge. Thank you all for that .. emoticon

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I hope everyone is doing great. Things are good here work is still very busy but I only have 11 months to go. I retire at the end of next August. It sounds great and I'm looking forward to it. I have off tomorrow and Monday so I'm going to do things around the house as far as going through more of mom's things and other things. I've decided I'll do most of it when I retire, since working and doing this don't mix and all I seem to do is work. I'm seeing my nephew and his family on Sunday and that will be fun. Evan is growing so fast and is wonderful. He loves me a lot and always wants me there. My sister is the same and I don't see her much which is sad, but I can't change anything. Weight is doing good so far and I still worry that I'm going to go overboard, but I know I know what I'm doing and I'm okay. Take care all.

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I've missed all of you and hopefully now will be able to post more often. Work has been extremely busy and I've been so tired when I get home I just get to exercise, make dinner, do dishes and relax. I've reach my goal but I'm still working to keep weight off. This week Friday will be one year since my mom passed away. I do miss her still. I'm still working on the house and hopefully when I retire next year I'll be able to spend the time I need to get this house done. Well take care and I'll post more often.

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7/21/12 4:47 P

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I'm having a very quiet day, and on a whim logged into Sparkpeople, I bet its been almost a year. This is the only team I remain on as I couldn't stand not having some kind of connection with you. I keep thinking I should leave Sparkpeople all together since I don't have the time but then log in and realize I've missed you.
Life goes on and continues to be too busy (not boring!).
Anyway, I'm wishing all of you well.
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ambition. The habit of persistence is the habit of victory.

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The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it.

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Checking in - how is everyone today?

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It sounds like everyone is doing okay and I'm glad about that. I'm doing good, busy at work but next year I'm retiring and really looking forward to it. Next August 31, that will be it for me. I'm going to teach piano, make doggie treats (which I do now and sell) and spend lots of time with my great nephew. I'm also going to help at my church with the Adult Activity Center and help them start a chorus. I also can spend more time cleaning this house and getting rid of things and thinking about moving. I was going to do this now, but work is so busy I'm usually working 10 hour days and when I get home I exercise and that is about it. So I told my nephew once I retire then we can really think of this house. I hope you all are having a great summer.

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Same to you, Cat! I hope you're enjoying the summer!
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Sending hugs your way, Jenn. Losing your little fur babies is painful.
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I'm so sorry, Jenn. It's so hard when sad events like this gang up on you. And I know what you mean about the grieving. It's not really surprising that it hurts like this when we remember think that a pet is with you all the time, depends on you, loves you unconditionally, is so much a part of everyday life. Having my 16-year-old cat Otis put to sleep (over 20 years ago now!) was maybe the hardest decision of my life.

On the happier side, I am glad to hear that you graduated. Hugs to you and prayers for the next steps!

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Edited by: COOKIEBAKERCAT at: 9/2/2012 (20:01)
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I'm right there with you Cat on the summer thing. Trouble is, in Texas, we get more summer than anything else. Seems like I'm having more trouble with the heat this year. It affects me so much mentally & emotionally, as well as physically.

My heart & brain took a big hit last month, so I'm not in great shape anyway. I lost both my (fur) babies within 3 weeks of each other. I was thinking I had posted here, but don't see it. I'd been mentally preparing to lose "Little Dog" for months, as I nursed her along with kidneys, arthritis, & glaucoma. On Apr 30, we were shocked & horrified to find out that our other dog, Snickers, had a big tumor in her chest that was putting out fluid into her chest cavity & crowding her lungs. We had no idea – took her in because her breathing wasn’t quite right. They suctioned off a liter of fluid the first day & it already started coming back. So we brought her home the next day & spent the next 2 days buying her cheeseburgers, taking her on walks,& saying our goodbyes. On May 3 we helped her on to the Rainbow Bridge before it became too difficult for her to breath again. We did not have the happiest experience with the euthanization either, but I won’t go on about that.
Little Dog's health already being as it was, & then grieving the loss of her friend - believe it or not, I felt like a poor substitute, even though she followed me everywhere for 5 years. Not quite 3 weeks later, I felt “it was time”, & I called the home vet & on May 22 (1 month tomorrow) she came out & Little Dog fell asleep in my arms here at home & finally rested. She hadn't been comfortable in awhile & the prior 2 days seemed to be worsening to where I told her "No more of this, ok? No more nights going to bed wondering where Snickers is. No more pain, or needles, or trips to the vet." It was that promise that got me on the phone that day & got it done.
But the plan had been for Snickers to be here to comfort us when LD died. Snickers was the smart one, the “larger than life” one, who we’d had for 11 years – part of everything, every memory, the kids childhood, holidays, etc. She was ONE of US.
So – I grieve them alternately seems like. I think they were like children to me.
I graduated from school but lost momentum & sank when Snickers was diagnosed, so right now I’m doing mostly nothing. Trying to “pull up” & figure out what to do next.
I won’t ramble on any more. I will say I don’t remember the loss of my father being any worse than this.
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Thank you all! Would anyone like to join a declutter challenge? I would like to make that my new project now that my studies are done. My apartment needs new paint and wallpaper in a few places and I'd love to get the place in shape by my birthday on July 5.

Annie, I have a master's in international theological education. A combination of theology, pedagogy, and cross-cultural communication. It's my desire to help train other teachers and missionaries. So, yes I value education very highly, too!

Happy first day of summer! The sun is struggling to come out here in southern Germany but I think it's going to make it!
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Major Congatulations Michelle!!! :)

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Congratualations, Michelle, on passing the exams for the Masters degree. Quite an accomplishment. What is your specialty?
Growing up in an extended family of educators makes me admire people who value education. I thought I would be a teacher but my course took a different direction. Amazing how much we change through the years.

I always wanted to take art classes at the local college. This is a tentative goal for next year. (Getting organized is my goal for this year. So many things to do when our parents pass away!)

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Glad to see you posting, Annie. It is rather quiet here, but it's nice to have a place to come to when you want some encouragement.

I finished my exams yesterday for my second master's and passed. Would have liked to have shared that news with Mom! But got a nice congratulatory email from Dad this morning. Blessed to have him and that he is in good health.

Hugs to all!

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This is the first time I've posted on this thread. I read back through the entries earlier this year, and was nodding in agreement, seeing that others have experienced the same things I've been experiencing since Dad passed away in April. Between both parents, I've been a caregiver so long. I thought this new phase would represent freedom, so it's been very confusing to feel unorganized and exhausted.

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I hope every one is doing well. I have been very busy at work and trying to go through the house yet. I'm almost at a point where I can decide on furniture. I'm doing okay still have my good and bad days, but all in all I'm fine. Hope everyone has a great week.

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5/28/12 5:46 P

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Today for remembering the fallen, the vets and those serving in the armed forces now. So grateful for their service!

Tomorrow, remembering Mom who passed away two years ago on May 29.


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My heart goes out to you, Jeanine and Cat! Mother's Day was hard for me even before my Mom's passing because of the lack of sensitivity sometimes shown to the childless or to those who had lost their mothers in the recent past. I know that people mean well when they plan activities for the service, but often there is just not enough thought given to the planning. (Worship service planning is one of the things I'm involved in at church.)

Anyway, I will likely go to church, and in the afternoon plant some flowers on my balcony. I did that last year (my first without Mom) and I think I'll try to make that "my" tradition. She was an avid gardener.

I also plan to call two of my friends who lost their mom's this past year, just to let them know I'm thinking of them. And will call my grandma and my adopted grandmas as well.

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This is the first Mother's Day I'll be without mom and it is very hard. I've decided not to go to church on Sunday, but go to the cemetery and put something on the grave. The reason not going to church, my church has mom's and daughter's stand and that will be hard. My nephew said he might come along with me. I know this will get better, but it is hard right now.

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Carrie I agree remember what you have done. I've learned that with the death of my mom and that you need time grieve and to remember the good times. It is hard and we all must go through it. I've been busy with work and still going through the house. I actually have decided I needed to get away for awhile and I did that as well. It really helped me and now I feel like I can go and start again. I hope everyone is doing well.

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Remember Carrie that what you have done has been such a blessing for Emma.. to give that level of care to anyone, shows how completely selfless you have been. It was a duty you took upon yourself and one which you were chosen for too if you believe in spiritual practices as I do. You were the right one for that job and you are to be commended for it. So first of all despite the sens of deep loss you and your family are experiencing, give yourself a well earned pat on the back.

My mother looked after my grandmother (her mother in law ) for 10 years in my parents home, my dad was away a lot on business as he had a very demanding profession and so it mostly fell on my mother's shoulders as I was raising a young family but helped where I could by giving my mother time out. It is hard as I well know from my own personal experience to care for an elderly relative as my own mother now lives with me and has done for the past 6 years. I have not yet reached the nursing care stage with her yet but I can see it coming closer and closer.

Take your time now to grieve and reflect on all that she was in your lives and feel honoured that you had that opportunity to give something back.

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Carrie - you certainly have been through a lot of sad times! It's good to hear that you have a granddaughter to look forward to, and that you are taking care of yourself by getting back to some Sparking. Do keep us posted on how you're doing.

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I'm so sorry, Carrie, that you've had a lot of funerals to go through and how these have affected the family so much. Hard times, indeed.

It certainly is time to start taking care of yourself and congratulations of your forthcoming granddaughter! That will give you something to look forward to.

Take care and remember to let us know how you're doing.

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I sit here at a coffee shop with my computer to catch up on so much. It has been almost 9 months since Emma died and we also buried my sister in law in December plus my husband's 1st cousin in January (Emma's nephew). So much death. We went to too many funerals last year not only with family members but friends who Emma knew and a young man who was our son's best man. He died in his sleep-he just was 27. It has not been fun...BUT I turned a corner when spring started. We learned that we are going to be grand parents of a grand daughter this August so life does indeed go on.

I gained back a bunch of weight and checked out the spark people book and wept as I see that this is something that needs to continue in my life. Making choices to be healthy. When I checked I saw this thread. So good to have an area to share about this season in my life.

I many ways I am still working through all the things that went on during the time I cared for Emma. During the time she was dying I had peace. I knew it was her time. Her own children did not see it but I did and I had to wait for them to get on the same page. My husband worked through the grief so great with my support. His siblings did not. His one sister did not at all and got real sick. She was mentally ill and just gave up. We feel she died from a broken heart. She was just 50. One younger sister has pulled away from family. He bi-polar nature took over and she still believes the family pushed her out. She created it her own trouble sad to say. The other sister and brother and our family recently shared Easter dinner together. The first one without Emma. They are dealing with so much. But we remembered her. Emma's niece (we call her Aunt Betty) came - she is in her 80's as well. So life does indeed go on.

I am still walking out some deep depression. I think it has to do with some hormone stuff that I just ignored during the years I cared for Emma. I am getting help with this to get tested and get my levels up to what they should be. I guess it is time to take care of myself now!!

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Keeping you in my thoughts today, Michelle. Anniversaries can be hard. I'm glad you have good memories though.
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Today would have been Mom's 86th birthday. Hard to believe she's been gone almost two years. Will send Ddad an ecard and maybe write some thoughts in my journal - some good memories.

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Thanks, Jeanine. Every holiday brings its reminders and it's a good idea to plan ahead a bit, I think. I'll probably attend a special church service on Easter with some American friends and have a meal with them afterwards. I'm sure my ddad will have plenty of invitations but I may have to encourage him to accept!



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Last year was a very strange and sad time. I hope that every one is doing well. I'm doing okay and still going through things in the house. I actually took some time off because I really needed that. Now I'm back at it. I still have time and that makes it nice, because of working and all it is hard at night. Mainly I do it evenings and week-ends. This will be the first Easter without mom. I'm not sure what we are doing. Take care everyone and remember we are stronger then we think.

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It was a strange & sad summer for all of us, wasn't it.

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Cat - Do I remember it right being Aug 27th? Probably not - but that was my Dad's birthday, so it might have stuck in my head because of that.

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And my mom's funeral was on June 8. We waited another week or so to take the ashes out to the Gulf of Mexico, so that a df of my dad's could be there to go along. He hadn't been able to make it to the funeral because he was having surgery that day.

It seems so long ago in some ways, doesn't it? but a very short time ago in others!

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It was May 16, 2010, although I didn't get his ashes buried until Jun 9th, so it did run into summer.

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Jenn, it was May 29th 2010 when Mom died.

She had suffered a serious car wreck in August, 2008 and shortly after that I went home to the states with the thought I'd be a long-term caregiver. It worked out that she and Dad decided they could manage on their own with some help from a paid caregiver, a wonderful woman who I'm still in touch with. So I came back to Germany and became a kind of long-distance caregiver.

Which is what I'm also doing with Dad now, too, it seems! He just had a second TIA a couple of weeks ago, and, although it wasn't "serious," I've been having all kinds of "what if" thoughts lately.

Yes, the tears still come, especially when someone else loses a loved one like my young friend and I revisit that time. My hope is that I can share some of that grace with her that God granted me to get through it! When was it that you lost your Dad? I'm thinking it was in the summer...

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Well, that's kind of what I meant though - that I was comforted here & there by things I read - a poem here - an article there. But no actual books - especially that might have been translated into German. emoticon

What day in May that your Mom died? I knew then, but I can't remember now. I was thinking just today, how I couldn't believe it's almost 2 years since my Dad died. Shed a few tears today too. I remember that first year & now Zoooom - the 2nd year accelerated I guess with school, etc. God is good how He fixes things to help us get through.

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Thank you, all! Fortunately, we have a bookstore at church and the woman who manages it is sure to have some good suggestions. I'll check with her tomorrow.

What I was REALLY asking was if any of you were comforted or helped by reading a particular book or article. I'm a book kind of person, so one of the first things I did after Mom died (hard to believe it will be two years in May!) was look for something to read. I guess that's just me!

I had a long flight back to Germany in front of me and I usually get myself a book for the plane, so it seemed natural to get something related to grieving. I got two books by H. Norman Wright, as I mentioned before. "Roses in December" was actually a gift from a friend and is more personal experience. I have another one, but a dfriend who lost her mom not long ago has all of them right now and is planning to return them this week.

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No, I'm afraid I don't have any suggestions either. I looked up the book you mentioned however, for future reference. I had not heard of it before. The main things I remember reading were pamphlets given by the funeral home, (had some good ones), and newsletters from hospice. I'm wracking my brains but I can't remember any books. So sorry. :(

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I'm so sorry your young friend and her father are hurting so much. I'm afraid I've never read a book that helped me, so I can't suggest anything. You are very kind to be seeing what you can do to help them.

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Thank you so much, you two! We had a good, long talk yesterday. She is really hurting and her father even more so. I'm looking for a good book in German to pass on to her. We've had talks about faith in the past and she has always said that she "can't believe" but now she is open to hearing more.

What books have you read that helped you through the tough times? I have read "Roses in December," passed on by a friend, and a couple of books by H. Norman Wright that were very good. (I found "Roses in December" in German - a used copy - on the German Amazon site.)

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Keeping your young friend in my thoughts.

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This afternoon, I'm getting together with a young friend (mid-20's) who lost her dmom to a heart attack just a few weeks ago. If you read this and are inclined to pray, I'd appreciate your thoughts. I want to be able to minister to her and say the right things. (((Hugs))) all around today.

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Doobs sorry about the sad news. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Have a very safe trip. Things here are the same, I plan to go and visit some friends February 24th and return on February 27th. It will be nice. I'm looking forward to doing this. It has been awhile since I took any kind of vacation. Getting a lot done at the house and that makes me feel good. Found some pictures of my parents wedding, my grandparents, etc. Had lunch with my nephew and his family and showed them the pictures. They really loved it. It was a nice time with them. They are very good to me. I'm very lucky to have them. Well take care all I'll keep posting until I leave and then I'll be off for awhile. Take care.

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Will be praying for safe travel, Doobs. I'm sorry for your sad news. Take care!

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Aw Doobs - So sorry to hear that. Yes, kind of bad timing on the snow. It snowed the day my mother passed away & we felt the same way. Later though, it kind of was a special thing to remember. However - we did not have 4 inches of snow! (Only 19 degree temps with icy wind at the graveside! BRR)

Anyways - I am sorry for you & your family's loss. emoticon

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Sad news - my father-in-law died last night in his nursing home. He was 86. He had been very poorly over the last year and spent most of the year in hospital or the care home. Over the last month he had just been sleeping all the time. Me and DH will be travelling up there tomorrow so that we can help DH's sister to arrange the funeral, and we might stay for a couple of days.

Unfortunately we had about four inches of snow last night. Now when we get that much snow in the UK, it can be really dangerous as we have snow so infrequently that we don't have snow ploughs or anything to clear the snow. We have the gritters out on the main roads but it's not much help under snow that keeps freezing at night. And we've got to travel 100 miles in it! Bad timing.

I hope everyone is doing OK. I read all your posts, even if I don't always reply. Hugs to you all.

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Welcome to the Caregiver's team, AuntLisa....

Jeanine, I'm glad to hear you're doing so well, making decluttering progress and even thinking of vacation. Look forward to hearing where you decide to go.

Gearing up to take my final exams in February and March! Busy is good!

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Hope everyone is doing well. I'm actually getting organized like I wanted. It is going better then I thought. I just keep at it and still have a lot more to do. Things are well and I'm doing well. Spent the afternoon last week-end with my nephew and his family and I've decided I actually will take a vacation. I have not had one in about 10 years. So I'm going to see where we want to go and get away later. The weather here is snowy, cold, cloudy, gray. Not a good day. Hopefully this week will improve. Work is still busy. Well, hope everyone has a great week and I'll keep posting.

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Hello fellow soul keepers

I'm very new to SP and even newer to this team but while waiting in the drs office this morning I ran across a very interesting article concerning Hospice in a magazine called Florida Trends I have included the link

www.floridatrend.com/print_article.asp?a
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Basically what got me in a tizzy is there is For Profit and Not For Profit Hospice organizations in you community and the FOR Profit organizations are spending money on PR to get the health care professionals to send your loved one to them when a more local NOT For Profit maybe a better fit because they have been found to be more community and faith based.

The last thing anyone wants to do is go looking for this information when your Dr. has just landed this bomb shell on you. You are more likely to go with who the doctor recommends and he maybe getting his information on the golf course.

I don't mean to sound angry but I have been told so many times to get my parents affairs in order that I think some of their doctors are surprised to see them at their next appointment.

We are the keepers of our loved ones health and protect what is right for them.

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Whoa nellie, Dad has learned a new trick or shall I say a new way of cause and effect. He has alzheimer as well as mobility issues and has discovered if he wants to lay down or go to bed before his normal time he tells me he has to go poop and I immediately hop up take him to his bedroom/bathroom. He then turns into his bed and lays down with a big grin on his face.

He looks to innocent with that "I tricked you" look on his face that I have a hard time making him get back up and I just know the first time I don't take him back will be the time he really needs to poop.

Oh well at least this makes him happy to get one over on me.

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Thinking of you today, Jeanine. Birthday anniversaries can be hard.

I have a horrible cold, Jenn. Hope yours clears up completely soon.

Feel too ill to write more but wanted you to know I'm thinking about you all.

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Thanks you all. Let me tell you, it's a lot like WORK doing all that. The hardest part is trying to wire it all up, as some things don't connect to other things etc. We're trying to get it all taken down today while we have 71 degree temp!! :) Unfortunately, hubby is busy as all get-out today & I need his help with it.

I'm trying to wind up a cold I've had for like 2 weeks. It's kind of gone, but I've got the lingering stuff in the mornings, & my sinuses & other pipes are trying to recover from the irritation. Almost there.

Happy Birthday to your Mom, Jeanine. emoticon I know you miss her terribly.

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Jenn you did a great job with decorating. I'm not that good. Our house did look nice. Spent Christmas Eve with my nephew and his family and we had a wonderful time. I'm not sure which of the two children my nephew or his son had more fun. It was cute. Christmas day I spent with my honey and friends. That was nice but hard because I thought a lot about my mom. This Friday, January 6th would be her birthday. Because the weather here is so cold we can't put anything on the cemetery but we will later. I'm back to going through things and deciding what to do. My new year is to take care of me, have fun and get rid of a lot of things. So far on that one I'm doing good. Hope every one has a wonderful New Year.

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Incredible Jenn, how you decorated your house so well. It's fantastic. I'm afraid mine doesn't even get a wreath on the door! I put up a tree and some decorations in the house but that is it. You are a sweetheart at doing all that for your dear granddaughter. Good luck with your interview/resume stuff.

New Year's Eve is the anniversary of my sister's death and today would have been my mum's birthday so I went to the crematorium today with some flowers. DH wheeled me about in mum's old wheelchair. The crematorium looked amazing as everyone had taken along wreaths and Christmas flowers. It was really quite a sight and I was glad I went. Some shrubs were even decorated like Christmas trees. It was nice and sunny today, although a little chillier than recently. It has been unseasonably mild here too, Michelle.

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Thanks Michelle & Doobs. You should have seen the inside. ha. Got most of that taken down yesterday except for the tree(s). (Have a little one in a corner of another room) I'm leaving the outside stuff for later. I should get to it when the weather's good, but OMGoodness I've got to get busy on my interview/resume stuff. Like - RIGHT NOW. BOOT in the BUTT here Jenn!!! Move it move it move it...!!!!

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From my neck of the woods, wishing you all a Happy New Year!

It has been unseasonably warm here in Germany so it really doesn't feel like January. Since I'm not going to make it back to FL this winter, it would actually be nice if it was a short one. My next visit to Ddad will likely be around Eastertime, after I finish my exams for my master's.

Wow, Jenn - that's amazing! You more than make up for those of us who don't do a lot of decorating. I especially like those snowflakes and the "live" polar bear.

Speedy healing, Doobs!

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Mine! emoticon

Almost didn't have the motivation to do it this year. (Put up the outside deco) Had to boot myself in the butt several times & drag myself through a knothole to get it done. "Only for Hazel," I kept saying, "Only for Hazel......"

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Wow Jenn - great video! Whose house were you recording?

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Try this:

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Ah - here we go again Doobs? (that'd be us beginning another year of tears & triumphs.) There will always be good and bad I guess, & I time & season for everything. Sorry about your FIL & MIL though & your poor footsie! Know it must be a relief about DH's p.cancer.

Ok - back to work taking down Christmas deco.

I just had an idea - I'll put the link here showing one of my first experiments with my new toy. (the toy isn't actually new, I'm just an old dog learning new tricks - ha)




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I start the year off with my foot up and not being able to work until at least the end of January, but it's not too painful. My DH has been cured of his prostate cancer. My youngest DS is in a happy relationship and my eldest DS has his three gorgeous girls.

My DH's dad's life is hanging on a string and his mum has the beginnings of dementia. Who knows what is going to happen there in 2012.

I wish you all a peaceful New Year. I am always with you all.

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I'll second that Cat!

Here's wishing each of you a happy, prosperous New Year!!

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“Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

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Hugs all around on this Christmas Eve Eve!

I've gotten hit hard by the emotions a couple of times in the past few weeks but have been feeling surprisingly cheerful for the most part. I've been downsizing Christmas for a long time, and it's very freeing not to have to do so much. I do like to celebrate with friends but the time we spend together is more important than any gifts we might exchange. One DF and I went to the ballet a few weeks ago - her gift to me was the tickets, my gift to her was dinner before the performance.

Gifts for DDad were ordered on Amazon. I wanted him to have a few things to unwrap because I know it means something to him. Shipping packages from Germany is over-the-top expensive so I'm really grateful for the internet! Ordered on Saturday, arrived on Wednesday! Sale merchandise (Jeans and a wallet)! Free shipping! Woohoo!

I'm invited to spend Christmas Eve with some friends and their German-American family after the church service at 4 PM. The rest of the weekend, I'll be home trying to dig out my apartment after working 6-day weeks for the past month!

Merry Christmas!

Blessings, Michelle

Rom 8:37 "...in all these things we are more than conquerors through Christ who loved us."

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Well I got all the decorations up and we decided not to put a tree up. We are not going to be here a lot over Christmas. Spending Christmas Eve with my nephew and his family, and then Christmas Day we are not sure. I just want a quiet one. Time to reflect I think. It was back to work today and it is busy. I'm actually taking every Friday off at least this week and next week. Have to work on the 23rd for half a day because I'm letting some of my department off. We all have to work on the 31st. Hopefully, it will be good weather for everyone who is driving. We had snow flurries today. I hope we don't get a lot. We need a mild winter this year. Hope everyone is doing well. Take care.

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Hi All. I had to get my tree and decorations up early because I'm going in for surgery on my bunion and hammer toe on the 12th. I've made my cake and I'm going to make some things to put in the freezer so it will be easier for my DH to cook the dinner on Christmas Day. As we don't have Thanksgiving in the UK, Christmas is our big turkey meal and the biggest day of the year. I shall be putting my feet up and letting everyone else do the work!

I went to the crematorium today to put roses on the family memorial, as it is the anniversary of my dad's death on the 5th but I shall be at work that day. I also called in the office and finally put in my order for two entries in the memorial book. One for my dad, because my mum never got round to it, and one for my mum. It has taken me over a year to find the right words. I have asked for a picture of a hedgehog next to my mum's memorial as they were her favourite animals.

Hope you all have a peaceful weekend. Not very peaceful here - I'm babysitting my three granddaughters and they've been particularly hyper this evening!

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I had plans on downplaying Christmas this year, but then got the guilt-trip of decorating for the sake of my granddaughter. Trouble is, school doesn't get out until Dec 15th, & I'm seriously having trouble getting anything else done but that. I did get my tree up, but everything else is still in boxes. The guilt-trip was not intentional, by the way. Next year, she will be in Pre-K, & I'm not sure if she will still be living here. I'm trying not to think about it too much - too depressing. She's almost like my own - she's Nana's baby girl

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Aw Jeanine - glad you're getting to do that - the wreath. I wish I lived closer to my home town & could go do that with my parent's grave too. I remember my dad writing in past years about a "grave blanket" or something made of pine boughs I think, that they offered over the holidays. (to purchase of course) That would have been so nice.

Hope everyone is doing ok. I'm on day 2 of birthdays here. Mine was yesterday, & hubby's is today. His birthday present? Paying Work! (for which we are both very grateful) (it's been reeeeallyyyy sloooooow lately)

laters - Jenn

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Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving. Now the holiday season is upon us. My nephew is going to get a wreath for mom and dad's grave. He said he would go with me to put it on. He is very good to me. I had Thanksgiving with his family and it was wonderful. It was back to work on Monday and it is month-end so we are very busy. I have the next three Thursday afternoons off and off on Friday. That is so nice I can actually get a lot done. I hope everyone has a great week.

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